I'm coming to the conclusion that I'm a massive pervert, and a borderline stalker at this point. I'm in my second year of college, but it was worst the first year.
> goto college with a high female ratio > Was at that point a virgin > Girls lay outside my dorm window in bikinis in the sun > Intentionally walk past them just to look at them But wait it gets worse > Walking to a friends dorm > Girl with short booty shorts ahead of me > I'm only going to the first floor, but I go on the stairs anyway just so her ass is in my face > I still keep some steps behind, just so it doesn't look too bad > I go up an entire 4 flights like that, pretend to keep walking to get to the next floor > elevator it down And, even worse > Cute girl in a short skirt walking generally ahead of me > she's going to a class hall > I don't need to go there > Hmm, if she walks up the stairs I'll totally see her panties > I literally fucking follow her there, walk behind her on the stairs > Still try and stay a decent distance away > I see panties, cool, pretend I'm getting off the second floor > I walk all the fucking way back because of this
> finally this year, it's summer again and girls are dressing more loosely > Get urges to do all this shit again > consider following a girl in a skirt yesterday on campus in case she goes up stairs somewhere or there's some wind > Realize what the fuck I'm thinking > Stop and leave > today > Urge to do this again
How do I get help with this? I'm a borderline stalker and I feel disgusted by myself.
It's fucking creepy, dude. Stop. There's porn if you want to look. There's strippers and whores if you want to touch. You don't need need to be following these women around just because they have a nice butt or are showing some skin. Fucking fucking are you a virgin?
Robert Bell
Get to some parties and hook up with someone.Worst comes to worst sign up on Tinder or some shit like that.
Daniel Thomas
I know dude
I don't want to get these urges. They're not as strong as last year, but I'm still disgusted that I even considered it
Jack Hernandez
That's not that bad, and this is coming from a grill. Men generally become total animals the second it gets over 55 degrees in my experience. But especially if you recognize that these urges are bad (well, or at least a bit anti-social), and that you can resist doing these things, I don't think you have much of a problem.
Luis Lee
Fap before you leave your dorm.
Julian Wilson
There's nothing wrong with checking out cute girls. Anyone who says otherwise is a prude. So don't be ashamed of these "urges" but you have to learn to control them. Stop the following around mostly and do not stare even if they have a killer rack, a nice butt, or a great body. You can look but know where your limits are.
How often can you tell when dudes are checking you out? Also, I hope you ladies don't mind that we do as if anything it should be a compliment... But not always.
Thomas Scott
i relate to this level of perversion honestly and it sucks that i do. i just remove myself from these situations. know that you want to do it but also realize that the cons far outweigh the pros. if you get caught and labeled a perv it'll ruin any chances at a social life and could effect how your current friends think of you. plus sex on the brain that often just isn't good for your mental health. i've been trying to fap less and i honestly feel better not thinking about sex 24/7. good luck breh.
Carter Wood
There is a difference between checking someone out and walking 4 flights of stairs to stare at someone's ass
>>Realize what the fuck I'm thinking This is the most important step you could do. Just keep on watching yourself, urges go away if you don't act on them
Camden Martinez
Yes, I agree that is completely unacceptable. 100%. I'm not going to go out of my way but if an attractive woman is in my general purview then I'll steal some glances.
Austin Baker
Almost 3 weeks into nofap. Should I break it for this?
Thomas Cook
I don't notice when dudes are checking me out, I notice when dudes are yelling "SMILE BABYY I LOVE THAT DRESS!" or "DAYUM GURL NICE LEGS!"
So trust me, girls are accustomed to much worse than people just looking at them silently, and probably don't even register you.
That being said, it's NOT a compliment for a stranger to be getting off on staring at me in public, and there's no way I'm going to take it that way. You can still do it, but take some damn responsibility for yourself.
Luis Hall
Who the fuck would ever tell you that they fap to you later? Like how would you ever gain that knowledge?
Also, sweet women don't even register me looking at them which is fine by me.
Adam Walker
Some guys will literally fucking tell you, it's happened to me. Other guys, you can tell it's in their faces. And it's extremely gross and off-putting
Jacob Bailey
What in the shit...? The fuck is wrong with people? Just out of curiosity, how can you tell? They just look creepy?
Jaxon Thomas
never said that; are you conflating "getting off" with "jacking off"? I'm just saying that they look at me as an object for their own arousal.
And like I said, I accept it's a part of life, I just don't consider it a compliment
Daniel Richardson
Yes, I did make that association given the types of people you were referring to. I'm not innocent as I've fapped to women I've known IRL and didn't feel one bit ashamed about it. Would I ever tell them that? Of course not. I strongly doubt they felt the same way about me. However, if they did, then would it make the initial fapping wrong or right?
Jayden Wilson
You know how you can tell if someone is angry, happy, constipated etc. by the look on their face? Same shit.
Oliver Roberts
>dudes are yelling Does this happen a lot? I have experienced a lot of lockerroom talk and it is really rare that people do that sort of thing.
Landon Phillips
If I were you I would try it, preferably right before showering. If it doesnt work try fapping 2x before going out or multiple faps throughout the day. For me after I fap, looking at porn becomes uninteresting and kind of disgusting and helps my mind focus on other things besides sex. It might help you with these stalker urges to follow girls up 4 flights of stairs to see a glimpse of datass.
Oliver Nelson
Hmmm. Interesting. Makes me wonder if any women ever thought that about me.
Benjamin Bailey
Maybe you live in the burbs but in NYC it's an epidemic. It was worse a couple years ago, idk if all the catcalling campaigns worked (unlikely) or if I'm less attractive/less vulnerable looking now that I'm not a 19 y/o freshman...
Generally, whites and asians are too shy to do anything and worst case scenario is they approach you and politely try some PUA shit, hispanics will do like a "ayyyyy chica what's happenin" at a normal volume, and blacks will HOOT AND HOLLAR at you AGRESSIVELY "HEY BABY SMILE FOR ME BABY YOU LOOKIN GOOD" and then progress to a more angry "WHY YOU IGNORIN ME BITCH??" etc etc
and to think I wasn't a racist before I came to this city....
