I'm a 25 y/o virgin. I'm moderately attractive, not autistic, and get a decent amount of female attention.
I'm a virgin because of a string of circumstancial reasons. But I've decided to just deal with them, and finally go for it.
But, I'm thinking about STD's. How common are they really? What's your history? What about the incurable ones? I'm currently taking a course of HPV vaccines, so can hopefully cross that off as a possibility.
Please don't sugarcoat it. I want the naked truth (hah).Truth be told, life would be a lot easier with my annoyingly religious family if I just be a good boy and not risk getting herpes/HIV/undetected STD/pregnancies.. and ignore all the beautiful, young, tight, gorgeous girls that have technically sexually assaulted me.
Most of those are cosmetic and can be cured. Wrap it up with strangers but generally just dont worry.
Isaac Morgan
Use a condom?
Hunter Cooper
That's a great chart. Looks like most of those are curable.. if the symptoms are discovered. If its asymptomatic it can stealth destroy you body over years. Looks like ~70% have had something HPV related. Glad that I'm getting that sorted. 1 in 6 chance of getting herpes.. now that is a worry
Sound advice. But what about oral sex?
Definitely don't intend to ever go without a rubber, but condoms don't protect against skin-based disease transmission.
Are there any anons out there that have actually been promiscuous? How have you fared?
>Pic related is the kind of girl I'm missing out on
If you are so scared then just keep virgin forever. Also there are people who dont sleep with partners until their medical test results came back negative.
Adrian Gonzalez
>low key ignore statistics How do you arrive at that?
I have googled. Now I want to talk to actual people. What's so wrong in that?
>Also there are people who dont sleep with partners until their medical test results came back negative. For obvious reasons, I'm in the dark about this. What kind of relationship does this apply to? fuckbuddy? fwb? gf? partner? ONS?
Aiden Williams
>wanting to wait till marriage = crazy this is why the world is messed up
Sebastian Nguyen
>what kind of relationships Wrong question. Right question is >what kind of people And the answer is obviois: people scared to death from STDs. Somebody like you.
Just dont sleep with ANYBODY until you go with them to get the std test done. It cost some money, takes some time and effort, but honestly if some girl will ever be into you, she shouldnt struggle with such decision before any sex will be allowed to happen.
Nathan Diaz
HPV is extremely common. I'm 20 and only blew two guys in my life and when I went for an endoscopy the doctor found a harmless HPV growth way down my throat and removed it.
While I was still out of it he told my mother I got it from oral sex. Pretty embarrassing, especially since she thought there was no chance I did that with a man.
Cameron Williams
> how commonly do I get sick
Bro why care?
Camden White
>if she waits for marriage she's crazy The absolute state of Jow Forums
Michael Rodriguez
So you would wait with sex AFTER marriage? You wouldnt be scared about your partner not having matching libido, dead fish syndrome, selfish lover or some psychological problem related to rape abuse asexuality and so on?
How important is sex for you? And what if your partner hates sex? Because this way you would find out the hard way AFTER marriage. And then what? Shouldnt you inspect goods before you buy them?
Joshua Ortiz
>I never talk to anyone of my partners about sex beforehand so girls who wait are crazy Dumdum logic. You can talk to your partner about all of this and have most misunderstandings cleared up. And maybe you should have these types of conversations before you get engaged. If she won't open up then you have a problem.
Sorry, but words are cheap and easily forged. You need to see "action". No other way around it. If you want to be monogamous, your partner has to satisfy you "good enough" so you dont end up seeking sex elsewhere. Or you are that minority who doesnt consider sex as important. And that is how dead bedroom marriages happens because one of the couple cant be arsed to bother anymore. And then what? You are stuck in marriage, feeling lonely, frustrated and betrayed...
You act (and even post pic of it) all smug, but i bet all my pepe memes that you would NOT wait until marriage. The stakes are too high to go yolo style and simply believe her words.
Jaxon Jackson
Gotta agree with the other user, virtually everyone claims to be more sexed up and adventurous than they can actually keep up in the long run. Not even necessarily because of conscious deceit but also because it's hard as fuck to accurately judge how often you're going to want sex after being together and active for five years, if your current state is deprived.
Also how some things work out, you only know in real life. Say you fall for a girl who wants to be submissive. You've never been into BDSM porn but you're fine with the idea of acting like her master to please her. There's no saying how you are actually going to feel about insulting her or inflicting pain until after you've tried it. And from her side, even if you do all you can to act the part, if you're not into power play or feeling dominant there's no way you can Dom her the way a natural would. This is just one example. Talk is cheap.
Kevin Ortiz
>you need to see "action" no other way around it >your partner has to satisfy you enough so you don't seek sex elsewhere >that entire last sentence This is actually terrible advice. If someone doesn't want to wait for marriage that's fine, if they do that's okay as well. To go out of your way and say people who wait end up in dead marriages, married to cheaters, and are prudes is so fucking stupid. >tldr I'm an idiot who doesn't understand people can talk to each other without sex or about sex so I put down people for no reason because I think I'm better. Please get a life. If it bothers you so much then don't date people who sav themselves. I know tons of people in happy marriages who waited, and tons in happy relationships who didn't. You obviously have some very big misconceptions about sex and relationships in general if you think any of that is correct.
Oliver Young
*save Forgive the typo
Eli Davis
By that logic you should never talk to anyone about anything ever because talk is cheap.
Jaxson Anderson
I don't see how saying that you shouldn't believe people on just their word when it's very fundamental, long term stuff equals that their word is meaningless.
I mean, if it's everything you might as well marry someone in the honeymoon phase who tells you "oh yeah I'd never cheat on you and will always be supportive and nice to you" like anyone does at that stage. But it's not for nothing that people date for longer or even live together before they feel confident enough to take that plunge and marry.
Jonathan Nelson
OP here. Interesting discussion. The religious cultural background i grew up in, as you'd expect, downplayed the significance of sex in a relationship. And, for all intents and purposes, it seems to have eliminated it as a point of failure. (Well, barely anyone ever got divorced anyway.) But, if I put myself in the frame of mind of that society and consider things, the idea of breaking up a relationship because of 'sexual incompatibility' seems entirely absurd.
If it came down to virginal monogamy, I bet I could utilize this dormant cultural methodology.
But then, I'm increasingly secular, and more pertinently *don't know anything about any of this*.
I have a question: How common is oral sex, in casual sexual encounters (eg, one-night-stands; Tinder hookups, etc)?
