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FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like ?
>What do girls/guys think about
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, .

>I'm an insecure/suicidal/anxious person who doesn't leave home
Watch these and follow these channels:
youtu.be/S8CNAiKZEEM
youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_K7XH1AIG8wZtQSM56Tyc-CR9ypvCbrF

>Guys insecure with their 4+ inches dick
Fuck off

>Why is there no new thread?
Create one yourself. You can use these macros: imgur.com/a/y6BF2

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What makes some men good with women to the point where they can have sex whenever they want and other so bad they can't get it at all?
Surely it can't just come down to physical appearance?

Not *just* physical appearance as such, but personality and charisma, as well as confidence. Experience is also a very large part of it.

Test

What is the correct view of relationships, sex, and women (for men)?

What could make a gay girl interested enough to at least try dating a guy?

Asking because I know this girl l, who people claim is gay (no visible signs, but apparently she confessed to someone, and it didn't go all that well for her). And well.. she's cute, and I kinda like her, and I'd like to give it a shot. Hoping to get some advice on how to make her not outright reject my advances.

I don't ask how to keep her interested for life, just enough to actually make the first steps. Figuring she might be bi enough to at least make it semi work out with me.

Women are for sex.
If you can't get sex from women just like that, try to get into a relationship and get it by trading for commitment.

Why was he hardly looking me in the eyes last two times we had sex?

a female friend turns 25 next week, what could possibly be a cool gift for her?
she loves dogs and cats, kinda into music but not fashion at all
she loves partying and hiking
she has a bf

we're 4-5 friends who would buy her one gift, let's say 2-300€

Nothing significant, your over thinking it

Could be something as simple as nervousness or shyness. These things still come up in the most intimate of circumstances.

When you're about to cum do you tell the girl? Do you ask her if it's ok to cum inside her?

Girls, guys too i guess

I'm currently seeing my ex-gf again for nearly a month now
She broke up about 4 months ago, had some on and off stuff a month into it, her telling me she slept with some other guy

And it just happend that we spent some days after a christmas party together, things went from there

Now it seems like we're back together, from the looks of intimacy we're exchanging, sex too, yet i'm kind of scared to have "the talk" as that might appeal to her uncertainty deep down

Then again, i have no idea if she's still meeting up with other guys, or even having sex with them
Did the mistake of fucking her raw the other night

>When you're about to cum do you tell the girl?
yes unless you've talked about it beforehand.

>Do you ask her if it's ok to cum inside her?
absofuckinglutly yes. never ever ever do that without express permission. unless you're in a long term relationship with the AND you've already discussed it previously.

Do girls actually like sucking dick?
If so why?

FUCK I saw a survey about this like a week ago but I can't find it again.

It was basically most (I think it was like 60-70%) women are pretty ok with it, they either love it or they do it because they love their man and want to pleasure him.

Same for guys giving cunnilingus, in fact more guys like licking pussy than women like giving head.

>What is the correct view of relationships
Big topic, probably anything healthy and mutual is fine
>sex
See above
>and women
See above? Not my department.

Is it possible for someone in a committed relationship to develop feelings for someone else?

Just spent a few days talking with a colleague, and we have a lot of chemistry and things in common. If he weren't in a relationship we'd probably end up together, that was clear from the first time we met.

I know nothing will happen because he's been in a relationship for years and lives in another country, but if I feel a lot of chemistry, is it likely he does too?

How to make friend with girlies? Often times when I think we're having a nice conversion, they they think I'm flirting with and then rejecting them

>is it likely that emotions occur?

Yikes I hope you are looking for a serious relationship, and not just a cum&dump. Otherwise you are a grade A asshole.
>What could make a gay girl interested enough to at least try dating a guy?
Personality. Through and through. Your appearance literally doesn't matter, because unless you can straight up pass as a girl, you are not going to be physically appealing either way. Just make sure your looks don't scare her off (in the hobo sense, aka. Shave, bathe, take care of your hair, etc).

Go for the friend angle. Buddy it up, become her best friend. You aren't going for a girl looking for a normal relationship with you, so the "friendzone" is the best case for you, because you won't be considered a viable partner under normal circumstances. Build it up, make it sure you are increasingly interested, and go for a straight up "want to move in together?" Option.
>Asking because I know this girl l, who people claim is gay (no visible signs, but apparently she confessed to someone, and it didn't go all that well for her). And well.. she's cute, and I kinda like her, and I'd like to give it a shot. Hoping to get some advice on how to make her not outright reject my advances.
>I don't ask how to keep her interested for life, just enough to actually make the first steps. Figuring she might be bi enough to at least make it semi work out with me.
You might be lucky and have her be actual bi, with interest in guys. If she isn't, your best bet is taking it extremely slowly.

If you hope to smash, you are better off going for literally anyone else. Chances are she won't let you, and do it reluctantly at best if you do manage to get something going.

Personally speaking, as a gay girl who really struggle with guys, I can sorta get around giving oral (it's pretty easy, at least from my limited experience, got him off extremely quickly), anal is alright if I have to, but vaginal is basically out of the question, and never comfortable. It lasted for almost a year.

After a date kinda thing I haven't seen or talked to the girl I like in about 5 days. Is this really bad? Maybe it's not and maybe she thinks about me more because of that just like I think about her.

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I'm a gay girl, and I can be alright with it. Don't see why anyone would have a problem, if you expect someone to go down on you, you go down on them.

Always follow up the next day. Something as simple as "hey I had a lot of fun and would like to do this again sometime".

As of now she's probably sitting at home why this guy she went out with isn't talking to her. She's probably now thinking that you're not interested in her so why bother contacting you?

are you completely anti penetration or is it only with penises? eg would you enjoy fingering from a girl.

I mean I'm thinking the same thing and that made me like and think about her even more.

Older women in their late 20s, early 30s and upward seem to find me VERY attractive, they outright tell me "I am VERY attracted to you", or one looked me up and down and said something along the lines of "You know full well how good you look" (I don't) and stuff like that. I got those ladies downright swooning over me.
However, girls my age or younger don't seem to share that sentiment.
In fact, they seem almost repulsed by me.
How can this be? Does a womans sense of attraction shift that much over a couple of years? Am I handsome or not?
Other men sometimes compliment me on my looks too, but never girls that would fall into my dating pool.
What does it all mean?

Just text her. Don't be upset if she ghosts you. If she doesn't, go for another date.

it's because you got that "I fuck cougars" tattoo on your forehead

Convince me to not re-install Tinder.
I tried going for girls in real life, now I'm more depressed than ever.
Turns out trying earnestly and failing hurts like a bitch.
At least with Tinder I get to blame external circumstances.

I don't fuck cougars though, I want young, tight pussy.

why did you get the tattoo then?

But I don't wanna be needy and pushy.
Why shouldn't she do it?

Relationships as in men-women. What are they supposed to look like. I've been raised on porn and have been avoiding women for the last 6 years.

Can someone get this guy outta here?

If you wait for her to text you, you will never hear from her again.
You are not being pushy by telling her you had a good time, but that's just an excuse anyway, cause you are scared.

Trust us, you're not being needy by saying you had a good time and want to do it again.

it's the unfortunate reality that most guys have to be the ones to do these things. Sure some women will ask guys out, but you have to realize they're just as paralyzed as us half the time.

You have nothing to lose by texting her, but if you don't then you have already lost her.

>just realised me and bf never had sex without smoking weed beforehand, and before him the only 2 times I had sex I was pretty drunk

Is it bad that I never had sober sex

> but that's just an excuse anyway, cause you are scared.
Probably true to be honest.

But wouldn't it be weird to text now 5 days later? I need a good reason to text can't text now and say that it was good.

Women

White guys wearing eyeliner/eyeshadow. attractive or not? And why

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Me neither, but I only had sex twice. Both times drunk out of my mind or I wouldn't have even gotten as far lol.
Second time was still pretty fucking epic.
Still regret pushing her away.
Back then I was too stupid to know how rare true chemistry is.

The longer you wait the weirder it will get.
Look buddy either text her or don't. But you can really only lose if choose the latter.
Stop making excuses.

lmao, try having naturally voluptuous eyelashes.
it's the only physical feature I have that women ever compliment me about.
Until they see my dick that is.
I don't mean to brag, but the term "perfectly adequate" was uttered.

lmao, women are not complimenting your eyelashes because they think it's hot, but because they are envious of them.
They don't like how you look, they wanna look like you.
Lmao you gay fag.

-wow-

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Fuck you

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>are you completely anti penetration or is it only with penises?
It just doesn't feel good to have anything penetrate for me... even tried toys, and it just doesn't do it for me. I dry up, and it just never gets pleasurable for some reason.
>eg would you enjoy fingering from a girl
Nope. A finger isn't quite the same, the feeling of a fat member is not remotely close to a thin finger, but it still doesn't feel good.

I heard the same from 2 other strictly gay girls. Those who do enjoy penetration, despite calling themselves gay, are usually just bi, and often have more of a psychological problem with men, rather than a physical one.

>Go for the friend angle. Buddy it up, become her best friend.
Well, I'm usually fantastic at being friendzoned. So might as well try that I guess. I assumed that was a death sentence to any relationship.

I looked around, and asked a bit as well, and it seems she hasn't shown interest in guys before, and has rejected a few as well. Hopefully this approach works a bit better, she seems to be pretty lonely normally.

Not hoping to abuse that fact, don't get me wrong. I'm not here to manipulate anyone. She just seems really nice, and she is really cute, and we both seem to enjoy the same kinds of books, as well as drawing and painting.
>If you hope to smash, you are better off going for literally anyone else.
Done that, didn't care for it. It was uninteresting, and sex doesn't appeal much to me in the first place. I do jack off occasionally, and I would love to cuddle and stuff, but I am not interested enough in sex to care if she wants my dick or not.

Texts me long for a bit until I fall for it and start texting long as well. Then she starts replying with one line texts.
Why do I get baited so easily and how do you not get baited.

I agree with the survey user mentioned I like doing it if I love the guy and its pleasurable for him

>kinda into music
Vinyl player?

guys how would you feel if your girlfriend started calling you daddy

>gay
>ok with sucking dick
Y'all nuggets gotta read a dictionary or are ya tryin to trigger me

Heavily dependent on the guy. Me personally I've enjoyed it in porn but I'm not sure about real life.

Are you the same girl that was asking about this a few days ago?

disgusted

Seriously I would take some time to think long and hard about whether or not we should break up. I know I'm weird on this one, but in the past the whole "daddy" thing has been the tip of the iceberg for a lot of stuff I'm really really not comfortable with.

interesting, thanks

Im not into THAT, but guess if she also acts cute, then i guess its ok...

not in public tou

Girl seems to have ghosted me.
Should I shoot one last message letting her know it's her loss in a calm fashion, or just leave it?
Because it would give me great pleasure to not just leave it.

Women, be sincere here.

How important is money for you? I know every fucking person on earth says that money "Ain important at all", but the majority of girls i know, hints the importance of money in their relationships.

Don't feed the cringy sperg living in your head, just leave it.

Should I pay going out on our second date?

I always pay on first dates, should I go second as well? I usually don't do this, but idk

It just makes me very angry you know.
For people to not have the decency to even say "Sorry not interested".
Feels like they are getting away with shitty behaviour scott free and I feel dissatisfied with not at least calling them out on it in a calm, collected fashion.

Femanons, if you were dating a guy would you want to know he's a virgin before sex, after, or not at all? And if you would want to know in advance, when?

Offer to pay, but if she wants to pay herself, don't insist too much.

Just leave it man. You'll end up screenshotted on reddit for being upset.

For girls, what makes you not tell a guy you have a boyfriend?

So this coworker of mine that i see a lot now, we been talking pretty good the last three weeks and i know she has a boyfriend but for some reason she hasn’t brought him up. I keep asking questions about how her weekends are and if she did anything special for the holidays and stuff like that. I mean usually girls always bring up their boyfriends or whatever. But for some reason this girl doesn’t and i know for a fact she does. So why hasn’t she brought this up?

>Hard mode:
>There are two genders, male and female and tranny/mutilation/gay does not changes your gender
Why girls go to the bathroom always with some company?

They like to talk in line, there is a line because they go in pairs, and they go in pairs because they like to talk in line, etc.

I'll be honest, it took some getting used to, but I was kinda forcing the straight facade at the time (justifiably, I've practically been exiled forever from my family for coming out), but it really isn't that bad.

Penetration is bad, I really can't underestimate how uncomfortable it is, and I have 0 attraction to males. But sucking a guy off is easy, and has little issues tied to it.

If you think dick is bad, try a gross vagina with nasty white stuff due to poor hygiene. It's vastly harder to do properly, and bad hygiene makes it *MUCH* worse when it is a girl, rather than a guy.

Its like, sucking fingers. It's not really appealing, but I know it works, and it doesn't bother me enough to make me not want to do it.

Money is important, being rich is not. What matters is that you;
>know how to spend within your budget
>know how to avoid unnecessary debt
>Responsible in terms of saving up for future expected costs
>have an actual stable income that supports your way of living
I've said no thanks to high paid tech people, who managed to waste all of their high income, and still rack up a debt every month, despite a 200k annual income. High salary means nothing if you can't figure out how to spend it properly.

Basically, be a responsible adult, and it's all fine.

Not at all. It doesn't matter anyway, wouldn't be able to tell if he wasn't a massive sperg about it.

I don't intend to explode on her or some shit.
Just something like "Guess the pleasure was all mine" with a shrug emoji.
But fine, I'll just leave it. Feels kinda wrong though.

really? would have thought you'd want to know.
>if he wasn't a massive sperg about it.
everyone's going to be shit at the start wouldn't it speed things along if you gave him the cliff notes up front.

It is very important to me because I like the finer things in life. You can also literally buy time with it - don't feel like cleaning up? No problem, hire a maid to do it for you.

Find someone who wants to live a minimalist lifestyle, they're about the only ones who say "Money isn't important!" and actually mean it. The rest just tiptoes around the issue one way or another; woman from another forum I'm in always said how money wasn't important to her. 3 weeks later she was bragging about what a big penthouse bachelor pad her now-broke husband used to live in (not anymore because she popped out 3 kids ASAP to keep him and has been unemployed ever since).

Out of curiosity, why would you prefer not to know?
>wouldn't be able to tell if he wasn't a massive sperg about it.
I'm don't intend to be a sperg about it, but God damn is it gonna be painfully apparent.

My ex used to just send me memes directly but now she keeps tagging me in them. What's going on?

Not necessarily. Women don't usually care much whether the guy is a virgin or not. What usually matters is how sentimentally involved she is. Telling her that you are a virgin can help you feel less anxious and worried. Also helps her to show how she likes it and everything.

kinda into it. kinda hot. but only kinda. and not all the time.

bump.
talk me out of it

ok follow up hypothetical, if I was asked about my previous sexual experience by a girl what should I do. lie?

If a guy suggests sex before talking about commitment does he not see you as gf material?

Guy who asked the original question here, I'd say you shouldn't lie. It might be more convenient but it's immoral.

Guy cares about sex most of all. Girl cares about commitment most of all. That's just how it is most of the time.
Arrange yourself.

I thought that too, but I also thought she'd just want to know. So now I'm not sure about anything.

Probably not. Most people don't really talk about the nature of a relationship until after it's been established. I don't understand why, but it's how it's done.

If she's asking you I think it's safe to assume she wants to know.

Would you go back to an ex if you knew they truly changed as a person? (for the better)

How do I set myself to be the one girls are actually interested in and not me just chasing after them and taking leaps of faith.
And I'm not talking physically, I'm talking mentally and behavior.

This thing weirds me the fuck out.
Are there still people out there who try to develop a deeper connection before having sex or is it just me? Am I just some sort of weird volcel?

I'm sort of in a similar shitshow. Tinder is gay so different app but same shitshow. Basically the quality of woman on dating apps is absolute garbage tier, regular women in public are worth the extra effort. Even if you did find a girl off an app the chances of it working long term is much worse and you are just cucking yourself in the long run.

Depends on how it ended and who dumped who. If the ex was a dumpee they'd have to prove they got their shit together and won't fall back to the same issues. If the ex was a dumper they'd have to try hard to regain broken trust and convince me they won't leave again.

With cheating it's almost impossible unless you or them are a cuck.

I think it's just that it's easier to have sex with someone than to connect with them.

I initially set out to just get laid, but that didn't work out either.

>Telling her that you are a virgin can help you feel less anxious and worried. Also helps her to show how she likes it and everything.
Yeah, that's what I was thinking. I've got a disability and some other physical issues that kinda exasperate how clueless I am.

>What usually matters is how sentimentally involved she is.
This is such an issue for me. I really don't like hookup culture, but I can't comprehend how any guy can standtonly even look a girl in the eye after she took his virginity. Like how do you maintain a relationship after something that embarrassing? I really wish losing it to a prostitute or something was an option.

Do any girls know why my ex is doing this?

My ex always talks to me when she can, and anytime we talk on the phone overnight, we stay up all night talking, and she got me a gift.

But I always have to initiate everything. She never, never texts me first, or suggests hanging out. I always initiate it, and she always responds.
She has a shitty beta male boyfriend she hides our conversations from, and she's a highly sensitive person so she's very emotional.
I don't know why she does what she does, it doesn't make sense.
Talking to her in person is like talking to a fucking void, she doesn't care about my life at all, she just talks about herself.
I thought she was using me as a beta for attention, but she has so many other betas she could get attention from first.
We took our virginity, and loved each other deeply, and she says she still has some feelings for me, but I feel like she doesn't really care.
Maybe it's for closure reasons? idk

It's definitely a combination of good looks and confidence. If you have good looks but you're not confident enough to hit on a woman, then you probably still will get laid but not as frequently as the chick would have to make the first move. If you have confidence but you're not that hot, you'll probably make it with 5s/6s/7s.

If she likes hiking planning a trip for you all to go on together would be nice. You can spend the money on some fancy food and booze to eat. She has similar interests to me and I'd love that.

My gf went and saw a movie we were gonna see together with her friend and there is nothing else we would want to see right now. I feel kinda bad. She said we could go see it again she dosent mind but I'm slightly upset about it but it seems kinda stupid to be upset about it. We ended up just staying home this weekend. Not sure if I should just realize its stupid to be like that or not. We didnt get to see eachother other than one day every 3 or so weeks before but now I just moved in with her.

You're probably one of her "favorites" but it sounds like she's still fucking using you.