I’m a socially insecure dork with body dysmorphic disorder. I’m useless at talking to attractive women...

>they shouldn’t go for the same kinda guy
They don't, unless you think that "the same kinda guy" is any guy who isn't a sorry mess like yourself...

Just keep repeating that to yourself, seems easier than doing any work, right?

Everyone's aware they make dumbass decisions which is why they end up with stereotypical guys instead of in relationships that last longer than three or five years

and no. five is not a long time, and you're a fucking ponce if you think so

you don't hear about real peoples' relationships because they don't need to come to Jow Forums about it

Five years is a long fucking time, who would even question that? Are you like 50 or something?

Accepting something is out of my control is decidedly uneasy actually.

>out of my control
Yes, keep telling yourself that

Why do you even have to accept it? Lots of people don't and are uncharismatic and unattractive to most people.

Because otherwise you fool yourself into thinking you might someday meet someone.

You actually might someday meet someone, since there's like a shitton of people out there, of which there is a percentage of them that may be going through the same shit as you.

Look, user, you don't need to be perfect to get a partner, or even decent, you just gotta put yourself out there, even in you shittiest most disgusting form, which you CAN change into a better form if you put in some work, but even if you don't, somebody will be interested.

The problem is, the person may appear and because you hate yourself you won't have the courage to interact with them on a deeper level, and that lack of courage is what might end up actually killing you, and it only depends on you.

nevermind looking dorky or being shy. your defeatist attitude is a huge turn off and frankly - guys like you never want to put any work into anything, they never want to risk shit because it's all pointless and chad will get your dream girl anyway because all girls want chads and so you don't even stand a chance so pitying yourself and being bitter on Jow Forums is the way you take by default
I don't know how you look like but even if you look like Lachowski or some other totes fit chad, your whingeing and blaming everyone for your very own shortcomings is enough to make me actively dislike you and I'm a pretty chill dude. So how the hell do you expect any girl give you time of her day? Change your mindset and attitude dude

You might have a point if I actually dumped all my hang ups on women but I actually try to be a “chill dude” with them but I get nowhere. Just not alpha enough.

>alpha
I've oficially given up on you, user, that shit's pathetic

Of course, women aren’t attracted to alpha males. I forgot.

Women are attracted to all kinds of males you insecure piece of shit. Don't you get tired of making excuses for yourself?

What does alpha even mean to you, having conviction to do the shit you want and taking it? You can do that. Try turning some of that sadness into anger.

It’s not an excuse. It’s just the way things are. Women love the badboy. Usually the guy who treats them like shit but they never learn. They want to believe they’re the one who can turn him into the model bf, but deep down they’d hate that because then he’d just become another boring scrub.

Bye, user.

Truth hurts.

>alpha
I just... Can you at least try to stop perceiving the world via meme definitions of meme buzzwords? Alpha, beta, chad, stacy, x/10 rating, cuck, red pill, blue pill, manlet and all the rest, can you make an effort and grow the fuck up? This is the problem with depressed khvs of Jow Forums, you have fucked up perception of reality. But anyway, maybe instead of trying to romance girls by trying to be "a chill dude", tackle your real issues and become a chill dude? Sort out your body dysphoria, work on your issues with socialising by socialising with people on friendly platform, make some decent friends with whom you'll get to spend time and step by step learn how to become a wholesome person, not a bundle of nerves and self-esteem issues. You don't know how to swim but you want to plunge into deep waters - that's what trying to find a partner is when your own self is a mess. And the fact that you are so desperate for a relationship is a problem too, nobody likes desperate people. And you're so desperate because you don't know how to live in peace with yourself and how to be emotionally self-reliant. I'm not saying that being all by your lonesome is a way to live, but it's a skill any adult person should have because sometimes life will force you to be on your own and you should be able to deal with it emotionally and use this alone time to grow and develop as a person, just like you would while being in a relationship. And the girls you're meeting, maybe they are just dumb, maybe you're not their type and you don't have much in common, who knows. Meeting people is always a lottery and it's not easy to really deeply click with someone, and it sucks, but meeting more people means more chances so unless you're 89 years old, don't give up on your romantic life yet.

>women like a badboy
Dayum, stop talking like you know every single gal personally. I have a soft spot for emotionally stunted autists or heavily depressed guys with bitter mindset, much like yourself lol. Truth is I would rather fall for some standard chad because at this point I think getting cheated on or punched in the face would be less painful than falling in love with guys who are hopeless cases and won't/can't accept my love and help.

>It seems that girls are only after badboys or guys with lots of charisma
the reason girls always go after guys like that isn't because they're assholes or because they're especially charming. its because they all focus on themselves, on their own character and achievements. women are attracted to men who aren't worthless
and everyone here on Jow Forums is fucking worthless and thats why they don't have girlfriends