30+ Thread

The advice thread for the older user.

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how the fUCK do i start platonic friendships as an adult

You can't. Everyone is either single, drinking and trying to drag you down to their level or unhappily married and also trying to drag you down to their miserable state of life. I think the older you get, the more you realize how good you're off without the drama most people can't live without.

He asked how to make friends not how to die sad and alone. I don't think he was looking for someone to project their depression onto him.

I'm not alone, but I want friends that are not my girlfriend.

Pretty much any advice I see about meeting people are implicitly about dating.

I'm not sure how your inability to make friends or the fact that all of the people you know give shitty advice is proof that you can't start a platonic friendship as an adult. Again, projecting your depression onto other people isn't helpful.

It's hard to live without friendship but when your friends tell you their quarterlife crisis horror tales you then realize you ain't the fan that'll be throwing shit.

Everyone will die alone someday even if you're with someone.

To start a friendship there need to be common interest. So look into hobby and activities or volunteer work. You will make friends unless you've got a problem personality.

>Everyone will die alone someday even if you're with someone.
You're being purposefully pedantic. Don't be an idiot.

I'm just 20yo and this image disturbs me so much already.
Does it really get that bad after the 20s?

not sure where in the 20's it's particularly any good

adulthood is fucking trash, there's nothing good about it, and you get shamed for saying so

Same problemo as you!

Life's what you make it. My 20s were a waste of time. That's my fault. I partied too much and spent my money on bullshit. Neglected school in favor of good times. Yeah, there were good times, but I'm having a lot more fun now in my 30s. I have way more money, I own a home, no debt, great job that I allows me the flexibility to travel whenever I want. I can actually afford to travel and not think twice about it. None of that shit is possible in your 20s unless you're a particularly wise young person who saves, lands an amazing job, and works tirelessly to make it. I salute anyone in that age group who can. I'm okay with how long it took me, though. At least I got here.

>None of that shit is possible in your 20s unless you're a particularly wise young person who saves, lands an amazing job, and works tirelessly to make it.

great I made it
what's my prize
oh wait let me answer that for you
I had no fun times and am incapable of having fun, but at least I can fill out your 1040 and advise you on your portfolio

now I can look forward to becoming betabux for some nasty slampig

Food.
There are always an opportunity to bring food to someone and it will (almost) always be appreciated.
It can be anything from getting pasteries for your coworkers to going to a restaurant with someone.
Eating at a restaurant can be expensive, but the gesture is not lost on people.

I made more friends in my 30s than I did at any point in my life.

I went to D&D adventure league stuff and pathfinder society stuff. I met a lot of folks up in age looking for gaming Bros.

This spawned into a board game night at a dying mall with some of those guys. It caught on enough that the mall now has near perpetual board games being played in it by people of all ages and it became a nerdy social gathering place.

>Even when you raise the age limit idiot kids still appear.

If you waste time then your 30s become hell.

Prerelease events for MtG happen more than once a year right? There's one today but I'm really anxious, like I'm just gonna walk past the store.

Bumping for old people.

There's about 3 a year.
Just go in the store you fucking loser. LGS are loser central so it's not like you'll stick out.

Friends for what purpose? Do you have social hobbies?

>LGS are loser central so it's not like you'll stick out.
Even in a gentrified part of the city?

Don;t believe the lies everyone will tell you that the 30's are way betterthan the 20's. Those are cucks suffering from quarterlife crisis so they lie to soothe their sadness.

Join clubs, teams, groups, etc. Go out, talk to people, invite people to do things.

I've asked co-workers for restaurant recommendations but when I tell them I'm going its always "Cool I hope you enjoy it [spoiler](by yourself)[/spoiler]"

I think you have to invite them.

but how tho

I wish I never stared into the Abys. Her gaze is killing me. I've lost all hope and I literally feel the cookie crumbling on the inside. God save my soul.

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Hey work user, I thought I would check out name of restaurant.
Oh yeah that's nice hope you have fun.
Yes me too, but I was actually trying to get a group of us from the office to go together sometime.

a) sorry user my boyfriend and I are really busy
b) sorry user my cat and I are really busy
C) yes dinner might be a challenge, but perhaps we can go to lunch one day when the office isn't too busy

well if you played that card and did not do a "show me some good restaurants, my treat" I think you should accept that you will not have these work guys as friends

I feel like I'm going to explode with boredom being married

it wouldn't be as bad if I could still date other chicks but everyone is so fucking uptight

Crap now I really have to ask the question I am afraid to ask: when does one realize/ accept turning into the "dirty old man" building relationships with younger girls because they are pretty despite you never being able to fuck them. Trolling their Facebook pages / online updates. And how do you become happy fro them as the fuck loser youths?

I don't think stalking people on FB counts as building relationships

You disgust me. Why the fuck did you get married if you still want to date?

Get off this board and go have fun with your partner and be goddamned grateful that someone liked you enough to want to spend the rest of their life with you.

No but take for example he is dead in his relationship, so what does he do? or when you fuck friend crowd start seeing you and creepy old. when does one accept the end of their fun times. become frustrated, die inside and start doing these dirty old man tricks? Does everyone become like this?

Why can't you do both

I don't get you people

I have my daughter to thank for my dirty old man phase. After my beloved wife died of aortic dissection at 48 I was pretty miserable, a year later I was still trying to get my shit together and busting my ass with work to keep my daughter in college, and realizing how unpopular a 50 year old man is in the hook-up dating scene, despite being healthy and in good shape.

So imagine my surprise when she hooks me up on a date with one of her college friends, a smart engineering major with long black hair, nice tits and a plump ass. She took me to some EDM concert and spent the night grinding up against me to get me to dance to the awful music, then pretty much raped me when we got back to the car. That's when I found out that my daughter had been pimping me to her single friends using the fact that I have a porn star dick as enticement (which I do, lucky me).

So that semester I got passed around to five different women who used me as a fucktoy. While the sex was above average, the shallowness of the relationships didn't do much to cheer me up. I looked into the abyss of fucking a string of young women while counting the grey hairs on my head and decided there was no dignity in continuing down that path, so I stopped.

About a year later I met a wonderful woman my age and I feel so much better about it. We've been dating for two years now and the conversation level is so much deeper and satisfying than what you get with young folks. We hardly even have sex and I don't care, it's just nice to have someone that wants to be with you for who you are, not what you're packing.

lucky you, so you did not fall into being that kind of dog.
So luck and family

I'm way happier in my 30s than I ever was in my 20s.

Figure that this thread would get more responses then making my own thread.
I recently graduated trade school as an HVAC tech.
I know for a fucking fact graduating trade school makes me entry level.
Upon applying to 40 some places, I come to realize that most places either outright reject me and few places give me a "uhhh maybe"
One place wants to hire me and they seem sketchy as fuck.
Do I push my luck with these "maybe" places or do I just get in with the sketchy place because I'm so fucking sick of being NEET when I have no reason to be.
More details upon request.

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take the job. CV application are only rated like 4% success rate. Build that XP and move on. Work hard and build good skill stories for future interviews

Do you still go at night clubs, gaming and dating early female 20somethings? Going through quarterlife crisis mode?

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> Build more skill stories

I am going to remember that line and dish it out in other jobhunting threads.

So much is gained when you can talk coherently about your work-related experiences at a job interview
You don't even need the reference or the recommendation letter if you can convince the person interviewing you that you are competent through words alone

Thanks Lorie

I should check out those job hunting threads.

>Just go in the store you fucking loser. LGS are loser central so it's not like you'll stick out.
Liar. Went to the one closest to me, and looked inside and it was basically hipsters and the place is situated like a few metres down from a hipster pub that specialises in gaming both tabletop and vidya. I got self-conscious and just walked past it, a number of times just to be sure it was packed with hipsters.
Fucking Stratford, looks even more gentrified since I last saw it. I hear they're planning on making Madison Square Garden here except it's going to be a sphere cos they want to compete with the O2 or something.

Since the other place I was going to visit had a prerelease event both today and tomorrow I thought I might as well go there and check it out today and register for the event tomorrow. Took ages to get there and when I got there it was four old men in their 50s and 60s and a couple of literal kids. Then I just went home.

Just wanted one little fucking niche *thing * with liked-minded, similar aged people but apparently that's too much to ask for.

I am 99% sure that this purgatory or hell.

He's a fucking liar.

Not doing what I wanted to.

update: after getting turned down by co-workers last night, i told my gf i wanted to go to a certain restaurant
she says she doesn't wanna go because it's italian and her anxiety tells her she's allergic to goddamn tomato fumes without ever seeing, touching, or eating the fucking tomatoes
i tell her i wanna go by myself and she got mad so i ended up taking THREE (3) naps today which fucked up my sleep schedule for work tomorrow where i have to lie/admit i'm a fucking loser to the co-workers who turned me down originally

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