Ask the Opposite Gender Anything

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FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like ?
>What do girls/guys think about
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, .

>Guys insecure with their 4+ inches dick
Fuck off

>[insert humble (or otherwise) brag]
Fuck off.

>Why is there no new thread?
Just make one. You can use these macros: imgur.com/a/y6BF2

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Other men:
I actually think anal is gross, whether it be giving or receiving.
Am I insane?

I put my arms round a girl who has a bf and I touched her ass too. Is this normal? Am I an orbiter or is she looking to cheat?

>Am I insane?
You're not insane
Not liking anal is as normal as liking anal

>Am I an orbiter or is she looking to cheat?
Both

>tfw other men could imply that I am a woman and attempting to correct the mistake could imply that I am gay
Damn it Bobby

Don't risk doing anything shady for a girl who's already taken. It'll just get you in deep shit with the bf, I know from experience. And no, it's not normal. At least, it shouldn't be.

She wanted to kiss me our first kiss, she also would bite my lip and french'd me. She was trying to smash huh?

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She's taking the same course as me. I am pretty sure she has a massive crush on me because she always stares at me in class. I didn't intend to get in trouble but when I got the signs it was instinct. Should I ask her out?

If anyone cares to hear my story, here it is: Back in my senior year of high school, I tried talking to a girl who I thought was cute, sweet and smart at the time. Obviously, she didn't feel the same way I did because of her bf, but I still tried to get this girl to date me for reasons I still haven't figured out yet. Eventually, she just sicced her pet nignog bf at me to "fuck me up and teach me a lesson." All I learned from that shit is that nigs are very possessive over their white coalburner gfs, and that you're better off not interfering with somebody else's girl. It's a lost cause most of the time, they're still with them for a reason.

If you're really serious about getting this girl, all I can tell you is hope that she breaks up with her bf before fooling around with you. Don't force her to do anything, let her decide what, or who, she wants. Hope things go better for you than they did for me. Try not to get a knife in your foot like I did over this.

Then why the hell is anal even considered "normal"?
Fucking hell.

It's not.

Hang on, user...
>Crying cat...
>She wanted to kiss and this would be the first kiss user had...
Did she not kiss?

>she also would bite my lip and french'd me
>"would bite" so she didn't, going off the above
>but then she "french'd" past tense of did french so she did french user
Uhh...
>she was trying to smash, huh
>Not sure after learning all this
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What happened user?

>almost back together
>she fucks with someone else because she felt pressured
is this some kind of sick woman joke?

damn, of all the things. Motherfucker, kek.

When we made out, she kept on biting my lip and using tongue. I get the feeling that she may of been trying to get some dick. But I'm really inept when it comes to this shit.

I realize that this is basic shit, but how do you tell a girl you’re interested in her and/or ask her out without coming across like a sperglord? I can hold a conversation and make them laugh, but I don’t know how to take it from there.

she very much was

Neither, she just wants your attention.
Probably would fuck you if she was single.
Source: have a friend who wants to have sex with me but values her relationship too much to go through with it.
>drinking together
>asks me to walk her home
>on the way there tells me I smell amazing and and it's turning her on a lot and that she'd straight up jump me if she was single
>ask her if she can discern if it's coming from my neck or chest since I'm wearing two different fragrances
>she takes another sniff and is seemingly into it, tells me which one
>massage her shoulders a bit as we're hugging goodbye
>"user are you trying to get into my pants?"
>"I'd be touching you differently in that case"
>"show me"
>pull her in close, lean in like an inch away from her face, grab her ass and whisper "like this"
>"o-oh wow user... I really should go upstairs now"

Yes. Forget about her, everyone deserves a partner who won't fuck around with someone else. And if she felt "pressured" to do it, she's obviously not stable enough to maintain fidelity in a relationship. Hope you find someone else, user. It's all about looking in the right places.

thanks user. she wanted to do it right? like, ther's a certain amount of willingness to having sex with someone else, full knowing that the guy you just might get back together with, wouldn't like that

Sure, there's willingness in consensual sex, but you shouldn't put up with that because you want to go back to what you had with her. If she didn't consider your feelings before doing it with him, she ain't worth the trouble. Even worse if she DID consider your feelings but did it anyway. Shit sucks at first, but you learn to forget what happened and find somebody worthwhile.

So I got into a fight with a girl I went out on a date with, with the tldr being I tried moving things too fast and tried investing into her emotions too much. It's been a month or so and I've really been growing as a person, mentally at least when it comes to that stuff. I want to ask her out for coffee, but I'm not really sure how to after not talking to her for a month.

>"Hey I'll be in town next week, want to grab some coffee?"

Idk if it's too casual of an approach considering. idk if I should apologize first, apologize if she agree's in person. Or even if I should, rather just prove to them I've grown.

>Even worse if she DID consider your feelings but did it anyway.
she most certainly did that, because as i was calling her out on why she just didn't tell me she was seeing other guys, i could've gotten the rest, she tried to blame it on me, the whole pressuring thing
she didn't want to justify herself towards me because of that

different user here. Yeah, my guy, it's time to move on. Leave her ass in the dust. They're not healthy for you. You're too good for them.

reposting

How do I tell my friend I'm into her ?
We've know eachother for a long time and I've recently grown very attached to her and would like us to be more than friends.

already on it, although with a bitter pill to swallow thank you user
it's just.. hard acknowledging the fact that she did not give a single fuck about my feelings
yet cried so much, telling me all that bullshit about "i can't imagine a life without you"

Yeah, forget about what she did. Forget her, man. Save yourself the heartbreak. Be independent.

i'll try user, thank you

Met this girl at a social meeting thingy and I like her so I followed her on instagram and now we're texting for some time and talking irl when we see each other a bit.
Now I'm not ugly but I'm not photogenic AT ALL, my pictures end up looking really ugly, so my profile picture on social media is really ugly, not in a funny goofy king of way but really ugly.

Do girls look at that? Like she saw me in real life quite a few times and we talked but I just feel really shitty when I'm texting her knowing that she's talking to an but ugly profile picture.

As autistic as this sounds this really worries me, and no, I'm not underage I'm 18 ( She is 17 though )

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Yeah, that shit hurts. I've been there. I hope you can find peace with it. Don't let it hold you back from meeting people and dating again. Every negative experience we have is something to grow from. Good luck user

i'll have to see her in like a month but i'll get over it
thank you user!

Ask them out on a date, if you're not retarded enough worst case is she's not interested, you move on and stay friends. Just, keep your levels of attachment in check, it's a bad move.

We are used to hang out together all the time, how do I make it clear it's a date ?

Next time you guys hang out, just ask her out somewhere to do something. There's a big difference between "Wanna grab food?" and "can I take you out to X".

>just got invited to the birthday party of my ex-gf and a mutual female friend on facebook
>can feel the feelings coming up again
wew

Girls

Is it bad if a 30 year old guy has only had 1 gf before

What does it mean when a girl, whom I never initiate contact with, who most likely has a boyfriend, randomly talks to me as if she and I have known one another since forever? She's way out of my league. Am I her plan B? Is she just playing a cruel game?

It’s about attention. I’ve had girls do this to me before. It’s fucking bs

lul

One of my best friends girl tried doing that shit to me, swerved her ass hard, KEK

Sure but I never went out of my way to talk to her, ever. She even used to pester me when I had a girlfriend and I cut her off abruptly, but she keeps coming back.

I don't know, we allready kinda do that... Last time we went to the restaurant after hanging out in a park. I do the same kind of things when I'm dating someone, except I get the bill instead of splitting.

Can't I just tell her I like her ?

Yeah same shit happened to me. They would reach out to me. Not the other way around. They just wanted attention. Girls are fucking stupid.

Don’t waste your time

leave that chick
progress with your life
if you need that bitch
youre as desperate guy

Why do women give you their cell phone number and text you if they're just going to ignore your texts mid-conversation? Some girl I talked to gave me her number, we texted each other for a few days and just like that she doesn't respond. This isn't the only case either.

Why do women do this? Was it something I said?

I don't know, but i tend to assume that they found someone more attractive to speak to

Men

On a scale of 1 to 10, how excited would you be at the girl's answer?

Man: How did you feel when you masturbated over me?
Woman: I wouldn't know, I haven't tried yet *wink*

>irl
7.5/10, more if said in a serious tone
>text
3/10

Doesn't really matter if you saw you irl and was attracted to you. I had a crush on a guy at work and he looks so bad in photos and selfies, but that didn't matter to me since I realized he was indeed unphotogenic.

Is there any way to stop thinking about fucking my cousin? We're both 19, and I know it's got its consequences regardless and all that jazz, but my dick just doesn't want to listen to reason. I've known her my whole life but recently she's been acting real slutty, and I guess I just wanna act on human instinct here. How do I unfuck my mind, or do I even bother? Should I go for it, knowing the repercussions?

I'm not white, and I'm asking both genders

>if she saw you irl
and nobody saw anything

That's a very weird conversation. But if I somehow expected you to masturbate to the thought of me I'd be dissapointed that you hadn't.

You are looking for troubles buddy. If she has a bf you better not touch, it's a matter of respect.

Would it be sufficient to give you a hard on?
We were talking about masturbation, it wasn't weird at all

Nobody picks apart your face like you do, user. I know decent looking guys who photograph rough as fuck (some with odd features in person), and if anything it's a fun challenge to try and take nice photos of them. Since she met you in real life that's 99% of her frame of reference anyway.

How do I tell a woman that she is a GILF?

Go up to her and start chanting GILF! GILF! GILF! GILF!... while pumping your fist in the air.

I'm dating a woman that's had a double mastectomy and she's really uptight and self conscious of how she looks. What's something I can get her or do for her to help her feel sexy and more confident in her body?

A boobjob.

How would you rate an eight inch dick? Is it good?Is it bad?

I’m a literal baby dicklet 1/2 that size erect and it hasn’t stopped me.

>Would it be sufficient to give you a hard on
Probably not.

She had reconstructive surgery but she still has two big scars.

If there's anything I've learned it's that you can't talk other people out of their insecurities. They are self-propagating and even if you do make a dent in them they'll just come back while your back is turned. She needs to work out her issues on her own.

Is there no way to help someone work out their insecurities?

Girls
When you don't actually want a boyfriend, do you still flirt/talk to/show interest in guys?

> flirt
Yes. Either without intention, or because the guy is good at reciprocating it.
>talk to
Of course. Humans are humans
>show interest
Yes. People are pretty interesting if you watch them

I should have specified, but I meant outside of places where you are almost forced to hang out, like texting or meeting up on pseudo-dates.

i told a couple of my friends that i liked the word smote (because ive been calling out words to them from tolstoy that i think are cool), one of them said he likes the word smitten. i told him i liked the word smiter and he gave like a half sigh and didn't say anything else? am i acoustic or just overthinking?

I might flirt playfully, but it's always pretty clear I'm not actually into it. There's a guy I flirt a bunch with in front of our group of friends, for example, but in private conversations we talk about the girl he actually loves. I don't flirt super strong with people if I'm not into them romantically.
Talk to and show interest, yes, of course.

A girl from work invited me out for drinks with her and her friends this week. I went with them and had fun. She also invited me out again this weekend with her and her friends. Does she like me?

Need more info. Are you hanging out with all girls or are there guys as well?
Does she talk to you alone? Does she flirt?
Try asking her to spend time alone, like going to lunch or dinner. If she declines or doesn't show interest, you have tire answer

>order food at drive thru
>cashier girl confirms my order
>mid sentence she looks at me, laughs for a second, then proceeds with her sentence

w-what did she mean by this?

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

She liked your meme tshirt

Not excited at all. But I'd consider it a witty, relatively innocuous flirt, showing the girl has minimum of intelligence for a small, friendly banter. That'd be a plus.
On the other hand the guy who asked even jokingly such kind of question kinda seems douchy.

Her behaviour sounds odd enough to be significant, to me.

>Am I her plan B?
This is possible, though unlikely. You have to be somewhat involved first and obviously interested for her to consider you plan B and if she's really so much more cute (I assume you meant you're out of her league) then she has plenty of other potential candidates.
>Is she just playing a cruel game?
Quite unlikely. It may be like what anons said - looking for attention. It may be that she genuinely simply likes talking to you. It may be she wants something from you. Or maybe you're not as much without a chance with her as you think (the last possibility mentioned for fairness, do not get your hopes up or pursue till you'll be sure)..

A very risky but direct approach - tried ever bringing it up to her? Simply even asking her what does she thinks as your'e somewhat confused by her sudden friendliness may clear some water or at least confirm some suspictions. It may also be that she's just really friendly with everyone and you are a sperg who looked far too deep into it from the get-go.

To girls:
Are unsocial guys a red flag for you? I tire easily in conversation which is why I prefer to hang out in groups where others can talk while I rest my tiny social region of the brain, but I'm getting the idea that girls are much more social than guys on average. Am I constricted to autistic girls or what?

Being asocial often looks more like you're being rude from the outside. It's not that other people aren't aware that there are those who don't really like to socialise, it's just that their brain first makes other assumptions, like that you don't want to be around THEM in particular, or that you're silently judging them.

You need to be more social and you also need to learn to be more friendly.

What is actually bothering her? Do you have a detailed answer?
I have a cleft lip scar. It is noticeable, but no one makes any comment about it. But I know that I'm not getting matches on dating sites partially because of it. So I'm going through another surgery next month.
I don't know about your woman, but, in my case, it is noticeable.

>Being asocial often looks more like you're being rude from the outside
Yep, that's how people seem to take it from my experience.

>You need to be more social and you also need to learn to be more friendly.
I try, boy do I try. I just find it mentally exhausting. Is it enough that I put on a smile more often? Any other subtle lifehacks to make me seem more sociable?

I'm Sorry, I skipped this
>she still has two big scars
What's your opinion about them?
If they are that big and bother her so much, the only option is surgery.

Femanons, I want to hear stories of how you mentally reacted to your first period. Did you think you were dying or had something wrong? Were you prepaired?

It was 3 girls and me. No other dudes. The girl who sits beside me invited me out with them. She flirts a bit at work but she is German so they arent that flirty

I'm fed up with myself being a spineless bitch, and I want to confront the girl that I can almost say I love. Long story short, we've been close friends for around 3 years now, she has been in a relationship for that whole time, but I grew feelings for her, and apparently she did to when she hit me up three months ago and fucked me for 2 hours when she was drunk in the back of my car. She begged on staying friends and made me swear to tell no one. It is obvious to me that she still loves her boyfriend, but is not in love with him anymore. I can't take waiting forever and being a back up for any longer. I have never had the balls to initiate or be dominant with her because she wasn't mine, but after quitting nicotine and doing no fap and no porn I and fuming with this feeling of not giving a fuck if she hates me or loves me after. I want to corner her and just come out with it and say that I'm done waiting for her, its either now or I'm gone because I can't keep hurting myself emotionally for her. I plan on doing this next time I see her, I was just wondering if I'm going way over the line or not, on one hand this seems like a "nice guy" thing to do, but we already fucked and I actually want a relationship or something.

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My gf and I both commute and live an hour away from campus. On tuesdays and thursdays We both get there at 8 am and our final class ends at 7:45. We usually stick around until 11pm or sometimes later. Is it reasonable for my gf to get mad at me for wanting to go home early in order to spare some time for myself and sleep a little earlier? I just don’t see why she’s pissed off when we hung at literally all day. How can I remedy this?

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Also forgot to mention that I see her all day on Saturday’s and half of Sunday. I work on all other days so I have little to no free time. She does not comprehend that I need free time to do my own thing and thinks I “don’t want to spend time with her”. She also argues that her other boyfriend that she dumped always wanted to spend time with her at all times of the day (makes sense)

I cant tell if my classmates winks are supposed to be funny or flirty what do?

That's definitely the niceboi thing to do.

If you had any self respect you'd just make the decision to stop waiting and move on without putting it on her to do something about it. Cornering her and saying now or never isn't actually the dominant thing to do, because you're still hanging on her word and hoping that she'll choose you, which isn't going to happen and you know it. Put a girl on the spot and she will almost always give you a 'no' just because you're being a dick and it's safer to turn you down.

Do people wink unironically? I'm gunna say they're funny. A flirty wink would be pretty obvious.

I mean, yeah, our relationship is rather goofy in the first place so you're probably right, but almost everything she does could be potentially interpreted as flirty. Im pretty blind to signals most of the time.

this question is really for everyone but I still feel like it should go here
what do you do when you hang out with friends of the opposite sex?

Girls, have you ever dated someone who turned out to be an incel (or to have an incel mentality)?

I wish I had friends of the opposit sex. But I'd probably fall in love with half of them.

Same things I do with my guy friends. Hang out. Movies. Activities. Hikes. Beach. Food.

I mean I'm literally an in(voluntary)cel(ibate) but that's really just my autism and not the girls' fault.

Anything you can do with friends. Movies, dinner, drinks, hiking.

Guy here. Just found out that a girl I work with recently became single. How do I approach this? I'm more than okay with being rejected (because y'know, I've had it happen to me countless times), but I've never asked out a coworker before.

Hard mode: She's only been with the company for 4 months, so I don't know a whole lot about her.

I need to dump the guy I’ve been dating but don’t know what the right words are, or how to do it. It’s been 5 years since I’ve had to dump someone and I’m super anxious over it. I don’t want to do it over text, simply out of respect. So what do I say? Do I do it in public, or when he’s at my house? What kind of reaction should I expect? He keeps texting me asking to hang out and I keep saying I’m busy..but I can’t put this off forever.

There's a girl I sort of have a thing with. We've made out a few times and we go on dates a lot.

Sometimes she'll come over and cradle my cat like a baby, while bouncing it up and down and talking to it in a baby voice. It's ridiculously cute. She does this every time she comes over.

Now, before you say she just loves cats, she has two, and whenever I go over to her place, she never does it with them.

Am I overthinking this, or is she trying to signal she wants my babies? Because I would pump her full of babies the first chance I get.