How do I break up with my pregnant gf?
And is it the right thing to do?
Basically, this girl I dated for 3 months got pregnant. Before we ever had sex, I made sure to have the child discussion, and it seemed like we were both on the same page: that we don't want kids right now.
Anyway, I get her pregnant accidentally, and then she tells me she is going to carry it to term for moral reasons. I genuinely believe this is the irresponsible thing to do, given that we are a short term relationship, that we both don't want children, that we both don't have jobs and are in the middle of studying, that neither of us own a home for the baby. I mean, for god's sake, her plan is to bring up the child in her bedroom at her friend's house. This is insane to me, and I have spent the last few months trying to get her to at least consider other options, such as abortion or adoption.
Keep in mind that, even throughout my disagreement, I have been a solid emotional support for her, looked after her, and gone to baby classes with her. I felt bad for her and I wanted to be a good person.
But now, as the birth gets closer, I'm scared that she has got the wrong idea.
In all honesty, I don't think I could make this relationship work.
I'm guessing my choices are either to just rip off the bandaid and break up now, or stay and let the relationship slowly die until my gf doesn't respect me anymore and wants to breakup. This option still my give the wrong impression that I am committed to her though.
I also think that adoption, the modern kind where we are still involved in the child's life, would be the best for everyone. The child gets two sets of parents for support, gets parents that are actually excited to have children, that are in a strong long-term relationship (think 10+ years), that have careers, and have an actual home for the baby.
But I don't know if it's worth fighting for anymore if it will just make her hate me more.
Please help, I've never done a break up before.