Any anons whose lives turned out way better after high school?
I'm kinda bumped right now, no real friends, no girlfriend ever, nothing. I'm pretty confident in myself and I found myself but it's too late. Any anons here whose lives were just as bad as mine ( no gf is a big part ) but turned amazing in college / uni ?
I guess I don't want advice I just want someone to reassure me everything is gonna be okay..
Bumping, I'm coming back soon don't let the thread die please
Of course some people's lives got better. But some people's lives also peak in high school.
I guess, I'm a freshman in College and it's been far better so far than in highschool. I'll have to wait and see though.
I'm still only in my first year of college, so I can't offer any real answer to your question; however, I take issue with the idea that you found yourself too late. Even if you're a senior there's still time to build new relationships. I met one of my best friends from high school during my senior year, and I met most of my other friends junior year. If your friendships aren't that fufilling or if you're the black sheep of your friend group (that was me sophmore year) try to find a different one. Now, that doesn't mean you have to sit with random people at lunch, unless you're confident enough to do that, in which case go nuts, but I bet you have acquaintences in some of your classes, people you talk to in class, but never out of class. Pursue those relationships, talk to them between classes, and ask to eat lunch with them. As for gf, you're own. I went to an all boys school, so I'm still tryin to figure that out myself.
Well it hope mine didn't, if it did that would be quite a shitty story.
Any luck with girls and friends?
It fuctions differently where I'm from. You have your class and all classes/periods you have is with your class.
The people in my class already know who and what I am and don't hate me but don't necesarily want to get closer to me
My lifes better than ever at 30 . I hated high school.
I didn't enjoy school. I felt like I had no real connections (had a group of friends but didn't think much of them). I didn't go straight to uni, and my first job after school was trash and even worse, with the next job a bit better and the one after that even better (socially). I also joined a martial art which improved my social life. I'm at uni now (at 28), I'd say my life has improved a lot since school. Better friends, better social life, more confidence, have a partner now. I feel like a bit of a late bloomer but it doesn't bother me - I'm much better off now than I was then, I'm fine with no peaking at school. Figure I can enjoy it more with the freedom of being an adult
High school was shit for me, only in my final year did I get a little bit more popular. After that College was great even though I dropped out in my final year (failed a module and said fuck it).
Even after being a College dropout my life continued to get better. Because I dropped out in my final year I still had some knowledge in my field and I managed to get a well paying job, my own apartment and car.
My life is pretty great except for living in a city far away from my loved ones. Every stage of life has it's own challenges, if life was easy it wouldn't be worth it. You are still young, trust me the first 2 years after high school are some of the best years of your life.
>Any luck with girls and friends?
I'm seeing someone right now who I met off of Tinder, I'm going to Community college so it's a bit difficult to meet people on campus.
In terms of friends I've strengthened friendships I've had since high school.
Life was garbage during my younger years, high school in particular was the worst part of my life.
Didn't get much better until I turned 26. Now it's better than ever. Not perfect, but WAY better than where I was, and slowly but surely improving every year.
Getting closer is a two way street, user. Even if they're not going out of their way to talk to you, that doesn't mean they'd be put off if you tried to do the same. Realisticly, there are probably at a few people in your class who feel similar to you and would greatly appreciate if you put forth the effort to engage with them. Friendships don't just happen, they require deliberate effort, even if that's just from one party.
Nearly everyone's life gets better after high school. If you peak in high school, then you have failed at life.
what if I peaked in middle school?
Then you really, really failed at life.
If I think about any time in my life, all of it seems like shit and then couple times it was a literal nightmare.
I don't measure the quality of my life by the size of my gf tits.
I think my life has gotten better in several ways since then.
I took a different route than the traditional so let me give a quick rundown:
HS: I was very popular, had a gf and was the center of a popular group of 20ish people.
HS ended, gf broke up with me and I lost all those friends instantly.
I went and got an job/apprenticeship as an electrician and learned that trade.
It wasn't that exciting and I loved school more than the actual work.
When I completed my training, I went to university to study engineering. I worked 60-80h/week to get through the coursework, but it was the best time of my life.
Now I have an master in engineering and I work more or less as a direct continuation of my own project from when I was doing my thesis.
Still no gf, but I have 3 active groups of friends so I don't lose them all at once and I am well liked my many people.
Thank you user, you have no idea how much this means to me.
That's a good start, I'd be okay with that.
I can't just randomly start staking people I hardly even spoke to before, that's kinda strange. I mean, I know the for 3+ years at this point.
Well I'd say that you have a good life, many peole, including me, would wish one just like that
I love this thread it's really wholesome
Yeah they really did help me..
high school sucks for everyone user, there's only so many people that go to your high school and only so many people out of those people that you could potentially get along with, some people just never really make friends in high school. I remember feeling like a social outcast in high school for the first 3 years I was there, even then all my friends were a grade or two below me and before that I never got invited to anything, never went to any dances or anything like that. I guess I kind of got used to that being "the way it was" it wasn't until college that I realized there are so many more people out there who would want to hang out with me and spend time with me. I continued to work on bettering myself socially and physically, put effort into my appearance and I started getting more and more confident and making more friends. Now I get laid all the time, girls want to talk with me and I have a great group of friends and it's all because I didn't give up on myself just because I had a bad experience in high school.
All the popular kids from my high school are losers now and all the lowkey kids are ballin out
The thing is it feels like it's forced socialisation and even when something is fun if it's forced it becomes annoying and less fun.
That's why people from HS make small groups at the beginning and why people like me end up screwed at the end
That's the dream man
High school was the fucking best for me, I would do anything to go back to my two final years, I had fun every single day it was like a dream.
Well it seems like you're in a minority here on Jow Forums, you're the first one who said that
High school ended with me dropping out to take care of a bedfast parent that would die 6 months later. 12 years into the future I have no friends, no family, am a KHV, and absolutely hate my job that consumes 80 hours of every week.
Don't be like me anons. Please find something or someone to love and then pursue it, hazards be damned. A life full of mistakes and accidents is better than this miserable faux-existence.
Damn man that's harsh.
>Peak in HS
Well good news for OP then since he's pretty much starting at rock bottom
>yfw rock bottom IS your peak
That's exactly what I'm afraid of user