How does sexual desire feel like?

thanks, that was somewhat helpful
i didn't know it could feel 'borderline painful'. i imagine then one feels really frustrated if they don't get sex with that person at that time?

There are different kinds of it (more romantic, more carnal) but basically for me I just decide I really like what they are and want to be about to use them freely, grab everything and fuck em. I dont go right to "put penis in vagina", as someone who has actually had sex I can tell you its a build up, first you enjoy the more surface level stuff then pretty soon youre sticking it in.

Do you ever see a car you really like? Its like that, you just enjoy the look and vibe of it and if you think about it more you realize what you really want is to drive it.

Oh sex is a painful enterprise from top to bottom. Genitals are very sensitive organs and using them to their full capacity will cause soreness, tearing, and sometimes blood. Wanting to fuck someone gives you this extreme emotional feel of dissatisfaction and urgency and it can occasionally be physically painful in the case of blue balls.

is sexual desire the same as being aroused? i get aroused when thinking about sex in general but its a more physical sensation than what everyone else is describing.

I thought that was what we were talking about. Is sexual arousal not sexual desire?

it's actually a bit uncomfortable if i think other people might have felt this about me

no, i don't really like cars. actually i can't remember feeling a strong desire for any other object either

so you can feel pain after an extreme sex? i can imagine that (didn't have a rough intercourse myself, but it still wasn't that pleasant afterwards)
>Wanting to fuck someone gives you this extreme emotional feel of dissatisfaction and urgency and it can occasionally be physically painful in the case of blue balls.
so one must go and masturbate if sex didn't happen to feel better?

i can get aroused when watching porn or fantasising (about imaginary people, and i'm not there most of the time). still, don't want sex with anyone irl

arousal is a physical thing (hardness/wetness etc) with some emotions involved. i get aroused, but it's sorta my own business. i don't want to engage with anyone sexually when i'm aroused

Well masturbating helps but you still failed so its not the same thing. And as a man sex doesnt really hurt but my dick can get worn out, it does seem to legitimately hurt for girls if not handled correctly.

Whoa, could anyone feel that way about me? Wait I'm ugly nvm...

I guess it depends on if you're referring to simple animal lust or if you're talking about romance and oneitis.
Sometimes you're just super attracted to one particular person because they're physically attractive, sometimes it's emotional/love/romance, sometimes it's both sides of the coin.
Sometimes you really hate someone, but you want to have sex with them anyway. (Like an ex)

American people — eight fuck: love fuck, hate fuck, sex only fuck, break-up fuck, make-up fuck, drunk fuck, buddy fuck, pity fuck.”

It feels like wanting chocolate ice cream, but there's none in any grocery store

for me it's not something great to dream about, kinda seems like you're reduced to an object, like the other person doesn't see you as a human being, and just wants to use your body. i might be wrong and it might be different for different people, of course

i see. btw when people say that someone is 'attractive', do they mean it in a sexual way? like they want to have sex with that person?
because i always used the word 'attractive' to mean simply good-looking, and now i think i might have got it wrong the whole time (english is not my native, btw)

:(

This one girl decided to sleep at my place, I was literally too drunk to fuck and passed out in the bed.
The following morning I noticed a scar on her back and she noticed and took my hand and touched that part with it and I felt like I was literally inches away from fucking her brains out, consent or not. It hit me like a truck, touching her body and seeing how beautiful she was.

The word 'primal' comes to mind. It just feels like a want for possession in the most whole form, in every way possible. For me, at least.

thanks. i'm trying to imagine

also, the first user, i hope it went nice for both of you. she surely liked you, putting your hand on her scar and everything

For me, whenever I see a cute girl I want to fuck, my heart sort of skips a beat. I get this urge to get closer to them and touch them, but I have to suppress it because it wouldn't be appropriate. I focus on parts of women I really like, mainly lips and hips. I'm an ass man personally, but I don't do more than just stare at asses, they don't really elicit the same primal response a girls lips or hips do when first meeting them. I breathe heavier, or take one deeper than normal breath whenever I'm sexually attracted to someone. It's a rush of energy, a feeling I can't control that makes me want to overtake a girl.

thank you

several times i've heard one guy at work taking a deeper breath when i was around (like through the nose, but i could hear it). i have no idea how he breathes at other times and we basically don't talk (i've said three or four work-related sentences to him for the past year). i just thought it would be nice if he liked me since i do like him myself

also, there's another guy from work i like (probably the most at this moment), and we talked today a bit on our way to the bus stop (we rarely do), he was like smiling and not looking at me through the whole conversation. again, i have no idea how he behaves with other people, but if he likes me it would be just super sweet

the only thing i have no idea how to build a relationship with a sexual person now that i've decided i won't have sex with anyone if i don't want to

Strangely specific and strangely accurate.

Take a good sized breath and hold it. Feel the pressure in your head? That's what it feels like for me

>im asexual
I'm not trying to say your way of life is wrong or attack you in any way but I feel the obligation to tell people who identify as asexual this because it could be important.

Biologically there really is no basis for asexuality. All carbon based non-asexual (meaning that they have the ability to reproduce by budding) lifeforms have a drive to breed. When this drive is inhibited it is generally caused by one of two things.

Firstly it could be psychological. If you experienced some form of sexual abuse or abuse from the opposite sex during your developing years this could be the cause of it. If that is the case and you haven't yet seen a specialist I would seek one out, but if you already have and you are comfortable living your life then go be happy being who you are, I think that's a great thing.

Secondly, it could be physiological. If you have just never felt sexual attraction in your life, and haven't had any type of major abuse happen to you, then there is for sure a problem with your hormones. It could be caused from anything as easily treatable as low testosterone, to something that's actually life threatening like a slow growing cancer in your pituitary gland. Any kind of hormonal imbalance could create a wide variety of health problems for you in the future. I would recommend you see a general practitioner who could refer you to a specialist. At most they would probably take a blood sample, and if something came back that was abnormal they may do a prostate exam or an MRI, nothing that is super invasive like a biopsy or anything.

Once again, not saying this as hate, just want you to understand there is a tangible, non-sexual related, reason to be concerned about low sex drive.

Copypasta this for other asexual posters if you want, I just think people should be aware that it isn't as simple as a lifestyle choice.

fuckin love smelling hairy puss

It can be that extreme. I just got back from my honeymoon and I felt that way about my wife several times during the trip. I would recommend going to your doctor if you haven't already. Often times being asexual means you have a hormonal imbalance. There may be a cure for your problem and you can experience the joy of desiring someone like the rest of us.

increase your Testosterone. You'll start to feel libido again.

if you masturbate and watch porn you might have blown out your brain on porn addiction. If you do watch porn and masturbate, stop for a month or so and see how you feel.