my gf cums maybe 1/3 of the time we have sex (if she is honest) but the other 2/3s she gets very wet, with thick grool (no squirting nonsense). From the female perspective, does this mean she's at least enjoying it? I hope this is a good sign ??
But as a guy I can't imagine having sex without cumming, I'd be so frustrated afterwards....the main reason I have sex is to get rid of my desire for sex, so I can think clearly for the next couple of days, before the thirst hits again.
No, I'm sure she grools when waiting in line at the bank too
girls get wet 24/7 for no reason other than the vagina is cleaning itself out. grool/snail trail is just gunk the vagina is expelling. yeah it's pretty lame sorry bud.
better gauge is seeing if she grinds her hips into you, real moaning, smiles, isn't laying there like a dead starfish, that kind of stuff.
she smiles a bit, but mostly she grimaces , :(
>girls get wet 24/7 for no reason other than the vagina is cleaning itself out. grool/snail trail is just gunk the vagina is expelling.
wtf I hate vaginas now!
God gave u a mouth and hands dude, use them to warm her up or finish her off
>oral
yuck, tried it before, no thanks
>hands
she doesn't like fingers up there.
>yuck, tried it before, no thanks
Yeah bro, I give it like two months before she cheats on you because shes obviously not enjoying sex with you. The 1/3 of the time she cums, shes probably thinking of someone else LOL
>if you dont like oral she's gonna cheat and you're a bad person!!
lol
been dating 2 years and she's very much dedicated to me, thanks for your thoughts and wishes.
So you've been with her for two years and basically don't give much of a fuck about her sexual pleasure (either her having it or you learning to give it).
Why bother to care about it now?
And why aren't you able to talk to her about this? Why are you asking a bunch of strangers about what she wants or how she feels? Why aren't you talking to her about it?
My expectation is that your not giving much of a fuck is pretty obvious to her. In my experience, what most women want in a guy touching her to bring her to orgasm is stimulation of the clitoris, not jamming your fingers into her pussy. That she doesn't want you touching her with your hands is probably about you being clumsy and her realizing that you're not much interested in learning, so it's easier to just tell you she doesn't like it.
It's not about liking to give oral sex, by the way. It's about wanting to give someone you supposedly care about pleasure.
stop idolizing sex, it's not a big deal.
Is she asexual or has very low libido? Yes = she will stay with you/won't cheat. No = she will dump you/cheat on you. 2 years of fucking a guy who can get her off only rarely and won't do anything more than just poking her with her dick? She's bound to get tired of her shitty sex life eventually.
And is right, why be with her if you don't care about her pleasure?
Sex is one of the vital aspect of a relationship between two adults with healthy libido....
I'm honestly curious, in what way do you believe I am "idolizing" sex? To me, what I'm suggesting is that the people involved in a relationship should be able to communicate with each other, and that the basis of good sex is caring about the other person.
Not exactly what I was trying to say, but a fair question. One obvious answer is that even if OP doesn't care about his gf's sexual pleasure, he does care about having someone available for his own pleasure.
I agree with this. Sex is important to a romantic relationship. Good sex is not the core of a good relationship, but it helps keep people together both because the anticipation of pleasure from future sex is a motivator to keep interacting, and the brain processes that occur during and right after sex make people feel bonded. Speaking for myself, feeling sexually satisfied makes me feel happier, relaxed, and cared for.
more foreplay will get her off more.
also
>orgasmic clarity lasts days
it lasts maybe 6 hours, 2 or 3 if i have a lot going on
Women and men aren't the same.....
For guys, busting is the focus. For women it's much more about the total experience, though the orgasm is a pleasant part of it.
>fingers up there
You're meant to masturbate her clitoris, not emulate a penis.
>she's probably thinking of someone else
Honestly don't see the issue with this. When my bf is banging me or eating me out, I think about gangbangs to get off. Nothing wrong with it.
For me busting isn't the focus, I can even not cum and still have great pleasure. People are different, not just men and women.
>When I'm making love with my bf I think of multiple, strange men instead of him.
>nothing wrong with that
ya and he's probably thinking about his Switch to climax, nothing wrong with that, typical modern "relationship"
I don't see why that's wrong? My boyfriend means a lot to me, and I love having sex with him. But orgasming is difficult. If I could only think about my boyfriend doing me to cum, I'd never orgasm.
>But orgasming is difficult.
Maybe the bizarre fantasies you keep entertaining have something to do with it?
>If I could only think about my boyfriend doing me to cum, I'd never orgasm.
Probably would be better for you in the long run.
>yuck, tried it before, no thanks
Have you tried with her fresh out of the shower?
Giving a fuck about each other is a big deal though.
I've been masturbating to gangbang (and other fantasies) since I started, aged 13/14 - before I even knew what they were called. So no, it's not that my preferences have increased since I've """entertained""" them.
>Probably would be better for you in the long run.
You're assuming me, or my boyfriend, has an issue with me enjoying sex, and climaxing every time, because I know what gets me off.
kek, that's funny, I'm the exact opposite, all the vibrators in the world can't get me off unless I think about my bf doing me
always fresh and didn't smell or taste of anything, totally neutral.
i actually liked it at the time because she enjoyed it, but now looking back I find it a turn off and emasculating. I don't like receiving oral either though. so its fair. she likes giving and receiving, but I find it silly, just doesn't feel right
>I created this habit since I was 13, and fed it consistently since then, im addicted and....
well that explains why you can't appreciate actual, healthy sex.
Don't forget the gspot
If she don't like fingers buy a toy
Try a clitoral vibe to use during. Or a rabbit cock ring - prolong your performance and give her extra stimulation at the same time.
Imagine dating a frigid asex like this guy. Poor poor chick.
You didn't ask this question: but why don't you just improve your sexual stamina/skills.. If you get some tantric control, you can make most women cum on command, unless they have some emotional/trauma in their history, and then, the best way to reprogram those mental blocks is very long sexual exchanges that gives her time to reconnect with her anatomy and emotions..
How did I create this habit, when this is what my mind was drawn to, before I even knew it existed as a fetish? Didn't have boyfriends to think about, it's just what gets me off. Also, gangbang porn is quite popular with women.
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Congratulations, OP. Your sexual incompetence has just been advertised on the front page.
Women always think of someone else.
I just pay the mexican who cuts my lawn to finish my gf off. She seems satisfied after, so whatever works for you I guess
>emasculating
What's more emasculating is being too inept to please your lover, imo. And being insecure about your masculinity.
>2 years
It's cute that you think this is a significant amount of time in a relationship
What would you consider a significant amount of time?
I'd say it is if you're relatively young (
some women don't like receiving oral because it makes the guy look submissive
The one girlfriend who I spoke to about sex says she doesn't like getting oral because she's self conscious about her vag - like, she'll worry if there's a single hair she missed when shaving.
Meanwhile, my boyfriend is dominant as fuck (aggressive, bondage, anal, choke-fcuking) but he'll still go down on me. And I love it - it's a unique sensation.
I think it's more to do with self consciousness on the part of the girl. And if she doesn't get off from it.
I have the opposite problem
My girl will moan intensely and buck her hips against me, grab my ass, bite me and cum hard, sometimes squirting, usually multiple times when we have sex. And thank me for making her have great orgasms after feeling spent. Often times though, I'll have great difficulty achieving orgasm. Maybe 1/6 times we have sex, I'll cum, whereas she cums like 300% of the time (she says she'll cum like 2-4 times in a regular fuck session between us).
I honestly think she has a case of oversensitivity to everything and I have a case of being numb to everything. I have to basically go into a fuck trance to get myself to the point where I can actually cum, turns into a very sweaty and rough affair. And usually my dick is completely covered in pussy cream by the end of it and my bedsheets are ruined by her squirts.
What's the best way to approach oral? Should I ask before I go down on her or should it be spontaneous?
I usually just start by teasing hip nips, kissing the, kissing her stomach and rubbing her all over, slowly working my way down, kissing and rubbing her pubic region until her pussy starts to get swollen and aroused, then work a few fingers in, and eventually give her pussy a kiss and start tonguefucking her.
I'm and my most sexy experience with my boyfriend going down on me was when he literally just pulled my trousers down without me having to ask, and threw himself into the act. I remembered that for a long time because I didn't expect a man to ever be that selfless desu.
You need at least 4-5 years before you can call it successful and consider marriage
2 years is a drop in the bucket
>4-5 years successful
>2 years is drop in a bucket
Mate, 2 years is 50% of a successful relationship according to you...
Dingus, the honeymoon period is a year-and-a-half. Three years after that, you know that you're good for the long haul.
it's not just about being together that long, it's about having a good relationship that long.