I posted on here a couple months back asking for advice on how to improve the sexless marriage/bedroom situation that's been developing at home.
My wife and I have gone from sex "maybe" once every 2 months, to sex nearly every night (with "high quality" masturbation nearly every day).
Here's what I did to change things around:
1) Started going to gym (cardio). My stamina during sex was terrible (was 5' 8" 180lbs, now 170lb). Likewise, I couldn't sustain activity in the bedroom without becoming too winded or outright losing errection due to bad blood flow. This was leading to embarrassing scenario. Wife would blame herself for not turning me on enough, and i started to get anxiety just thinking about my sexual performance. In general, sex was unsatisfying for her and myself. After 4 months of working out, I can jog or use elliptical for 60 minutes straight without batting an eye. This translates directly into sexual performance and stamina. Gone are my ED-like issues. Ive also gained alot of "physical rhythm" which helps sex not be mechanical.
2) strength training. When we first met nearly 8 years ago, i was in my prime aestheticly. I was ripped. I.e. swimmers shoulders/arms and a six pack. I'm not nearly as lean as I was before (early 20s then, 31 now), but I'm definitely wwaaaayyyy stronger than I've ever been (havent plateaued on strength yet). My wife loves grabbing my arms/shoulders during sex, and i can tell she gets super turned on by me dominating/overpowering her in bed (i.e. pinning her arms above her head while i fuck her, while she struggles slightly)
3) Suplements Viagra/sildenafil- when I was having anxiety related ED issues, i swallowed my pride and reached out to a doctor who does telemedicine (videocall based visits). I described my symptoms, and he perscibed me generic viagra (sildenafil). This boosted my confidence greatly, but sex was still scarce. After getting in shape, i no longer use/need them.
Arginine - This is a great vasodialator (relaxes blood vessels). I have a bad habit of drinking 4-6 cups of coffee a day, have a stressful job, and hypertension runs in my family. Constricted bloodflow = difficulty in getting and maintaining errection. This supplement boosts your body's Nitric Oxdide levels leading to greatly improved bloodflow. When combined with sildenifil, I've been able to maintain errections even after cumming and have even cum twice on occassion.
Yohimbine - I read tons of great things about it, been using it for 2 months now. It boosts my sex drive to insane levels. At times, I feel like an Ahego girl in my "need" to cum. I think seeing me squirm and desperate to cum turns my wife on. I literally wake up with massive throbbing errections most mornings . It also seems to have side benifit of being a weightloss supplement.
4) Better self care/hygiene - I wasnt gross or anything before, but at the same time I wasnt really "trying". Now, because of my daily/every other day workouts, I atleast take a hot bath once a day (to relax and to rinse off). The hot water really helps to destress/relax. My wife gets an eyefull and sometimes joins in. I try to shave every day or as soon as I feel stubble (on the off chance she decides to put her tits in my face or wants me to go down on her...stubble leaves a rash on her). I trim my armpit and pubic hair. I also had my wife pick out cologne for me to wear for christmas. Its my ritual now to take a bath and spray cologne before bed. Ive been making an active effort to floss and use mouthwash as well. In general, i look and feel more polished. My wife has followed my lead. She shaves her legs more, uses face masks, blow dries her hair, sprays perfume, wears makeup, etc...various things that she didnt do consistently before...but now she does with more frequency. I sense improved confidence from her. For reference, before we met, she used to be super polished (bleached anus, hair extensions, bikini wax, etc)..i feel like she is swinging back into a routine of self care and improved self confidence. She has hinted at wanting liposuction and a boob job. Ive responded that if she hits her goal weight/fitness and is still having difficulty with some areas that i'd be ok with it. And a boob job would be a dream of mine (though hers are super nice already).
Gavin Sullivan
5) The talk. We've had the dreaded talk/fight multiple times before about how i was unsatisfied with the general infrequency of sex and she was unsatisfied with the quality. Lots of butthurt all around but no real compromise/solution. In general, she didnt enjoy sex like she used to (citing hormones, stress, physical changes, etc) and i was always in a sexually deprived stated. This last time we talked....i was more honest about myself and my own needs. I told her that my sex drive is rearing and ready to go. That especially with all the working out im doing.. my testosterone is high and im super horny. I was clear with her that i had absolutely no desire to cheat on her or anything. I told her that when i get sexually frustrated, sex is literally all i can think about. It drives me mad. So "desperate" bevahior starts to bubble up (grabbing her ass as i walk by, feeling her up in bed at bedtime, etc). We came to conclusion that i really need to masturbate more frequently. This keeps me satisfied, and lets her off the hook/no pressure for sex.
Jacob Edwards
6) self service - ive always been a very sexual person (would spend entire nights fapping away throught my youth). Its literal torture for me to be sexually deprived. Even worse, when i had perception that my wife was holding me back, it caused feelings of resentment and/or shame. Ideally, i fap every day (or more as needed). At some point, I conceeded/offloaded too much of my sexual stimulation to my wife instead of just pleasuring myself. After our talk, my wife gave me free pass to masturbate to my hearts content. I feel like for the first time, im not "hiding my power level". I started with just my hand and my imagination (and use fleshlight to mix things up). However, now that i no longer feel pressured or time restricted (i.e. cum in shower quickly before work)...i am free to have drawn out, slow-building, high quality orgasms. As my sessions grew longer and longer, i hit a limit in my imagination and started to consistently use my fleshlight (otherwise...will deathgrip my dick when fapping)
7) redtube - One morning, i told my wife that i needed visual stimulation and asked her to find something for me. She opened redtube (her go-to) and put on hentai. In general, I like to watch hentai...but mostly for the story, and the animation needs to be good. The clips they have on sites like redtube just dont do it for me. I didnt want to offend her so i fapped anyways. However, its clear that after 8 years of being together...she had no idea about my sexual preferences. So i asked her to list my top 5 categories. She obviously put hentai on it, but in general couldnt fill the list. I told her what i was into/my go-to categories: big tits, creampie, alternate/tatoos, lingerie, red heads. Hentai isnt even top 5. For comparison, her list is: gangbang, DP, anal, errotic massage, teen/petite. At some point, while browsing redtube, an ad for chaturbate popped up. She asked if it was real. Chaturbate being a guilty pleasure of mine...i told her of course its real. We opened up chaturbate and she was instantly entranced... A bit of background...my wife is very much attracted to the female form. One of the best nights of sex in my life was in New Orleans (2014) after a night of drinking and hopping strip clubs on bourbon street. I bought a couples lapdance from a girl she really liked and she was so turned on having a girl rub against her that we practically fucked on the way back to the hotel. When we got to the room she pushed me to the bed and begged me for anal and "needed" me to cum in her ass (only time we've done anal).
As a woman currently in a relatively sexless, miserable marriage
Fucking Bravo
Nathan Moore
Bookmarking the thread on my Jow Forums app, so i can just come back for advice.
Well done OP, you aint a faggot this time.
Gavin Turner
8) chaturbate
Skipping to present day...we went to chaturbate and she picks out a girl who is "goals" to her. Fit as fuck, looks like an instagram model, nice tits, pierced nipples (she wants to ger hers pierced)...in general a body built for fucking. I fap long and hard with my fleshlight, she pulls her vibrator out as well. We both cum. At some point, the camgirl puts dildo in her ass, wife cums again (as do I). Next day, i pick the girl. We both masturbate and cum. Next day, we have sex... she lets me go down on her followed by fucking her brains out. Woke up this morning with errection, fapped to another fit chick. While i was masturbating, she was looking up chest/breast tatoos.
Ive never been so sexually fulfilled as I am now.
In general, my wife gets super turned on watching fit girls and is intrigued by chaturbate (she has even watched it/masturbated by herself to it). She used to have a banging body when she was younger (before we met). Shes really committed to getting back in shape this year...evenmore so it seems after seeing me masturbate to other girls (or watching other girls?)
I honestly believe in my heart of hearts that she is hotter than any cam girl. She has a super hot/fuckable ass (i love grabbing it with both hands when pounding her from behind) and her tits are amazing. Right now she is a bit overweight (5' 7" ~200lbs)....but she got a membership to an interval training center and yoga studio.
It all seems too good to be true! I cant help but feel like this has to have a downside tied into it. Especially given the months of fighting we've had.
To femanons: Should I be concerned? How would you feel about watching/masturbating to cam girls together with your significant other?
Would you be willing to try it and post the results?
We are watching it on our bedroom TV via the PS4 and its internet browser app. Literally, we are both fapping to cam girls. Its hot and im getting turned on just thinking about it.
It seems like a paradox...have more sex by masturbating together to other girls..but it seems to be working in a big way.
Xavier Reed
She is literally obese OP. It is a good thing she is trying to loose weight tough, but you are a bit delusional on this part.
Christian Myers
She carries her weight very well.
She had a bubble butt when she was younger (120lbs?) but had a B cup and was slightly anorexic looking.
Now shes well endowed with a thicc juicy ass and a solid C cup. A good 7.5/10 now, could easily be 8.5 or 9 when she gets back into shape.
Not delusional, just preference. Super skinny girls arent my thing. My previous long-term girlfriend was petite and couldnt take dick very well (would orgasm too quickly/easily via penetration and would pass out if i was too rough).
Its much more satisfying to fuck until exhausted.
Jose Davis
Anyone else have any similar experience with their significant other?
Alternatively...what problems have you been having with sex/intimacy in your relationship?
Angel Gray
thanks for sharing bro my marriage has had some issues too
James Thompson
Kys you degenerate cunt. Your wife most likely has/will cheat on you, considering you can not satisfy her. Someone else will do.
Imagine pounding from behind...80% about to cum and then gf goes completely limp (her legs give out/butt falls down). Or...when missionary, going from screaming orgasm to just limp/completely dead fish. Bascially feels rapey, but not in a good way.
Boner killer
Yes. Its nice to get a girl off fast...but in the long term, I need my needs met as well.
My wife can take a ravishing fuck like a champ. Its a challenge i enjoy. However, because she can only cum through clit stimulation...intimate/slow sex is kinda meh
Sebastian Taylor
I cum pretty fast and my legs dont give out, I just tighten up. You sure she's not faking it bud? Sounds a little melodramatic.
Adrian Miller
Thanks for sharing. >To femanons: >Should I be concerned? It it's working for you guys I really don't think so. Wouldn't work for a lot of couples (especially the more vanilla ones), but it sounds like a good way to keep things varied. >How would you feel about watching/masturbating to cam girls together with your significant other? I think I would be cool with watching porn and masturbating together, but I wouldn't be keen having a live person on the other end. Just a personal preference though. >Would you be willing to try it and post the results? My partner wouldn't be up for it, else I'd consider giving it a go.
Happy for you though OP and a little envious - our sex life is pretty far from satisfactory
John Lee
She's definitely cheating. Reminds me of my ex's actions before I caught her out.
Justin Morgan
Re-reading this after a long day of work. ..I summarize the above with X hints to bring sex back
1) workout 2) groom yourself well on regular basis 3) make clear each persons sexual needs (i.e. ideal number of times to have sex or fap per week) 4) openly talk to each other and understand sexual preferences 5) Set time aside to have "quality" orgasms without pressure. 6) Keep it fresh with toys. Fleshlight for him. Vibrator for her. 7) Choose porn/cam girls for each other
Op here, one thing I forgot. Be Jewish. The best kind of sexual fulfillment arises from having a long line of spiritually pure ancestors.
Aiden Cox
not them but that's something completely different bozo
Carson Phillips
You sound like you have lame orgasms
When my boyfriend fucks me hard and i cum, i walk funny the rest of the night
Hudson Myers
Congrats bro and thanks for the writeup.
Which of the supplements you've been taking would you say made the biggest difference?
Eli Myers
Nah I get that too. Getting that is a lot different then going dead fish as soon as you cum though, don't you think? I'm pretty sure most girls can keep going after cumming.
Evan Flores
sage.
Parker Barnes
>Right now she is a bit overweight (5' 7" ~200lbs) I can tell why you have problems with sex when your wife is literally obese
Anybody would have a hard time getting and keeping it up
Dylan Garcia
>A bit overweight (200lbs) Nigga you ain't fooling anyone. Just admit you like fatties. It's cool since it's your preference, but people will make fun of you more for the mental gymnastics your pulling. Just own that shit and say you like porking porkers.
