Whats your standards for dating people?

I wanted to date a person I enjoy talking to as much as I enjoy talking to my best friends, who gets me horny just by being in the same room as them, who holds the same values as me and wants to live similarly as me.
I wouldn't settle for less. I'm very happy I have this.

>Is there anything that people can do to break them and make you make an exception?
They wouldn't be standards if people could.

>not far or other health issues
>not obsessed with status/consumerism/mindless spending
>has her own income

Reason: all of these are indicators of good life decisions and a compatible personality.

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I like thick hoes

so I wifed one

>be physically attractive
>have a yuuuuge goal(s) and pursue that shit no matter how unlikely success is
>upbeat, curious attitude towards life with loads of humour for everything
>confident, although usually given if she has the rest
That's probably it for the big ones.

>Is there anything that people can do to break them and make you make an exception?
Don't think so. I have friends who miss one aspect (usually the big goals or curiosity) and while I love them as friends, they just lack that extra bit to turn it into attraction. And obviously someone who isn't physically attractive according to my standards just wouldn't work. No point in dating someone who doesn't make my dick hard.

>blonde and blue eyed
Seems overly specific and fetishistic.

>Am I being too shallow to think that they must qualify my standard looks before looking into their personalities?
As long the shit isn't something overly narrow, it makes perfect sense. Hard to fall for someone you don't find physically attractive, no matter the rest.

Good stuff.

Don't be a druggy, be loyal, like me and get my dick hard. Essential standards that can't be broken or I don't see the point of getting into it.

My standards are probably too high, but every time I try to ignore them, I get burned.

All I want is a relatively thin redhead or blonde with lighter eyes who isn't covered in tattoos or prone to cutting her hair like my dad's. And dresses relatively feminine. I'm not sure why this is so hard to accomplish.

Personality-wise, enrich my life, have your own social life, don't be clingy, and don't be overly religious or political on either side of the coin. Enjoy some drinking.

The rest is all negotiable. Of course I only get interest from fat girls or brown eyed brunettes who think drinking is the devil, and only want to spend their nights at home with their tiny dog after cooking a sensible dinner.

Why is drinking such a big deal for you? As long she doesn't bitch when you do, why care about her doing it?

Not him but drugs are bad

These more or less. It's really important to me that they're independent, especially since my last gf was clingy to the point I was scared she'd hurt herself when we broke up. It's also quite important that we can get along as friends, I have to want to hang out because I want to be around them or what's the point? Similar politics or the ability to not get into a fiery argument over politics is very preferred.

I don't have much in the way of standards for physical looks. The only absolute is no fat girls. I'm definitely more attracted to skinny petite white women. Bonus points for short hair and small tits. Only one of my past relationships has even been close to fitting that look though, so I'm open to anyone that's not fat that I get along with well enough.

Funny enough I've got oneitis for a girl from a church. Blonde hair, blue eyes, super conservative Christian. I don't think I've ever seen her in something that wasn't a very conservative dress. No one, not even myself, can figure why I like her since she's so far from the usual woman I'm interested in. It doesn't matter though, she doesn't like me in any way.

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I don't date someone that doesn't have potential to be a life partner.

>no drugs
>no cheating, must be monogamous
>generally mentally sound, no bipolar or BPD chicks
>deals with conflict in a healthy way isnt prone to starting drama or having large leaps in logic for the hell of it

Thats it.

>No drugs or smoking
>Tattoos are fine as long as she doesn't have a quadrillion
>Not obsessed over politics or religion
>Has her own income, goals and stuff like that
>Have a weird side and a fucking sense of humor
>Takes care of her body
I guess that's it, I prefer girls with long black hair with blue eyes but that's not mandatory, but a very welcome bonus.
As this user said is true, I believe in a relationship both parts should help each other to become better

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Jesus christ I can't speak properly today

>christian
>smart
>kinda weird in other words not a normie
>not materialistic

as far as looks go I like curvy petite girls (probably because im a manlet) but as long as your in decent shape and cute its fine. I prefer black girls with curly hair but brunettes are cool to.

1. Be attractive - this is a really wide spectrum for me so its not hard to fit
2. Be interesting - you'd think this would be easy but I've only met two girls in my four years at uni who didn't bore me and they both had boyfriends already

Not really
I have a similar requirement for the girl to be blonde hair blue eyes.

Personality is a great compliment to this desire

My standards? As a dude as long as a woman is pretty normal shares a few values with me I consider important and isn't holy sht butt ugly, I will date. By ugly I mean obese and/or has features I can't ignore but that varies, I still think I'm a pretty tolerant guy in terms of physical characteristics. I think chubby women can be cute, there's always a line I wouldn't cross though as with most I'm sure.

I want someone who can be loose and have a good time. Anyone who doesn’t drink is inevitably going to bitch when I do. I drink very regularly and you’ll frequently find me out with friends at the bar.

If she doesn’t like drinking, she’s not going to like my activities with my friends, and won’t fit in.

Do you drink to the point you get drunk?

Not necessary. My sis didn't drink for years and only drinks like a half glass Moet (her taste is THAT white girl) twice a year but still has zero issues when people do drink around her, which happens pretty often.

As long you don't act like a drunk retard, even most non drinkers are unlikely to mind. And if you act like a drunk retard, the problem is you.

>>attracted physically
>>attracted mentally
>>similar views on monogamy and spiritually
>>good communicator
>>>has a grip on mental and emotional issues
>>goes on out door activities with me and we are creative together. Maybe yoga together too

Prefer white or non brown eyes but meh

Everything else is negotiable

Everything else can be

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>she shows some interest in me
>is not a complete mess
That's pretty much it. Saying that, I seem to be failing currently because she's too far from a complete mess.

IF SHE BREATHES

I don't have any in terms of physical appearance. I have found so many different people attractive because they sell themselves by being confident and projecting a good personality. In terms of age, no, that's a hard boundary. Our stages in life, priorities, and experiences can't be too different.

I also try to stay open in terms of the person's life/personality. For example, while I'd love to date someone who already shares my interests, I can recognize that there's a lot of excitement in talking to someone who can introduce you to a whole new field/hobby. I have friends who are into things I know nothing about and vice versa, and we get to broaden each other's horizons.

I would say, for better or for worse, mental health issues that are not being worked on are a red flag/"standard". I took meds for five years, been in therapy for ten, and really fought hard to go from being nonfunctional, suicidal, and sleeping for 16 hours a day to being happy and successful. I don't want to be around someone that is in the same place I was years ago. It's fine if they're still dealing with trauma and working on issues, what human isn't, I just want to date someone that can enjoy life and thrive alongside me. However, I could imagine bending this standard a bit if someone is in a bad place but *wants* to get better. Sometimes I meet people who seem like they could go far if only they had some extra love and support, and I might be willing to spend some time in a dark place again in order to help someone I think is amazing blossom.

You didn't take that picture yourself did you OP?

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It depends on the night. I hold my liquor VERY well, and even when I know I'm drunk, others can't really tell. I never get into trouble, get into fights, get sick, etc.

I mean, I'm flexible, I'm never going to push anyone to drink. As long as they're having fun, it's cool. But plenty of people who think they aren't being a buzzkill totally are when they don't drink. It's especially hard when drinking is just the activity, and there isn't anything around it going on.

Like, is a non-drinker going to want to go out to the bar for three hours just to shoot the shit with my friends and take shots at 10 AM with my buddies like I did Saturday? When there's no sports or anything on, it's just us at the bar? I'm guessing no.

I'm not always that extreme when it comes to drinking, it's just an example where I think someone that's a total teetotaler isn't going to have fun with me.

to fuck, i must like the way she looks
to date, i must like the way she thinks as well
my criteria for continuing a relationship are attraction, compatibility, and respect
these are all pretty broad, but also simple, and universally applicable. for me, there are no exceptions to these

My Standards
1. I have to love them
2. They have to love me back

>Do not smoke
>Do not do recreational drugs
>Do not drink heavily
>Want children

That's it.

You have to love each other before you even consider dating? You are a bit backwards there user.

I won't settle for anyone who does less than myself when it comes to self improvement. If they don't work out regularly, if they have tattoos or watch porn, if they're sluts, etc, all red flags and a hard pass. Oh, if they're left leaning that's a hard no as well.
That's kinda it, really. I'm not too picky but there's no way in hell I'll compromise my values, date a whore, or date a porchmonkey. I don't think I ask for too much.
>I want a blonde blue eyed wife
Then go for one. Why settle for less? Also, don't racemix. Bad for the kids and bad for you. If she's white, just isn't that pretty, eh, it's up to you man. There's more to a girl than looks. If she isn't a whore and you two get along well, and she isn't uggo, it's worth sticking around. I think.

lmao where's your 88 tattoo?

I feel kinda bad for having standards but I can't say I don't have them.
I tend to like guys who like video games and anime and aren't obnoxious about it. Guys who can be kind and understanding, since I have a lot of shortcomings, and of course I'll be nice too. He doesn't have to be totally fit, and I've never cared about a guy's height, and I don't mind if a guy is a little chubby, but I don't really want to date a fat guy...
I like guys who have a solid grasp on the English language, and I have a really big weakness for guys that are kind of emo...
And that's it, I guess. I don't think I have any racial preferences but I usually end up falling for white guys the most often.

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>Feel bad for having standards
Why? Everyone has some

Nayrt but I sort of agree with the user. Could be a cultural thing tho. Getting to know someone as friends, than falling in love and confessing, in some way and another, comes pretty often before a relationship and dating. To the point where 'dating' is considered, in the collective mind, as something romantic only couples are doing.

>mfw sort of emo looking and fit criteria
Where do I sign up

>I didnt think anyone like that would actually read it
AHHHH NO ITS OKAY DONT WORRY ABOUT IT YOU WOULDN'T LIKE SOMEONE LIKE ME

Nah, trust me I'm pretty patient, I'm also really into music and shit

Be IQ 135+
Preferably female but I can go both ways (as long as I'm the dominatrix in the bedroom)
Be conservative, as in, 1750s conservative
Don't be clingy

Cringe, bro....
We talking 90's hardcore emo or 2009 cringe ''emo''?

oh, that's cool... guys who are into music have always seemed really cool to me, but like, a distant cool...
I'm not so familliar with emo pre-1998, I'd say more midwest, but scene and post-punk are cool too

How old are you, if you don't mind

I just turned 22 two weeks ago

Oh that's cool. There's a few midwest bands that I like but I'm more into screamo with midwest emo kind of instruments. Bands like Elle, The Reptilian, Midwest Penpals. But i mostly listen to Saetia, Jeromes Dream, Loma Prieta and Off Minor
I can still listen to Cap'n Jazz every day of the week and not get sick of them.

Very epic. If you want we can talk more privately

>1750s conservative
>not 1776+ conservative
We could have had something beautiful, user...

That's gonna be a big yikes from me, dawg

Is it?
If you say so.

> Very epic.

Legendary?

Perhaps.

Anyone that likes me is fine.
So basically impossible standards.

America would've been a better country if we never seceded from Britain. Russia also probably would've been a better country if we never wrote our Constitution.

you got a d*sc*rd or something, dork? :^)

Sure do.
What's yours?

Has to know roughly who she is as a person, have a cute personality, be fun and more importantly - be able to put up with my sense of humour

Being open minded and on the same page with where we are in life is probably what I'm after to be honest.

green#3365 pls no grief me

Nobody does.

Must be willing to name our first child Kevin so that I can reenact home alone mid flight, sadly my ex was not receptive to this idea

You may as well date within your race while you can, child. Soon your savage race will have been consumed. You could also grow up and just date who you want without having such restrictions.

Requirements to be even consider dating:
>Christian
>virgin
>no drug/alcohol addiction
>no tattoos
>big boobs

If I can live up to these standards (minus the tits) then they're not too demanding. Had a gf of 3 years leave me in a choice between me or the people she admits are bad influences, and it seems she's gotten tattoos at their request since breaking up. It's a shame as she also met everything on the marry list except "makes major decisions rationally, not emotionally" which I was waiting for to pop the question. She's the only one I'd ever take back assuming she gets the tats removed even though the damage is done (I'd fund it) and she drops the shitty people.