How can I convince my gf to get some kind of birth control? We've been together for 1...

How can I convince my gf to get some kind of birth control? We've been together for 1.5 years and I'm just about done with condoms. she doesn't want to go on the pill, because it can cause depression, she doesn't want to get an iud because it supposedly hurts, and her sister got the arm implant thing and made it sound like the worst thing in the world

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Quit being a pussy about it. A condom isn't that big of a deal. You gonna marry the bitch or not?

there’s a shot she can get too. depo provera. you have to get it every 3 months. birth control of any kind isnt guaranteed to cause depression btw and she can always stop and try something else if the side effects are bad.

>she doesn't want to go on the pill, because it can cause depression,
You’re being a dick desu. My gf doesn’t want to take birth control either. She said she tried it before but it made her feel like shit all the time. Birth control messes with their hormones.. why do you want your gf to feel like shit all of the time? Just so you can have sex without a condiment 1% of the time you are with her

Stop pressuring your gf and be glad that you're at least getting sex. The pill can have many different side effects, some of them very debilitating, and yet men insist that women take them because a condom reduces their pleasure *slightly*. Grow up and stop being selfish.

Spoken like someone who has never worn a condom

>a condom reduces their pleasure *slightly*. Grow up and stop being selfish

well I'm not OP but I fucking hate condom, they make me feel extremely uncomfortable and I don't enjoy really enjoy sex as much when I'm wearing one. Maybe you're like that too, guess you'll discover it once you'll have sex you retarded fedora knight, and you'll learn that "growing up and stop being selfish" works both ways

I have an IUD and it's the best thing in the world. It doesn't hurt past insertion and that really only lasts for about 1 minute. You get minor cramps like you would on your period for a few days after but then its good for about 5 years. You need to get only a few check ups on it to make sure everything's alright but besides that it's great. It's one of the most effective birth control ways. I would suggest you do a fair amount of research on an IUD with your girlfriend to see if it's the right route for you and her.

Also it lightens your periods after some time. Do not listen to horror stories about IUD's, they're from weird people who think birth control are from satan.

>well I'm not OP but I fucking hate condom, they make me feel extremely uncomfortable and I don't enjoy really enjoy sex as much when I'm wearing one. Maybe you're like that too, guess you'll discover it once you'll have sex you retarded fedora knight, and you'll learn that "growing up and stop being selfish" works both ways

Not him, but as a dude who has a gf that *is* on birth control, it obviously fucking sucks for her.

She just got hers replaced and she’s been “spotting” (aka bleeding) for the last 3 weeks. Before that she was bleeding for a solid 5 months straight (which is why she figured it was time to get it changed even though it wasn’t 4 years yet since her last).

In addition to the physical bleeding, she has cramps that can last for days at a time, random weeks where she has crazy irrational mood swings that make her feel like she’s going insane because even she feels it’s fucking retarded to start crying because she saw a cute puppy on the sidewalk, but she just can’t stop it from happening, and a slew of other side effects.

And the crazy thing is, the doctors say *all* of that is perfectly normal. The only thing she can do is tough it out and hope it goes away after a few months.

We’d be using condoms (and used to) except we found out she developed some kind of allergy to some material in a lot of condoms, that always ends up in her getting UTIs, and she figures she’d rather deal with the occasional crazy than the constant infections. (Also the copper IUD plug thing scares the shit out of her)

Condom suck. No question.

But that is a completely fucking uneven comparison you’re making there dude. If you’re thinking her 24/7 crazy+pain is equally balanced to your 5 to 30 minutes of reduced pleasure... that would pretty much be the case book definition of “selfish”....

did you stop and think for a moment that not every person responds the same way to hormonal drugs, and that in fact your gf happens to be a very rare and unfortunate type of responder?

don' try to generalize pill effects with your own cherrypicked experience

>she doesn't want to go on the pill, because it can cause depression,
Severe side effects are extremely rare, and idk about depression specifically but effects should wear off soon after she stops taking it (which she can at any time).

>she doesn't want to get an iud because it supposedly hurts
Only on insertion. That said, you should look up a video of the procedure before you get annoyed at her for not wanting to go through with it. And you should furiously google whether it can stab you in the dick, just for the sake of experiencing a small amount of the fear that women have to go through when researching birth control methods.

>and her sister got the arm implant thing and made it sound like the worst thing in the world
Insertion's painless and it can be taken out at any time. Being on it also has the potential to be an absolute period-free breeze.
Just make sure the doctor who puts it in is able to take it out, and more importantly WILLING to take it out. You hear a lot of stories of doctors insisting "just give it another month, just give it another month" meanwhile you're queefing out a Shining elevator every morning. Fuck that.
As a general rule, the first 3 months can be a bit rocky, but wherever you are by the end of that is a good indication of the road ahead.

So you're basically asking your girl to gamble with her quality of life for a few months, whichever method she chooses. For some women it's a worthwhile search, but for yours it might be too much to ask and you have to be prepared for that. You also have to be prepared for the possibility of her trying several methods, hating all of them, and going back to condoms.
Also understand that birth control has the potential to fuck with you 24/7, not just when you're at immediate risk of pregnancy. Big commitment.
I would personally encourage every woman to at least TRY, for the sake of taking their fertility into their own hands, because it has the potential to be amazing. But it is a big deal.

I’m aware of other cases from other friends and even other girls I’ve dated where that isn’t the case.

But it’s also not an uncommon scenario, and when one one end, that is the potential risk (or worse) vs on the other end, the only real consequences are you not being able to enjoy the sex as much for the 5 minutes you penetrate her...

It’s pretty fucking clearly one sided.

Be fucking real here. If you’re going to try to pretend to be fair, you gotta keep things in perspective.

This shit is heavily fucking skewed in terms of who it impacts more, and it’s heavily skewed in the direction of women. That’s why it should be *their* choice, because they’re the ones who have to deal with all the potential serious consequences and side effects, not you. All you gotta worry about on your end is your dick doesn’t feel as good.

there's at least 10 other forms of birth control make her use them or dump the bitch

Fucking thank you. You're a good man and your gf is lucky to have you, user.

An alternative, OP: get a vasectomy. You'll be able to cum in your gf without a condom that way and you won't have to pressure her into anything.

Yeah, even if you break up then you don't need a condom ever. So you don't have to continue forcing women to get birth control they don't want.

Condoms are expensive

Condom price:
$0.50 to $1 per condom

5 fucks a week = $2.50 to $5 a week.
>About $10 to $20 a month.
>$120 to $240 a year.

Implanon price:
$800+
Lasts for 3-4 years
>$200 to $266 per year
>$16 to $22 a month

Birth control pill:
>$15 to $60 a month (according to planned parenthood and insurance claims, but recently that kinda regulation stuff is being dumpstered all over by Trump, so those prices are probably only going to more expensive)
>$160 to $600 a year

Doing the math, not more expensive than birth control apparently.

So is the pill. Your point?

I guess that he thinks it will be cheaper for him because he assumes that his gf will be paying for the pill, not him.

>also not an uncommon scenario

yes it is an uncommon scenario you mongoloid, there are girls who aren't affected in any way and I haven't suggested in any way that a girl should take a pill if it makes her end up a trainwreck like your gf


>You're a good man and your gf is lucky to have you, user.

lmfao for what? he's spurting shit that is basic decency, making up strawmen left and right


jesus christ this thread is the retarded cucks circlejerk

>lmfao for what? he's spurting shit that is basic decency, making up strawmen left and right
Because many men, including you, unfortunately can't into basic decency.

>including you

Amuse me and try to explain me how so.

That shit usually makes the girl fat. (Which triggers body image problems)

Haha I get ED when wearing a condom so I never have to.
Can a mental problem be good? Yes it can.

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The stuff the gf of the user you're replying to experiences isn't that rare. Random spotting, cramps, irritation, and mood swings are all expected when you get on birth control. While you're right that not everyone responds the same (not every girl will get 5 months of pain and discomfort, instead they might get 1 or 2 or 6 months) the point is that the general response to birth control is all these random spottings, cramps, irritation, and mood swings.
I take BC and all this sucks, so don't as general advice don't look down on a gf if she doesn't want to take it.

Well his gf is not alone, i'm exactly like that too. Been taking my current bc since mid august and the bleeding has only stopped THREE TIMES for like 2 days so do the math. I have terrible mood swings, i see a hamster and i start crying cause its so cute or get really mad at my bf for the dumbest things. It has also made me so fucking jealous i hate it. I used to be porn positive etc now if he for an example mentions an actress( i didnt know) was considered very hot in the 2000s i get really hurt and mad but i don't express it which makes me really dislike him. I'm also really disgusted by and hate men when they're horny(?????). Like wtf is going on with me i just want this to be over.

To make things worse, my bf has/had terrible death grip or something similar so he doesnt even cum from sex. He stopped watching porn in august. No matter what we do (anal, i dress up, blowjobs, thigh jobs, foot jobs, bondage, oil, dirty talk, you name it) it doesnt work. So me suffering is kind of in vain. The only way he cums is when he jerks himself off with me on top of him. I doesnt matter if i do the exact same thing as him, he doesnt cum from me. He was i virgin when we got together and we've been together for 8.5 months now and i have NOT ONCE been able to make him cum. No joke. He says he just doesnt really feel anything. He's 19 and im 18 btw.

What do

>don't look down on a gf if she doesn't want to take it

I've never even suggested something like that.

>not every girl will get 5 months of pain and discomfort, instead they might get 1 or 2 or 6 months

You are impying that every girl will experience pain in the end, while this is not true. And then again, I'm not forcing any girl to take bc, but since a shitload of girls take it without any problem OP gf might was well try it before sperging out


>What do

what about fucking stop taking it for a start?

the issue here is clearly your boyfriend dick, not much you can do about that, he needs to get a fucking grip (lmao) and understand if it's a physical or psychological issue, then act on it

Your responses to this thread are a clear indication of your shitty character. Any man who prioritizes his dick over the physical/emotional health of his partner ain't shit.

We still fuck a lot and he lasts literally hours so no bc and condoms are not an option

>You are impying that every girl will experience pain in the end
I can guarantee you every girl will feel some pain and discomfort within the first 3 months of birth control

>prioritizes his dick over the physical/emotional health of his partner

Yes I want all girls to be miserable, bleeding and fat because my dick is more important. It's what I've been saying in all my posts. Thanks to your superior intellect you've finally extrapolated it, you're truly a righteous, smart man. God I wish I was your gf.


if you're bleeding like a stuck pig and having behaviour problems you really need to stop you dumb fuck. as I said your retarded "bf" needs to get his dick or head checked.

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Alright then just force your gf on the pill you faggot. Or just use the pull out method, I guarantee it works 100% of the time, and if it doesn't just get an abortion.

Just pull out dude. Having a kid is a risk of sex. If you can’t support a kid you shouldnt be fuckin. Contraceptives were a mistake.

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Your girlfriend will most likely be less horny on the pill and you won't get laid as often.

Did he stop fapping? Cause that sounds rough.

>my bf has/had terrible death grip or something similar so he doesnt even cum from sex.
>we've been together for 8.5 months now and i have NOT ONCE been able to make him cum. No joke. He says he just doesnt really feel anything.

I had a similar thing, probably a mental block/inability to fully relax enough to feel things.

I *wasn't* a virgin though, before my gf I had three partners prior, and never came with any of them.

I think at some point I developed a bad habit where I just decided, fuck it, I'm not going to cum anyway so I may as well take care of the girl, cus that's pretty fun to watch, and otherwise all that's going to happen is she's just going to be tired and sore as hell, and also pretty disappointed when it doesn't happen (the first time's usually fine, but eventually there's a certain look of hurt you can see in a girls eyes when it doesn't happen enough times). I remember I even faked a few times.

Eventually I met my girlfriend, and... after about a year, I started to loosen up enough where I started to be able to cum.

I think the first time was after like 1 or 2 hours of sex, and we were at my parents house, in my own bed, and I just kinda stopped overthinking and just relaxed and let her do her thing. And I finally just let go enough to actually enjoy things.

I don't know, maybe his case is different, but that's what it took for me.

I probably have a lot more baggage than your boyfriend though, (I'm older, which means more shit to live through. That was at 26/27.) maybe your boyfriend has something completely different. Who knows. Just saying, it's not like you're always gunna have to hit a dead end.

protip: anal sex is natures birth control

This happened when i put my ex girlfriend on the pill.

When she wasn't on the shit, her sex drive was fine. The moment she started using it her sex drive went completely down the drain. She no longer felt the desire to have sex and the intercourse itself became painful regardless of how much lube we used. The only thing she could still enjoy was getting eaten out.

Unless you creampie her anus and some of your nut flows out of her anus and creeps into her vagina.

Don't you feel the IUD during sex?
I've heard from several people about that being an issue, also with the string generally being uncomfortable and in the way

Have you ever heard of V A S E C T O M Y?
Done that shit 2 years ago and never had any regrets. If ill ever see that fuck that always posts the charts of post revasectomy pregnancy rate im going to flip. Pills can also make your girl have a harder time becoming pregnant in the future plus it doesnt really take into account that when you get older you it will be harder to have kids solely based on your fucking age. Yes you, i fucking hate you.

But seriously if you care that much get a vasectomy, literally my best financial investment so far. If you arent willing to get a painless short surgery that will make you able to go raw till you get a revasectomy forever and instead want to pressure somebody to get a pill that can cause phisical pain, nausea, depression, severe loss of sex drive (which will basically make her taking the pill redundant), and basically feeling like hot garabage you dont really care that much about no condom, and its more about your personal convenience.
Dont expect girls to put out if you dont put in the effort yourself for the love of god

Not the one i wanted to reply to, meant OP, and literally anyone who thinks like that tho

Ye he stopped fapping, only with me he jerks off

Is there any way i can make him as comfortable as possible? We already have the "no judge environment" as we call it and we've never told anything bad about each other's performance etc

You could use your hand too to fill in and not have sex as frequently you know. I don't know how girls feel about that though, they might think you're mentally cheating on them with someone else.

Bump

Be celibate until marriage. Fellas like you are little more than future child support checks.

You know that the arm implant, the hormonal IUD, the mini pill and the shot all have the same basic hormones (slightly different but all contain progesterone), right? Her only other options would be the combo pill or nonhormonal IUD and she doesn't seem interested in any of those. I don't blame her, I went through almost a year of hellish side effects before I realized I am intolerant to BC that is progesterone-based (constant bleeding and insane moods), and I lose my sex drive on the two types of hormonal BC pills I've tried, and I refuse to use an IUD because of ectopic pregnancy risk or it falling out of place and the pain. I also make my bf use condoms with spermicidal lube, my bf has no issues with it (he did have condom sensitivity issues but it turned out his were too small) maybe you need smaller/bigger/or thinner condoms. The bottom line is that your gf's health is her responsibility and you should really look to solve your own issue with condoms before trying to make your gf get on a medication she doesn't want to take. A relationship is about compromise, you think she should have to compromise her health so your peepee can feel better? I'll echo what others have said, grow up

That faggot that posts the chart is ignorant anyways, any responsible man would get his spermcount rechecked periodically since they inform you after the procedure there is a risk of it reversing itself

CHEQUE! it's cheque not "check"
Damn American spelling starting to piss me off, when you write an amount of money on a slip of paper to cash at a bank you are writing a cheque, not a check, you aren't checking anything.

My exwife was on birth control and she stopped ovulating altogether, plus she went psycho regularly.
Fucked up part is that her doctor said she "needed" it.
Just knock her up bro, instead of posting on this Korean antique camera board.

>vasectomy

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Are you the same ahithead from the previous time? Just stop posting this, break up, and go bear back with some prostitutes. You don't care about or value her feelings or health and it's a waste of time to keep asking hoping for some magic answer to your "problem" when you won't listen to any actual advice and argue with everyone.

Fuck off op.

Are you a 10 year old that just discovered the difference between American and British english? There are over 100 differences. You're basically correcting someone for nothing you pedantic limey fuckwit