Over 30s Thread

Any over 30s on Jow Forums?

35 here. I feel like the most pathetic guy on Jow Forums. Broke, live with mother, no independence, no savings, no future. Really fucking depressed tbqh

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Whatcha wanna talk about bro? 32 here

Just wondered what other 30 somethings do with their lives and why they still post on Jow Forums like me

I don't want to whine about my problems or anything, tempting as it is

37 here. Life's pretty good. I'm on Jow Forums due to habit and because you can't leave.

37 here
divorced, no kids, have my own apartment
was dating a 23 yr old for 6 months then it kinda sucked so I'm dating a 30 yr old who looks like a fat Eva Green
>why they still post on Jow Forums like me
my job is to work on computer all day, I'm alone in my office so I lurk Jow Forums from time to time.

What a coindence. I also dated a 23 year old for 6 months. I met her on Jow Forums actually.

really? met on Jow Forums
how does this even work?

why did you end it?

It's never too late to do something with your life bro. You just gotta make the decision that today you're stop putting things off, whatever shape that takes for having the life you want later. And I'm here cuz /b/ is too toxic, and I feel like here is a place I can give a little back, kinda

I'm not over 30 yet but the OP alone immediately made me feel better about myself. Thanks oldfag.

There are threads specifically made for meeting up (mainly on /soc/) and also totally random contacting. This was the latter. It was a great relationship, unfortunately we ended it because she moved to the other side of the world.

>It's never too late to do something with your life bro

I wish that were true, friend.

I feel myself caring less and less about what's expected of me by others. Ok so I'm not top of the pyramid. Frankly, I'd swap what I do have for a clean conscience. Not that I've done anything hugely wrong, but I believe being a good person with nobody to answer to morally speaking is the best thing a person can retain.

Unless you have a terminal disease, it def is

I know a guy who was a small-town mechanic for ten years who just started working IT in a major bank, earning a ton, because his brother.

Also know a fiction writer I like who worked in grocery stores etc for like a decade, just earned a degree as a Paralegal aged 37.

I'm 33, came to Jow Forums from SomethingAwful when I started college. You never leave this place. Never. So don't worry about being an oldfag, everyone gets old after a bit. Jow Forums has been the one constant "hobby" throughout my "adult" life.

My fiance' was killed in a car accident, though, so I went a little nuts about five years ago. Had to move back in with mom and dad, but I took the time to go back and get a master's degree and reshape my career. I just graduated from graduate school and have been looking for a job since December. I spent all of my savings in a binge of self-destruction, but I'm alright now. I still drink a lot and pop a few pills (just Xanax here and there), but I'm much better and I'm functioning. I'm starting to get interviews, so maybe I'm turning a corner.

30's isn't too old to start fresh. If OP were 45 or so, I'd say be concerned.

31. I'm pretty successful and mostly content with life. But like the guy before me, I came here in college and I guess it still being around in that kind of form 10 years later is comfortable to me.

I occasionally ask for advice, but I'm increasingly getting people that don't believe me, so I just mainly stick to giving advice. Helping out some kid who was like me before.

Also masturbation and comics.

Sorry to hear about your fiance. May I ask what you worked as before and what you retrained in?

50 yrs here. Divorced w. three kids. Got job, apartment, a car and some guns. No gf/new wife/fwb ..

Why I'm here .. why not ? No time for going anywhere or any money for that matter. Passes time however pathetic that may seem.

I think the idea of "pathetic" is a young man's notion. Once life hits you hard you realize staying alive IMO is good enough.

Anyway care to go into more detail?

I've been thinking of getting in touch with my dad, whose 67, since we've never had a relationship.

You're quite right .. also gotta take care of the kids for four more years or so.
Long story short : unfaithful wife, house sold with crippling decifit (debt gone in seven yrs from now, has been paying down for six so far). So all money goes to debt, kids and staying alive. It'll get better eventually, but I'll be old for real

Any man who looks after his kids is a good one. I hope your kids realize the sacrifice you make for their sake. Life's shit anyway my man.

>I've been thinking of getting in touch with my dad, whose 67, since we've never had a relationship.

Do it so you don't regret it later in life when it's too late. You've only got one dad, better to learn who he is than wondering forever. If he's cool you win, if he's a shitbag you can bail.

Well the thing is I did have something of a relationship with him when I was like 10, when he demanded to see me but never did anything with me except sit in his mother's apartment to watch Formula 1 for 4 hours together in silence.

We then went out to eat a couple of times in my teens but the thing is he (and my brother) hate my mother and sister, but they raised me so I am defensive. Anyway I just feel bad that he was I think a shy, sensitive guy in his youth, but just got cocky, alcoholic, disloyal when he got rich. But I don't want him to die thinking I hate him.

31 over here. Similar to you I guess. No money, live with grandma, no independence as well, no savings, no significant other and a long etcetera. The only good thing I have is I'm healthy.

I wish everybody a nice Monday. I'm glad to read about other people over 30's.

Wishing you a good Monday too, mate.

I do my best .. teenagers are not the most grateful lot to deal with, but I'm told they'll appreciate it eventually.
Also, do try to get in touch with your old man and work out the differences that part you (if this is the case). Even if it should not pan out, you tried. One should , imo, try a little harder with family in most cases.

Good Monday to you as well, user :)

Are you in the US or UK?

Also any advice from 50 years of living?

OP here

All the best. I was expecting so many over 30s on Jow Forums. Makes me feel slightly better I guess.

Denmark .. as for advice, that's a tough one. I've done what I thought was right and see where that landed me - but I've always put my family/kids first and myself last. I'm hardwired that way ..

bump

You should get in touch with him user.

hello fellow 30+ anons. im 30 and still at home. no career. havent totally lost all hope yet.
would love to have a lady, to know what its like to be genuinely liked again.

32 here, back at mothers house years ago, have a job but no money saved, could afford to live by myself and struggle, but then I couldn't afford to buy booze. 1st girl in years shows me some attention recently, like her a lot, started seeing each other few weeks back, tells me she's up the duff with her exes kid. Pretty much hate life, but too cowardly to do anything about it.

34 here, wizard till a married woman put an end to it 2 years ago. no gf since then. came here 8 years ago from r9k.
i'm doing pretty well financially, living on my own, vidya, porn.

I score 68% schizoid according to some online polls and i'm pretty ok with it.

i'm focusing now on working out since I want to get a fit body and punish all those 30+ old roasties by not dating them. I'm thinking maybe dating a young fat girl would hurt them more - like hinting at them that i'd rather date a girl uglier than them as long as she's young...

but i'll just probably not do it and keep doing the porn and vidya thing

33 fem user here, my husband introduced me to Jow Forums when we got together when we were 19. Jow Forums is just a habit for me, I'll go long periods of time without coming here, then I'll come back out of the blue. I'm usually more on porn than adv. You're old for Jow Forums, but there's still plenty of time to dig yourself out of the rut you're in and make something of your life.

Over 30 here, and I come to Jow Forums because I've been here since the beginning. over a decade now. Crazy how this place and myself have changed. But like they say, once you're here, you're here forever.

Also what I'm doing with my life is having a great job, my own place, a new car, and fucking my loyal gf of 5 years. Essentially being a normie

Just hit 30. Lost job, back living with parents. Life fucking sucks.

Another thing I want to ask people here, do you notice with your friends that when they hit 30 they basically become boring as fuck "oldies" who only seem to care about finances, careers and other boring shit in conversations?

I was at a friends 31st the other day and I noticed the way everyone spoke was like how people spoke in those life insurance commercials. "Man I worry about what will happen if something happens to me", "You shouldn't have to worry, have you heard of Aids life insurance?", "aids life insurance? I don't think I could afford that?", "nonsense, for just a small payment of $9.99 a week you can have peace of mind"

THIS IS HOW THEY WERE SPEAKING. WHAT THE FUCK.

Seriously, go back 2 years and these same people would be talking about cool music, video games, movies, culture, politics, funny videos etc, now literally everything is "career, finances, career, finances, career, finances."
I never used to feel old but seeing the way all my friends act now makes me sure feel fucking old.

32 reporting in
doing well, used to be doing very not well. persistence and endurance is the key

>i'm focusing now on working out since I want to get a fit body and punish all those 30+ old roasties by not dating them.

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>do you notice with your friends that when they hit 30 they basically become boring as fuck "oldies" who only seem to care about finances, careers and other boring shit in conversations?

It's called growing up bro. I find I do the same. When I was 20 all I cared about was getting drunk, high, acting stupid and trying to see tits. I was also broke as fuck, and knew fuck all about how to support and take care of myself.

Because that's what young, stupid people do.

Now in my 30s, what I really get off on is knowing my career is going well and seeing my 401k grow. That shit makes me hard now.

you're only picking up on it now because the insecurity of unemployment is gnawing at you

even in my early 20's white collar guys would either talk about that stupid shit or drag you into talking about it but I didn't see the point, once you have everything in order there's nothing to talk about

Yeah, way too many people do this shit. I think it's mainly stemmed from a fear that they "have" to be that way, or force themselves to have kids or something.

As someone who also makes good money and is in his 30s, you're the most insufferable kind of person. No offense. But I mean, I guess I kinda mean offense.

>I'm too mature and too much of a big boy for that, I swear! I'm not a stupid kid anymore, I have it all figured out.

Anyways, you have no reason to lie, since it's all user, but most of you assholes IRL are just miserable and have stopped having fun because a book told you that you had to.

I'm 23 but I was wondering if anyone here has gone through something similar to me and has any life advice.
Basically I finished my engineering degree and have accepted a well paying job at a mine, this is great but I have to move pretty far away in a couple of months.
I'm not worried about making new friends when I get there, but what's gnawing inside at me is knowing that I will drift apart from my current friends.
I know at some point friends come and go, but this friend group has basically shaped my teenage years and early twenties.
All my greatest memories have been alongside them, although I'm happy to be getting this job I get a fairly sombre feeling when I hang out with my friends knowing that my journey with them is coming to an end soon and I'll be going in my own direction.
I know we won't truly lose touch but it's still gonna suck knowing that they're still altogether and all have each other, I'm scared of the day I'll come back to them and they'll still be close but I'll feel like a bit of an outsider.

You have to make new friends and get some distance between you and your highschool friends, I found about my mid 20s I started really resenting my high school friends just because I could never fucking get away from them and we had been doing the same fucking shit for 15+ years together at this point and I just became really tired of hanging around them and their bullshit. This happens to tonnes of people I've talked to about this and this is also basically what most likely actually broke up even The Beatles along with numerous other bands that formed as teens.

It's not really up to you, you will find post 25 that your childhood/teenage friends will start feeling this themselves, you will notice rifts start forming and you will watch them start to break away and do their own things.

That said this is often not permanent, me and my high school friends "broke up" at 25, now at 30 we're all back together having the time of our lives because we all got a break from eachother, got our own experiences that we can now bring to the group, for example, one of my friends when he left our group started hanging around a popular music scene, then got into the know with musicians and shit, so he takes us to parties filled with famous musicians and stuff, another friend became friends with another scene, and now we have access to that scene as well.

Breaking away from your high school friends is actually a good thing for a bit.

In my 30’s, achieved my goal of completing flight school a few years back, married with a kid. Pretty happy but my job is super stressful. Been on Jow Forums since 2009, still here out of habit, and the anonymity allows me to continue to keep up with hobbies that are normally shunned by military officers.

I was already in my 30’s when I finished flight school. Don’t give up hope.

this thread is still alive!!

Yeah, figured I would add myself and see if anyone was still here

Hit 30 today, doing pretty well. Jumped from retail to a six figure job overnight and I'm starting to gain confidence again.

It feels weird going from 20's to 30's. All of my insecurities melted away once I realized my life wasn't immediately over.

Do any of you guys have any advice for an under 30yo on how to avoid becoming "broke,living with mother, no independence, no savings, no future. really depressed" at 30?

I think I'm slowly coming across the fact that I'm becoming old and wasting my youth being a lazy cunt with a part time job living with his parents. I wish I could gain independence and have a life but I really need a better job. How do people like me get out of this hole? Every time I try and dig myself out I fall back in.

Get an education or a skill. Something related to business or technology, or a skill in mechanical or electrical fields. This will set you up for stable employment with good pay/benefits

Exercise, you don’t have to spend all day at the gym, but a simple 3 day a week lifting routine and some cardio will help you feel both mentally and physically better.

Learn to cook and other basic skills. Nothing fancy, just self sufficient with options.

I have a degree in CS. But I was and am a lazy shit so I fucked it up and have no job or resume. Pretty much in order to do anything with my degree I think I'd have to build something and relearn some data structures, algorithms, etc. That goes back to my being a lazy shit though, which I'm struggling to get past.

I've been skinny all my life so I've been actually gaining weight lately and plan on joining a gym eventually. Are you allowed to lift weights alone or do you need a spotter at gyms?

I'd love to learn to cook actually, but seeing as I live with my parents I honestly don't know how that would work. Do I just start buying groceries and practicing? Like I understand how to make pasta, chicken, meatballs, rice, turkey, etc.. the basics of culinary I guess. Or is that all I need? Honestly feel like nowadays people can just read instructions online and can cook most anything to a decent level.

First off, stop referring to yourself as a lazy shit. It’s a self reinforcing feedback loop. If you need to relearn something that’s not that big a deal, you should always be learning more things.

As for the gym, a spotter helps but isn’t necessary. Just start slow, look up guides for how to properly do things, and be safe.

Your cooking skills seem fine if you can make those meats. Work on another skill that will make you self sufficient.

For me, if I am smarter and stronger than I was yesterday, even if only by a fraction, I’m at least moving in the right direction. Also find something that scares you, and do it. Heights, swimming, social interaction, doesn’t matter. Become comfortable with doing things that make you uncomfortable

I definitely want to become more comfortable doing uncomfortable things. I think I'm slowly improving in relation to social interaction. I also would like to learn to ride a motorcycle if that counts? However that goes back to the feeling of believing I don't deserve to try new things or take up anything that isn't related to improving my current job prospects. So I guess the obvious answer would be: "I need to gain discipline and relearn material and build something to add to my resume so I can first increase those job prospects". But it goes back to my lack of motivation. Several times I've said "Alright I'll sit down and start practicing and have something done by the end of the month" but I end up goofing off and back to 'normal' within the week.

How do I get past that?

30 (just!), went a bit mental because I could hear my biological clock ticking. It was more pressure from everybody else but I was panicking that I didn't feel that urge to procreate.

Suddenly, it hit and now I'm broody as fuck. I have a good job, a solid relationship with someone I truly love and we're buying our first home together this year. There's no rush for any of these things but I feel ready for it. I didn't have a particularly chaotic life in my twenties or anything but I enjoyed the lack of responsibility.

It has made me realise that 30 isn't any different to 29 and I actually have a better part of my life ahead of me (hopefully!).

So yeah, was gutted, slowly getting better as I come to the realisation that I'm not quite dead.

hit us up, I'm here

>It has made me realise that 30 isn't any different to 29 and I actually have a better part of my life ahead of me

that's the way it suppose to be, atleast for my case
we might lose sight at some point between 25 and 35 but it'll come together if you hang on for a bit.

Set smaller, more manageable goals. Daily tasks. Starting with monthly goals is setting up for failure

Hey Jow Forums
I just turned 34 a couple of weeks ago and they seem like a kick in the stomach. Long story short :

>Nice job, I decided to start working as a freelance. Im making a big career. Won an international award in my field. I even declined job offers because Im so confident with myself I can eat the world.
>Everything great for years, had a girlfriend, living together, got plans for us, about to make 6 years. She just disappears and turns out she is now with another guy, uploads a new picture with him to her profile, I discovered it that way.
>Big big depression, had to leave appartment, go back to my parents house. Try to work, cant focus anymore. Cant get updated with my studies/job, they keep changing every month, more upgrades, new ways to achieve the same things I studied 1 year ago.
>Got a couple of projects stolen. I went through a horrible 2017. Start meeting girls from Tinder and other apps. Hanging around with girls 20-25.
>Not great success, but at least I can have casual sex or being desired. Met a new girl 28yo, lots of promises, fights for me, start a relationship.
>She left me 3 weeks ago. I dont know what the fuck Im doing with my life anymore.

Currently trying to finish studies, looking for a job, lurking Jow Forums, posting on /b/ (it moves faster than adv, and from time to time you get "useful" replies), cant watch films or enjoy all the hobbies I got due to depression. Started with Tinder again, and meeting this 34yo girl for some drinks.
At least I look younger, 27-29, but Im not getting all the matches I'd like. As I said, I dont know what Im doing, seeking for validation, approval and confidence.

I feel like Im wasting my time, and any girl or my exgf can get instant sex just by being a girl. Sad times, wish me luck for going out of the hole.

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> a fat Eva Green
intriguing, do go on

I'm 37, two years ago I was exactly at your situation, ex-wife got pregnant by another man,
I kept dating women by tinder
it just added depression, user
then I stopped, get a dog so I can have some responsibility and take care of a life.

then I met this amazing woman by walking the dog, she's a life changer
I'm not saying you should get a dog, but don't let your head down, man
find yourself some outdoor activities and you'll meet nice people out there

Thanks user, I know Tinder isnt the best solution and Im not going to find the proper one in there. Besides that, you always want more, its never enough.

I met this 28yo girl irl and it was a totally different feeling, thats why I bet so much on her. I think I should stop thinking about girls, sex and looking for approval with them. I reached the point where I know Im not able to be happy without a girl and thats terrible.

I should focus on myself instead, even if Im alone. Going to try to start doing exercise once more and if theres a chance, leave this town and start a new life in a different place. I have my family here but no friends.

Since the 25+ thread keeps being flood by kids, I'm going shove myself here despite being 28.

28KV, currently no job, no real friends and been trapped in my house for about 4 months besides long walks into nowhere.

How do you change anything? This late in the game?

Get a job. That's step 1. It doesn't matter what it is, just get yourself a source of income
>inb4 no one will hire me
Have you tried? Have you tried asking everyone you know? Have you got in touch with recruitment and temp agencies?

>Have you tried?
I was working in a supermarket for 4 years till I got fired in a roundabout way.

>Have you got in touch with recruitment and temp agencies?
Never actually tried that except for the job centre who keep showing me cleaning jobs and nothing else.

I like you user :3

>She just disappears and turns out she is now with another guy, uploads a new picture with him to her profile, I discovered it that way.

What the fuck is wrong with people? This is some high school shit. The guy she's with is doomed. fuck her user,

Keep your head up though, man. You've been through a lot. Keep focused on yourself. Good luck.

Happy Birthday brother

I know,

>One day we were staying at home like any other saturday. Cooking, watching films and sleeping together. Next day she says she needs to go to her parents house.
>15 days later, no response. She reads my messages but I cant get in contact. She doesnt get my calls neither.
>Out of the blue, she changes her profile picture, first hugging this guy, second one is both of them in her bedroom. You dont want to believe this is happening, so you try to think he is just some random dude from her family or something like that. He is not.
>She says he is just a friend, she didnt change, she is still the same, we can talk whenever I want or have a drink. When I propose a day she keeps saying she is busy and cant meet.
>End up losing every hope. Have to delete contact because I keep seeing her updates on facebook, posting images with this scum going out, traveling and already living together.

>10 months later she writes me. "How are you doing? If you want to meet some day just tell me, I hope you are alright after everything"
>Checked her facebook. She is still with that dude. Didnt reply her.

Since that I didnt have a lot of luck with girls neither, I try to improve my confidence issues but it seems the more you give, the more they hurt you. Thats why Im on tinder, trying to not get clingy or attached to a girl.

Assuming you're British, the Jobcentre is a scam and you'll never get anything decent.

What qualifications do you have?

The downside of your position is that you're not 18 any more.

The upside is that you're old enough not to give a fuck how old you are. If it means retraining in something, if it means going to / returning to university, just fucking do it man. Unless you have some ambition (writing, music etc) which requires your time, just invest yourself in some career and worry about other shit later.

>What qualifications do you have?
2.2 in maths from 7 years ago.

>Assuming you're British, the Jobcentre is a scam and you'll never get anything decent.
What are my tax pounds paying for then?

what else can I tell you?
she has big bright blue eyes, dark hair and very pale skin
she's 165cm with 75 kg. so a fat Eva Green, comes with a nice pair of boobs

yeah, the point is "don't be afriad of change"
if things don't work out, change it
god speed, user

that's fucked up
you should be glad, she's now someone else's problem

OP here

As I suspected, most people in their 30s are successful and relatively happy. Its fucking over for me and I can't escape from the 24/7 regret of how much I've fucked up my life and how much of a pathetic loser bastard I am. But then thats always been my mindset so its no wonder I have failed so miserably at life.

How'd you fuck up your life? I just feared and doubted my way into the dead zone. Plus having crappy friends doesn't help.

37. I go to Jow Forums so I can try to help people & give back in a way.

33 here

I hate other posting sites, Reddit commenters are cancer.
Was a member of Voat for 3 years, but I got tired of having the same it was the jews conversation over and over (it's basically Jow Forums now)

So I post on Jow Forums. Maybe cause it's anonymous?

31 here, fuck it goes fast ill tell you hwat.
I feel like im not where i should be in my life in terms of career and status. Reading where others where made me feel more greatfull.
Anyway, just about to finish a bachelor's degree, have a decent ammount of cash but from bad circumstances as an inheritance but at least i havnt blow it on shit. Got a decent enough girl and good mates. I guess i wont be so hard on myself but to all others saying they are too old to change? Fuck that, go back to school or learn whatever it is you want to do. It never to late. The time will pass either way so better to try.

But the textbook "The Professional Chef"

Are you gonna reply or leave me hanging?

Social anxiety, laziness, neuroticism, inertia and a total lack of accountability for my neglect when I was younger

I've known about my problems for a decade but for whatever reason, was too weak and pathetic to make any changes. Counselling, meditation, aborted attempts at salvaging some sort of career goal...nothing has worked. I am currently just existing day to day in a constant state of unhappiness but too fucked up to change. Its too late, University is not an option for me and I'm weak willed and shy anyway

I deserve everything I get

Bumping.

Any more tips or anything really? I need some people to talk to.

32 year old and I rarely spend any time on Jow Forums other than hobby-specific boards. I spent more than a few years as a college dropout working part-time and then as a full NEET and never moved out and just ate into my life savings while getting fat.

It's only in the last year that I was able to get my shit back together. I'm back working shit jobs with like 16 year olds but I'm working towards my dreams finally.

I do come on this board and half my advice is "don't fuck up like I did" because it's all like college kids asking for direction and also I did have a good decade more or less as a normie with friends and girlfriends and travelling out in the world and going to parties and all that.

I'm honestly worried about all these 20-something year olds who spent their formative years on this site. Thanks fuck Jow Forums didn't even exist until I was like 19 and we didn't even get the internet at home until I was maybe 16.

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Stop comparing your own life to others.

If you compare your life to others who are better off, of course you feel like shit and feel it's pointless to do anything at all.

If you compare your own life to other people who are worse off than you, and believe me there are plenty of people like that, than you'll just be like "haha at least I'm not a complete loser this isn't so bad" and also not do anything at all.

I remember feeling sorry for myself that my life wasn't as good as other people when I was as young as 20 years old and spent at least a decade still doing that, it didn't do me any good at all.

>I'm honestly worried about all these 20-something year olds who spent their formative years on this site.

I've made this prediction in another thread but there's going to be an unexplained mass of suicides by very late 80s and early 90s kids. Basically social outcasts who didn't take advantage of the internet 1.0 and are now left out of the loop.

Those born after are probably going to make it out ok.

>Those born after are probably going to make it out ok.

What makes you say that? I was precisely talking about those born later, like 19-20 year olds who've been shitposting on /b/ since they were 10 or 13. It's got to be even worse now for some 10 year old today who's currently beating off to traps and shitposting trump pepe memes and always on his phone.

Being an outcast in the 90s was good because at least you were forced to entertain yourself and be creative, sitting alone up in your room was the last thing you wanted to do unless you were into building plastic models or drawing or something.

>What makes you say that?

The fact that geekdom is all encompassing now. There's a whole lot more opportunities to meet people even if you're interested in a stupid niche. Plus they have the added bonus of being in their teens and early 20s where people are a lot more forgiving of your faults.

>Being an outcast in the 90s was good becausecreative
Sure but if you never ventured out to look for other outcasts or took advantage of the internet when it was still the domain of oddballs and outcasts, you've basically marooned yourself because all other nerds/geeks/outcasts have met up and formed their circles.

I'm a 28kv and right now, I don't fit in anywhere. People expect you have your shir together by this age.

This is true, being a geek has never been easier or cooler, but very little who were raised on Jow Forums culture are going to go out and have geeky friends.

They're going to be sitting at home still posting frogs because going out to play D&D with your friends or meeting girls at an anime club or con is a "reddit" or "normie" thing to do.

Fuck 'em. Honestly, if they squander the many chances they get, then it's on their heads.

I would kill to be their age in this era.

Right now I'm trying to figure out what I should do now, this late in life.

52 here. Stop being a sad sack. Depression is a health issue - go see someone and do antidepressants for a month. I had a bad one that was making me over reactive, aggressive and stupid risk taking. Changed to another that was better, eventually weaned off. You can also fight depression with structure: Get up make lists of things to do.Do them. No excuses. Do gym or make a list of exercises. Get a job. Find the job that matches skills and time you don't need to be taking care of broken down parents. If your skills are shit, go to a trade school or associates from community college. Pay yourself first a put money in savings and Index funds. Educate yourself on investing. You can't really save yourself into wealth. Free time? Write a novel. Invent a game. Play music.

You are not 52.

>early 40's
>not bald and hair still looks black
>not married, no children
> not homo and too old & too poor for dating
>working on 2 dead end jobs
>former gamer and comic book, manga and anime nerd
>black belt 2nd degree in tae wkon do, 5 & 10K runner and swimmer
>i don't give a fuck about left and right wing politics
>want to learn a new language. want to leave yanksville
>sports, movies and reading are my new hobbies
>not an excessive drunk and a stoner
>haven't been to a medical appointmen in a decade

Being 30 and beyond doesn't mean your life will be way better. It'll slap into your face and make your destiny miserable. Survive, stay tough and work hard to reach your goals.

Why i'm in Jow Forums? Reddit sucks.

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>>i don't give a fuck about left and right wing politics

same here but I'm also not a centrist doormat, I hate politics altogether. Not that getting older has made me more selfish but I couldn't give a shit about what happens on the other side of the world or in the next country over or even on the other side of my country or even about what happens on the other side of the city.

I used to be real extremist with my politics, both online and IRL and while it gave me a sense of belonging I was actually just constantly full of angst and miserable.

I don't think it's impossible that someone found Jow Forums early on when they were in their mid 40s cause my own mid 30s are coming up and I'm still on Jow Forums

I'd also add that sadness is not depression. Too many people are like "oh I got kicked out of college and then my dog died and my grandma died and then my girlfriend broke up with me and then she died and my house burned down and now I'm depressed" being said in shitty circumstances is normal. it's not depression.

>I don't think it's impossible that someone found Jow Forums early on when they were in their mid 40s

mid 30s sorry

Or even their 40s

What are you doing now? Did you make it? Cos with the state that Jow Forums is in now and how shit my luck is, this thread will tank before the morning.

As I expected, there are a lot of over 30s here.

I'm one of them.

Again, have a child, own two properties, myself and wife earn 6 figure salaries with other investments and things on the side.

More successful than some, less than others - you can absolutely restart your life.

I am this guy I didn't exactly "make it" cause my dream is fucking off to Japan and becoming a music producer there and obviously I'm not there yet BUT just last year I couldn't even list music notes in order let alone read them off a sheet of music because the last time I touched an instrument was like 17 years ago so I had forgotten everything, and I knew only a couple of words of Japanese. Fast forwards this year and I'm able to slowly decipher sheet music and play beginner/intermediate songs as well as making my own little tunes on the computer, and I'm able to have the most basic conversations in Japan as well as being able to read and write some of it.

So it's not that I didn't "make it".... I'm in the process of "making it". So can you, whatever it is that you want in life.

Even late 30s is pushing it.

Why is that? Prior to the mid-2000s with the advent of like Myspace, most of the internet beyond just the surface shit was made by and meant for older people.

You'll never make it. I used Jow Forums /sci/ 6 years ago to pass Biochem II in college. You will never find us on here helping you like we once did. It's over, sorry.