How do I stop secretly resenting my gf?
We're both in our late 20s. She currently lives with her mom and is "looking for jobs" and I support myself with a job.
Her family has set aside money for her, and her whole life she grew up rich. She spends her days baking, and instagtamming and doesn't do shit. She "volunteers while she thinks about her next move" like once a week and literally lounges for the 6 days of the week.
Meanwhile I'm working a full-time, >40 hour white collar job, have somewhat upper middle class family that I can't rely on. I come from some privilege too but I'm definitely ambitious and trying to make it and build something for myself in life.
I can't stop resenting my gf for her life situation. She's not on my dime, she has a college degree and some work experience, so in theory she's not really doing anything wrong. But her just passively, in my eyes, living life on easy mode, getting massages and taking naps while I'm Dilbert.jog is fucking infuriating.
It makes me not take her seriously on basically any topic because she hasn't gotten a dose of the "real world".
I can't give her any criticism and I have to be "supportive" of her but it's hardwired at this point that if you don't work, I will not respect you, period. It's not even like she wrote a book, collected royalties and retired early, if her parents kicked her out (which they won't, they spoil the fuck out of her), she'd be fucked.
I've been harboring this resentment and embarrassment without her fully knowing the extent of it and it's driving me nuts.
Should I end it? I thought I was ok with the "based and redpilled" principle that the man works and the woman tends the home but in a situation like this it's fucking pathetic imo