I started seeing this girl, and (except for one thing) she is absolutely perfect. She is cute, sweet, kind...

I started seeing this girl, and (except for one thing) she is absolutely perfect. She is cute, sweet, kind, smart and incredibly attractive. The problem is that her sophomore year of college, she did porn for about 9 months. She volunteered this information to me willingly, and has said that is was a result of her having daddy issues from her deadbeat father. She claims that she realized that continuing down this road would not lead her happiness, and she says that she has not had sex outside of a relationship since, and has always disclosed this information to guys that she was getting serious with (of whom I am the third). Would you give a girl like this a chance if you were in my position? She did some pretty hardcore porn things, but I genuinely think that she really regrets it, and she has not made any effort to hide any of this from me.
We are both 24, by the way.

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Its up to you. Just ask yourself: "how comfortable am I with knowing that she has had sex with other men and filmed it?".
Personally, for me it would solely depend on how much I enjoyed her and her company. If I was only partially interested or not really feeling it I wouldn't continue with her.

i'd be too weirded out personally. if she was willing to fuck a random guy on camera, she may be kind psycho/off or some shit and you don't know what she'll try to pull if things get serious

I'm incredibly uncomfortable with it. My morbid curious led me to watch a couple seconds of one of her videos, and that made it all worse. I just wish I could tentatively date her, dip my toes into the relationship without overly committing right away to know if I want to continue with her, but she really is such a sweet person, I would feel terrible leading her on for something so selfish. Even telling her all this, I don't want to make her feel disgusted with herself any more that she already is.

>I'm incredibly uncomfortable with it.
There's your answer.

This. People who've done stuff like that are definitely wired differently. It's not as easy as someone going up to you and asking you to do it, she actually sat down and put a lot of serious, mental effort into getting setup for her anal gaping beastiality gangrape. She signed paperwork,sat down with herself and thought about what she was going to do, and did it. Her moral standards are lowered to the point to where she degrades herself to a utensil. Avoid.

You should be more worried about daddy issues, that always leads to issues down the line. It's gonna be a hard nope from me.

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Okay, so if a girl has a deadbeat father, she's doomed? What is the path to dealing with those issues?

>if a girl has a deadbeat father, she's doomed?
No, but if the girl has self proclaimed "daddy issues" then yea it's doomed. She's given herself a crutch and is sticking to it.
Father is an alcoholic who abandoned the family, I turned out fine.

Link it brother

>she did porn for about 9 months.
I need links. Asap.

Might give me pause, but if I already liked her, wouldn’t really phase me because I more less have confidence in my judgement of people when it comes to who I do and do not like.

>and has said that is was a result of her having daddy issues
Those are cheap excuses. Her doing porn was the result of her choosing to, and nothing else and she probably doesn't know how to build bonds at this point.
Dump her ass unless you're fine with her cheating on you.

This

>Would you give a girl like this a chance if you were in my position?
Are you completely fucking retarded? The only thing she has going for herself is that she's honest about being the lowest kind of whore. Then again you're guaranteed to be in the same league of degeneracy, so enjoy your diseases.

Run away.

This op knows what’s hes talking about. Treat her kindly but be wary of the path

shes a fucking turbo thot

honestly wouldn't listen to the incels in the thread. does a dumb thing she did for 9 months a while ago make her irredeemable for the rest of her life? that's stupid as fuck

>does a dumb thing she did for 9 months a while ago make her irredeemable for the rest of her life?
Yes. She'd be irredeemable if she did it once, or even considered doing it for that matter.

>"If you don't trust a literal whore who fucked greasy men on camera, you're just an insecure manchild"
Where do you semen-gargling faggots come from?

Do you think she should have told OP?

Yes. If I were put in his situation, while I'd immediately shut down anything resembling a relationship (not only romantically, I mean any contact), I would be grateful for the honesty and leave it at that; maybe I'd add a disparaging remark if I was in a bad mood.

Finding something like that out after a long relationship, or worse, getting engaged/married-- now that's going to have a nonzero chance of a violent reaction.

jesus christ, so I'm assuming you'd only date virgins, while not being one yourself? or what

The mature, non-mysognist answer is, we all make mistakes in life, some of us make bigger mistakes than others. She's admitting it upfront, probably its been a problem for her before, she's trying to find someone who won't forsake her. Arguably, you need to judge her for who she is and not for who she was in the past. If a women admitted that to me, I'd view it as a pretty big sign of maturity. I also might ask if she got any STD's from it but most studio's are clean.

Some of this could also be she's looking for approval\validation in a man, and if that's the case, that is where you get hurt. You're her man, not her daddy.

I would not view this as a reason to pull out of the relationship, but I would view this as a reason to put off from having sex for a good 8 months to a year before you really get to know her and treat it as a serious relationship.

First time on Jow Forums, huh, kiddo?
>so I'm assuming you'd only date virgins
More or less accurate. I obviously have no moral issue with legitimate divorcees/widows (although I'm too young for that to matter) or rape victims, although caution there is also due for other reasons.
>while not being one yourself?
Absolutely not. The 'lock and key' bullshit is just that; it's self-defeating nonsense which ensures the same outcome as we already have now. If men are constantly chasing their base instincts, there are necessarily going to be more whores for the simple fact that the act takes two. Why would I ever want that?

This is beside the point, as it's extremely unlikely I'd get dates regardless, and my focus isn't on x or y person but on societal standards. The standard here is that whores don't belong in society, much less as an accepted or even respected part of it.

>misogyny
>criticizing a willful degenerate means you hate women
I want reddit to leave

>kiddo
first time on Jow Forums?

Lmao, fuck that
Once a whore, always a whore.

Imagine a literal porn slut was a mother of your kids. Get out and never look back

>Jow Forums
First time on 4channel?

>you're matute for settling for a literal whore! Only incels have standards
Lmao, fuck off you pathetic cuckold

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I hate to be in the position of quoting the bible, but "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."

Is there no stupid mistake in your past that you deeply regret? Would you like to be defined by it forever?

What is the criteria for a whore, or a man-whore, to give up their ways and try to live a straight, clean life?

Do they need to be a monk for 2 years or something? Used to be you found God and Faith. I have no idea in our present society what you're supposed to do, but being a hateful asshole and saying something along the lines of "Once a whore always a whore" is not it.

There are a LOT of women out there who fuck around in their 20's and find out in their 30's chasing the alpha-male dick was a bad idea. We're going to forsake all of them as damaged goods? Do you think they're going to let their daughters do the same thing? Unlikely.

>we all make mistakes in life
>who she was in the past

the only metric for judging who someone is, is by their actions. even if you were to analyze their brain under a microscope, your perception of vision is some few microseconds behind what actually exists at the time.
there are plenty of people who had the self restraint to not make "mistakes" if you can consider something intentionally done for several months to be a "mistake".

Absolutely, they should suffer the consequences.
The next generation of women will see that the cock-carousel lifestyle is destructive and doesn't bring happiness, so just go for them instead. Current 20-30 year olds are beyond saving and not worth your time and effort.

there is no 'penance' to be paid. you actively did wrong, you have shown you have poor decision making abilities to not only yourself but to everyone around you. nothing will change that, and time will not heal a self inflicted wound.

>What is the criteria for a whore, or a man-whore, to give up their ways and try to live a straight, clean life?
You answered your own question--they need to stop being whores or manwhores. If they end up with kids, they need to make sure as best they can that their own mistakes aren't repeated in the next generation. It's all they can do. Does it earn them forgiveness? No. But they do salvage a degree of respect, and more importantly they would have come to the right conclusion on their own, having a clean(er) conscience going forward.

I got lucky in that I both took an interest in and learned about this subject before I did anything degenerate. Many, probably most, don't have that luxury, and while I'd still condemn them for their behavior, I do feel sorry for some since they were essentially failed by society from the beginning.

>being a hateful asshole and saying something along the lines of "Once a whore always a whore" is not it.
Speaking the truth in this matter is hardly being an asshole. True, I can act like one at times, but now isn't one of them. Besides, it has its uses.

>We're going to forsake all of them as damaged goods?
Yes. Doing anything else is showing their progeny what they got away with, and hence what can be gotten away with.

>Is there no stupid mistake in your past that you deeply regret
no, there really isn't.

who hurt you, tripfag

This isn't about me, degenerate. I've never been in a relationship, good or bad, nor have I ever been mistreated or felt disrespected enough to give more than a passing shit.

Immorality remains as it is all the same, and I hate it for what it is.

depends on how well known she is
if its some literally who, eh, if it's someone people will recognise all the time then I'd hesitate

It's always about you, you miserable shitheaded incel.

Cry more roastie whore

You'll do a lot more damage to the people you care about, and to your career, by being a narcissist in search of a cause you know nothing about, than thinking a particular problem or situation through.

And at the end of it you are going to realize, you aren't getting anything for the effort.

The retard will realise when he gets out of his mothers' basement and lives life.

Everyone has secrets. There won't be a line of other QTs to date us, you know. Just have a good time.

harro Mistah Hitlah!
good to see you back dude.

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seconded. if someone is saying she has daddy issues past the age of like, 16, then they're just looking for an excuse for their reprehensible behavior.

t. father drank himself to death but I'm fine

It's definitely different for girls and boys though.

Post links

This

she sounds kool

Here's how her actions will affect you. Even if it was 9 years ago.

If you have kids, their friends might find out.

Your coworkers might stumble across her and give you crap, or even jerk off to it. If you have a cuck fetish this may be a good thing, but most guys would not be ok with it.

So ignore the idiotic SJWs. This would be a deal breaker for me. Her decision will follow you around forever. If you're ok with it more power to you. But it sounds like you already know what to do.

There's a difference between having one night stands and making porn.

>she is sweet
>did porn till her shitty amateur course ran out
Inceldom really did a number on your ass

Also, wow, so honest. She disclosed it because of her unparalleled honesty, not because she knew there was a good chance of you finding out on your own anyway. Fuck, some of you are completely retarded

I don't think I would have. If you were to search her porn name on one of those cross website porn search engines, there only about 15 videos, and a lot of those are duplicates.

I honestly don't think I'd have ever found out

Post links or fuck off

...

Would I?
No

Stop being a pussy man. If you think she’s perfect, then go for it. Doesn’t matter how many dicks she’s taken on or off screen. If she’s taking YOUR dick, that’s all that matters. Either get in there and see what she’s all about or regret that you didn’t

>this is what bugmen actually believe

Pathetic

Hitler, I met my girlfriend when I was 19, she was 17, we were both virgins and gave ourselves to the other. Hypothetically if we broke up then would both of us be able to date again by your standards? I assume you'll say I'd be able to but not her? That seems like lock and key bullshit to me, if I'm assuming the above correctly that is

>She is cute, sweet, kind,
I honestly would have trouble reconciling these characteristics with doing hardcore stuff on film. It would make her look fake.

Also link me up brah.

Are people who do porn never cute, sweet, and kind?

Women who do porn are garbage by default.

Hard pass

Being a porn star shows you give little emotional value in sex - so much that you decide to get financial gain from it. Her wires are crossed

The sexual revolution and feminism (and beta orbiters) have encouraged bad behavior and somehow convinced women that their actions will have little consequences in the futre; that men are the ones wrong for looking down on women for promiscuity and bad choices.

Women are picky for all sorts of reasons; whether it's your status or money or looks or the car you drive, men need to be just as picky with their mates.

She's doomed if that's her excuse to fuck on camera.

Well, the porn industry specializes in luring young, inexperienced and naive women with empty promises of glamour and seeing the world outsid of their depressing rural towns.
Id chalk it up to dmb things you do when you#re young, especially since a shitload of marketing gets targeted at young american girls to keep up the supply of freash meat to the producers.
But I would carefully look whether she has any issues she carries around from taht time, its not exactly an environment that fosters mental health.

>She signed paperwork,sat down with herself and thought about what she was going to do, and did it
More like some sweet-talking producer teeling her about how she'll be rich and famous while slipping an unconspicious piece of paper under her nose, only to later tell her that the scene she signed up for isnt happening and presenting her with five mandingos who'll gangbang her now instead under threat of breaking her contract.
Most Pornstars dont get there by putting a whole lot of thought into what they are doing.

Nothing about what you just wrote even advocates holding oneself accountable for their own actions.

That's not to say people in the porn industry don't try to sell it; that is their job - but she is ultimately the one in charge of her own life and is the one who made the piss-poor decision. Her value as a mate is less than it would have been; that is something she chose and will have to live with.

People who are unable to take responsibility for their own actions are unable to learn from their own mistakes

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>and is the one who made the piss-poor decision

Like most people do in their lives , yes.

>Her value as a mate is less than it would have been

You do realise theres a difference between real-life human relationships and dixcovery channel documentaries, do you?

>and is the one who made the piss-poor decision

>Like most people do in their lives , yes.
Right - I'm not saying she should be exiled from society


>Her value as a mate is less than it would have been

>You do realise theres a difference between real-life human relationships and dixcovery channel documentaries, do you?
Yeah there is - but it shouldn't be surprising to anyone who has done porn that this might be some sort of red flag, deal breaker, or general baggage.

You still haven't seemed to advocate taking any personal responsibility for bad decisions, however.

>She did some pretty hardcore porn things
link

So what you're saying is that adult women are literally dumb children who can't be trusted to make their own decisions?