ITT: Ask The Opposite Gender Anything

GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like ?
>What do girls/guys think about
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, .

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Girls, would you give me the e-gf experience?

No I have better things to do with my time

why are so many few girls supporting radical feminism? is because the media threatening radicals as extremists and terrorists while at the same time exposing liberal feminism as the only real movement? or because girls born in the post sexual revolution are already mind naturally?

>so many few girls
What?

oopsie, I meant so few girls

You'd have to be outstanding for me to consider a LDR with you

What makes you outstanding, user?

Are you ?

is pee actually stored in the balls

Girlies
How much would you love or hate it if your younger brother's favorite way of saying "I love you" was to lift you off the ground and squeeze you as hard as he could?

Besides sports and video games, what I should I take an interest to?

no, it's stored in the penis in a queue

I would loathe it. Unless he's piss weak, squeezing me as hard as he could would be legitimately painful.

Let me ask you, how would you feel if your sister's way of showing love was to put you in physical pain on purpose?

Kek.
Incase you're for real, it's stored in the bladder, same as yours.

Because it's dumb. I'm sorry but even if your definition of it is something reasonable, no one's gonna buy in because the movement is stained.
>oh no, the kkk is really about equality. It's just the crazies that give us a bad name.
That's how (many) people see you.

>no one's gonna buy in because the movement is stained
>or maybe people naturally view women as stained, so any large group of them being vocal is going to lead to demonization of an entire movement
>maybe

I'm like 87.6% sure that what I said was right. Why would you keep a men away from children in almost all situations if you viewed them as the pure/clean ones?

because radical feminism somehow manages to be even more retarded than regular feminism
and less than 30% fo western women identify as regular feminists, being generous

no it's stored in the peenis

me and my gf were talking about her previuosly exs. at some point i said "you've been a bit like a slut". it just came naturally but i don't think that. my gf though it's sad about it because none never told her before.
how do i fix this? i'm feeling bad.

that would be hot. I would welcome it.

Girls, as a short guy am I just fucked?

I'm fairly confident, I don't give a fuck about my height honestly. I actually like taller girls anyway so it's sort of a plus for me, but I've been finding myself in many situations where I meet a girl I like only to find out she'll "only dates guys that are at least 6'0".

What do?

If you don't want to be subject to the superficially of women, don't subject them to your own superficiality. I.e., you can get a woman fine, looks < personality, but you'll have lots of trouble if you're trying for women society deems conventionally attractive if you yourself are not conventionally attractive.

I personally prefer taller men but I'm 5'11. I've fooled around with guys shorter than me, and it definitely is not a deal breaker or even a real contributing factor in whether or not I'm romantically interested in someone. Sexually interested, sure, but relationships are a hell of a lot more than physical attraction.

I know a 5'2 guy who just married a gorgeous 5'8 girl. Personal comparability matters. Any woman who would write you off for being short isn't worth your time - just as you wouldn't be worth a woman's time if you wrote her off for being blonde or 6'2.

Is there a time limit on asking girls out? I'm in the same class with this qt and I'm reasonably sure we've noticed each other but in the beginning of the semester I had too much work to consider talking to her.

>break up with gf because both of us become unhappy together
>decide to try being friends and we start enjoying time together again and start being happy
>fall in love with her all over again
H E L P

That's really uncalled for and you should feel guilty. If you based your slut comment solely on the number of men she's slept with, you were being a real ass. Slut and whore and the like are actual derogatory terms that have strong emotional and social consequences. Your girlfriend's worth as a human being is not impacted by how many sexual partners she has had, and whether or not you believe that to be true, by using that word to describe her you echoed society's view that it does, and basically said to her that you think less of her because of her previous partners. Sex is about connection and human bonding - we've bastardized it in our hookup culture by trying to pretend like it doesn't have emotional consequences or inextricable emotional implications. When we have sex, we're trying to be closer to another person, trying to show them love and be shown love, trying to build a meaningful relationship - or, oftentimes nowadays, trying to pretend we don't need those things or reinforce the idea that we don't deserve them or that others don't deserve us. Do you think less of your girlfriend for trying to forge meaningful physical and emotional relationships, or for struggling to do so because of personal issues like self-esteem? Or do you empathize with her search for meaning in others? If you respect her as a fellow human being you should apologize to her. Let her know you weren't thinking when you made that comment, and that your love and respect for her is not diminished by any choices she's made in the past.

>make list of reasons you were unhappy together
>make list of why the causes of those things may have changed it disappeared

If there is no substantial second list, don't try to pursue s relationship. You two obviously have a connection but I think your last attempt at a relationship may've proved to you that isn't enough to build a life around.

she did the thing that almost every girl do when they broke up with boyfriend: go to sleep with someone else randomly (and having a fwb). that's why i said that, but i don't think that. i feel ashamed of saying it. hope she will forget about it.

So, there was a guy, who pretended to be my friend, who constantly tried to take the girl away. She said that he always used to spit the shit onto me while I am not around, sit nearby her all the time, while I said "just ignore him or tell him to fuck off". Once she said he writes her suddenly when bragging how he picked up chicks in Tinder.

You know what? She later on went cold on me, started to mention him all the time, breaking up with me and then I see how she chats with him. What the FUCK should I have done?

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Thanked whatever deity you believe in that you just dodged a bullet, and tell this "friends" other friends what happened.

Let his actions affect his reputation, and make his friends question his motives. Anyone dumb enough to trust him afterwards, deserves the pain that they've earned.

This user is completely right.
But if you want some instant gratification. Beat his shit. Hogtie him in the trunk of his car. Drive him 40km for the nearest road dump him in a cron field. Tell him if you see him again you're gonna bury him there next time.
Drive off in his car, park it in a ghetto and leave it there with the keys in the ignition.

That was a year ago and I cut him completely out of my life even though he tried to "ping" me occasionally. Fuck, I wish I hadn't been that beta and should have cut his tendon.

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i'm not speaking for all men, but imo, don't. i don't want to share my interests with my gf, i want her to be passionate about whatever she's interested in and share it with me.

you fucked up my dude. apologize and explain that you don't think less of her/that you didnt mean it cruelly.

no

>a year ago
Well why are you talking about this now? Should have hit it while the iron was still hot. Theres no point in doing anything now. Just leave it be.
You should cut down on your soy intake

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Girls, if a guy has the kind of wit and verbal skills that he has a clever thing or joke to say to your every message, how impressed would you be and would these kind of verbal skills raise his "value" in your eyes?
And I mean this in tasteful and truly clever sense, not that he tries to force a joke in every gap.

My thread's not getting any replies so I figure I may as well ask here.

Would it come across as desperate if I asked to meet a girl the day after our plans fell through?

So, that is, I'd be asking to meet her tomorrow(If I'm not too hungover) because our plans today got a big mangled by some obligations we had.

For the record I've met her once before and we seem to like eachother.

you should cut down on your dumb faggot intake.

joke sample needed

Not really gender related but...

It is a work pals birthday today, and I have been invited to go out for a few drinks and karaoke. I said I would go a few weeks ago, but I've been off sick and then off work for the past two weeks.

I genuinely can't afford to go out drinking as I'm not paid until next week. I don't want to be that unreliable friend who always pulls out (I've had to cancel plans before as well), but it just isn't an option. I also can't be bothered to go into the city and socialise for hours.

How can I let her know that I won't be coming, in a nice way?

probably. what were the obligations? was it really force majeure or is she just trying to blow you off?

stick by your word and power through it.

Hi, I'm this calm and collected guy right here I'm going to have to disagree with this guy: >Should have hit it while the iron was still hot. Theres no point in doing anything now.

There's always time for payback, and always a point in it; deterrence.

Stop thinking about this like "Me big stronk man, we want to kick ass" and play it smart.

Work out, get ripped, try to fuck his girls.
Keep tabs on him, if he cheats, she founds out. He stabs someones back, they find out.
I mean, you can't be the only one this scumbag has tried this with...

Dude plays people, his greatest weakness is exposure.
You might not have had the backbone to beat him shitless, but the next guy might - as long as the next guy finds out.

Maybe that next guy gets in trouble with the law for assault or worse, not you.

Stop thinking like a man and start thinking like you're in the mafia/KGB/intelligence community. Plenty of ways to fuck with other people without getting your own hands dirty, and ensure they learn a fucking lesson.

I had to(well I wanted to) do some extra training this afternoon and then meet her in the evening. She was meant to get dinner with friends on friday but some shit happened(She told me this before I told her of my decision to go in for extra rounds of sparring) that meant she had to re-arrange to that evening.

I also have a party I have to go to tonight so I could just not go to that but that feels way too desperate even though I'd love to see her again.

So yeah, what do you think, did she blow me off?

It's okay to feel intimidated on the internet when being called out on your girly pacifist traits.
But acting on it makes you seem like an even bigger testicle gurgler.

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Tell her you're wiped from being sick and don't really want to go out on the town. Boom.
If that's a problem, that's on them.

I'm an idiot, she also showed me a text of her friend complaining that she never gets to see her when she asked, though I couldn't see what came before in the conversation.

Ask her for study and chill.
>inb4
DO IT FAGGOT! If you dont have her number, start with asking for her number. In person.

I feel like there probably would be, most of the reasons it became too difficult are related to mental health for both of us and we're now focusing on sorting ourselves out and getting better. Part of that means that she just doesn't now want a relationship, and I wish I felt the same way because I understand why she doesn't, but I can't stop wanting to date her again and enjoy things and do everything we stopped ages ago.

It's not just loneliness, I was perfectly used to that before her and I'm rebuilding a support network and proper friendships now, I just can't stop thinking about how her eyes light up when she smiles or how soft her hands are to touch or how sweet she always smells or how tender her lips are. It's fucking torture.

Is this question convoluted/vaguely written?

I just can't get any damn responses.

If nothing else, I'll just take user's "probably."

you're a loon dude. get a grip.

ah, this is tricky. you want to be direct and assertive, but you want to know where you stand.

this is just one mans opinion, but i'd try to text something like:
"sorry it didn't work out tonight. how's [a weeknight you're free this week user] for a rain cheque? "
"or maybe we play by your schedule?"

maybe the second line is a bit passive, or sharp. but rework it so its causal and light, but requires a response.

if she suggests a time you aren't free, make yourself free, or parry with a new time. her taking you up on your raincheque, or her suggestion of a time she's free, should be good news that shes into you. if she says she's busy all week, she's not into you. if she cancels again last minute, she's not into you, and pretty lame to boot.

i think suggesting tomorrow does seem a bit sudden. hopefully she's feelling you too. good luck dude

this suggests thats shes on the level, no? good

wow, how easy it is to be feckless. what great advice.

So she tried to find comfort and reassurance that she is desireable after being hurt and made to feel that she was not? She tried to feel powerful about her own autonomy after being made to feel powerless by heartbreak? There's a reason that's a common thing for both men and women to do. It doesn't speak negatively to her character. You should apologize. I guarantee you she will not forget.

Guys, what feels better, cumming in vag or cumming in mouth?

I would personally find it exhausting. Because now she feels like she had to be clever or witty too to "keep up" with you. It's a great quality for flirting initially and getting a girl engaged in conversation, but don't do it all the time. Just be normal sometimes.

Girls (or anyone really), lately my girlfriend has been choosing to spend more time alone rather than time with me. I know she's not doing something like going out and cheating on me because I can see her playing games on Steam. Is this a bad sign for the relationship?

Text her normally but mention that you want to reschedule for the near future. Only mention it once. Let her bring it up again if she wants to. After three days, if she hasn't mentioned it then provide a concrete proposal for a date, an actual invitation. If she reschedules that, she's not interested. If she tries to be nice and say it's this or that reason, be friendly and say sth like: Okay, just let me know when you're available next, it would be nice to see you. After that, ball's in her court. Don't mention the date again. She'll probably stop taking to you by this point if she's not interested.

Doing this is not clingy or desperate. Don't question her refusal or lack there of, just let it be.

Pussy is way superior, even more when girl dont have starfish syndrome. When you clench the kegels tight, wrap your legs around me and whisper something like good boy, i cum so hard i kinda cant move for a minute afterwards and my muscles hurts all over my body.

Bad sign is that:
You dont trust your gf enough to tell you if there was a problem.
You dont talk with your gf and instead goes to Jow Forums.

Honestly maybe she is on her period. Or she got fat. Or she is pregnant. Or she got bored of you. Or her ex texted her. Ask her, not us.

check this is better advice.

Maybe, maybe not. Let it go for a week or two. If the relationship is newer she could just be defining her personal space within it. She could just be having an emotionally exhausting time and need some solitude to recover. If it goes on for more than a week or so, talk to her about it in the frame of: we haven't been spending as much time together as I'd like. Is everything okay? Is there anything you want to talk about?

From female perspective I can't imagine someone saying mouth > pussy. What you described is like ideal insemination position.

do six packs/muscles have the same effect on women that nice tits have on men?

No.

Similar, but not exactly. Tits are primal. Motherhood, bearing offspring, your own mother nursing you as a child. Powerful psychic images. Muscles = protector, provider. But there's more than brute force as a method of protection and provision in men and has been for tens of thousands of years, so it doesn't have the same visceral impact. It can be pleasant to look at and can get a girl wet, but men are crazy about tits. Testosterone also just makes these kinds of reactions more intense for men too.

I'll try. I've gotten better at introducing myself to strangers but I still freeze up when they're with friends.

Because radical feminism is toxic in and of itself. By radical feminism I assume you mean shit like the sex negative second wave types that think Andrea Dworkins isnt a fucking retard. I've seen them try to argue only men are pedophiles while extolling the works of that woman in the same paragraph. Do mind she tried to argue the incest taboo was a product of the patriarchy of all things, which probably reads more like a defense of it to the average person.

>SCUM Manifesto is a radical feminist manifesto by Valerie Solanas, published in 1967.[1][2] It argues that men have ruined the world, and that it is up to women to fix it. To achieve this goal, it suggests the formation of SCUM, an organization dedicated to overthrowing society and eliminating the male sex.

Like this is some Nation of Islam tier shit, good luck selling anyone that. I remember some radical feminist tried to call me a "liberal feminist" as an insult, which I still find incredibly amusing when contrasted with my actual beliefs.

>Muscles = protector, provider.
So you're saying I should show her my gun collection on the first date

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A gun is not a provider thing

They're pretty good at protecting though. Thanks for the advice I'm sure she'll love it.

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Wife's been really horrible to me recently. Really abusive, telling me I'm useless and just there for decoration and the like. We had a baby about two months ago but she's been getting worse and worse since then. Nothing is ever good enough no matter how hard I try, and I get shouted at for trying to be nice to her. She is also insisting I spend ALL my money on her immediately because if I cared for her I'd buy her expensive things without her even needing to ask but she then complains they're not the right things or that she had to tell me what she wanted.

I know some of this can be hormonal but I can't live with her like this. I don't want my child seeing their parents hate each other and I don't want to present this abusive relationship as "normal".

What do?

get her to see a therapist, she might have postpartum depression or something

it provides meat from hunting
or money from robberies

Yeah I thought of this. Might be worth bringing it up but I'm worried I'll just make her angry.

She'd always been somewhat abusive and I'd just sweep it under the carpet but now it's unbearable. And now that I had a child I have to set an example of a proprt relationship.

Shes convinced she has you by your balls.
Pack your shit grab your rifle and go on a surprise camping trip alone so you can rediscover your inner self, don't tell anybody about it just take some vacation days. Block all your credit cards she cant use.
Come back in like three months.
See if she still thinks you're useless.

I don't see how that would do anything other than reinforce her ideas. Also, under no circumstances do I want to abadon my kid with her.

Girls
I haven't dated anybody in like 5 years (when I was 19). Is this a red flag? Should I avoid mentioning it to a potential girlfriend until we're already close?

What if would do is show her how it would look like to live without you providing.
Unless you know shes right and you're a deadbeat, it would be a very difficult time for her. And she would realize that she does need you.
It will also give you some free space to rest from the negativity and stressful environment. Get in touch with yourself and learn how to depend on yourself. Give you some backbone as my father used to say. Witch you clearly lack.
And another thing. Abandon my kid with her. Why would you have a child with a woman that you cant trust with to take care of the child?
I didn't see my dad until I went to first grade because he was working the flesh from his fingers to provide for me and my mother. And you bet your sweet ass she was grateful when he was around.

I am going to wait until the last day of class and I am going to fucking ask her out and I just know that I'll immediately regret it but I'm going to fucking do it.

>Balding
>Overweight

So which is the less painful route, improve fitness then shave it all off or the other way around?

>Unless you know shes right and you're a deadbeat,
I work 50+ hours a week to provide a house and food. She doesn't do shit.

>Why would you have a child with a woman that you cant trust with to take care of the child?
She wasn't always so bad. Honestly the PPD guy may be on to something. She might actually be sick and need a doctor.

You need welding helium, the party balloon has oxygen added these days.

Shave it off as an act of taking control.

So tell me. If you took 3 months off work, Left your phone on the kitchen table, Cut her access to your money, and took off to a national park, set up a tent, a bbq, shot some coyotes and fucked around the woods for 3 months.
What do you think would happen?
Would she get her shit together? Touch it out?
Replace you?
Of course it wasn't always so bad, but now it is. And it tends to get worse before it gets better. Go give therapy a try, Mind you therapists don't fix shit if your partner doesn't want to be fixed.
And from what your saying I'm pretty sure she thinks shes doing fine and you're the problem.
And when that fails, the woods ain't going anywhere

>Would she get her shit together? Touch it out?
Not a chance. She'd get her parents to look after her and the kid and then I'd never see the kid again.
>Replace you?
This.

I could live with this, as long as I see my kid. But the way she is now I can't guarantee she's rational enough to let that happen.

>I'm pretty sure she thinks shes doing fine and you're the problem.
You'd be correct. Literally everything is my fault, including a shop being closed on a particular day of the week.

Well, thanks user. I don't think it's going to get better at this point unless it's purely hormonal and I can just wait it out.

Damn thats bad user. Mind you her parents can only provide for so long. And will probably only put up with so much bullshit.
Best of luck. Second best advice i could give you knowing this would be to start looking for a good lawyer.

Not a girl but in my experience, yeah, don't mention that shit unless you have a good reason for it.

Cheers lad.

Her parents would tolerate her bullshit pretty much indefinitely since she's their only child and I'm automatically the bad guy. They pretty much treat her like she still lives with them. They cook, clean, and take the baby when I'm at work.

Why did you marry her, why have a child with her? A literal fe-man-child.
I'm genuinely curious. I've ended relationships over girls not wanting to cook and/or clean. Those where always red flags.
Spoiled people tend to act entitled in relationships.
And grown ups who cant even take care of themselves sure as hell cant take care of a baby.
Was it always like this? Did her parents helicopter over her while you where dating.
I would really appreciate the feedback if you are willing to share

This sounds like some weird advice man. Just up and vanish without telling her for 3 whole months? Firstly she'll probably contact the police, causing stress to her, which could impart on the baby, and she'd be wasting police time. Secondly, she'd probably just find someone to replace him. A lot of women would think he's a deadbeat (confirming her rants) that ran out. She probably has a few beta orbiters on tap. So your advice is for this guy to get cucked out of a relationship and spending time with his kid. Because when he comes back it sure as shit won't be all sunshine and rainbows. He could come back to someone "better" raising his child.

>Was it always like this?
Absolutely not. Before we got married she was sweet, caring, and very kind. Everything I touched turned to gold for her. How she kept it up for five years I'll never know.
>Did her parents helicopter over her while you where dating.
Somewhat; they spent weeks at a time visiting her and literally sent meals in the mail, but when we moved to her hometown they became a much bigger factor.

>I've ended relationships over girls not wanting to cook and/or clean.
Wise man. I love cooking so this was never a problem at first but then she stopped cleaning. Then she stopped even making her own toast. Then she stopped making her own coffee. Slowly but surely I ended up taking on all the chores. And by the time I figured out what she was doing, it was too late.

>I've ended relationships over girls not wanting to cook and/or clean
Wew.

I bet you really ache for the 50s coming back.

She should at least do her fair share of the chores user.

Oh yeah I agree with that. I just don't agree with "Woman cook. Woman clean." A lot of men like to cook now and it can be quite romantic for a girl to have their man cook for them. Cleaning is a bit different. I guess no one likes to do it unless they're an OCD freak and I'd personally be ok with taking turns with it as long as they don't start slacking and expect me to keep doing it.

Some of my buddies actually want to be stay at home dads. Spend time with the kids and cheekily get on the Xbox every now and them. Seems pretty cushty. But I know a lot of people would feel emasculated by that.

Nobody in their right mind would take a single mother in less that 3 months time.
She can contact all the police she wants. Leaving and not telling anybody is a moans constitutional right. Look it up.
I did this, under my dads advice, a few years back when my then live in girlfriends started acting exactly like op described.
She was fine the first month. But when she had to pay for the rent, When my food started running out, and she had to pay for that too. Damn right she was grateful when I came home. Turned in to the best damn girl around really fast.
Spending time innawoods also helped me work some of my own kinks out as well.
Thanks man, appreciate you sharing. The exact moment when you fucked up seems to be moving back to her home town.. Think you could get your parents to visit your place for a few months. At least your mother. Get some ammunition on your side you know.
Go back to thumblr and hang out with the other strong independent wymen

>Thanks man, appreciate you sharing.
Welcome.

Not at the moment. My mum's undergoing chemo and it's a four hour journey. She's gonna make it though.

>Nobody in their right mind would take a single mother in less that 3 months time.
Hahahahaha. You really don't know how thirsty and beta some guys are, man

>I just don't agree with "Woman cook. Woman clean."
And what exactly do woman do user?
Go to work and make money? Because while I'm out for 10h a day working my ass off to pay for my house, the food and bills, I'm sure as hell gonna be glad to come back home to a girl who just spent the day watching netflix on my account waiting for me to cook her dinner. Real romantic and everything.
Humans need a job. And for stay at home scum its cooking, cleaning and being used as ridiculously overpriced sex toys.

I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't have some cunt as a backup already by the way she acts.

You your advice is to outbeta the thirsty betas?
Solid advice. But sometimes it's better to just be alone.

Eugh, excuse the double negatives. You know what I meant.