I've been having these obsessive thoughts about being transgender. I want it to be clear that I am 100% not transgender I am a guy and like being a guy and will be a guy forever. The problem is I have been having obsessive thoughts about how I got off to gender bender hentai porno and how I also got turned on by the thought of having a girl body. They are thoughts like, "You will never be able to enjoy fucking women" "You should transition." The thing is I used to have these same thoughts about weight gain they were like "You will never be attracted to normal size women" but they eventually went away (because I started fapping to gender bender instead). I usually deal with them by fapping but I have been fapping too much and it is really annoying me. How can I deal with these thoughts? Also how do I tell my therapist without her misdiagnosing me as trans? I am not transgender and the thought of being forced to take hormones is terrifying to me.
I've been having these obsessive thoughts about being transgender...
Are you a virgin and/or incel?
Yes I am unfortunately.
No one will force you to take any hormones. This is probably a form of OCD, with feedback loops and obsessive thought patterns. When these dirty thoughts arise, don't bury them, just let them pass. Shake up your schedule, find a hobby, and get away from where you usually find yourself prone to masturbate or watch gender-bending pornography. If you don't have a good support system or friends IRL, try listening to podcasts to simulate social behavior and get your mind off of your fetish. Have you had other issues related to your self image in the past?
Thanks for the advice. I did notice when I watched the Jordan Peterson Sam Harris debate thing the thoughts were down. In the past I had some insecurities but nowadays I don't think I look so bad anymore. Only thing is I may have a mild form of gyno which doesn't help with the obsessive thoughts. I am not overweight though I am actually pretty skinny.
Alright, then it makes sense. You're suffering from what's called "autogynophilia". You want to finally fuck a girl so badly that you've subconsciously mixed up the intense urge to fuck a girl with actually being a girl. The problem is that you, assumedly, don't have any clear path to accomplishing fucking a girl. Essentially, you want a gf so desperately that you now want to be the gf because you mind can't figure out any other clear path towards possessing the gf. The obvious cure is to go out an fuck a girl, you'll immediately realize how fucked your whole thought process was. Of course, for you right now that's easier said than done. The best thing you can do is work towards bettering yourself and putting yourself into situations where you'll meet girls, while keeping this all in mind whenever you get the thoughts. When you're self-aware of the origin of these weird thoughts, they sort of lose their power over time.
>I may have a mild form of gyno
If it hasn't been diagnosed by a doctor (aka some bullshit you picked up from Jow Forums), it's nothing some pushups/bench press won't fix. Your chest will fill out nicely if you stick to it.
This is also an interesting take, not entirely inaccurate, just a little wordy. I have no doubt in my mind that you're gonna make it. It sickens me that there are people who have preyed on men in your position and convinced them to sterilize themselves.
I think you are right about that. My recent faps have not been about being a girl but fucking the girl but the thoughts still come and try to annoy me. I do think NoFap is the best course of action right now I've been trying for the last few weeks making sure to learn from my mistakes when I relapse.
>It sickens me that there are people who have preyed on men in your position and convinced them to sterilize themselves.
Yeah I find the information online is really horrifying. Part of the reason I am hesitant to tell my therapist is because I read about therapists just immediately recommending transition which is so fucked up if it's true.
It depends on where you live. I don't want to feed into your delusions since the trans phenomena is relatively small and very recent, but getting adolescents and teenagers on hormone blockers is still a booming field of medicine. Even if you revealed everything to a therapist, what authority do they have? They legally cannot prescribe you anything, and I hope you at least have the backbone to tell them to go fuck themselves if they did.
Makes sense I am probably just paranoid. I generally don't have trouble standing up for myself but still have fears about it. I can't really remember the last time any of them actually came true.
>and very recent
No it isn't.
It's been around for thousands of years
In the 70s, 80s, this one transitioned of many back then
Kids playing pretend getting taken away from their parents because it's "child abuse" not to indulge them the instant they discuss changing their gender is a very recent phenomena. Cannibalism has been around for thousands of years, too. Does that make it any more empirical or correct? Please learn how to format your posts and speak proper English.
I think it's important to remember that your therapist's political worldview is going to entirely inform their professional opinion on an issue like trans shit, whether they realize it or not. A rainbow flag-waving lefty is going to tell you to embrace your 'inner feelings' and just b urself (because obviously if you have these thoughts you must want to have your dick surgically pushed inside out). I personally wouldn't talk to a therapist with shit like this knowing how hotbutton it is nowadays.
I think you might actually benefit from looking into Jungian psychology. As much as I hate Peterson, he's on point with this preference. Jung had this concept of the "Anima", which is the female archetype within the male mind. Women have a corresponding Animus, but that's neither here no there. When a man fails to mature in his relationship with women, he risks having his subconscious Anima archetype "posses" his conscious mind, which sounds and awful lot like what's described in modern terms here
i feel this a lot. thanks for the informative thread =, anons.
Piggybacking off of this post, the book King, Warrior, Magician, Lover discusses how to express the mature masculine archetypes from a Jungian perspective. It's a great read, really short, but there's still a lot to digest.
I am not sure what my therapist is politically I just told her I think I am addicted to porn because that is kind of what it is but there are obsessions with it not just compulsions which addiction seems to be more just the compulsions. I did look into jung a little bit just on the surface level and I thought it might actually be my Shadow masquerading as the Anima cause it does seem to be a voice taking advantage of all of my insecurities and weaknesses.
Lmao you should neck yourself cuck
>calls out historically inaccurate trannyposting
>gets called a cuck
It's nice knowing you're not alone in this. I think it might be a product of porn being so widely available on the internet which sucks because it means it is not going to be well understood by the medical field.
It's not even that their argument was historically inaccurate, it was just confusing. It cited one marginal case of a successful transition "back then" and insisted that dysphoria was inherently good because it's been acknowledged long before it was made popular within the last decade.
Yeah and desu, post-sexual revolution really isn't "back then" considering the sexual revolution is directly responsible for tranny acceptance.