Resenting privileged gf

How do I stop secretly resenting my gf?

We're both in our late 20s. She currently lives with her mom and is "looking for jobs" and I support myself with a job.

Her family has set aside money for her, and her whole life she grew up rich. She spends her days baking, and instagtamming and doesn't do shit. She "volunteers while she thinks about her next move" like once a week and literally lounges for the 6 days of the week.

Meanwhile I'm working a full-time, >40 hour white collar job, have somewhat upper middle class family that I can't rely on. I come from some privilege too but I'm definitely ambitious and trying to make it and build something for myself in life.

I can't stop resenting my gf for her life situation. She's not on my dime, she has a college degree and some work experience, so in theory she's not really doing anything wrong. But her just passively, in my eyes, living life on easy mode, getting massages and taking naps while I'm Dilbert.jog is fucking infuriating.

It makes me not take her seriously on basically any topic because she hasn't gotten a dose of the "real world".

I can't give her any criticism and I have to be "supportive" of her but it's hardwired at this point that if you don't work, I will not respect you, period. It's not even like she wrote a book, collected royalties and retired early, if her parents kicked her out (which they won't, they spoil the fuck out of her), she'd be fucked.

I've been harboring this resentment and embarrassment without her fully knowing the extent of it and it's driving me nuts.

Should I end it? I thought I was ok with the "based and redpilled" principle that the man works and the woman tends the home but in a situation like this it's fucking pathetic imo

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Maybe you just resent her for being lazy and unambitious. As you said, there's really only a slight difference in "privilege" between you & her, it's more of a fundamental difference in values, goals, and upbringing. Which are legitimate concerns. She can't control the family she was born into, but she can control the way she conducts her own life.

She needs kids, user. It seems like she doesn't want to get into a career, she likes doing feminine things like baking and artsy stuff. She volunteers, so obviously there's some desire to serve other people needs. Once she has a family, this will be directed towards her husband and kids. Right now she doesn't have anything worth investing that effort into. If you're the type of guy who would view your wife being a stay at home mom as laziness and resent her for it, yeah, you should leave and let her find someone who would appreciate that.

Realize that you actually have a great instagram waifu and what you actually resent is capitalism and your daily grind giving you your illusion of wealth, meanwhile your gf has the same thing handed to her, and it's also her earned wealth, because her parents are massively more successful than you.

You respect women?

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>Trips- check
>Vague redirection to capitalism - check
>Something my parents did is somehow something I did - check
>Comparing people in their 60s to someone in his 20s - check


It's like fallacy bingo today

Why are you even dating her in the first place?

When we met she had her own place and a job and this was a non-issue

Wit

My husband works, does all that and we have one kid. I sit at home taking care of my kid all day, sleep in, have no direction or goals in life and I’m stuck in a town I hate. Believe me, with kids it’s only going to get worse for you. Not only will she be not doing much (like myself) she will now have to take care of your kid(s) and you both are going to end up feeling trapped. So, either accept those facts and keep going the way things are headed or end it. I wish I ended my pathetic life years ago!

What do you think about what said?

They are right, especially about the last part. I gave up my career and schooling (was in culinary and almost finished) to be a stay at home mom. That was almost 5 years ago. I regret getting married and my husband absolutely resents me being a stay at home mom. They have several points.

Both parties need to want that situation, or it will cause issues. Women who want a career will feel trapped if they have to stay home with a kid. Men who want a partner who helps contribute money to the household will resent the woman for being basically a lazy parasite. If you want a woman who works, you should find one because eventually things will come to a breaking point with the current girl, and if you wait until later when kids are in the picture, it will be a huge mess.

Oh, no, this isn't my jealousy. This is just how OP is likely framing it.
Capitalism nowadays says "Only have as many children as you can support indefinitely, because at the current wage rate, they'll all be starving to death and dying of dysentery at 18."
OP is angry because he has to grind since he's got bills to pay. But his gf has her needs met because her parents pay to keep her alive as a luxury, and thusly she can do whatever she wants hobby wise or not. Her value is not dependent on the capitalistic values that you must allways be working.

This OP, don't make the mistake of getting married, having children, and make sure that you pursue an openly feminist woman with a career that she can pour her life into. True happiness is mostly financial and has nothing to do with family.

For me there's a big mountain of a difference between a legitimate stay at home mom, takes care of the home and children and someone who is childless and does nothing.

If we had kids and she wanted to stay home and be a mom I'd actually have 0 problem with that.

Being a stay at home mom is a full time job if not more so. You cant be lacadasical raising a kid. Sitting around giggling at reality TV isn't showing signs of child rearing capability.

Plot twist capitalism is the reason why her parents have money in the first place congrats you played yourself now fuck off

Nice troll post. A childless ambitionless person who "never wants to give birth eew" is neither stay at home mom tier nor feminist career woman tier.

Yeah, that's a disgusting parasite. Career women who shame stay-at-home moms for being unsuccessful have no idea how challenging and rewarding raising beautiful children can be.

>Being a stay at home mom is a full time job if not more so. You cant be lacadasical raising a kid. Sitting around giggling at reality TV isn't showing signs of child rearing capability.
Yeah, there is a world of difference. But *she doesn't have anything worthwhile to pour any effort into*. If she doesn't have kids, and doesn't want a career, there isn't too much for her to do. Presumably, living with her parents, it's not like there is going to be housework she needs to do. Here's an idea for you... make a huge mess in your place. Dirty dishes, clothes everywhere, things spilled on tables, etc. Have her come over and stay the night, and leave her alone at your house for at least a couple hours the next day. If you come back and she's just sitting there watching TV and hasn't cleaned up any of it, probably she's just lazy.
Or, you know, you could ask her about it. How would she feel about being a mom, what she thinks it would be like, etc.

>everyone is gonna be pooor omg this world is suffering don’t have kids

Classic cuck excuse to sit on your ass and play video games all day. I hope the brown people that replace you are a bit more respectable.

>Plot twist capitalism is the reason why her parents have money in the first place congrats you played yourself now fuck off
Yeah, the early and highly regulated capitalism, not this crap we currently have that's letting infrastructure rot and giving tax cuts to OP's gf's parents.

>probably she's just lazy.
Once she offered to help me clean and around the apartment. Once i left it dirty and she bitched about it being dirty, and then went on about how she doesn't have to worry about paying for laundry at her mom's.

There you go.

>Or, you know, you could ask her about it. How would she feel about being a mom, what she thinks it would be like, etc.

>Ew giving birth seems horrifying I don't want to do it take down the patriarchy
>Can we get dogs from a shelter instead lolz

There you go.

Let's hear about your alternative to modern capitalism. Modern day socialism is essentially wealth transfer away from white people to lazy brown people who don't belong in European countries, or the funding is taken to promote homosexuality, mass immigration, and sex-changes for children. None of that benefits me or us as a whole.

You have dozens of brown countries with socialist ideologies. Please move to one of them ASAP, instead of turning our countries into one.

>dozens
>of
>brown
Wrong, like all of europe is socialist.
>unbased retard pill that can't economics

Your shitty ideology only works in rich white countries because whites don’t live off the system. You ignore every instance of socialism in Latin America because all those countries are shit. Yet you continue to import brown people

Lol, Europe is literally being flooded by nonwhites and it's illegal to criticise it. It's an actual crime to say that trans-women are not real women in Britain. That's the fucking point, giving the reigns of power to crypto-commies is suicide and a kowtow to insanity. I live in Birmingham and I hear the fucking call to prayer and see only mudshits every single fucking day.

Whites are ideologically lost and don't have children. Brown people actually value traditionalism and religion which is why you are being replaced you degenerate kuffir

You don't deserve what you have

The sad part is that you are right. The vast majority of white people are pitiful, childless hedonists who are giving away the keys to the bloody empire to whatever savages show up on the doorstep. Meanwhile Islamists shun homo propaganda pushed in schools, have many children, and name the Jewish menace. Maybe whites do deserve to go extinct.

ty Jow Forumsite gentleman

Do people honestly believe Europe is socialist? Kek.

No, but I do know the level that the average normie communicates on.

In reality it is an authoritarian, multicultural, multiracialist, sexual deviant, feminist, anti-white version of welfare capitalism.

There are huge (huge) differences from country to country, thinking all EU is the same is simply wrong.
I lived in three EU countries (G7 members, not shitholes) and they were nothing alike.

Some of the things you said are true and they're definitely a leitmotif in many EU countries, but it's not true for all of them or even most of them.

Of course, but either they are all those things in spirit (belief of the lawmakers) or in reality (actualized belief of the lawmakers). The fact is, Spain, Britain, Germany, Sweden, France, the list goes on, are going to be majority nonwhite Islamist hellholes. This is all at the behest of EU politicians.