Can asexual people be successful in non-sexual areas of life?

As background I am a dude and am turning 30 soon. I have never had a girlfriend or even dated; I have never had any interest in being in a relationship with a girl. I guess I'm not actually asexual, because I had sex with girls when I was in my late teens/early twenties, and I fuck prostitutes a few times a year. But I don't feel any emotional attraction toward women.

I worry about how this affects other areas of my life though. As a man who has never had a girlfriend, I feel like other people look down on me (or, according to my father, just assume that I'm gay). I work in sales for a big corporation so all of my colleagues are people who are married or in relationships, and I feel like this makes me stand out as some sort of 'other' and probably has a tangible effect on my career and overall social standing. It's not like I can tell people "I don't date but don't worry, I bang hookers."

What should I do? It's easy to say "Just be yourself", but in my case I feel like this is making me less relatable to my colleagues and clients, which hurts me in the long run. In a way, my situation is kind of like what a closeted gay person would have faced during past periods in history when being gay was not as socially acceptable. In fact, it's probably worse, because at this point a person who just wants to have sex and not be in a relationship is looked at as worse than a regular gay person.

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Can’t you just lie about a relationship make up a new girl every once in a while

I believe that's referred to as being aromantic. Definitely not a socially acceptable thing as some people can take that as not being able to see women as anything other than sex objects. You can do what other people suggest and lie about having a girlfriend or you can just avoid the topic altogether and claim your private about dating which in my experience is actually common.

>In a way, my situation is kind of like what a closeted gay person would have faced during past periods in history when being gay was not as socially acceptable. In fact, it's probably worse, because at this point a person who just wants to have sex and not be in a relationship is looked at as worse than a regular gay person.

Yes, very true.
You can't do much desu - or you lie about it and pretend you have dating life, or you can come out as asexual and get ready to give explanation to people about asexuality as a thing.
I recommend you the second one, it's tougher but lies don't feel good and can't last forever.

I have an asexual friend and if at first everyone is like "what the fuck is that even" after a while everyone understands. People won't care for long about your sexual habits whatever they are, and probably things will just get easier for you

I will be brutally honest. Your life will be hell. Give up your meme "orientation", seek a professional who works with people with sexual issues. See a doc to check your hormonal levels. I fell for the asexual meme too before finding out I had mental trauma, too much stress and bad hormones. Everyone else I knew irl who was asexual turned out to be the same. Usually having hormonal problems. In the end, they suddenly all became straight.

Hey OP. Usually I'm all for "be yourself", but an unfortunately part of that is "accept the repercussion of that". Society is fairly normative and set up to support and congratulate those who do the typical family man thing. This is for a healthy evolutionary reason of course and there is an argument that if I was having to lay off staff I would take into consideration shit like ... two equal workers, one with a family to support, one without into my decision. Even trying to relate to people doing the normal thing is going to be increasingly difficult.

So yeah, don't play by the rules for long enough while within the system where you benefit from the rules? Expect to eventually be rightfully marked at an interloper destined for eventual removal.

How does this help you? I guess it doesn't. You have failed even within your own niche to find a way to coexist and be part of the world with others which is an important skill. I know a MtF transgendered autistic edge lord and even he has an equally autistic butch lesbian house mate to stay connected to some form of reality.

Welp, bro its okay to not have or be in a relationship, but maybe your becoming more conscious of this part of your life because maybe a piece of yourself (subconscious) kinda thinks it's time for you to settle down or maybe wants for you to be in a relationship for whatever reason. Maybe you truly want more than what a hooker can give you, maybe this is the new experience you actually need. Even though you might not have found the right partner and even though you find it hard to create relationships, if you start trying maybe things will fall into place easier.

Also maybe your hunch is correct, maybe not having a relationship marks a bigger issue that's looming over your life or at your job, maybe not, but to find out maybe you should ask yourself some questions:

1. ask yourself if its normal
2. ask yourself if this is the way you want your life to be
3. ask yourself if there's something about yourself that you can change to become better
4. ask yourself if you really like the way your life is
5. ask yourself how it can be better
6. ask yourself is there any benefit to being in a relationship

some of these questions may seem redundant, but what i'm trying to stress is really dwell on these questions.

figuring out the issue is half the work though, so if you think you have something then be proactive to make it happen. also the answer might be something hard to change, but if that is the case be willing to change it and go the distance anyways bro.

You got this, even though it might be hard, you can do this. So go for it.

Asexual people don't need to be fixed.

Fuck off, go back to tumblr. Millions of illnesses have side effects that include "lack of sexual need". Schizoids are a popular example. It is not an orientation, it is a side effect. One that keeps you miserable until you get help and find out the root cause of your problem.

>Millions of illnesses have side effects that include "lack of sexual need".
That's true but it doesn't mean that behind no sexual and romatinc desire there must to be an illness always. It's not asexuality that makes people like OP miserable, it's being judge like a weirdo from the entire society because he doesn't fully fullfill its standards.