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>divorced degenerate dad is going to lead people into relationships
People criticize me for not having any experience (even though I only relay statistics and things based on them), but you have BAD experience. I get the feeling you're trying to "help" others because fixing your own life is too hard.

They don’t. Statistics on online dating sites show that white women are the most loyal race and black men are the least desirable.

That doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen here and there. It just means it isn’t happening nearly as much as some people would like you to think.

I’m actually married again and plan to have several more children. Trolls on this site will have a problem with every walk of life. The main goal here is improvement, friend.

My dad turned down my gift to him for his birthday. Was really rude about it... I really don't know why he did it, he just said it was an uncecesary present and asked me to return it. It feels so bad, what can I do from now on besides not giving him a thing ?

I give your second marriage 3 years, enough to shit out another mistake before you move on to the next one. I know a guy exactly like you, he's in the process of divorcing his 3rd wife.

Next time just ask him what he wants for his birthday. He might just be weird about gifts. It’s not a big deal because you didn’t do anything wrong.

>Grew up around abusive women
>Fucked around
>Most girls he hanged out with are sluts
>Only girl he committed to cheated on him

He's not a bad person and he's very kind to me, he loves me madly and adores me.

I don't have trust issues even if I was cheated on in the past, so it's hard for me to get it.

Your misguided anger only tells me how unhappy you are. Usually this is due to a lack of respect. People will respect you more if you become someone that you respect yourself.

>Fucked around
>Only girl he committed to cheated on him
This definitely seems like the type of guy to cheat first so he wouldn't be the one to get """betrayed""". Look this up yourself, loads of people do this, and your bf fits the bill.
I don't want the respect of degenerates. Only you know for certain if what I said applies to you or not.

I’d say you’re dealing with someone that may be worth your time. Always pay attention to how he makes you feel. That’s your feminine intuition at work, your gut feeling which is a result of thousands of years of evolution.

The only other thing I would watch is his closeness with other women in the emotional sense. A female “friend” would be more of a danger to the relationship than a random slut he sees at a bar. If he doesn’t have female friends, it’s a good sign for you.

A. Where does one look for gf?
B. How does one determine if gf is wife material?
C. What to do to avoid dead bedroom marriage and divorce memes?

He doesn't talk to any girl but me, leaves phone/computer around without any problem.
Unless he is very good at hiding it, I don't think he's cheating.

I've read a thread like that today, made me really upset.

>A. Where does one look for gf?

What are your interests and hobbies? Use them to find women. If you like reading, you can join a book club or meet women casually in those scenes. If religious, you can meet them at religious functions. If you’re at the partying age, you can meet them at those scenes.

>B. How does one determine if gf is wife material?

It depends on your values. Most young men have no values developed yet. They haven’t had the experience to see what works and what doesn’t work in their opinion. I’ve whittled it down quite a bit, so when I dated I would look out for these positive qualities:

- Feminine
- Submissive
- Respects men
- Wants children
- Doesn’t swear
- No piercings/tattoos
- Raised by both parents
- Doesn’t work a manly job
- Not career-driven
- Enjoys exercising (cardio, toning)

A few of these (like tattoos) can be overlooked if it’s a quality woman.

>C. What to do to avoid dead bedroom marriage and divorce memes?

Never stop dating your wife. Never be afraid to walk away from the relationship. Never apologize. Never let her lead the relationship. Never stop improving yourself.

The men who get stuck in these dead bedroom relationships let it happen to themselves. They have no spine and are terrified of being alone or away from their kids. The best way to fight against this is to eliminate those fears before the issue ever arises. The woman cannot play the dead bedroom card against a man who isn’t afraid of her empty threats. He would leave her because he knows he has options. It’s a bad situation, but disrespect is the ultimate red line in a relationship to a man.

I am 23 F virgin.
I have dated before but guys tend to get tired of waiting for me to want to sleep with them, ghost me or get really pushy. These are obviously not “the one” but I was still hopeful and looking..

Then I met a guy who is ridiculously nice, kind and sweet. I know he isn’t like this with everyone, he says he feels protective of me and he just wants to look after me. He calls me his delicate flower, says he doesn’t want to crumple me, I should just be admired. I’ve fallen for him pretty hard, we are so similar in many ways but here’s the catch I guess..

He is Muslim. I don’t mind because this is what has lead him to remain a virgin, avoid temptation and is also hesitant toward doing “other stuff”. We’ve really bonded over our desire to wait and just spend time together.

My dad is right wing, racist and anti-religion. I am 99% certain he will not approve of him.. do I throw away the one guy out of dozens that doesn’t see me as a sex object for the sake of my fathers approval?

Your dad is right wing and racist for a reason. He knows more about life than you do.

You’re only attracted to the social taboo because you’re young. Good luck.

If the only thing you have in common is not wanting to have sex... it's not a foundation for a healthy stable relationship.

Just wait until he starts beating you. Good job on waiting, but your dad is right.

I'm 23 years old and I've been married for a year, it was a spur of the moment decision. I love my husband but lately I've been so unhappy.. for about 6/7 months.
He's nice to me and supports me in things I want to do, but I'm ignored 99% of the time, we have completely different views and morals, and the house always feels so tense.
I don't know whether the fact that I don't want to be 23 and divorced and I don't know where I will go, are the only reasons I'm sticking around.
I have been so unhappy and stressed that I haven't had periods since I've been feeling this way and I constantly feel ill (definitely not pregnant).
My question is.. Is love enough?

>it was a spur of the moment decision.
>I love my husband
No you don't.

Divorce! Better be 23 and divorced than 23 and unhappy forever.

Plz no bully, this has been eating away at me and I am open to legitimately discussing it.

My dad is also poorly educated and admits he resents things he doesn’t understand. Often compliments my intelligence and says “how did I raise such a smart daughter?”, asks me to explain things to him etc. Yesterday he asked me how to spell ‘vowel’.

I’m not assuming I know everything about the world, or that I know more about life than my father.
I do however know that he dated one woman, my mother, who passed when I was young. They were each other’s first and last love as he has no interest in dating again.

I know he would prefer my potential boyfriend not to be a Muslim but surely that is better than “hey dad, this is Chad, we’re going to go to my bedroom and you’re not going to see him again because he’s a fuck boy”?

>when senpai notices you
But my town is full of degenerate boys who don’t even want to get married, let alone wait until then before having sex.

I want to respect my dad by waiting but I don’t want to disrespect him by dating someone he doesn’t like.

We have a lot of things in common. We play the same games, watch the same tv, like the same music, gym together and both have an interest in martial arts.
We both love to cook, be by the sea, have relatable families and similar friendship groups.

The only actual difference is he is Muslim, as he was raised to be, and I have never assigned myself to a specific religion because I believe they all have value and I don’t need to visit a church or pray to believe in God.

Hitler is unironically right. A divorce is the ultimate sign of failure. Having a divorce with children is even worse. You are literally the least qualified person.

>But my town is full of degenerate boys who don’t even want to get married, let alone wait until then before having sex.
You that same user from the UK?
You should know more than anyone the Muslim problem, not to mention the damage it'll do to your bloodlines. Unless he's a Serb in denial and willing to convert, just bail. He literally worships a warmongering pedophile, and he is the product of a millennium of inbreeding.

I fear greatly for you, because I can understand exactly what you must be feeling right now. You have gone through nearly ten years of being surrounded by soulless degenerates, while you just wanted someone to love, and now you found someone who on the surface looks good. You're jumping at the chance because you've been so starved of chances before. But this is a huge mistake. I also wouldn't be surprised if he was lying to you; this sort of 'grooming' is extremely common, where they make girls deprived of affection feel special before trapping them. See Rotherham.
The risks to you are as follows:
>Islam is naturally polygamous with a machismo culture. He is much more likely to cheat on you and dick around.
>Western women are seen as weak and easy targets, and you are in a prime situation to be preyed upon
>Interfaith relationships have comparatively higher chances of divorce
>Interracial relationships have both much higher chances of divorce and a much higher incidence of producing mentally ill mongrels (not to mention the betrayal of your nation)

Trust me, cut him off (nicely, of course, but make sure you do so in public). You may have to move, preferably to a more conservative area so you can reorient yourself among the continued possibility of finding a good man.

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Well, I’m not poorly educated. What you see as “racist” is just what people say when they don’t have a good argument against statistics and other realities. You can be loyal or you can join the death cult. You can’t do both.

>I do however know that he dated one woman, my mother, who passed when I was young. They were each other’s first and last love as he has no interest in dating again.
I skipped over this the first time. Your dad might not be smart, but if this is true he's an incredibly good man. Don't disappoint him.

Same user, we’ve spoken before.

Idk what to do anymore desu I feel so sad and lost.
Why is it so painful to be a hopeless romantic with morals?

Sounds like he is a poor leader in your relationship, but also that you are a poor follower. The most common mistake of marrying too quickly is that the two people don’t yet understand what TYPE of relationship they want.

If you’re a bleeding heart liberal, you will most likely struggle accepting that a man wants to lead the relationship. If you are a conservative, you will become increasingly frustrated when your man constantly fails and/or doesn’t know how to lead.

Sit down with him and ask him what kind of relationship he thought it was going to be (man leading, woman leading, or egalitarian). Withhold your judgments and let him talk, especially if you don’t agree with his point of view.

If you find yourself completely rejecting or repulsed by his ideas, it’s a clear sign you both made a mistake and need to consider an exit plan.

If it comes as a pleasant surprise about what he wants and sounds like a great idea, then your marriage is going to actually get better.

I am fine being a follower and I'm pretty sure he's a leader. There are many things we don't agree on and the option to have kids one day is a big one. But in all honesty not the main reason I'm unhappy. I'm not sure what the main reason is anymore.

Because we live in very corrupted times. But while I understand your choices so far, know that you are only taking them because they are the path of least resistance, and even then they will likely end in ruin.
Imagine: say you marry this guy. Your dad ends up depressed that his little girl runs off with some Muslim, your husband turns like most of his coreligionists and starts beating you. You stay for a little, hoping it'll get better, but it doesn't and you get divorced. Say you divorce when you're 28. Now you've wasted most of your youth with a wife-beater, and if you ever come across a conservative christian who also holds the morals you do now, he'll see in you what you see in most of the people in your town, and he'll leave. Your only options at this point would be those same guys in your town who just want a quick fuck.

This is even assuming the guy is going after marriage, and not getting ready to pass you around with his friends.

Just get it over with, the more you drag this out the harder it'll be and the less likely it is you will get a good ending. Don't bother giving him an explanation, because if he has fooled you into thinking this, he will try to give you an excuse to stay together, and you will fall for it because you want to believe it.

You assume I had a choice, and you probably also assume it was my idea to end a marriage—the only thing I actually believed in at the time.

I experienced the true poison of feminism, and watched it turn a playful 20-year-old girl into a 28-year-old spiteful and masculine woman.

I don’t know what to do this girl friend zoned me last year and was flirty the whole time and we could of had sex but eventually didn’t I pussied out but in the process she made me depressed and I lost quite a bit of weight and gained fashion sense and know how to speak to girls. We later stopped speaking as her boyfriend made her block me but they recently split up and I went for a drive we kissed and last week she took my virginity. She doesn't want her anyone to know and become a “slag” and I’m getting depressed again as she doesn’t want to do anything with me what do I do ?

You mention there are several disputes about morals, but didn’t give any examples. To be a better follower you’re going to have to submit on more of these issues. Things are tense because you’re refusing to stand down and accept his beliefs.

On the reverse side, you also need to make sure they aren’t deal-breakers. Ask yourself, “Can I live my life on these terms?” They aren’t normally easy questions, but you absolutely have to answer them before you can move on.

It also sounds like he isn’t capitalizing on these issues or pressing too hard the way you describe it. Do you think you would respond better if he were more or less firm?

When it comes to children, you need to make sure you’re feeling good about the marriage before you consider having any.

>we live in very corrupted times
Actually society today is safer and less corrupt than ever before. You need to stop lying so much.

Hey dad I cuddled with my friend and it felt really good for me since I was kinda crushing on him a bit before. I felt his boner and even felt he wanted to ask me to fuck but I pretended I was asleep. He later tells me that cuddling means nothing to him and that is something that he would do with friends. Had a shit week after that, got drunk and high till numb. Still, what do you think of this?

This is reality to many muslim women. Some join this cult because they’re attracted to the idea of completely surrendering their freedom. What they don’t understand is they can do this with western men, except without barbaric laws and abuse.

I know people (and yourself) think your crazy but I can’t tell you how much I appreciate talking to someone who understands my situation.

I had one friend who eventually admitted she thought I was weird for not wanting sex and stopped talking to me. She knew about my dad and told me I am trying to be the wife he lost for another man and I guess that’s true.
Is it so bad or unrealistic to consider two people waiting until marriage the ultimate story of romance? Only having one love and caring for them and only them, even if they pass away like my mum.. but then, they were together from 15/18 and waited until 20/23 before getting married. I know that’s behind slept together before then but I can’t just have sex with someone in the hopes they will marry me later.

What if it takes me 5 years to find a virgin guy wanting to wait for marriage too? Then my youth is gone and I’ve spent the last almost 30 years being a sad alone virgin girl and all that emotional baggage comes with me.

When I socialise irl and people find out I’m a Virgin the look at me in horror and say things that they don’t realise are patronising or just plain rude.
I’m in a discord and people were talking about how nice it is to cuddle and I had never felt such sadness and longing in all my life.

Move on.

Do whatever you can to forget this girl. A girl that treats you right isn’t going to make you go through this kind of stuff. A girl that treats you right will move mountains to see you. She would quit her job to be with you.

Consider looking for another girl. There are plenty out there. And keep going to the gym and better yourself.

As far as morals go, he's lovely to me but I don't agree with the way he treats other people. He doesn't seem to care about people, he'll say horrible things and sometimes for no reason other than to be hurtful to them. He is always motivated by money, even if it means pissing other people off or being disrespectful. That's not why things are tense, we accept that we have different views on things and stopped talking about it a long time ago. Things are tense because he is always stressed out and shouting at either me or the dogs. He comes in everyday in a bad mood.
Kids are off of the table, he never wants them

Is this male-male or male-female?

I hope this is a troll. He sounds like a total piece of shit. And you are attracted to him because...?

Male /female

Thanks man it’s just hard and has always played on my mind this time around I did play hard to get but now our friendship is slightly ruined as she used the excuse after that I was too good for her

>>>opinions
Live for you. Guy I know swore to me on death that he'd die before he smoked or drank and ended up doing both to impress a girl.

People are fickle. Don't join them and don't let them, of all things, weather your parade.

Not a troll unfortunately.. I'm attracted to him because he's always been nice to me, despite being ignored a lot he's helped me out of a dark place. He's also hot and has a huge penis, but we don't really have sex anymore anyway so I guess that doesn't matter...

>As far as morals go, he's lovely to me but I don't agree with the way he treats other people. He doesn't seem to care about people, he'll say horrible things and sometimes for no reason other than to be hurtful to them. He is always motivated by money, even if it means pissing other people off or being disrespectful. That's not why things are tense, we accept that we have different views on things and stopped talking about it a long time ago.

This type of stuff can be overlooked, so long as he is treating you right. But...

>Things are tense because he is always stressed out and shouting at either me or the dogs. He comes in everyday in a bad mood. Kids are off of the table, he never wants them

These are some serious red flags. He isn’t happy. He is either not getting enough respect at work or at home, and he doesn’t know how to cope with that.

Unfortunately, this isn’t something that you can fix. It’s 100% on him to realize there’s something missing in his life.

If I were to guess, I’d say he doesn’t put much time into taking care of himself or he doesn’t exercise much. If it’s not those, it could stem from money issues.

Ask him if he’s happy to try to get him to do some self-reflection. It’d be a long shot.

>hang out with a group of girls
>one of them seems to like me but I'm not sure since no girl ever showed interest in me
>ask each of the girls separately to hang out
>the one mentioned earlier seemed to be the most receptive
>spend the entire day talking
>somewhat long messages back and forth
>seem to get along and she "insisted" I teach her some songs on guitar
>agree to do it, say our good nights and all that
>meeting her tomorrow
I know its hard to tell but does she like me? and if so, is it too soon to ask her on date when we meet up?

>You need to stop lying so much.
Hello, my pathological friend.
Sure thing, if I can help I'm happy to. Also, as I said before, I am a neurotic mess, but that has nothing to do with my morals. I'm proud of those.
>Is it so bad or unrealistic to consider two people waiting until marriage the ultimate story of romance?
Absolutely not. People will call you immature for this, but they are delusional. We don't wait and expect our partner to wait because of inflated expectations, or because we demand some person wait for us specifically, but because we care about this ideal of a relationship. That's why people who wait, even controlling for religion, have minuscule divorce rates compared with the rest of society.
>I had one friend who eventually admitted she thought I was weird for not wanting sex and stopped talking to me
Keep in mind you live in Britain, the most promiscuous country in the world. Don't take it personally, and never feel pressured to give up your values.
>What if it takes me 5 years to find a virgin guy wanting to wait for marriage too?
Then you'll still have a good 50 years of a loving relationship. I can't speak for other guys, of course, but I would be perfectly happy with a moral and kind 4/10. If a guy is waiting, and he finds you, even if you're not in your "prime", I can guarantee he'll be overjoyed. He'd be foolish not to be.
>people were talking about how nice it is to cuddle and I had never felt such sadness and longing in all my life.
Temporary pleasures of the flesh. The fact is that people are more isolated from each other and more miserable than before, especially women. And it's not because of the few decent ones like you. It's because of an obsession with always being in a relationship, and never truly valuing any of them.

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I think you should step back and realize giving it up for this guy isn’t going to get you anywhere with him.

Also lay off the degenerate drugs and alcohol. You don’t need it. Men of value aren’t attracted to this type of behavior in women outside of one night stands.

As you get older and grow out of school ages, you’ll realize it’s more common than not that you can’t be friends with girls.

You can get along with them and be nice, but you aren’t going to get more value out of them as a friend than you would a male friend.

This doesn't really matter cos I'm fine with it but I'm mostly curious about what you'd do in my position.

I have a female flatmate who knows I fancy her, and will ask me to stay up with her every night after we go out drinking, or will search for me on nights out to see me, or spend 30 minutes and asking our whole block where I am after a night out, hold my hand while we're in the club until I let go and then hold it again... buuuuut she has a boyfriend, and doesn't do this while sober (we're obviously good mates while sober though). What do I do lol

Have you ever ended up dating a girl that initially rejected you when you asked her out?

Reminder to everyone that this "moral" guy thinks there is nothing wrong with torturing and killing people who disagree with him.

An exaggeration, to say the least, but not unexpected from a hedonist incapable of critical thought.
There isn't anything wrong with killing adulterers, though.

She likes you a lot.

I only say this because it seems like you have really high hopes. Girls tend to be flakey, so don’t take it personally if she ends up cancelling. They get nervous and try to find reasons to bail sometimes. If that happens, it’s not the end of the world. Just shrug it off and say “ok np”. They generally respect it when it doesn’t bother the guy.

As far as “asking her out on a date” goes, that’s actually what you did with the guitar lesson. You are having her meet with you, right?

Don’t get caught up in the boyfriend/girlfriend thing at all. That has to be something that SHE brings up. All you should do is have fun with her, and if you’re feeling up to it start teasing her like a kid sister: “You’ve been thinking about making out this whole time I bet.” See how she responds. Make yourself laugh.

How do you maintain a FWB situation with a girl?

She already agreed btw

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If she agreed to a fwb that's pretty much all you need. What's the problem?

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I know for a fact she won't bail because she was fairly quick to reply once I asked her to come for a drink, its not the first time we'd be hanging out, she asked me to come join her and her friends before. But the way she wrote it was more like 'careful' if you get me? like she didn't care if I was going to be there but her friends had no idea I was comin. Then to return the favor I asked HER to come this time. I dated before so I kind of know what the game is like but never really went past first date even if the girl seemed to like me. We tease each other sometimes, sometimes she gives me hugs. I just don't want to waste the opportunity to properly ask her on a date, I think the next time I'll see her would be perfect for that.
The guitar thing is pretty much the two of us but in a group setting since there is no other way we could do it without going into details

You can always get away with whatever the boyfriend allows. That said, you don’t know if he has access to knives, guns, or is a UFC champion.

I’d cut her off emotionally. Go completely cold. Stop holding hands. Stop being her emotional tampon. Stop talking to make her feel better.

I wouldn’t even tell her to dump her boyfriend. I would just see how she responds while I keep going out and finding other girls.

She’s a drain on you. She’s getting all of the boyfriend feels from you and you’re getting zero sex in return. You’re like the slut who gets banged regularly but the guy never wants to spend time with you.

Not “dating” her, but I’ve had sex with a girl that initially turned me down. A lot of the time rejection is just a result of her not being into it “right now”. Never sulk.

Yeah this is what I was thinking, I got kinda carried away with the chance of something happening, but I know that it's very very unlikely. I did notice the clinginess got more intense when I got with other girls. Fucknose about that

I'm not gonna cut her off completely because I do like her but I'm not going to indulge her drunk loneliness/horniness of wanting her boyfriend there but having me instead.

Most FWB situations don’t last long. I’m guessing you’re asking how to make it last as long as possible?

Emotional distance. Not so far away that she feels like a sex toy, but also not too close that she feels like she’s suffocating. The distance will also help you fight against catching feels.

Throughout the entirety of a FWB situation, you should really be seeing other girls. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself in a semi-cucked situation which gets exacerbated if you catch feelings.

Casualness and frequency is also important. I would aim for 1x per week, plus or minus. Any less than 1x per month and it will probably fizzle out. Any more than 3x per week and it reaches girlfriend levels of time drain.

Have fun dude.

Not really a relationship but more just a general question, could be related to relationships I suppose.

Why would a girl not tell her friend who she's come to visit from America that she's going to see a guy you met while visiting?

I met a girl while I was visiting a city (through my mate's brother's friend (lol)), and she said she was coming through to my city, and so we met up (nothing happened), but she didn't tell her friend that she saw me (her friend (who is gay) said he found me "incredibly attractive", if that has any effect?).

This is probably really confusingly worded sorry

Alright, for some reason I had you pegged as a younger guy but now you mention drinks.

She’s into you. But even if she wasn’t, you should always assume she is (unless you’re so socially awkward that you give off a rapey vibe). Men need that kind of confidence.

Be bold. Most guys today are terrified of making a move. You need to be polarizing. Make it clear that you want her.

The guitar thing seems like an awkward hangout, to the point she could mistake it as a “just friends” event. It’s going to be pretty important that you don’t give off the friend vibe while you’re there. Ramp up the teasing a little bit, let it get sexual if the comments are right.

Overall sounds like an easy setup.

That’s exactly what you should aim for. She will sense the coldness, but you’re not a robot. Totally respond to basic things, but don’t engage at all emotionally.

Good luck my dude.

Thanks.
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Sounds like she didn’t want the gay dude to find out. She probably risked some social circle points by traveling to see you. If the gay guy found out, he might get mad at her.

Thanks, what are you thinking my ultimate goal is here btw, you wish me luck but what's that for? Don't mean to sound sassy here if I do

That Mii-chan girl is a qt and has some nice big knockers.

I tend to always assume the guy is trying to lure the girl. That’s my mistake.

Regardless if your goal is to ween her off of you and get your time back, these same actions would apply.

Yeah suppose, she had originally asked me out for drinks the night before I saw her but I wasn't in the city at that time. When I met her she had mentioned staying in my flat even though I told her I had a single bed. Think you're right about him perhaps being mad.

your OP reminds me of this

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Oh right, yeah I'd definitely do that if it felt right, but right now we're flatmates and it seems weird. I don't really want to push things on to her cos we're in a very close group of mates and it'd make things so awkward if it went wrong. I'm waiting for her to come to me, you know?

>that pic

Lmao, had no idea.

what if I also have tattoos?

What if you’re career-driven?

I curse for effect, but I don’t let my wife do the same. I have a few tattoos, but my wife has none.

Men and women can have different standards. I expect them to.

Another question, what do you think she thinks of me if you suggest this?

She thinks you’re a safe bet, a backup plan if shit really hits the fan for her and she’s not able to game any hotter guys.

Probably stings a little, but let it be taken as constructive criticism. It’s not her fault. It’s in her nature. It’s something you can acknowledge and work to improve on by valuing your own time and physically getting better.

I'd like some sexual tips. I spent six years completely dry and I'm getting involved with a girl who is 2 years dry and she remarked that her previous partners never brought her to orgasm. It's been a long time since I've been physical so I have only a vague notion of how to get her there.

Where are good places to meet women other than work and bars? Do girls in their mid 20s do stuff other than work, drink, and go shopping? It feels weird to accost random women in grocery stores, and there arent really any women where I work (electrician). If bars are my best option I guess Ill man up.

Suppose, I wouldn't say that is entirely true though, she's been with her current boyfriend for like 4 1/2 years and without being a cunt I'm better looking than him.

Eh what does it matter, either way I can't see the future

Don’t even worry about her. She’s not going to be into it if all you’re doing is worrying about how she feels.

Patrice O’Neal has a skit where he talks about how awkward and caring sex is so unsatisfying. The guy was so worried about whether her arm got twisted up in an uncomfortable position, and other shit like that. When you get to that point, you’re killing the mood.

Do what feels right to you. The more into it you get, the more she will follow. It’s that deep level of lust that determines whether it’s good or bad sex—Not whether her arm is falling asleep or her back is rubbing up against something weird.

Generally, most women are too lazy and boring to do much else at that age. You can join social circles on sites like MeetUp, but personal experience you’ll have better luck at bars due to sheer numbers.

At the end of the day you can sometimes spot the girl who clearly wasn’t the one that decided to go to a bar that night. Sometimes they’re just there because of their friends.

I'm not nervous about it all, my previous sexual partners spoke highly of me and I'm fairly confident, I was just curious if there were any neat ideas for things to try that might be stimulating for both of us.

Good advice, though, I'll take it to heart.

Ah, I see. Considering the heavy dry spells, basic missionary vanilla sex will probably feel like you’re walking on air.

Bending her over is the best position, my opinion. I’ve done it 1,000 times and I’ll do it another 1,000 times. Never gets old.

If you’re trying to change this girl’s life, don’t let up until she’s a shaking hot mess of saliva, sweat, and cum.

Yea that's what I'm thinking will happen. She flirts and throws me too good of signals for there not to be any attraction beyond friends. We work together too lol. I think after I leave it will happen.