>Tl;dr girl I'm seeing has nothing in common with me beyond high aspirations and a mutual appreciation of eachother, is this a bad basis for a relationship?
I recently met this girl who's from one of the suburb/rural areas near my city.
I won't bore you with the soppy stuff but I like her a whole lot. She makes me feel motivated, admirable and attractive. That and she's one of those super over achiever girls with an allergy for casual sex.
So what's the problem?
Me and her really are miles apart. I grew up surrounded by rap music, gang culture and an urban sense of cultural superiority whereas she's quite literally the opposite. We regularly tease eachother on music taste, film taste, food taste and all that shit.
I'm young and pretty new to dating(serial polygamist), so even though I couldn't care less about these differences, I was wondering what experiences and opinions more veteran anons have to this kinda stuff.
you can explore eachothers interests and find common ground, just dont think of it as "my interests are better than yours"
Evan Bennett
It doesn't matter at all. Not one bit. Dad watches the game in the kitchen, mom watches Downton Abbey in the living room. Dad rides motorcycles, mom reads books. Dad lifts weights, mom does yoga. I honestly don't know a single thing they have in common but they get along fine. You see the same scenario played out in homes all over the world.
Things in common are nice but absolutely unimportant to the success of a relationship
Eli Powell
Each of you should make a little effort to try the other's tastes (You might surprise yourself by liking it) and together you should explore things both of you would like to get into
Christopher Long
>I grew up surrounded by rap music, gang culture and an urban sense of cultural superiority >Pic literally semi-related
Go die in a fire with your coal burning slut
Parker Scott
learn to read retard
David Reyes
What a pleasantly reassuring thread.
Easton Clark
If you both like each other, get along, and are willing do to what the other likes sometimes (aka are you normal) then you're good.
>I'm young and pretty new to dating(serial polygamist), ... I think you should google what "serial polygamist" is before using it again and stop calling yourself that and never say that to her because it implies she isn't the last one, meaning you plan on dumping her.
Jack Rodriguez
I used to avoid relationships like the plague. Parents had a bad marriage that blew up when I was young.
I probably should have said former though, you're right, as I'm thinking a lot more about my future these days.
Carter Wright
OP is obviously a nigger.
James Cook
OP isn't even a woman, you didn't get that right and you have the reading comprehension of a 5 darky
Mason Hall
>Say OP should go and die in a fire with his coal burning slut. >Retard thinks I said OP is a coal burning slut >Retard declares me illiterate
Whew.
Kayden Lopez
coal burning and slut both imply woman, moron. learn english darky
Jacob Gutierrez
Lad, he's saying the girl I'm seeing is a coal burning slut and that I should go die in a fire with her.
Fuck me, get out of my thread you low energy simps.
Adam Ortiz
If you start with mutual appreciation and respect believe me you have stronger basis than most of the couples dating.
Brandon Bailey
Normally my advice would be: stay the fuck away from each other and God forbid you have a child I will come there personally and kill him/her.
Luckily maturity, high social skills, responsibility, benevolence are far, far, far more important and deeply rooted traits for a quality companionship than background, hobbies, tastes.
Your background is only meaningful when you're defined by it.
If you know you have a deep rooted indifference, sadism, immaturity, irresponsibility then never have children and don't pretend the relationship can last more than 5 years at max.
If you know she's materialistic, greedy, indifferent, etc. etc. or you're both terrible anti-social people then don't, just don't.
Still, I'd like to ask you a few more things and give you my own experiences.
Leo Young
>Normally my advice would be: stay the fuck away from each other and God forbid you have a child I will come there personally and kill him/her.
Really won me over with that opener, lad.
>If you know you have a deep rooted indifference, sadism, immaturity, irresponsibility
These are all traits that, whenever I've noticed them in myself, I've worked on diminishing. I'm still only 21 though, so I'm never gonna be perfect. Sometimes I do feel a little indifference can help in life though.
>Ask you a few more things
All ears Richard.
Brayden Torres
The only real issue is probably your mismatch of outlooks on sex and relationships. But as a guy, you're in the clear for having been a manwhore in the past, she's not going to care.
Interests in music, etc. don't matter at all, in fact as you've seen, teasing about it is great. My gf is a complete tumblrina but we get along fine, even though I want nothing to do with her interests.
Leo Powell
It's nothing to be worried about really. Just keep conversing with each other and show an interest in her side (so should she in yours). In this way you two can broaden each others horizon. Even though you two might be different the one defining factor that is the strongest here is that you want to be with each other. So as long as you are willing to put in some effort to accept one another, then I think you two can be a very strong match.
Maybe along the way also try new things (that are new for both) to experience together and build some common ground. If you still feel the need for that.
My bf and I are vastly different people as well, he comes from a third world country where gangs run the streets and has had a dirt poor upbringing with no chances at college. Yet I live in an EU country with average income parents, having done a lot of exploring in my lifetime, a lot of studies.
-The bottom line is, we absolutely love each other and we make each other a better person. We also have the same perspectives on the future so that helps. And on the things we can't understand each other we both put in effort to try to understand or at least accept each others perspective on it. Don't worry so much, enjoy your moments together, keep exploring and if it truly doesn't work out then it doesn't. At least you tried and put in effort, and that's truly the only thing you can ask of someone nowadays.
Alexander Watson
my gf is opposite of me in everything. Im ten years older than her and shes a liberal. but we get along like were friends and she licks my butt.
Alexander Hughes
Old fag user here. You both need to test out each other's interests. That you each rip on each other is good playfulness. Young, hot and full of hormones wears off over time and if there are really no overlaps it becomes a drag. My old lady hates all my friends and most of the things I like to do, to watch, to listen to. I hate her top 20 music, "reality TV" shows, murder porn and allergy to books. We can both do art, museums, hikes, birding and a few other things. But it wears thin. She watches her shows upstairs, I watch mine downstairs.
