Why aren't girls asking boys out? What was all this sex revolution, liberalization and secularization for?
Wasn't it aimed towards freeing woman from role of male-orbiter? To break status quo of world, where males were taking all decisions and all action?
It strikes me everytime when I see guy complaining about loneliness and getting tips like: "Dude just ask them out" or "you have to work for good things to happen". I get it, but this is social case, not some physics where Newton's 3th law is existing.
What I mean; if this is suposed to be relationship, then I think it's creation should recieve same amount of 'work towards it' from both sides. But what I see instead is girls just waiting for boys to come, and letting them, or not, push their realtionship further.
Again, I understand this God damn mechanism where woman were afraid of showing affection because, long story short, this would portrait them as easy, sluts etc.
But like I said at beginning, wasn't all that changes our society went through, suposed to get rid of such mindset?
I fully understand that I need to work if I want something. I've been raised in that manner.
But in the same time I can't get rid of feeling, that if woman isn't giving as much attention to the creation of realtionship as I, then this is not worth it, like if she do not care now, then why should she care later? I commit, so I want commitment back as well.
Especially in early stages of relation.
And this whole thread would'n exist if only I would meet some women who do not stick to this scheme. But my every attempt to get gf end like this; girl in "entertain me" mode, showing nothing more than regular interest in conversation.
But what is most important in this;
I see happy couples all around so this isn't world/womenhood who is wrong, this is clearly problem within me.
So what is it?
At the end I would say that I'm not that ugly, or poor or anything that would scare women off. So this is not part of the problem.