This guy that I have pretty strong feelings for (who doesn't feel the same way) sometimes belittles me, makes me feel bad about myself but in a really covert way with backhanded compliments, snide remarks, laughing at me and then not explaining why, not listening to me when I speak, twisting my words to make me seem pathetic and narcissistic, etc etc etc. But even when he does that, he sometimes is kind and nice and affectionate. I can never know which side of him will come out
It's around 5am right now and I can't stop thinking about it and feeling bad about myself, it's such an uncomfortable feeling
What do I do to get rid of this toxic feeling? I guess drinking alcohol but it's too early in the day for that
The correct question is "how do I get rid of this toxic person?"
Liam Martin
baka senpai
Jacob Morgan
I'm too attached to him to get rid of him.
But I've made progress by accepting that I can never change him or make him respect me. He has fixed ideas about me and whatever I say or do, he will twist to fit his ideas about me or simply ignore any evidence contrary to what he thinks of me.
I'm a very lonely person and I'd rather have a toxic person to talk to than no one but shallow acquaintances
Christopher Bennett
I hope you got weebonized and you didn't actually type that
Jack Bailey
He is doing that redpill crap. Cut and run
Andrew Parker
Think of it this way OP. By continuing to cling to this abusive person you are denying yourself the chance to find someone who will actually care about you and treat you with respect.
Or you can just wait till he gets tired of you and drops you completely. You know deep in your heart that this is going to happen eventually.
Eli Ramirez
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Lincoln Allen
You're right. I don't have the strength to stop clinging, I guess.
Eli Bailey
so you still have feelings for that asshole? are you a masochist or just an idiot? That's manipulative behavior, run. Alcohol isn't gonna help.
Sebastian Flores
I think the thing that holds me back is the fact that he's an extraordinary person and it's unlikely for me to meet someone of his calibre again, although I'm sure they're out there somewhere
I wouldn't have anyone to discuss advanced topics with
Hudson Gonzalez
I promise you, you can and you will if you try. It's pointless to stick around with someone you degrades you like that just because they're an "intellectual"
Ryder Long
Mate he could be Mahatma Gandhi or something but if he treating you like shit you gotta move. You're hurting your chances of getting with someone who'll value you if you keep pining over this dude.
And what will happen if you get with him anyways? You'll get to ride him and he'll still treat you like shit. Move on, you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want you it just brings more grief down the line
Jeremiah Hall
Yeah. I guess it's time.
Caleb Roberts
>What do I do to get rid of this toxic feeling? Noone is responsible for your emotions but you yourself. But you're a woman so I guess it's alright to just get validation from some other people and be done with it.
Logan Powell
stop being gay
Henry Nguyen
>Noone is responsible for your emotions but you yourself.
...Which is why I'm asking what I should do to deal with those emotions, not what other people can do.
Henry Nguyen
You suggested drinking alcohol yourself. While it's a good short term solution for your misery it wont really help in the long run. Maybe try seeing things from a different perspective, I've always found asking loved ones for advice works wonders. Maybe randos on the internet not so much
Liam James
Don't really have loved ones to ask advice from, unfortunately.
Xavier Hernandez
You dont or you dont really?
Jonathan Garcia
I don't.
Noah Allen
Not the other user but you should simply ghost him You don't owe him an explanation for his toxic shotty behavior
He might be insecure and immature within himself and doesn't know how to actually flirt with you. It might be the equivalent of the little boy who like stye girl but doesn't know how to express it because he is afraid so he pulls her hair or pushes her in the mud or something. The guy sounds immature and you can probably do better. Don't sell yourself short OP because if you will waste time that could have been spent finding someone who won't act this way and will give you the same feelings that you have for him.
Robert Clark
Interesting
Nah, known him for years and he knows how I feel about him, we've talked about it
