Why is it so hard to get a gf? Compared to getting a well paid job or getting Jow Forums, it seems impossible

What the hell? Of course we obsess over it, because it's what we fail at. Life isnt worth living without love so why does the fact we pour so much into finding it even remotely surprising? The entire point of being fit and having a career is to build a family. You dont need either otherwise.

If you do everything in life just to impress women, then your life is shit. You do things to improve yourself and make yourself happy, not for girls. A gf is going to be part of your life, not your life. If you're not okay being by yourself, getting a gf isn't going to make it better, contrary to what this website says. You'll get bored of her later, will want a new one, and your problems will resurface.

>shes part of your life, not your life
Why do you people keep speaking in riddles? Say it clearly. It's like you expect us to continue obsessing over them after we've already got them. Of course they'll only be "part" or my life, or rather, we will be two aspects to one greater life. This is what's called a "family".
What you expect;
>I finally found a gf!
>But now I'm bored now that I dont have anything to strive for and that other girl looks cuter
>now I'm sad again
What will actually happen;
>After a lifetime of hardship, I have finally built a family and I now have a partner to proceed into the future with. I am, for the first time in my life, totally fulfilled and can hang my head high alongside my peers and my forefathers no matter what happens.

If you date a girl and already thinking of getting married with her and having children, you'll be in trouble down the line when she doesn reciprocate those feelings. I'm not speaking in tounges, that is what I said clearly. You have a life, you get a gf, you continue your life. Dont think just cause you get one, life has ended and you won the game, it still goes on, a divorce might happen or she'll pass away. If you built everything around her, and she leaves, you'll feel worse than you did before having her. I hate how this website glorify having a gf means life is done. Just because you say "I'll love her for eternity" doesnt mean your feelings won't change in the future, you'll get bored of her eventually. Get a gf and live by those ideas and expectations you build in your head, you'll soon realize this shit harder than you thought.

You sound doomed to fail user. When people idealize their partners like that it's when they get jelous and possessive because the idea of that person not being around is too much of a shake up to their "plan" then they end up acting controlling and meddling which ends up driving the person away for real

So you hit a snag and break up. Should have picked a better girl in the first place.
This is what I'm getting from your reworked argument;
>"Oh my GOD user, stop worrying so much about finding a job! You know you'll actually have to WORK it, right? If you cant be happy unemployed you wont be happy with a job."
If you cant see the problem after this then I dont know what to say.

That's your fucking problem, you dipshit. Life isn't worth living without love? That's fucking bullshit and an excuse to make it seem like relationships are the be all and end all of life itself. Life isn't worth living if you base the entirety of it on another person. Life isn't worth living if you base the entirety of it off of a concept that is shilled by the media as the "secret to happiness".

Life is what YOU make of it and if you can't live your life without a partner, you sure as fuck won't make it with one. Grow up, live life for yourself and stop being a whiny pissbaby that feels obligated to be in a relationship.

literally anybody can get a gf I mean anybody its just a matter of your standards

???? That's irrelevant, you dodged everything I said
Unemployment != being single
Job != human with emotions

No point talking to you, you'll just change the subject and block your ears. Job,house, food are basic needs, gf isn't. Keep bitching like this and you'll always be miserable.

Well theres nothing else worth fucking doing other than building a family, so what the fuck do you expect me to do? Live for my fucking hobbies?

Stop acting like you're Nikola fucking Tesla that can live on a fucking mountain alone and not go insane. Intimacy is a basic need.

Dodging my points and other people's too again

Alright im wrong, live by your ideas, date a girl and marry her, tell her you love her which will prevent both of you from leaving the honeymoon phase, developing feelings for others such as coworkers and other crushes. She will submit to you as long as you say you love her and want a family, people and life is easy when I get a gf am I right? When she decides to leave you after a 5 years or a 20 year marriage because maybe relationship isn't that easy as you thought, just say, "eh, just a snag, I'll meet someone else, it's not like I'm attached to her or anything".

You think life isn't worth living without love? Love has brought me nothing but stress and worry and heartache. Constantly worrying if she's going to leave me, if I'm good enough. It's mentally draining. I've never been satisfied in a relationship. In many ways I'm happier being single. Also you should know sex isn't all it's cracked up to be. Sure it's nice, but only slightly better than porn and fapping. I consider you one of the lucky ones.

Live for yourself mate. Other people will always disappoint you

I see you still completely missed my fucking point with the job analogy.
>But user! ITLL BE HARD!
>Uhh yeah a job is hard too but I still want one.
>NO YOU DONT UNDERSTAND YOULL HAVE TO DO THINGS FOR A PERSON AND ITLL BE -HARD-
>...
Do you fucking follow me yet
Do you understand the fact that I AM FUCKING AWARE OF WHAT A GOD DAMNED RELATIONSHIP TAKES TO MAINTAIN yet
Do you understand the fact that I still want to go through all that, regardless of what it takes, BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT I NEED TO DO TO GET WHAT I FUCKING WANT OUT OF LIFE yet

Or are we going to be at this for another six hours like I'm arguing with fucking ACK on /m/ or something

Great, then I'll just stay high in my apartment playing video games all day because that's the next best thing to building a family.

You will also disappoint yourself.

>Why is it so hard to get a gf? Compared to getting a well paid job or getting Jow Forums, it seems impossible.
I disagree.

Getting a well paid job is definitely more difficult than getting a gf.
Getting the perfect job is of similar difficulty as getting the perfect gf though.

That's why we settle. On both accounts. The latter is a bit harder to accept though.

Naw dude piss off and be bitchy somewhere else. A job is not a person with emotions, unemployment is not the same as being single, getting a job has different requirements than dating. A job is treated differently than a woman. Keep being bitter, I'll dodge your points like you do to mine and put my head in my ass like you do.

Getting a good paying job is the hardest, retard.

You need experience, knowledge, and references to land a good job. You need drive and motivation to get Jow Forums. Any broke slob can get a relationship.

It really depends on your strengths. For some people gf is super easy but good job is super hard. For others it's the other way round.
It really depends on your fundamentals:
>your physical attractiveness
>your social network
>your talents/accomplishments

For example, you might be an average looking guy and a loser at life, but if you have a big family and know lots of people, you will find it easy to meet girls and thus have a gf just by being exposed to more options.
Handsome men have Tinder.
For those who are neither handsome nor social we are kind of fucked. Super hard to meet girls in the first place, which is entirely the problem. Then also hard to attract them once you meet them.

Why cannot you people understand that some people have a different life experience than yourselves?

Go ahead. You sound like you have a point to make, but instead stopped halfway through.
What is it? What about your life experience makes it difficult?

I'm not going to talk about myself but I will give you examples of people that have a different life experience from you:

Example 1:
>no friends or family
>lives with grandma (only relative) in a small rural town where only old people and a couple young families live
>ugly (not an understatement)

Example 2:
>physically disabled
>ugly
>smart

Example 3:
>Rural and religious
>Lives in hip liberal city
>No friends or connections in this city
>Staying because of his good job

Example 4:
>intelligent
>extremely short e.g. 5'1
>non-white in a white country
>poor family background but now middle class
>no friends, small family

Example 5:
>Not ugly
>Not friendless
>Cannot have sex because of medical issues

Granted, these are all extremes but who do you think goes on the internet to lament about their love life if not extreme cases like these?
All of these examples are people I know of IRL. Some of them are my work colleagues.

Why would you want some whore who only "loves," you for the things you can provide her? Take the gaypill bro, women aren't worth it.

I found a niche in escorts. They are usually above average in attractiveness, usually have daddy issues, and you have a big advantage for knowing they are escorts (because they know 99% of men wouldn't want them).
I don't mind her fucking other guys, that's the only thing required.

This has to be a bait thread, either this or my friend you are so hideously deformed not even your mother would want to see your face. I've seen guys that are ugly and even those guys have at least 1 person next to them offering their support. IF you can't find a gf and you are a fairly average dude, your standards are too high or you have no job and no life whatsoever.

>IF you can't find a gf and you are a fairly average dude, your standards are too high or you have no job and no life whatsoever.
You left out the most obvious cause relevant to 4channers: crippling autism.

I'm just lonely and want to grab some tit man chill out

>What you expect;
>>I finally found a gf!
>>But now I'm bored now that I dont have anything to strive for and that other girl looks cuter
>>now I'm sad again
this is literally what happens tho