I masturbate twice a day without fail and it's ruining my sex life. I can't really get off when I'm having sex at all...

I masturbate twice a day without fail and it's ruining my sex life. I can't really get off when I'm having sex at all, no matter how good it feels. My partner's sex drive is much lower than mine and I have an awful lot of free time. What do I do?
>inb4 stop masturbating
Yes but how.

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>Yes but how
Stop touching your dick you fucking tard. Do you not have a modicum of willpower in your soul? Don't even tempt yourself with porn.

How tf do you have a gf and still fap twice a day?
Bro i had sex from 16 to 27 and had bever came once because of my porn addiction and it wasnt even daily it was like once every 4 days or so. I thiught it was weird every single girl i fucked didnt feel that good and thought all of them were loose. I stopped for a girl i really really liked because she started accusing me of cheating and after 22 days of no fap i finished then could everytime since.
Honestly if you're having sex while you're fapstinent it helps the urges. When i fucked but didnt cum it sort of felt like i had and stopped thinking about it for awhile.

This doesnt happen to everyone vut i think your brain gets programmed by porn and the feel of fapping. You now only get super turned on by those specific images that no real girl can replicate.
You need to detox and deprogram until your body enjoys the real sex experience.
It also helps you find more women attractive. I was comparing girls to my favorite porn stars subconciously and so many werent good enough for me because of my expectations.
Also you look at women as objects and im not a feminazi at all but if you ever want a real lasting relationship you need to see them as people and not dumb peices of meat meant only to sit on dicks.

No dick, no, and I don't tempt myself with porn although coming on Jow Forums doesn't help. I'm usually just like that.

I only see him twice a week and I'm lucky if one of those gets us laid. I tried to follow no gap but it seems to be just "willpower lol" so I don't last long.

>you look at women as objects and im not a feminazi at all
But I'm a chick looking at men. Tf are you talking about. I don't think men are dumb pieces of meat who happen to fuck things, that's also dumb as hell.

you need something else to focus on. surely you have hobbies? if not, get some and pursue them

Yep, I have hobbies, most of them are homebody stuff so I feel perfectly fine "taking breaks" as it were. I also work and even socialise on occasion but it's not nearly enough to take up enough time to stop myself.

I used to fap at least 4 times a day untill my dick was numb.
Then I went to a prostitute to lose my virginity when I was 22, couldn't cum, and wasted my money.
So I decided to at least not wank it for a good week before I go to a whore, so I don't waste my money.
When I'm not doing that, I try to limit it to once per day.

Bumping for literally any advice which isn't "just don't do it bro lol"

Bump

Someone pls give legitimate help, I want to get off again and I've already done it once today and I'm supposedly doing NoFap

How the hell do people fap this many times a day without any consequences? I do that 2 times and I already start to feel changes in my body telling me I shouldn't do it too many times. The nerves above my penis around what I assume is my bladder or prostate start feeling sore and stretched out. I also urinate more frequently. Why would you do that?

You OP, first of all don't do the NoFap thing if you can't contain it. Oppressing your urges doesn't work, let it out first and then when you feel you're done immediately focus on other things. No porn, try not to be alone doing nothing. Occupy your mind on other things for as long as possible, go out if you have to. With each passing day you'll get used to the idea and it should stop. If you think about having sex you will start having those urges again, just focus on something else.

>But I'm a chick looking at men. Tf are you talking about.
you did not specify your gender in the beginning post so pretty much everyone is going to assume you're a guy

"Getting off" isn't actually the objective of sex (unless you are trying to conceive). Change your priorities, enjoy the ride for what it is, the affection and the intimacy just for the sake of it, stop chasing the orgasm goal. You might find orgasms might just sneak up on you anyway.

I pretty much stopped after starting to learn a new language.
Hobbies are the only real way to stop yourself if you ask me.

Its really affecting my sex life tho. I'm no longer letting myself watch porn but that's not really making it easier. I'll try to take it day by day but I have like 0 willpower.

Doesn't mean you should just assume everyone who's masturbating is objectifying their attractions.

Yeah and in sex I'm not interested in getting off specifically but it's clear that's his goal and me being a shit isn't helping his enjoyment. I'm not assed if I cum from sex, I cum twice a day anyway.

But how did you not just stop part way to get off and then resume? That's what I do basically.

>Doesn't mean you should just assume everyone who's masturbating is objectifying their attractions
people can be likely to do that if they're talking to a guy, however

Have you tried watching porn with him?

>me being a shit
How are you being a shit? Why does you orgasming during sex matter? If you both have a great time, why don't you feel good about it?

Also have you tried fun sex toys, bondage, etc etc etc

Sometimes you gotta find the thing that works.

So how does that happen exactly, do you think of sex? Something has to trigger your urge to masturbate, it could be excessive stress too. If nothing in particular is triggering your habits it could be you just have a really high sex drive. If you're that worried about it you could see your gynecologist.

You're a retard who makes excuses for poor assumptions

Nah I haven't, I'm not with him nearly often enough for that to make much difference and I'm quite shy so asking for that scares the shit out of me. He is very clear on wanting to make me cum, it's a thing apparently. He still seems to enjoy stuff but I'm not looking to be mediocre. I'm working up the courage to start talking about those things, I managed it when I was drunk a while ago but it hasn't come back up since so idk.

Thinking about him triggers it because my mind immediately wanders to sex and there's a lot that makes me think of him. I didn't realise excessive stress could trigger it, I have been unbelievably stressed recently. I'll definitely look into that as a possible cause.

>You're a retard
nice assumption that undercuts your point

That's an insult, not an assumption, gj

>it's an insult and not an assumption because i say it is
well done

Assumption
>A thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof
Insult
>a disrespectful or scornfully abusive remark or act.
I don't have to believe it's true to say an insult bruh, are you ESL?

>i didn't accept that you were retarded without proof even though i literally called you a retard

and since when was retard an insult? are you retarded?

I can’t get it up during sex but it’s fine while fapping. Please help.

Retard has been an insult for ages, don't be obtuse. I can call you a nigger as an insult but that doesn't mean I'm assuming you're black, or if I call you a cunt that I'm assuming you're a vagina. You're clearly an idiot who can make vague assumptions and then massive, ridiculous sweeping statements, therefore insulting you with the term retard is clear and valid. You obviously are either ESL or literally a retard.

>don't be obtuse
imagine thinking that assuming i'm an angle isn't an assumption

> You're clearly an idiot who can make vague assumptions
nice assumption of what i am yet again

So you're literally just a retard who would price just that rather than accept you can be wrong. Okay.

>So you're literally just a retard
when will you stop making assumptions and then accuse me of making assumptions?

I told you you made one assumption and then you flew off the handle. You can't gaslight written text, bud. You've hired l bored me now, going from preposterous to outright false.

>you flew off the handle
nice assumption again jesus christ

>>inb4 stop masturbating
>Yes but how.
you can continue fapping OP, just start cumming in your mouth/swallowing everytime you do. This will make you want to fap less because the test in your semen will be converted to estrogen and lower your sex drive.

That won't work for me user i don't have a dick

I'm not that guy, but assuming it was a male poster is not a poor assumption. It is more common for men to post on this board, so unless gender is stated everyone will assume they are male.

Calling him retarded for that assumption is like calling someone retarded because they assumed a person living in China is Chinese.

I'm not calling them retarded because they assumed I was a dude, that would be retarded. They are a retard because they assume all dudes who struggle with masturbation objectify women.

I don't think it's a poor assumption to assume the person you're replying to on Jow Forums is a male. Even on Jow Forums.

Please read

oh user, I'm so sorry

Tfw

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>What do I do?
get fucked by a pack of niggers, visit gloryholes, go to sex clubs, put yourself up on craigslist, get gangbanged, eat all the eggs, become an escort and make some cash off your high sex drive; fuck so much that you'll get tired of it

Ah gotcha my bad

Don't feel like my partner would appreciate any of that and I'd prefer to stay on his good side honestly. I'm also super not interested in casual sex so most of that really won't apply to me unfortunately.

Probably find better partner? Try to enjoy masturbation? Force your partner into more stimulating sex? I really can't help with this mlady, I struggling to find a girl and fap every day, so there is my 50 cents