We all know being good at socialising is a very important skill in life and especially in business. Let's discuss ways to improve our social skills.
Like what are some good questions to ask another human being to get the conversation going and to "bond" more with them. Whether it's in a party or in a business setting.
>inb4 "hey where do you work?"
>y-you too
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well, to start with, you should try and find something you find in common. most men are into sports, most older adults have kids, thats a good place to start.
Talk about yourself, find a common ground. Learn what triggers them and what makes them comfortable. Use your information in a balanced way to control the other person's behaviour.
If it's a party just (and they look open to conversation) ask them what they're drinking and how long it's been a choice. Most people will go into a story and you let them speak.
Find out what they're interested in and make that your favorite fucking thing in the world for the next half hour. Get them talking about it by asking questions. If you're not a brainlet you'll be able to understand the topic and give generic answers that make you seem just as interested in whatever topic. Context clues are key. If you are a brainlet then say you have to take a piss and just Google said topic from the bathroom. This applies to job interviews (except for the Google part so don't be brainlet), relationships, business interactions, or any social interaction.
Obligatory reference to Carnegie's Win Friends and Influence People
>"your boy in little league this year"
>"yup."
>*sips Monster lo-carb*
Now what?
How about talking about the weather as a starter? Had moderate success with that.
>Talk about yourself
Isn't that horribly narcissistic and a giant red flag?
That’s just sad
>His team is bound to win this year!
You forgot the firm handshake.
I would suggest having a few drinks if it's in a party setting to loosen your tongue. Do not talk about politics. Ask what music they're into, what kind of movies they like etc.
Weather is literally lowest common denominator filler small talk
Just don’t brag about shit and ask questions about them here and there. Nobody’s going to think you are a narcissist for bringing up a few personal anecdotes.
Talking to normies is the easiest shit ever. Can't believe some guys here can code, trade and play vidya but they can't decode the art of talk.
Applicable to all. Can't go wrong.
Yeah but not as an opener. Weather is the fallback when all other topics have been exhausted.
>I tell you hwat: that boy can hit.
>"I told you Cleatus, the earth is flat. Aint no curve here"
>"Flat as the eye can see"
There
>bet he's hitting the ladies just as hard
All attempts at socializing are a complete waste of time if you don't know what you are getting from the other person. Read the Gervais Principle.
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ask about pets, dog, cat, bird.
Right, and this illuminates the real problem here. It's not a technical mystery, everyone knows what to do/say in theory, just like for getting girls or whatever.
Instead, it's a matter of energies and motivation. Your mood, hormones, neuroshit, have to be right and then you will have the compulsions to behave in the right way.
I could write at length about how to create this situation, and things that make it much worse.
This is actually terrible advice. Can’t dive into an actual emotionally backed conversation with others without being real. Be real, but learn how to do so in an appealing way.
Training socialization is a goal onto itself.
>It's not a technical mystery
How isn't it? It's similar to all other skillsets. Only the end outcome is known, all the things in between are a matter of conscious training so that the skillset becomes muscle memory.
This book mindfucked me hard when I read it a few years ago.
This is true as well. You can't let yourself go without interaction for too long and get autistic, expecting to be able to jump right back in on a dime.
Just talk you sperg
Pajeet tier shit written by a Pajeet for other Pajeets.
>sperg tier social awareness
kys