My boyfriend takes out all his negative emotions on me. He's emotionally stunted, truly. He can't vent or handle stress in a healthy way. He works long hours at a tough job, and I try to do what I can to make him life easier.
He'll say "it's fine if you do xyz" and "of course we can go eat xyz tonight" then suddenly he'll blow up. "You don't do anything around here. You waste money on fast food. I've always hated that you do xyz."
Then after the dust settles he apologizes. "I didn't mean it, I'm just stressed. I agreed to those things to make you happy but it wound up stressing me out even more."
This has happened about 3 times over our 4 years together and I'm worn out. It's devastating. I ask what he wants and he lies to himself and to me, then uses me as an emotional punching bag.
He says that he wants to work on his mental health and anger but refuses to see a therapist (single or couple therapy).
I'm just so lost and hurt.