Update on gf not cumming

>OP from old post: gf hasn't been cumming with me for months and now she spends too much time in the bathroom. I have talked about it with her and she is "really satisfied".

So I talked with my gf yesterday. I pressured her and insisted because I wanted to know the truth. She confessed that she is not satisfied at all, would prefer to cum more but that whenever she has tried to ask for it, I would make it such "a big deal" that she would get turned off instantly. She has also been fapping to porn (she didn't want to tell me what exactly) because it's easier than asking me.

All I did was "joke" about how tired I am to make her cum sometimes. She said it happens every fucking time and that she just didn't feel like bothering me anymore. A few anons asked me what's the problem with my energy (I am always tired) and I wish I knew. Fucking her is hard too, it takes a lot of my energy.

I seriously need some help anons or BBC will be a real problem soon.

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I can understand your girl, no one wants to feel like they’re a chore to somebody and give without receiving. If she just fulfills herself on her own, she probably got that attitude from you before you even brought it into words.
They way I personally see it, she will either get sick of this treatment and leave, or have her libido diminished greatly.

Do exercise, dunce. Your lack of energy probably comes from the fact that you're not that active bodywise. Maybe you work a lot too so that would explain the lack of energy but, again, that can be solved with exercise. Don't expect it to be solved in a few weeks, though.

Honestly, it seems like you don't even attract her sexually anymore. Just leave.

I think her libido has been getting low, you're right. Now that I think about it, she used to try to get me in the mood but I would get turned off pretty easily by that (whenever she approaches me like that I just don't like it at all). She stopped doing that at some point and I thought she finally understood I didn't like it. Nowadays we only have sex when I am okay with it, I even say when I want her to be on top and be dominant. Sometimes she'll suck me off on her own accord if I am feeling stressed or sad but that's the only thing. Should I worry about this?

I do most of the chores at my house but I am not as active as her. She works and runs every now and then. I am not fat but I do have some overweight and I am currently unemployed. I know it's going to take some time but I've been trying for too long and I don't see any changes.

>it takes a lot of my energy
How about going to the doctor for a check up

Dunno man, she sounds over it pretty well by now and is just on that 'how and when' of breaking up with you. That's not the kind of language or attitude that someone who loves you will take with you, especially not on the issue of sex.

I'd consider the next talk to be the, "maybe we should break up then" talk.

Well she said it's more my attitude when it comes to make her cum than the fact that she doesn't cum at all. She is a 10/10 loving girl that I'd love to marry one day though. She also keeps asking me if I am satisfied or if there's anything she can do for me. I don't think she stopped caring about it.

She definitely hasnt stopped caring about it but honestly has probably started to give up hope and its probably going to build over time desu. Look up tutorials etc, ask her what turns her on and communicate stop being fucking lazy you piece of shit.

You're an idiot, girls just say that because we don't think you will actually carry through

Ask her what kind of porn gets her off so you can act it out with her. Unless of course it’s bbc, cuckold or pegging if so then you’re fucked my man.

>She has also been fapping to porn (she didn't want to tell me what exactly) because it's easier than asking me.
She has a dick? Nice!
In all seriousness tell her to lay of the porn. Maybe you both go no porn no masturbation to reset shit.

lmao dude, all you have to do is rub her clit and finger her, and it will make her cum. don't have sex, don't let her do much to make you cum until you do her first. it's really not that complicated. always let her have her fun first.

She started watching porn because of me and not cumming for months, she didn't use to do it.

Last thread the guy seriously said he was "too tired to finger her" lmao.
OP deserves to be dumped tbqh.

She is going to fucking dump you dude. Watching porn because you're sexually frustrated with your bf is pretty sad.

BBC's are better, sorry.

Stop being a cunt and fuck her like a real man.

This - be rougher with her. She wants you to act like a man. Choke her (lightly), spank her.

yeah, that's pretty pathetic.

christ, is it that hard to get in shape enough to finger your girlfriend? sounds lazy as shit.

Dude my ex just got diagnosed with lupus schitck accounts for her constant exhaustion. Maybe that's it???

Same user that suggested lupus... unemployment did that to me between jobs. I felt like a loser ghay didn't deserve puss. Perhaps it is an esteem/validation issue?

Essentially, this comes down to you not appreciating your girlfriend enough to take the time to make her feel pleasure. Her frustration at you not putting in the effort makes her desire you less. Have you heard of foreplay? Make her cum as many times as necessary until she tells you to put yourself inside of her. Also, have some nights where you only focus on her finishing, not even worrying about doing so yourself. Take her into consideration, instead of being selfish.

Hey op do u have enough energy to make yourself cum?

Bro she’s taking nudes in the bathroom, I hate to be the one to tell you this

I think the BBC will not be a problem but it already IS. You don't know it yet.

If you are treating her this way with lack of giving then this is no surprise.

>Now that I think about it, she used to try to get me in the mood but I would get turned off pretty easily by that (whenever she approaches me like that I just don't like it at all). She stopped doing that at some point and I thought she finally understood I didn't like it. Nowadays we only have sex when I am okay with it
So basically whenever she is in the mood she cant go to you for sex because you will reject her, is that right? Her wanting it turns you off? I bet her self esteem is great! couple that with you not caring about/giving her an orgasm you're pretty fucked. She will lose attraction for you and if shes turning to porn that's only going to get worse until she ends up not wanting to fuck even when you are in the mood because whats the point? Then you will be bitching that you are the one thats sexually frustrated.

What the fuck is wrong with her to stay with a loser like you this long. You better fucking fix your shit immidiately starting with your attitude cause it's over when she starts talking about how fucking terrible you are to her friends. She is likely very close to that.

You're just a beta male by nature. I am not trying to be mean to you either. But I saw your last thread as well, you are insecure, low energy and a failure as a lover. The solution to your problem is to commit to self-improvement and work on yourself every day. But I doubt you will.

that's not really what makes a man beta. He is just a fucking low quality or severely underdeveloped specimen regardless of being beta or not.

>A few anons asked me what's the problem with my energy (I am always tired) and I wish I knew.
You should see a doctor if you're genuinely feeling perpetually exhausted. Could be any number of fixable things (eg low iron).

Also you don't need stamina to make a girl come. Get good with your hands/mouth, get a toy, etc.

>she used to try to get me in the mood but I would get turned off pretty easily by that (whenever she approaches me like that I just don't like it at all). She stopped doing that at some point and I thought she finally understood I didn't like it.
This is bad on so many levels. First of all, why are you turned off by the fact that your girl is attracted to you? Coupled with your seeming dissinterest in making her come, this suggests a really unhealthy view of her sexually. Second, the fact that you let her continue to do it until she flat out gave up after so much rejection, rather than simply talking about it, is fucking horrible. No wonder she didn't feel like she could likewise talk to you about her level of satisfaction.

Fuck this man, I know that and that's why I had to come here because I really needed help. Self-improvement? When we are in bed and I am actually turned on, all I want to do is sleep because I am exhausted. I do ask her to ride me sometimes. If I don't ask her, I'll just pass out. I have been trying to get more active and do some exercise but it's hard.

Sorry but I just don't like it when girls act all slutty... Like when they open themselves and beg for you to fuck them, or when they start talkin about how much they want your dick in a really slutty way. I am into that and I know I am weird. She knows there are other ways to talk to me that will turn me on much more. It's not her fault or mine, it's just the way it is.

Does running or lifting improve your libido or energy levels? Maybe I'll start doing that if it could help me.

>It's not her fault or mine,
It IS your fault for not communicating your preferences like an adult. It's also your issue that you judge this behaviour, and thus your fucking girlfriend, as being "slutty." There are plenty of things that don't do anything for me or actively repulse me, but I don't degrade or reject my partner over it.

She knows my preferences pretty well, the only problem was that she kept doing that for a long time, got self-conscious about some shit and then she just doesn't know what to say while we're having sex. I did tell her what I like many times but she said it doesn't come to her naturally and if she tries to do it, she gets confused and decides to do something else instead.

>I meant to say I am Not into that, even though it's pretty obvious.

And I don't like sluts and dirty talk like that, what else can I say.

damn what the fuck is your problem ? I want to fuck my girl everyday but she dont want it. and you have the inverse probleme, what are we ?

Fuck this world.

wanna trade bitches bruv ?

You're lazy, unemployed, lethargic, and unmotivated? That's sexy as hell, how is she not constantly horny around you?

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What are you then? Do you fantasize about rape or something? I could understand if the slutty talk felt patronizing, but you sound like you get disgusted if she even shows any sexual interest in you. That's kinda fucked up dude. On top of that, you're self conscious about her not cumming, but i can't tell if you actually care what she really wants and what turns her on.

Also...see a fucking doctor

You want to know the secret to pleasuring any woman, OP? Get in shape and get a good job you fucking beta. Stop lamenting over your average dong, I have a big dong and got cucked by a short ginger who was addicted to adderall that told me his dick was shorter than his phone erect. My mate who is a 5ft 6 Mexican always has hot gfs and exes hit him up for sex on the regular, and he told me that he only has a 5 inch erect penis. I on the otherhand have left plenty of women unsatisfied even though I cant blast their cervix and make it hurt to pee. You know what changed that? I stopped moping in my own self pity, stopped being such a sad cunt, went to the gym and went back to university so I could get a decent job. All of a sudden sex is great, no matter the woman. Women want a man who gets shit done. You think a horse gook like genghis kahn was hung like his steed? No, he had a chink dick, because he is a chink, but that didnt stop him from planting his seed in half the world.
Tldr: It isnt your dick, stop using that as some sort of miserablist excuse for you to change nothing about your life. Get a job and hit the gym. If your gf is in better shape than you, you are pathetic.

I think this is masterful bait, because it REALLY makes me angry.
I hope this is bait, cause if not, you are pretty damn pathetic OP.

>his dick was shorter than his phone erect
what phone did he have? mine stays the same size all the time pretty much

I wish it was. I am not lethargic or anything I do work and do my chores, I just feel like sex is too much for me. I don't know, our preferences in sex and porn are pretty different and I don't know if I can find something we both enjoy. I have been asking her to be dominant for a long time now and she seems to like it but not that much.

She is in way better shape than I am. She used to be overweight (almost obese) but she suddenly lost weight and pretty effortlessly. People hit on her now and she is full of energy. I am still overweight even though I am trying so hard to get fit. Do you think following a schedule would work? Running early in the morning or something like that,

>I am trying so hard to get fit
Oh really?
What are you doing then?

a) you are gay
b) you are a passive beta boy beyond human comprehension
pick one or both, but you sure as fuck are a lethargic piece of shit.
Satisfy your girl or lose her. There you go, those are your options.
Now piss off
>inb4 h-how would I even accomplish such a task??
like any other man does. now get the fuck on it you unbelievable soiboy

And I bet his fantasies are way above what the gf can offer him.

She'd probably accept out of frustration and spite.

I can almost guarantee that she is unsatisfied with a lot more than just sex from you. I don't know your inner dynamic but watch out, she's not communicating and she's likely to shop around to find a new guy before she ultimately ditches you for good. It might already be over even if you fix the sex part.

If you want to keep her around you're going to have to make her feel wanted, in and out of the bedroom. That means stop being a lazy fuck. Chores are nothing and take up such a small portion of the day! She's making all the money and staying fit for you, so do something for her in return. Would you be attracted to yourself right now? I doubt it. If you don't force yourself out of this lazy slump you'll be in a bigger slump before long.

This all started because neither one of you idiots know how to use your mouth and communicate. Fucking talk to each other, not the internet. This is the easy do nothing solution. Sit down with her and actually fucking try.

Surprising? Not even.

I think he mentioned in the other post that they have talked about it before. She tried teaching him how to touch her and what she likes in bed or porn. I don't think she is the one that hasn't tried to communicate.

You don't understand, fingering and a pussy is very exhausting work and it doesn't even make my willy feel nice. I am way too tired for that, I have to wash dishes every other day you know.
I guess it's just impossible for me to solve this problem, there is literally no way for me to overcome this predicament...

Okay virgin, thanks for the advice. Some girls are so out of touch with their bodies that you can never satisfy them. Spend too much time on her, she feels like a burden. Get her off but don't cum, she gets sad. Get off when she doesn't, she feels cheated. Then one day she'll tell you she wants to try anal. She'll tell you she's ready and then cry for 3 hours because you tore her anus. Then she'll blame everything bad in her life on you because you're just not choking her enough during sex and her friend told her about how she can "do better" with her drug dealer. It's all shit. Just finger her for 3 hours and fuck her with your gorilla daddy dick, cum in her ears.

iphone 5 my man. an iphone fucking 5.

get fucking fit then

you don't deserve her tbqh, i hope she finds someone that gives more of a shit about her than you do.

>Man isn't able to "make" a girl cum
>He's trying his best
>Automatically his fault
>No possible way she could have anything to do with it

Fuck this society

I work out a lot, just last week I did 15 minutes on the exercise bike and I still have sore muscles from that.
Could not even touch my girlfriend for three days straight I was so burned out.
Working out is not effective for me, my energy has not increased at all.
Just the thought of literally lifting a finger and pleasing my GF makes me tired...
I hope she doesn't bang black dudes...

Yeah OP is clearly trying his best.
O "I'm too tired to finger her" P
Get real pal.

It doesn't really sound like he's trying his best though does it

get better at sex you little shit. its pitiful that you can't make your woman cum and its not like you are good for anything else either being a fat neet and all

>this is the endgame bro

>Just the thought of literally lifting a finger and pleasing my GF makes me tired...
Is this a bait? Please, stop wasting her time and just break up with her. Jesus, I don't even know... Are you morbidly obese? 15 minutes on a bike doesn't count as a heavy work out, and if anything, it should leave you more energised. user, you are a sorry excuse of a man. I feel really sorry for your gf because you sound like one of these "woe is me" losers who are too lazy do to a thing.

OP here, that's actually another user. I am overweight but not obese so I don't understand why I get so tired all the time. I have a few old friends that are overweight too and they don't get as tired. I have been trying to eat better and healthier which has made it better but I guess I'll start walking or something.

Didn't he say that he didn't like her acting like a slut? That he never cared about her being satisfied until she started spending too much time in the bathroom? I don't know how that is trying his best.

You anemic bro?

I got a blood test a month ago, everything is fine.

Get dumped and let her find a man who isn't a limp-dicked basedboy. You're only making her life worse by sticking around.

You've obviously never even had a girl, incel.

You seem rather jaded from multiple experiences with females who you were unable to communicate with and/or did you wrong.

As for my previous post, I was essentially recommending behavior to help balance out the equation, seeing as how their sexual relationship revolves around him, not feeling up to reciprocating for her. You have to find a middle-ground; meet each other halfway to where you're both able to be satisfied.

>Some girls are so out of touch with their bodies that you can never satisfy them.
Haha what. It doesn't take long to learn what gets someone off. I was coming every session since like the third time I ever had sex.

>Spend too much time on her, she feels like a burden. Get her off but don't cum, she gets sad. Get off when she doesn't, she feels cheated.
That's nothing to to with not knowing her body. If this is genuinely what's happening, sounds like an insecure girl, but you seem like a real unreliable narrator so I'll counter your bias with my own because I can't help but think this one's on you too. Find the balance, dude, it sounds like you're the one who's out of touch with your bodies.

>She'll tell you she's ready and then cry for 3 hours because you tore her anus.
That is ONE HUNDRED PERCENT YOUR FAULT.
WHAT THE FUCK. I could understand if she cried because she just didn't like it, but literally what do you want her do to in this scenario, just not have a rippable anus? You're the one shoving something in there, you break it you bought it!

>I work out a lot, just last week I did 15 minutes on the exercise bike and I still have sore muscles from that.
ok this is officially bait

Just be kinky as fuck dude, watch porn together, eat her ass, hold her down, slap her in the face and chokr her like you wana kill her, write on her, tie her hands behind shit, rub her clit real good and ASK HER WHAT SHE LIKES HOW TO RUB HER CLIT, also say dirty fucking shit, do alota foreplay, have sex in the middle of the night, make her suck on your fingers, finger her in public but like not around other people, women are humans too, user

Also sexting is really good and underrated, send her kinky messages whenever ur horny, wouldnt it really turn you on if someone did that to you?

Fuck OP. Work her with your hand. That's not hard. Especially with practice. If you're trying to do it in a hurry she's gonna sense that. I'm sure you can play video games right? Watch tv and mindlessly play with that clit like its a fidget spinner or a pen to click habitually. I usually end up in the mood even though my back hurts after hearing her groan for five minutes. Five minutes or so dude. If I'm not in the mood, at least she got her handy. That's your job fucker. Stop the bs. Your gonna do it and your gonna like it.

Correct me if I'm wrong ladies.

What if my hand starts hurting pretty bad and I can't move it properly for a while?

OP here, remember he is another user.

Femanon here. It is really sad when we can feel that "please cum already, this is a pain in the ass" from your guy. We give you blowjobs that go pretty deep into our throats and we don't complain (or I don't). Fuck you guys, your hands will feel better in a few minutes anyway.

never said that to any girl in my life lmao.
maybe you are seeing some class A douchebags

Then you should just off yourself you whiny bitch
Uh oh i have a problem but i wont do anything to solve it and ill just complain and whine for all of eternity, if you arent tired enough to get off yourself then you shouldnt be to get her off. The solution except other suggested is to off yourself or find a girl that has just the right amount of sexual tension to have the willingness to fuck you but just not enough to cum. The problem isnt her not cumming and the legendary bbc, but that you dont really want to put in the effort to Work on your stamina but still expect her to fuck you. Fuck off

Getting a girl off is way harder than doing it to yourself, you can't compare. Making a guy cum is easy, you can do it even if you are horrible at it. It's not the same with girls.

Learn to read. You don't need to say it for the girl to sense it.

Making a girl come is easy as fuck. Hitachi wand + 3 minutes of your time, boom, done. Get over yourself and realise you don't have to use your dick.

3 minutes would be a miracle.

Tantric sex. Go slow and have lots of foreplay. You don't need to go fast, just slow and intimate. Take your time, build atmosphere.