>she only really wanted to get married to see if she could play that societal game. >She doesn't want me to make her cum because of attachment. >Now she's talking about moving out, getting an apt, and having me stay with her when I get done with school in a month.
Dude, she sounds emotionally broken fickle and self centered
DO NOT MOVE IN WITH HER. You probably shouldn't even be fucking her, but its ok provided you DO NOT KNOCK HER UP
she sounds crazy as fuck, and if you move in with her she will totally fuck your life up and destroy you emotionally.
Zachary Fisher
> Dude, she sounds emotionally broken fickle and self centered
maybe. I don't think she's self-centered (the fact that she works in healthcare may not speak to her interpersonal relationships per say, but-- people who are truly self centered aren't really drawn to that.)
Nathan Garcia
She may not be self centered when it comes to helping people
but clearly when it involves her own desires and relationships she is willing to make bad choices that affect others just to see if she likes it
self centered in relationships
Christian Wright
Stop thinking with your dick
She is bad news bro
Carter Morales
>she is willing to make bad choices that affect others just to see if she likes it
we were talking last night. when she first started seeing her husband she was dating around, and they both knew. she went on a date with someone else and got roofied. for the next two weeks he slept on her couch as a means of emotional/physical protection-- and she thinks that was the start to them being serious.
the one thing that she said that really makes me trust her when she says she doesn't think she should be with her husband was that he told her he's never felt an emotional attachment to any music. she grew up around musicians.
music makes me brain-gasm, and i know i would never want to be with someone who didn't feel similarly.
Jaxson Perry
Ok you obviously like her, but that is clearly fucking with your objectivity
You are her rebound, or her safety net You are not ready to move in with her, that is insane
you don't even really know her. Shes on the way out of her marriage, you are not mr. right, you're mr. right now.
If you really like her and want more then keep seeing her, but keep your life separate until you are super fucking sure you want to commit, cause that is what you're promising, Commitment.
Do not make rash life changing decisions. If she can't understand your decision it is yet another red flag.
good luck and remember don't knock her up.
Christian Stewart
there would be practical benefits to it as well, not just thinking with my dick.
it would be easier to get a job here than down south. i mean, silicon valley isn't that far-- compared to the literal desert i would be going back to.
Robert Gutierrez
Healthcare employee, that is NOT true. Many get into it for the money and women like working in a female dominated field. If she is a nurse run, especially if she is an ER nurse.
Jace Cruz
>You are her rebound there's a strong chance of that.
> or her safety net which would be weird since she's literally describing her marriage as the safety net.
> you don't even really know her. that's pretty fair.
her original offer was along the lines of: hey, you helped me realize how miserable i really am in this marriage. our time is too short. letting these feelings fade away would be sad, but it happens. IF you go down south and are miserable, i'd come get you where we'd set a trial period of two months living together to see if it could work.
which seems actually kinda reasonable given the complexity.
Bentley Sanchez
admin stuff at a senior care clinic
Thomas Baker
if she can do it to him she can do it to you. massive red flags all over here. get out now.
Austin Ross
You’re thinking with your dick bro, just jack off before you go to speak to her or something
Owen Robinson
bruh, i literally did that before hanging out with her last night and having a super deep conversation.
Hunter Bell
Eh not as bad but still. Plenty of medical staff are godawful and could care less about the patients.I would never use it as a basis for determining their personality. t. paramedic who has banged enough nurses to know
Asher Sanchez
that's fair. i use it as part of the basis, but not the entire thing-- just another variable in a set of complicated functions.
Caleb Powell
>dating somebody who is already married Do you really need /adv to tell you how bad idea it is?
Anthony Martin
i dont really believe in marriage beyond it being a business transaction so...
besides i've fucked married women before without catching feels, and have had good emotional relationships (either fucking or not) with married women soo...
Liam Wood
I dont think somebody like you needs advice at all. You probably already decided what to do. Dont let us hold you back!
And good luck, i think you will need it. A lot.
Dominic Martin
I want to see what other people think to see what parts I could be missing.
I haven't decided. Much of that is going to depend on what a professor says concerning if he thinks my work is good enough for grad school, responding to requests for resumes from tech companies and a few other minor things. (Because I'm not going to let a girl stop me from attempting a phd and/or work for one of the big 4 or somewhere similar)
I only roll with letting my emotions help dictate decisions when they are in logical congruence with overall goals.
Ayden Williams
My opinion is that she is walking timed bomb with heavy baggage you dont want to lift. But yeah, i am old school.
Chase Phillips
maybe. maybe i've been workin' on emotional gainz and think it's time to check my max.
i sent her some music i recorded. she responded with "how do you find these people? i just spent the last 20 minutes crying in my car listening to it."
if you understand artistry at all, you'd know why that's a big deal.
Samuel Moore
Does the husband know this is going on? Did he give his permission and consent?
John Scott
I'm not sure how much of the details he knows. They had attached profiles on OKC-- both labeled as "ethically non-monogamous," which seemingly indicates both permission and consent.
Jacob Wright
Logically that makes sense, but confirming this would have been priority #1 on my list. There are men out there who have shotguns for other dogs that sniff around their bone.
Oliver Parker
The first two times her and I hung out, he called so I heard her side of the conversation-- so some non-official confirmation.
Gavin Rivera
Ehhh, this sounds too messy for my own preference. She's obviously using you as an emotional and sexual back up plan while she disentangles herself from her husband.
I guess as long as you don't mind playing the support role in this story, I see no problem. I'd still keep my eye open for the man when he comes home and finds you fondling his wife on the couch. Without a thumbs up from him in person, you have no idea how he's going to react to that.
