ITT: Ask the Opposite Gender Anything

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FAQ:
>What do girls/guys think about ?
>Do like ?
There is no one answer. Preferences differ and worrying about some complex only ever makes things worse. In fact, worries like complexes are very often the real problem.

>I'm shy and afraid of .
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, bit by bit, step by step. You can't rely on some "magic moment" (or activity) to instantly change you.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. "Signs" of attraction are basically meaningless.

>Where do I meet people?
Anywhere outside. Or online. Above all, leave your comfort zone.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me.
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, froyo, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, gallery, park, .

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22 year old male here. Lately I've been more and more flirty with a female coworker (45) at my part time job. We message each other all throughout the day and more recently in the middle of the night. She went through a nasty divorce last year and we basically both talked shit about her ex husband for a long time after she messaged my about some other bullshit at like 1 AM. Later on she wound up sending me messages from a guy who hit her up on Facebook asking me to read them and tell me if he was into her. He was clearly way into her, he's a fit, handsome guy she went to high school with but when I asked her if she was going to go out with him she said hell no. She sent me more stuff from other guys trying to hit her up but she said she wasn't interested in any of them. In another conversation she was talking about how somebody said her ass looked good in a certain pair of jeans and I was like "well, your ass does look great" and she had this huge smile on her face. Things like that continue to go on and we talk to each other all day.
I'm very inexperienced and naive and I think I know what's going on but I'm really stressed out and just want some confirmation.

She is THRIVING on the attention she is getting right now. Not only are these other guys talking to her and complimenting her, but she has a kid half her age wrapped around her little finger too.

She is loving the idea that she's still 'got it' right now.

she's got a crush on you. don't get attached.

I'm sure she is, but why did she show me the stuff from the other guys? Is she trying to make me jealous?
I won't, but I also know I would probably go through with it if the opportunity to do anything arose.

23 male here
I've had four sexual partners so far but two of them were one night stands where I was drunk so I don't remember that much. One is my current girlfriend with whom I've been for over three years now. Overall she's really attractive but there's one thing that's really, really bugging me and I'm almost at the point where I want to break up because I find it that unattractive. She has some chest hair. Not nearly as much as a man, but she has some (honestly fairly long) hairs around her nipples (she's 22 btw). I've mentioned before that I don't find it very attractive and she was basically saying that it's my fault if my image of women is so far from reality. She claims that this is completely normal but I have a really hard time believing her. The other sexual partner I've had for a while didn't have hair around her nipples and I've never seen a photograph of a woman with hair around there.
Am I brainwashed by society that tells women that they all need to get rid of their chest hair and my gf is one of the few that doesn't do it or is she lying to me?

tl;dr is it true that most women have reasonably long hair (up to half an inch) around their nipples or is my gf bullshitting me?

my ex once deepthroated a can of soda in front of me. what did he mean by this?

A lot of women get some hairs around their nipples it's pretty normal

Men what would you think if your girlfriend started talking about all the sexual things she fantasizes about doing to other women in bed during sex? Would it be a turn on, turn off, or neutral?

Women what are your favourite mythological/religious heroes and gods?

As a man I find a deep shared pathos in the struggles of Heracles with madness and failure.

>Am I brainwashed by society that tells women that they all need to get rid of their chest hair
More or less. All women have hair growth there to my knowledge, it's a bit 50/50 if they remove it. It depends on how much they pretty themselves up, and how much they expect to show off their breasts.
>and my gf is one of the few that doesn't do it
Not even close. A lot of women have very light body hair, and it generally doesn't grow all that long, so it'shard to notice on most girls. Most won't bother shaving there.

A bit silly to not do it if your boyfriend asks though. I never liked shaving downstairs, but I still did it when I dated a guy who preferred a smooth shave. It's just one of those things where you do it because it pleases your partner.

Of course, look at it from her perspective, and consider if she has preferences that you ignore. Could be why she is annoyed at your comment. I left a guy because he kept being annoying if I didn't go for a morning run or do my full hour of training at the gym, but he didn't care about himself slowly going fat, and he refused to work out himself when I asked him to join me.

Tl;Dr: don't be a hypocrite.

>Women what are your favourite mythological/religious heroes and gods?
I have an unreasonable love for Artemis. Literally everything the God stands for is just down my alley, and I even have a small alter for a short morning prayer every day, just in case it might actually make a difference.

I too enjoy bears, giving strange diseases to women and going hunting.

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>bears
Bears are cute, what do you want from me?
>giving diseases
Or relieve them. Let's just say I'm struggling with something.

>going hunting
Not a traditional one for women, but I still find it fun, even if I am God awful at it.

The muses are pretty great. Sometimes it feels like anything that inspires you becomes a force of nature, so I get where they were coming from.

50% hot 50% worried I'm getting left for a lady

You better be a virgin if you worship Artemis.

>You better be a virgin
So does anyone that wants to date me.

>thinking people on Jow Forums has had sex
Hah.

That he is gay, presumably.

I really like norse mythology and Hel is probably my favorite

>So does anyone that wants to date me.
>wanting a virgin boyfriend
For what purpose. How old are you?

>gf and I break up for a day a few months ago and get back together the next
>Convince her to give it another try because it happened out of nowhere
>Said she can't promise she'll fall in love with me
>Things go great for a while and she told me that it was something else bothering her and that she does like me
>gf starts neglecting me and our relationship, hard because she's moving
>Starts being flaky, not making plans and taking hours to reply to texts
>When I helped her move, she talked to her friends plenty of times, but barely said a word to me
>Said she was too tired and busy to see me on a certain day, but it turned out that she had a party she was going to, but didn't tell me
>Tell her how I felt and that the lack of effort she's put in lately hurt my feelings
>Wouldn't have even been mad if she told me she had a party to go to and couldn't see me
>She blows up on me and said I sounded possessive and controlling
>In reality, I've always given her space (if I text her and she's with friends, I tell her to have fun and that I'll leave her to it, never text her if I know she's with someone, don't text her at parties etc)
>Said that she shouldn't have to tell me everything she's doing or why she can't see me, even though I never meant it like that and we're dating anyway, making asking about things like that normal
>Said that it's concerning that I act this way and that she felt scared
>Day later
>Apologize because I made her feel bad
>She said that she can't give me romance and that it's clear I want more from her than what she can give me
>Said she's not romantically invested in me
>Tell her I feel led on because she said things were fine and that she was in a bad place because of her past
>She told me she can't risk being in a controlling relationship again (was in the past) and that wanting to see her at least once a week is "too much" and that she needs her own time

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24, and why not? I don't want a guy who thinks it is acceptable to fuck whatever he wants, and then settle once he gets tired of that.

I highly doubt anyone here can give me even a single good reason to go for a guy who fucked around, over a virgin.

>Remind her that I literately give her time to do the things she needs/wants to do and never dictate how she uses her time
>Says I've been very accommodating with her, but it "just isn't working out"
>Said she still feels pressured, even if there isn't any
>Says she really wants me to be her friend because she thinks I'm a great person, but she just can't see me as anything but platonic
>Have some time to think and talk with my gym buddies
>Explain everything
>In the back of my head, I always had a feeling she had intimacy problems because of her past relationships (chased this one guy hard, but he never gave a shit and told her to fuck off because he couldn't hide it anymore, ex LTR never put her first, gave her attention, cared about her family gatherings and was willing to move overseas without her coming at one point because he wanted it so bad)
>Without even mentioning that, they both said the same thing
>Piece it together
>Realize she has commitment and intimacy issues most likely
>Feels like she wants to chase, but never be chased/actually looked after
>Confront her about this
>Basically backs this up because she mentions there was a push and pull problem in this relationship
>Tell her she needs help because she clearly has problems because of these old relationship, probably her dad etc
>Notice her tone changes a bit and tells me we shouldn't talk for a bit for the good of us, that I'm just mad
>Block her before she can and haven't talked to her since

What do, Jow Forums? The more I read back, the more I realize I literately did nothing wrong. What does Jow Forums think of this? I'd love to hear male and female perspectives.

If you'd ever have sex you'd know virgins suck in bed. If a guy had sex with even one partner it's like night and day in my experience.

>I highly doubt anyone here can give me even a single good reason to go for a guy who fucked around, over a virgin.
I'm a guy that lost his virginity at 23. All I could think is that you'll have somebody more experienced (but I made my gf cum multiples times during my first time by emulating porn), generally more attractive and desirable and honestly more normal. Normal people lose their virginity early on or at least by the time they're in their early 20's. If they haven't, it's understandable to think they're no well adjusted.

makes fucking sense
he told me he experimented with a friend a few times, but he was the one getting sucked off. said he didn't get into it really. his bestfriend would sneak in winks at me too when they played games. baka idk what to think.

i mean why do some guys feel the need to date women and even physically/mentally hurt them at the same time? like they are so insecure and have no control over their life so they harm and control a girl they're dating that they don't even like probably

>The more I read back, the more I realize I literately did nothing wrong.
>Female perspective
She definitely has issues, but I wonder how you can get to the conclusion that she wants to chase, and not be chased, and then... You continue to chase.

It's probably just a bad match between you two. It's not so much about doing something wrong, just that you weren't really going to work in the long term. Most relationships won't work, even if you want them to. You can force it, but it will just leave one bitter and sad about having wasted their life with someone they didn't truly love.

I'd see if she starts chasing you, and see how that works out. If she does, you could let her, and see where it goes. It sounds like she needs you to stop chasing her, and let her chase you instead. If she gives you the chance, string her along, avoid the temptation to run straight into her, and see how things develop. Some girls prefer the thrill of the hunt, rather than being hunted themselves.

>Lost virginity in my adult years
>Faked that I wasn't a virgin
>Girlfriend squirted multiple times and loved it

Then again, I do technically have a big dick size, just on the smaller end of the spectrum. I just couldn't cum because I was used to years of wanking with an iron grip.

>If you'd ever have sex you'd know virgins suck in bed. If a guy had sex with even one partner it's like night and day in my experience
Slut here, bullshit. Virgin's are a lot more prone to tryhard, and even if they aren't, they learn quickly enough that it doesn't matter if they suck the first 2 or 3 times.

The worst sex partners are Chads. They are universally terrible, and are super selfish by nature, and usually leaves the girl to get off on her own.

Any tips to get more comfortable swallowing? inb4 pineapples, he already eats plenty of fruit and I don't think it's really a taste thing. Aside from just being unaccustomed to it (it's my first relationship), I'm just really squeamish about bodily fluids in general. Even spit and stuff, like do you remember that scene in Big Daddy where the kid is spitting then sucking it back up? Watching that, even thinking about it too much, makes me physically gag.
But I really like giving oral, and I'm sick of spoiling it at the last minute. I give him alternative targets when I can, but I know he'd love it if I managed to swallow (or even just hold it in my mouth gracefully, without the face of a kid sullenly eating their veggies).

Does getting extra hydrated reduce the consistency at all?
Would using flavoured lube help, or would that disappear long before the finale? I know I said it wasn't about taste, but even though it tastes fine, it still tastes like a bodily fluid. A little something extra might help disguise that, if it's feasible.
I've considered just letting him come while I'm deepthroating to get it over with and potentially bypass the issue, but I'm a little concerned about accidentally aspirating it, or exacerbating the gag problem and involuntarily convulsing while his dick's buried among my chompers.

>choosing a life partner based on his performance during your first time together
Solid idea.

>Normal people lose their virginity early on or at least by the time they're in their early 20's.
Normal people also fuck around on Tinder. If you want to be part of that, sure. I don't.

I don't know why you guys put so much value in making a girl cum the first time. You know it's not that important, right?

Don't make this a slut competition.
Every virgin guy I've been with had no stamina and couldn't match my pace. Plus they lacked common sense since they were nervous.
My sample size is only two, but still they were fit enough to not be out of breath and covered in rug burns in ten minutes.
>it doesn't matter if they suck the first two or three times
I was talking day 1 virgins.

>choosing a life partner based on the fact his penis has never entered a vagina
You too.

>how you can get to the conclusion that she wants to chase, and not be chased, and then... You continue to chase
I was in denial. Other the months of dating her, I had thoughts like that, but pushed them away. After I got over the initial shock of breaking up, I realized that I'm being stupid and that I didn't actually do anything wrong and that chasing her so much was a mistake, ESPECIALLY after the break up. Ever since I confronted her, I blocked her before she could block me to the point where she locked down all of her social media.

>It's probably just a bad match between you two
I agree, but I do believe she needs therapy.
>Her dad bullied her a lot as a kid
>Her ex cared but never truly gave a shit (would text during dates, never cared to even interact with her family at Christmas etc, based his plans about his life around him only, even though they were together for 5 years
>Judging by what she said about the other guy, she's definitely the type that chases if she isn't being chased

I forgot to mention that whenever I pulled away early on when we were dating, she'd try harder
>Be busy or studying
>She'd message me an hour or so later asking for attention
>The last night we properly spent together weeks ago, I started to realize that she wasn't putting effort and started to pull away
>That entire night, she didn't stop talking once, kept asking for kisses etc

>I'd see if she starts chasing you, and see how that works out. If she does, you could let her, and see where it goes. It sounds like she needs you to stop chasing her, and let her chase you instead. If she gives you the chance, string her along, avoid the temptation to run straight into her, and see how things develop. Some girls prefer the thrill of the hunt, rather than being hunted themselves.
That's exactly what I think about her.

Personally, it was just doing it again and again. I started off by making him cum somewhere else, and then lick it up. Get used to it slowly and more controlled, rather than have him blow his entire load straight down my throat. Seriously, deepthroat loads feels really weird, even to this day, I get a very strange, and very uncomfortable, feeling when we try that,

As I got used to the taste, it didn't really matter much what he ate/drank. I just got used enough to it, that the taste and feeling of it didn't bother me.

>Normal people also fuck around on Tinder. If you want to be part of that, sure. I don't.
I don't either, even though I have the potential for it. I'm just stating it how it really is. When I was a virgin, I wasn't exactly "normal". When I got more normal, girls wanted me.

>I don't know why you guys put so much value in making a girl cum the first time. You know it's not that important, right?
You wanna know how I know you're a guy? I want the girl I'm with to have a good time, which involves cumming.

Bad guys then, all of mine (4) were easy to work with. Came twice, quickly learned to focus on my clit as well, and letting them have fun with tongue and fingers made it easy. You just need to help guide them a bit.

Odd how you are never around when guys say they want virgin girls.

How do you know if men find me attractive in real life situations? I'm no model and I don't know if I am average, above average, or what.

U free tonight?
I'm willing to be a tryhard

Right, like half the guys here do.

You're in the minority, buddy.

Not sure how that matters. So a virgin guy would slowly become more normal regardless, why would he have to have slept with another girl first?

>You wanna know how I know you're a guy? I want the girl I'm with to have a good time, which involves cumming.
Call me crazy, but I don't expect the first time to be a blissful experience. I dont think any girl with a realistic mindset does. It's literally what we were all told in sex ed.

Stop acting like the first time has to be mindblowing.

I'm that unlucky then? The guys I was with were crazy awful.
And I don't want to argue with guys who want a virgin gf, I've done enough of that already.

>Stop acting like the first time has to be mindblowing.
Of course it probably won't be. Just don't expect them to stay around most of the time.

>You wanna know how I know you're a guy? I want the girl I'm with to have a good time, which involves cumming.
You assume she broke her own hymen. If she hasn't, good luck friend, you'll need it. Between the blood and the pain, my first time was an absolute disaster, and the guy was pretty experienced even, and he was used to girls barely having a hymen when he got to them, even a lot of the virgin's. It was lost before he even began.

What is virgin sex like for a girl anyway? Is it really that bloody and messy?

Now that it's gone, would you also not have high expectations for first time with a new partner?
If so, why do so many women tinder?

Not her, but not for me. Pretty much the only thing that hurt was how awkward it was.

I has apparently made a mistake in not breaking my hymen first, so yeah, super painful. Most of my friends were surprised I hadn't at least opened up a bit with my fingers or a toy of some sort.

Obviously, and I do use tinder. But it's a different kind of sex I go for, I don't really value purity. But seriously, the best is getting a partner for a few rounds, or at least keep an open line. It's way better with someone who has some idea of how to handle you, and not someone who still needs to learn what turns you on and gets you off.

>I highly doubt anyone here can give me even a single good reason to go for a guy who fucked around, over a virgin.
The only real issue is availability. In a more virginal culture, well-adjusted adult virgins would probably be available in spades. But in most modern cultures, you're basically just left with the guys no one else wanted or who have social dysfunctions that prevented them from pursuing anyone (apologies to any wizards present). So it's not so much whether a well-adjusted virgin is better or worse than an equivalent non-virgin, it's whether he even exists.
Still, good luck to you. I'm a big believer in finding someone who meshes with you and your values rather than just going for what's conventionally attractive or simply available. If it's 'virgins only,' you may not find a guy who fits with the norm, but if a virgin's what you want, you don't exactly fit the norm yourself, so it's probably exactly what you need. There's a reason they call it The One.

>Just don't expect them to stay around most of the time.
That's why I don't mind waiting. I'm more likely to find the right guy if I wait, rather than jump in with the first sex hungry teenager that shows up.

Ok so if you are with a new person and are less than wowed, you might still be open to keep seeing them and work on improvement?
Pretty low experience here and it's like getting a first job. They only want people with experience, but how to get it if no one will give you a shot?

>But in most modern cultures, you're basically just left with the guys no one else wanted
The thing is, this is pretty much what I hope to find. Not in the sense that I am looking for an obviously unlikable freak, but I'm looking for the gem in the rough. Being a virgin could happen for thousands of reasons, and I would bet the majority of those aren't about necessarily because of actual issues. Often times, I'm pretty sure it happens due to a self reinforcing mentality. Like we see here on this board. Tell me if this sounds familiar to you:
>I'm a 20 year old virgin, should I just kill myself?
People give up too early. They self pity and think they have no value, when they clearly do. People don't overlook them because they are virgin's, they overlook them because of how hard it affects their personality. I'm today's tinder culture, where looks and confidence is everything, this issue is just proportionally worse.

I'm specifically looking for those guys in my everyday life. Well, not right now, I have some health issues I don't want to dump on some poor unsuspecting guy, but I know what I'm looking for, and I know I'm not in a rush, because most of these guys are overlooked for not being the typically desired man.

>you don't exactly fit the norm yourself
I have a literal altar to the Greek God Artemis, I know I'm an oddball.

anons pls

Mine was pretty painful. Polar opposite outcome to but very similar situation: my guy was experienced but had never busted a cherry before, and I was 110% intact. He told me afterwards that he looked for advice online about dealing with virgin girls and read to "just jam it in" and thank FUCK I was too much of a pussy to let him get away with that. I made him take it ridiculously slow, it literally took hours. Barely any blood, basically as much as if I were spotting before my period (would have been a bloodbath if we'd gone with his approach, as the quoted femanon demonstrates).
It hurt, but it was a very controlled hurt. It was actually a great experience. It was very intimate, it set us up for great sexual communication, and set a tone where mutual orgasm isn't necessarily the ultimate, high-pressure goal of any sexual encounter.
So no, I didn't come the first time. Not even the first 5 times.

Take note, guys. If she has a hymen, forget about it, it's a job and a half just getting something up there. Embrace the opportunity for what it is and take it slow. If you simply MUST make her come, you better be real good at all-external cunnilingus.

I dont really like the idea of me having sex. I guess that's not normal, right?

How far in is it?

I like Loki/the whole Lokasenna best, when he disses all the other gods.

Why don’t girls like my face? I’m 26 and never could get a date in real life or tinder match... there are literally no hints that a girl is checking me out l.,. None ever want to talk to me.... I can’t stop blaming my looks... I used to honestly assume I was good looking but this is just not normal. I’m awfully depressed and obsessive over how I look now. How do I accept that in probably broadly not attractive?

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>I have a literal altar to the Greek God Artemis, I know I'm an oddball.
Fair enough. Godspeed in finding your ArteMISTER.

I'll see myself out.

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Brandon just get into therapy for OCD.

It was awkward and I was so nervous I basically started to cry, but I didn't have a hymen anymore so physically, it wasn't bloody or particularly painful.

19 yo kissles vvvviargin
I've had some """""""""""""gfs"""""""""""" but nothing serious. My friends are trying to hook me up with some random bitches for one night stands or some shit like that even tho i've told them numerous times that i don't want. All of my friends are basicly male bitches who fugg 24/7 and they don't care who they fug, while im here with this sort of dating autism, i can't hook up with a girl knowing that the girl has been with someone else ( especially if i know that they've kissed or fugged ). Will i die a vvvviargin or are there some girls with the similar dating autism like mine?

Guys
How stressful is being a guy? It seems like literally every aspect of your life is about competition in some way. I suppose some men enjoy that and get their kicks that way but it seems rather exhausting to me.

What does that have to do with how I look? My sisters bf has mental problems but she loves him... me obsessing rn doesn’t have to do with girls looking at me and thinking ew

It’s fucking awful.... I feel
Inadequate and like a fucking loser that no girl ever accepts my attention or noticed me... all my friends do fine tho. please answer my question
I’m extremely stressed out about it and can’t even sleep and my health is not well as a result

Guys, generally speaking what's your take on female masturbation? Turn-on/off, don't care, feel like she shouldn't have to etc? I'm asking because a friend of mine got a bf who "forbids" her from masturbating because, obviously, his dick is all she should ever require.

Turn on. Now can you reply to my question I asked?

Girls, i haven't been in contact with any ex girlfriend after we've broken up and i regret it
I'd very much like to stay in contact with my most recent ex, not be friends but just, stay in contact.

She already has some other guy and while that does hurt, i'd very much love to not fade let her fade out of existence.
Would it be too much to just outright ask "hey, so i know things between us might be a bit awkward but i'd like to stay in touch"?

>so if you are with a new person and are less than wowed, you might still be open to keep seeing them and work on improvement
Depends on their attitude in general, more than their performance. It's pretty easy to tell if they could be good given time, or if their poor performance is due to mental and attitude issues.

>He told me afterwards that he looked for advice online about dealing with virgin girls and read to "just jam it in" and thank FUCK I was too much of a pussy to let him get away with that.
That's exactly what he did! Jesus Christ, whoever spreads this kind of information needs to be shot.

>every aspect of your life is about competition in some way

It ain't. I do like competition if it means I'm a better person from it but I don't give a single fuck about being "dominant" and it annoys the fuck out of me that people make that such a big trait that a man has to have.

I enjoy being male and I don't really think one gender has it easy though. I just think we're faced with different problems in life.

It's not your physical attributes in and of themselves. Your composure and general aura means way more, and is incredibly noticeable by looks alone.

You literally look like one of the guys I slept with on Tinder once, except even in your tons of pictures you post here, you look super defeated and like you hate life. I don't think you realize how unattractive that makes you. You could look like George Clooney and still be unattractive if you still look like everything sucks and you don't want to live.

I rarely lose, so I hardly even think about it.

tfw my ex from a year ago is online in steam
compelled to write her, just to catch up
but things ended rather quickly and kinda shitty
plus i'm trying to get over someone else now

is there anything i could text said ex from a year ago? would a hi suffice?

My bf's into it, shows I'm thinking about him when we aren't together for a few days (which is true). He'll often ask what I'd fantasised about the next time we are together and integrate it into dirty talk.
I dunno how he'd feel about it if I was doing it alone while we were together though, like sneaking one in during a solo shower or something, that'd be kinda weird and isn't something I'd do anyway. If we're together, I just want him.

Need dating advice asap but don't want to make a new thread...

Started casually seeing a guy from work. We've made plans to hook up three times now. Each time he comes up with an excuse on why he can't meet up, always last minute.

First time he has accidentally double booked to hang with a friend. I was peeved off but understood.

Second time he accidentally invited a friend to the party and couldn't leave his friend alone. I was really mad and let him know. He promised it would never happen again and nothing would come in the way of the third time.

Third time was half an hour ago. He ditches our work christmas party to go to a bar with a friend when we were supposed to hook up...

I texted him telling him I'm not waiting around for him. He responds saying "yeah I'm still at the other bar my friend wanted to be at"

Golden question - do I bother responding telling him I'm done or just leave it? I'm 100% done with him but not sure whether to tell him tonight or make it obvious to him at work tomorrow. I reckon leave it til tomorrow yeah?

I guess it doesn't matter because either way hes clearly not interested. I just need the best way to try and get some of my dignity back.

>Started casually seeing a guy from work
Idiots.

Ignore him, you're done. Hope this doesn't affect your work environment. Hint: it probably will.

>What does that have to do with how I look?
>OCD
you cant get past physical imperfections.

Neither can women... women literally say I’m not their type or not good enough BECAUSE of my flaws... it’s. It imperfections... nobody is perfect. Plenty of people with flaws are found attractive and noticed. Every girl I ever met and talked to about how I look has said my small eyes are creepy and a turnoff. I USED TO THINK SOME GIRLS WOULD BE INTO MY LOOK.

Dude. Please have some self respect and talk to a girl your age instead of wasting your time with a used up hag, lmao. No need to get desperate just because you are inexperienced.

Girls, why don't you take care of your feetsicles? Why do you let them get dry and rough?

It‘s only competitive if you make it that way. Meaning when you are ambitious. It can be hard. I go through phases where I‘m really pumped and ready to crush, and times where I just want to spend all day in bed. I‘ve gotten used to it. Because the alternative, being a loser who isn‘t striving for anything, is aweful once you move on from a cozy mindset to a self aware one. It‘s a pathetic aimless feeling.

What makes a girl a catch? Would a girl with a 7/10 looks and 9/10 personality be a catch?

>roughly the same number of guys and girls
>ALL girls have bfs
>many guys don't have gfs
How is this possible?

In the age range you're probably in there's more guys than girls.

I'm single now after a 4 year relationship. Back when I was with my ex, I let my female friendships fall to the wayside.
Where should I go to meet girls? I tried dating sites like meetme, tinder and a few others, but it seems like nobody is interested in meeting up and getting to know each other.

I've gone to the bar before but that's mainly for getting laid. Any other suggestions? My work place only has married and older women.

Ladies, where is a good place to meet lonely women?

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There a girl going to an event that I want to ask out but neither of us have been in a relationship or anything. How can I show her I'm interested when I'm almost as awkward and inexperienced as her?

Not that user, but there are more girls in my class than guys and most guys are single except for 2-3. Explain that O.o

Let me guess, its CS or IT?

You realize people can date outside of that one class?

>Ladies, where is a good place to meet lonely women?
4channel

how creepy and cheesy is it to send an ex-gf some christmas themed flowers and a spanish quote saying i miss her and i'd love to stay in touch?

>How do you know if men find me attractive in real lif situations

Not really sure what you’re asking. But either way you shouldn’t really derive your self worth from other people’s perceptions of you, that inevitably creates a paranoia and low self-esteem that actually tends to lower other people’s perceptions (See Brandon: the dude who keeps asking why girls don’t like his face every other thread, refusing to believe it when people tell him his face isn’t the problem, it’s that he’s being a paranoid and desperate brat).

Conversely, when someone is effusively self-confident and comfortable with who they are, male or female, it tends to add an aura of attractiveness to them that instinctively draws people.


>How stressful is being a guy?It seems like literally every aspect of your life is about competition in some way

Not really? I think that’s just you and your interpretation of it. All the shit I enjoy most has either next to nothing to do with competition or the greatest competition is more against myself as a form of improvement.

>what’s your take on female masturbation?
Don’t really care. Hot to watch/participate in. If it’s done otherwise, whatever. It’s a natural thing.

If your friend is in an adult relationship where they’re “forbidding”each other from doing things, they clearly aren’t in a very good one.


>I just need the best way to try and get some of my dignity back.

You going out of your way to passive aggressively tell him you’re done comes off as kind of petulant, which kind of hurts that dignity thing you’re aiming for.

If you’re done, just move on.

Very. Why not save this kind of effort and money for a girl that actually thinks of you and likes you or even your fucking mom or something? If you have to ask to stay in touch then she already moved on, let alone the fact that orbiting your ex is a terrible idea.

because i have lost contact to every previous ex girlfriend and quite frankly i'm sick of it, i understand that in your teens you part ways and whatnot but i'm getting to a point in life where if i like a person i'd very much like to stay in contact, nothing more nothing less but not drive that person out of my life, nor make that person the center of it

>What makes a girl a catch?

This is absolutely and completely subjective. Different people have different preferences.

Some might prefer someone adventurous and highly physically fit and actively.

Some might prefer someone more laid back and comforting.

There is no universal answer.

many girls rather chase one guy than be in relationship with lesser guys.

I'm talking about the whole world, not just one class.

But that many? This would mean that there are girls sharing Chad with other sluts.

Yes and like I said, in the whole world there's more men than women in the breeding age range.

>This would mean that there are girls sharing Chad with other sluts.
That's the reality. Also there are more guys than girls so it's natural.