How do I become someone worth loving
How do I become someone worth loving
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Step 1. Learn to love yourself
I actually can't figure out how I've kept trying but I keep end up back where I started
See step 1
Here's why loving yourself is kept you keep improving to keep your figuring out how to do the keeping yourself in your own love.
As intelligible a response as the first one. Find things to do with your time op. That isn't Vidya or TV.
You can't. You're fucked.
>become lovable by loving yourself
>but can't love yourself because not lovable
That's called mental illness user. Get help.
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No, it's called shit advice. If someone feels unlovable, saying "just love yourself first" is worthless.
Yeah but the cycle of not loving oneself because you don't feel loved is mental illness.
Oh, nevermind, I mistook you for someone trying to add to the conversation.
Kill yourself and try to be reborn as someone with better genetics. And don't fucking touch any plastic next time around. They give you tits and make your penis small.
Get a six pack, step 1 will be easier to accomplish then
Enjoy your life as a beta provider, cuck.
>has cuck porn downloaded
>calls someone else a cuck
The best thing a cuck can do is support eugenics by convincing other reject births to give up their pursuit.
As a 26 yo. Man I can tell you that if you didn't learn to love yourself until the age of 15 then you will never do it.
Depression and heartbreak will always creep on your back and you will never have a normal life.
Can confirm because the heart finger is hurting as I speak
This is proven by science as well. Most changes that take place in the brain (well, the few that can actually be affected by environment) are cemented by adult hood. If you reach your late teens depressed, then you will always be depressed, and there's nothing you can do about it.
Anyone who claims to have "cured" their depression was never depressed in the first place.
You're already worth loving, and remember, love is an action not a feeling (see: Gos already loves you so much he died for you )but sometimes you have to put in work to make others see it. You have to think of loving as something you give, not something you get. Start by giving the world the gift of a physically fitter version of you, becoming more attractive/apparently useful to others:
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Do calisthenics, get into a running routine, lift weights. Head over to
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Once you got routine and you start getting more stamina/strength after a weeknor two, it's time to put yourself out there. Go volunteer, for basically anything. You'll be helping someone, and you'll be making friends/connections.
I could ramble about other self-improvement advice, but hopefully it will be self-evident what you gotta do after you've established some genuine fellowship.
Money and generosity without greed. Power, but not abusing it. Mastery, but not desire to control. Be passionate, but be tranquil and humble. Wellness in heart and mind.
Everyone whines about "why won't anyone love me", then alternatively whine "why won't they only love me if I do X or Y thing". Like, maybe all there really is to it is just being more positive, being friendly, and working hard? You have to do good in this world, and you can't do good for anyone if you're stuck hating or pitying yourself.
recognize youre not perfect and accept who you are right now. Then try to be a better version until you die.
Sorry, I don't know the whole path because I didn't reach its end myself either, but this is a good start:
1. Take care of yourself.
Yes, even if you're disgusted by the prospect, it has to be done. And do it properly.
Force yourself to do so if you have to, but afterwards take a while to look at the results.
Take notice of even something as trivial as proper hygiene. You're now clean, smell nice and your looks improved.
That's noticed and respected by others, why not you? Because it's routine? That's bullshit and you know it.
Take proper care of yourself and realize how valuable all these menial daily chores actually are.
Because, like it or not, they are.
2. Earn your own respect.
Look at other people you respect and ask yourself - what makes them worthy?
Then do it. Achieve it. Even if at first it seems hopeless don't give up before reaching a respectable level.
Start with simple things so you can progress relatively quickly and get results that'll motivate you to undertake greater projects.
Once you got that covered you can step up to bigger game.
Best of luck!
Not true, I learned at 17 (when I got my first job)
Im in the same boat OP. I hate myself for being a lazy idiot with no drive or motivation in life. Im almost 30 and didnt archive anything in life yet. The people who said that its too late to change yourself after your teens have a point. I dont feel like it works for me anymore.Theres no way I could still become a better person. A person that loves himself and is loved by others. Is 30 a good age for a modlife crisis or is it too early? I feel like mine has just began