I feel lost after my relationship ended.
I recently found out I am codependent and addicted to love. The relationship ended around 2 weeks ago and I feel lost. I want to be single and be dependent on relationships, but I feel as if I am going crazy. How do I stop feeling this way?
And not be dependent on a relationship***
I feel the same way. I am in a toxic relationship with an abusive, manipulative woman that continually shows that she doesn't care for me despite saying otherwise. I don't feel as if I can leave because I have given so much and changed in so many ways. I don't know who I really am without her. I would also feel tremendous guilt if I did. I care too much for other people and not enough for myself.
I'm sorry I don't have any real advice, just know that you aren't alone and since you aren't still involved with it, it will likely get better with time.
Honestly, I know it is hard, but I suggest getting out of that relationship. As you said yourself, it is toxic.
You can leave and still be optimistic knowing you learned a lot from that relationship.
>I am in a toxic relationship
>I have given so much
>I don't know who I am without her
>Care too much for others
Even though I am going crazy being alone, I know logically speaking I am becoming better because of it. Not relying on another person to make my life a great one. Learning who I am and becoming independent. Doing what I want in life. I made a board and do want an answer to help me however, I know in the long run it will benefit me to stay single.
>Team Creme being pathetic cucks that they are who let their womyn shit on them while they jerk over their nintendo swithc and drink soy
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
PATHETIC FAGGOTS
That feel when I am a women and user guessed I was a man.
>implying being a weaboo roastie isn't even worse
Fuck off to /cgl/ skank
Happens to me all the time on here, user. I usually don't correct people
I just want some help mang
Don't give a fuck, you're a bottom of the barrel woman.
>weeb
>probably 8+ sexual partners
>attention whore
>probably has face piercings and tatoos
Fuck off back to plebbit roastie skank.
You too whore, get the fuck out
fucking roastie slags, choke on cum you stupid whore bucket
I am actually only one of those things. You guessed correctly! I am a weebo, kind of.
>complaining about weebs
>in Jow Forums
Back to plebbit, you absolute newfag
Who hurt you?
Well we can’t give you anything too specific because we don’t know you per se, but I would start by reflecting on what aspects of yourself you felt were limited by being in a relationship. Once you have that down, and determine the “you” you want to become (goal-setting really helps here), you take the steps to accomplish that. Didn’t take a cirriculum you never had the chance to for a career? Didn’t have time for pets or charity work? Etc., etc.
You feel lost right now because you tore a part of your heart out, and now there’s a void. Learn to fill that void with love for yourself.
Nice try roastie whore.
Go suck someones dick in their car bitch.
Oh, you only slept with 7 guys and sucked off another 10 then?
Kill yourself whore.
Thank you! I am going to do this. :)
Not a roastie you stupid incel faggot. Back to where you came from newfaggot
I feel really sorry that you have to go on a board dedicated to advice to unload your rancid comments because nobody loves you.
Nice denial roastie
Fucking bitch
I feel really sorry for your smelly used-up cunt, dumb weeb slag
And you don't deny that your a retard newfag who came here because of le kewl maymays
Kys moron
Best of luck. It’s an uphill battle for sure, but the point is to keep yourself and your life moving. I’ve seen too many people get stuck emotionally, and nobody deserves that. Not even the troll in this thread.
Suck my cock roastie toastie, time for cummies! CUMMIES FOR DIDDIES!!! GONNA SHOOT LOADS OF CUMMIES SWALLOW BITCH!!! weedlh diddly dook cummies are coming out!!!!!
It is really hard. I am going out and doing things I wasn't doing in relationships. Making my own friends and learning sign language. However, one thing I feel I am hindering myself is talking to guys. I feel I am holding back my emotional healing because I am talking to them.
If you feel this way, then why not limit the time you spend doing this? I’m not saying cutting it out entirely, but rather that you would do it for the right reasons. I know there comes a thrill and satisfaction that helps you forget, but in your heart of hearts, is it just a distraction from the pain?
I have an addictive personality and I feel a high from using my phone or texting people. And in this situation distracting myself from the pain. How do I limit my use? How do I not get tempted to use my phone or text?
In all honesty, have something better to do. It comes down to developing a better sense of yourself and your priorities. The moments you feel tempted to reach out and talk to boys, divert this energy into a hobby instead. I always loved the arts, but I never developed it in my science career. Now I’m trying to learn the harmonica and draw for the first time. It’s fucking frustrating sometimes, but I use it to avoid masturbating/watching porn due to crippling loneliness myself.
Okie, I will try doing those things you suggested. I have another question for you because you are actually really good at giving advice. How do you be real with people and also be able to call people out? Doing those things without the fear of rejection or embarrassment? I always feel tempted to mold myself to what people like so I will be liked. I know it is a horrible thing to do.
I struggle with this one a lot myself. I’m a bit passive, but over time, I’d like to think I can speak up when the situation calls for it.
First off, it doesn’t have to always be a confrontation. The reality is, you want autonomy, and that’s good. Trust your gut when someone says something that makes you uncomfortable, is wrong, or not funny; depending on the situation, you can just ask them what they mean. Usually this question forces them to dig to the point and then you can assess whether they are a piece of human garbage. If they are, and it bothers you, plainly state that. If you’re hanging around people who start shit that makes you feel this way, then it’s probably best to avoid.
We all have our idols. I molded myself after my brother before I found my identity. That’s why developing your interests and hobbies will help in the long run. You will see that who you are is enough and nobody should ask to
change (unless what you do is a net loss in the grand karmic scheme)
I’d also like to add that humor is a panacea in tense situations/misunderstandings. Use it to your benefit.
Thank you that helped a lot.
I am a highly agreeable person. How do I go about not caving and agreeing with/being friends with people I disagree with? How do I find my identity and not mold myself from others?
Don’t be so agreeable. It took me many years but I found being ageeeable means being easily taken advantage of. And I have been. It makes me so mad to think of all of those times, missed opportunities where I could have stood up for myself but didn’t. Think about where you stand before you agree with someone. Would it better to let this issue slide, or have it bite you in the ass in a probably worse way later on? It’s ok to mold yourself after others (everybody does it), but just be selective lol.
You have helped a lot, thank you so much ^.^
yikes virgin
If you're driving past his house btw stop doing so if you're not going to reconcile or talk things through; chances are if you were the one who ended things and cut contact, he'd want nothing more than you to reach out. Just talk things through about nothing but how you feel/felt thus far and that'll more than likely help you realize what you could work on yourself to progress.
He broke up with me. I haven't contacted him and we live 30 mins away, meaning I do not drive him his area.
He wouldn't want to talk to me.
*drive in his area