A while ago I found out he was waiting for me to fall asleep to start jerking off to camwhores, I wouldn't feel as shit or worthless if it had been for the lack of sex, that is simply not the case since I do everything he wants in bed (anal and footjobs included) and I noticed at the very start of our relationship when the peak of attraction was supposed to be felt.
We have had many arguments since that and now I keep his phone locked with a password he doesn't know (at his request) but I still can't manage to trust him at all and we still have arguments about the camwhores issue. I don't think I am unattractive either I been told I am 8/10 but he's the first guy I've been with and his betrayal hurt me so deeply I feel like a worthless disgusting sack of shit, we live together and is good for the most part and I go out of my way to keep him pleased and happy but the thing is in the back of my mind I still think almost every day of what he did
Bf jerking off to camwhores when I go to sleep
how long together, and how long has been doing this.
and what reason given when confronted.
He said he did it because he had that habit and started breaking things and tried to break the phone. He swears he's attracted to me and he has a sex drive(we have sex daily).
As far as I know he doesn't do it anymore but i still don't trust him.
Together almost 2 years
Time to break up.
I thought about it and packed my shit to leave but he begged and literally cried(prob to manipulate me) and swore he wouldn't do it again and now we even have a house together so I don't think it's an option
Habits are real, and if he was doing it before he dated you, its likely something he would continue doing until disincentived to in some way.
i think we still don't know enough about the situation. something else is weird here...
Leaving is always an option, and he fucked up. Pack your shit and do what you need to do to separate from this person. He does not respect you and it is time to leave him and the relationship.
You want to know what is really going on? He is emotionally invested in these fictitious women and thinks about them while he fucks you in the ass. You are nothing more than a fantastic masturbation tool while he imagines what they feel like and fucking them would be like. You mean nothing to him. Just a floppy set of tits to bounce around and a set of holes to milk his gland in.
Time to leave, lady,
>When two people live together and they're not married
You don't even love each other, you're both using each other for something.
It happened over a year ago and he doesn't use his phone "unsupervised" or the laptop but I have no reason to believe he doesn't have the same urges
He claims to love me and we have plans to get married but I know I won't trust him and I've become paranoid and controlling
he's an addict and you feel like a piece of shit because you put up with it. naturally he took it upon himself to convince you it's your fault so you do all the stuff he acts like you need to do in bed in order to keep him around.
People need verities.
I love chocolate cake but I can’t eat it for every meal. I’ve been happily living with my partner for 7 years and if you want to be with this guy in the long run you can’t expect him to base his entire sexuality on you. It just won’t work
Don’t get me wrong he probably loves having sex with you. I love having sex with my boyfriend too but he needs to be able to have some agency with his own sexuality.
It has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU you’re not ugly or unsexy or ANYTHING like that. It’s just how humans work. That’s why even supermodels get cheated on because they expect to be the only thing in the world that their partners find attractive and that’s just unrealistic. Also you need to differentiate your emotional value to him and your sexual value. They aren’t the same sex is just a fun thing couples do together but it doesn’t have much to do with the love,trust and respect that actually constitutes as a relationship.
Respect and trust him enough to know he would never physically cheat on you he’s just wackin it. Something he’s probably been doing for a decade.
So you don't masturbate to anything at all ever?
Would you be ok if he just watched regular porn? If so just encourage that as an alternative
Also everyone telling op to breakup with her partner because he’s jacking off without any further information is fucking insane.
She has been with her partner for two years! Love is soo hard to find and is a constant work in progress! Cheating might be a deal breaker but masterbation?? Who are all of you? The Catholic Church?
>Also you need to differentiate your emotional value to him and your sexual value. They aren’t the same sex is just a fun thing couples do together but it doesn’t have much to do with the love,trust and respect that actually constitutes as a relationship.
imagine believing this
My girlfriend is upset with my watching porn but I could give two shits. It is something I enjoy that she can't give me. I could be off with other girls but instead I'm alone in my room beatin my meat to girls on my monitor. What's the issue? I don't see it.
Are you joking? What do you think asexual people do ? Never fall in love ? What about people in wheelchairs who can’t physically have sex at all?
Sex isn’t love. Do you fall in love every time you have sex ?
An emotional relationship certainly benifits from sexual intimacy but in no way is that it’s depending factor.
T. Happily living with my partner for 5 years with a healthy sexual relationship of 7 years.
The kind of relationship you’re talking about sounds sad and empty and I feel pity for you.
Based bf cucking u.
Namefags shouldn’t throw stones
Listen, answer two things.
1. Is he spending money on these camwhores?
2. Are the two of them interacting in any way?
If your answers are no and no, what is your issue exactly?
Real questions here !
It's hardly a betrayal, jerking to porn is a very normal thing. If he is jerking it even when he's having constant sex then he's probably got some form of addiction.
Occasionally people can get 'bored / empty' feeling, and if they have associated that feeling with jerking it - they will just start doing so without really thinking about it.
The subject matter being cam whores makes no difference either as long as he isn't spending money on them, porn is porn - everyone has their kinks and it sounds like cams is his. If he was jerking it to pictures of yours/his friends, or his exes then it's a problem
It's a dumb thing to make such a big deal out of, just tell him you'd like him to cut down and work together so he's not jerking it so much - if he doesn't put effort into it, or you're still looking for a reason to breakup - go ahead and do it.
Firstly, it could be you (the partner) not being satisfying. It is a real thing that attraction must be worked at abd maintained.
Based on what you said, it is not you. It is most likely addiction on his part.
In which case you have found a gem of a guy (to even ask for your help) who needs some polishing.
Tge thing with addiction is that it overpowers your own will power. So it doesnt really matter what he thinks of you or wants, the cammies have him.
So dont blame yourself. Youre not being distrustful you're being cautious. Its tge correct reaction similar to parents with teenage kids. Trust is not some right its a privilege earned. At best, you should only trust people to be thenselves. That is to say, trust a drug addict to use their drugs. So you're not wrong for distrusting. But you do have a duty to do something about that feeling. Monitor him (within reasonable levels) or something, get him therapy or whatever.
In terms of your relationship, i think its good. Most guys would never even admit after being caught (tune: it wasnt me by shaggy), nevermind asking for help and stuff. It may not be within your ability (again, its not a fault if cant help), but please try to help him.
Abd watch out for yourself, drug addiction can get nasty for partners. Otherwise, i think you've found a good guy
Most likely he has a small penis and all psychological problems associated with this
I see othes suggesting that you monitor him, give him a second chance etc.
How about this:
You grow the fuck up and let the man do what he likes doing? By standing between him and this, you're effectively putting and unnecessary strain on your relationship. And throwing away a two year relationship over something so trivial is something only a stupid jealous woman can do. Rise above.
I can also sense you have some contempt for this profession. Try to be less judgemental. In some different circumstances you could've been the one camming.
All in all, try to be okay with this, because it's an urge you simply cannot have because you're not male, which makes you less likely to understand and empathize. What you two have is much more than sex.
This. It’s just wackin it babe not a deep seeded love affair
>asexual
No such thing. You meant physically/mentally ill or attention seekers
This
Notice op failed to answer this one.
Typical.
Of the millions and millions of people in the world you can’t comprehend that a small percent of them don’t want sex?
Ya ok, your point is totally valid
sounds like you dont jerk him off enough or you dont care about your sexual relationship.
Guys Jerk off, he didnt betray you, when he fucks another girl then you can say he Betrayed you, self centered bitch.
This. Look at it as him just watching porn. Surely you’ve looked at porn during your time together.
Unless he’s interacted with them or cheated on you, it’s not a big deal, ESPECIALLLY if you’re having sex every day.
Why would he need to jerk off if she's getting him off daily? Specially with camwhores that's cheating.
Besides I think he's the lucky one who got a 8/10 Fleshlight with no self esteem and he still ruins that for some fake attention money grabbing camwhores. Hope his dick goes limp
But you're supposed to interract with camwhores. Delete his internet and demand more sex rounds. Pound him into the matress. Do squats. Roar at him, femanon.
Op here, no I don't masturbate and he doesn't really try to get me off either usually, only a couple times a month, no oral either but I am used to it and just like making him happy, he's my first sex partner too
maybe he just likes jerking solo sometimes? idk, feeling that constant need to impress or be timely can wear on a person and maybe he just like some alone time. As for cam whores in particular, ya sorta crosses a line but they are also a fetish for some people
>and now I keep his phone locked with a password he doesn't know (at his request)
Jesus christ, that's a huge HUUUUGE red flag for me. You lock up your boyfriends phone?? Are you his master? Are you his mother?
I don't think I could ever be in a relationship where the other person wanted to control my every move and tell me who I can and cannot talk to and be friends with.
This sounds like some unhealthy shit and I don't think it's entirely his fault for that.
ITT: men scream and cry about how much of a struggle it is not to cheat, blame women for feeling nervous about it
You’re retarded
Ignore the retards telling you to break up.
This is a very solvable issue, so solve it. Porn is addicting and it's very hard to stop, so be sympathetic. Talk to him regularly so he knows exactly how you feel.
Yeah wtf "boohoo I have 3 readily available willing holes any time of the day I want but it's sooo hard not beating it at camwhores who prob look nothing like that irl"
Some guys don't deserve getting laid and should just stay with their beloved virtual whores
He offered her as a token of trust or whatever
Seriously this. You basically considering breaking up for watching porn. It's silly
OP is retarded, her boyfriend is retarded, the femanons in this thread are bitches, and the anons in this thread are cucks for watching virtual porn and camwhores instead of fucking real chicks. Either get yourself a girl that satisfies you, lower your standards, or decide that sex isn't that important to you. Femanons should stop being jealous of thicc bitches on the internet and stop trying to control their boyfriend's every move. He can do what he wants, if he wants to jack off, you can fucking leave. If it's an addiction, tell him to knock it off and solve it himself like a fucking man without having him give his phone to you. Either leave, realize that people change and he can change himself, or decide it isn't a problem. Really, if he can change that aspect of himself for you on his own, that's a good attribute to have. He's giving you his phone because he wants to kiss ass and because he's a cuck and you're a crazy bitch.