25yo virgin lord here, whaddup
Jow Forums, wtf do i do? I freeze up every time I want to approach a girl I like/find cute. I can‘t even get shitfaced and approach a fat chick, it‘s like black magic to me. God, I‘m lonely.
Tell me what to do to get laid tonight and I’ll do it.
get over yourself and your preconseptions of womanhood
go you sound pathetic
stop putting people on pedestals and learn how to interact with other human beings
No pedestals, just cripplingly shy and affraid of rejection.
Well if it's just about sex then just get a hooker or escort.
But if you want to get laid the dignified way then literally just start a conversation with a chick at a bar or club. Yeah I know "you freeze up", but you just have to jump into the cold water and do it. And then realize that most girls are very receptive to being approached and talked to. They just wanna have fun, you know.
Do not think when you are about to talk to a chick. You are your worst enemy. You and your imagination that's trying to cockblock you with fear. It doesn't even matter how you start the conversation, it's unimportant. Just remark on something that's happening around you and ask her what she thinks of that. "Wow that barkeeper is taking his time. Have you been waiting for ages too?". And then just talk.
Obviously there is much more to teach here, but if fear of approaching is your current problem then that's the first thing you need to fix. Forget getting laid. Literally just talk to a girl without any outlook on sex and get used to talking to the opposite sex, like they are actual human beings, which surprisingly they are. They piss, they shit and they also feel self conscious and socially anxious that other people are judging them for acting weird or not looking attractive enough.
Bonus tipp, quit porn entirely and tone down masturbation to once a week. That will make you way more motivated to talk to women. I'm telling you, feeling horny makes you much more assertive and driven when you talk.
>and affraid of rejection
Then you need to get rejected. Again and again and again and again. Because then it won't feel like anything. All the guys I know who are good with women, were straight forward with their interest, got shot down several times in middle school and high school, and they are basically slaying left and right now. Because you gain leaps of experience when you jump into the cold water and just do it. And it's a numbers game. Not every girl will be attracted to you, which is okay. And every guy is going through the same thing. It's universal and nothing to be ashamed off or feel sad about.
Any chance I can slay before I‘m the old creep at the club? I already kinda am the old dude in clubs.
$400 and a few minutes browsing theeroticreview.com
I‘d never pay for it, even if I have to die a virgin. I value authenticity in relationships. Maybe that‘s a hurdle, but I really don‘t want to ever fuck a prosti.
Sooooo you'd be ok with finding some random girl to fuck you tonight even though there's no guarantee of an "authentic" relationship but wouldn't hire an escort? Okie doke, user.
Dude you are 25, relax. You are being destructively self conscious again.
It‘d be authentic as in she would want to fuck me without being paid. Not exactly rocket surgery my boi
Maybe she fucked you because you bought her drinks? Either way, good luck in your endeavors. You're going to need it.
Yeah. You know, with time this shit starts to fuck with your head. I still see myself as the 40yo virgin with a dog and no friends. The dude all the kids laugh about.
Post a pic of your face and the last outfit you wore and I'll give you advice from there
Have you tried being cool?
T-thanks.
Why are you so mean user ;_;
Hahaha no. I don‘t need superficial advice, but thanks. A 25yo who can‘t dress/groom/work out without being told is probably hopeless.
Become someone that you would want to date if you were a girl
I‘d fuck me, at least.
Stop thinking women are better than you. They're just people, like all other people, they fart and shit and burp like everybody else. There's literally no reason to be weird around women. And when you stop acting weird, walking on eggshells, treating women like some kind of lofty fucking goal instead of like PEOPLE, then maybe you can touch one.
In that case, what you should do is just try using Omegle to practice talking with women. Or just any platform that isn't creepy and unwarranted (Reddit, social media platforms, etc). Go somewhere where someone is looking for 1 on 1 conversation.
Be upfront, honest, and yourself. You'll find that talking to women isn't that hard, and you'll probably even find someone you'll connect with.
FYI, this is the same advice I gave my friend in when we were in highschool. He's doing alright for himself now