How do people do it ? It's not even that i'm depressed, it's that i'm so damn lazy.
I'm 24 years old and currently a NEET, my parents are pretty chill about it, my father says i can stay as long as i want, i help a bit around the house or for my father's work, so everything is okay. But i know i should prepare for my future, many people at my age are independant, and i don't do a thing. I should work towards my objectives, but i don't do it.
Sometimes i seem to go down the right path, there's a beginning of routine being followed, but quickly i fall back to my old ways of going to sleep at 4AM and waking up feeling shitty and not doing a thing except browsing the internet. It seems like an endless cycle, am i ever going to change ?
I'm afraid it's going to be like this forever. What could help me ? I know that the only thing is to just do it but obviously I'm not doing it so maybe there's something i'm missing.
What distracts you? Are you a loner or do you go out frequently?
At first, when you don't have any self-discipline, you MUST eradicate all distractions. Otherwise you'll fall back to old habits. So, like, if you play lots of computer games, uninstall all of them. If
Also, find a job, move to a place that's your own.
Angel Martin
Obviously, deep down you're ok with the current situation. If you weren't, you'd do something about it.
And, if your parents are ok with it, that just makes the problem worse.
Really you just have to find a good, compelling reason to change, a "why" that will motivate you. It's as straightforward as that.
Ayden Smith
reverse google images it you lazy cunt
Brandon Campbell
I don't know how my reply got posted without me pressing anything.
To continue the middle paragraph:
The goal is to eliminate everything that makes you "comfortable", because comfort is the greatest motivation killer. I'm not telling you to sleep on the floor, but kill anything that distracts you the slightest.
After that, you're alone with your thoughts. And you will be 'cuz you'll be like "my life is shit what to do about it", and you start meditating on what you want to do. You don't have to sit down and close your eyes then wait for a miracle to happen. Take a notebook and a pen and start freewriting and brainstorming and choosing what's important for you in life.
On the last paragraph, moving out from your parents' home would be a great first step, you'll remove comfort that way, you have to learn to fend for yourself.
Last of all, read. Read a lot. Read as much as you can. Think, dream, think again, aim as high as you can and fuck life in the ass.
Good luck.
Lucas Bailey
I am a loner, and i spend way too much time on the internet.
I found a job several months ago but i quit. I mean i don't desperately need money and since i have a lot of free time i thought i should just make good use of it (which i don't.)
I thought about a lot about what i would want to do with my life but i didn't find anything that would motivate me enough to put in the work to change my situation. It's true that i'm okay with it, but i also do feel really unsatisfied.
Bentley Lee
Not OP but since you got dubs, Venezia Cruz
Easton Jones
>It's true that i'm okay with it, but i also do feel really unsatisfied
Find that "thing" that will get you moving. This type of self-motivation is tough at first, but is a great habit to develop
Mason Richardson
well there is already what you need in this thread. but you should keep a job. MOVE out. at you current: dad might get a heart attack. their money dries up. You might not find a job so easily if the economy bites it again. your fuck your family is fucked having to carry you too...
Join the army
James Smith
Thanks for the advice, I guess i'll try getting a job back, at least part time. As for reading, it's a good idea and i'll definitely try reading more, it's something i like but i don't do it enough.
That was interesting to read, i'll write about what could potentially make me get off my ass a bit. Thanks.
A job could help, but i won't enlist, there's other things i want to do, joining the army would prevent me from doing these things.
Ian Nguyen
You need to develop habits and methods, training yourself to do the things you have not had the rigor and discipline to do on your own. Good help listed in this: 1111supply.com/nerdout/
Jonathan Bell
Holy shit she looks a lot like my ex gf.
Leo Gomez
lucky guy but unlucky that she's your ex
John Ward
She's about 20 pounds too far. I like full figured women, but that is just FAT, not even curvy really
Gavin Morales
I'm a soon to be 26 year old version of you. I have no real words of wisdom for you. I'm a super senior in college.
Ryder Bell
She's about 0 pounds too far. You pretend to like full figured women, but that is just GAY, not even hetero really
Logan Fisher
Exactly. It was fun while it lasted. But then she did the most shitty thing that a girl can do - ghosted me.
John Price
You may like men
Angel Green
So what's full figured to you? Tiny waist and huge tits and ass, like on instagram?
She's thick and would still have a healthy BMI if she dropped some weight, but fat, no way. Her pose/the angle also makes her legs look bigger than they would be if she were standing and not shot from below.
William Taylor
No I just don't like cows
No I don't have an Instagram so I don't know what you're talking about. Look on her main website she has no ass and mediocre tits for her actual figure. She's just fat, not well endowed. Yeah a full figured woman will have fat but this chick doesn't take care of herself at all, at least go running or to the gym once in a while
Everyone getting this ass hurt over my comment lol. Get a life
Aiden Kelly
fwiw I agree - she's fat. she's lucky cos she's attractive and very pretty, a bit like that heather model who's always touted as being 'full figured'. No, she's fat and in 10 years its going to be a horrific mess..
inb4 - you're a virgin/misogynist/gay/fatshamer - whatever, desu i'd be very happy dating a woman who looked like this, I think she's attractive but she's a chunker. a bit like women who still find zayn attractive even tho he's a sub 6ft manlet they wouldn't look twice at on a dating app
Logan Martin
Ask to work with your dad. Don't even hesitate. I regret not doing this years ago.
Ayden Adams
>Really you just have to find a good, compelling reason to change, a "why" that will motivate you. It's as straightforward as that. You need to have a damn will in the first place to do that. Any "higher" purpose is a complete lie. If you feel no innate ambition, youre fucked.
Eli Perry
Stop fapping and look for a part time job and college, maybe a tech school and everything will be fine, I promise you