I’m 23 F, and my 22 M will consistently look at other girls on Facebook / Instagram...

I’m 23 F, and my 22 M will consistently look at other girls on Facebook / Instagram. We have been dating for just short of 3 years. Consistently, meaning he is searching for girls once or twice a day - always when I’m at work/out the house.

Firstly, why is he doing this?

And secondly, we are sexually active, maybe, one a month (if I’m lucky). - and so the fact that he’s doing this, is putting me off even being with him.

I don’t feel appreciate.

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>once a month
>sexually active

He wants something else, but don’t have the guts to break up. Sorry.

Sry,, would of explained. We have sex, he claims to not want to do it anymore than that because he had a low sex drive. - pointing out that I don’t think he’s jacking off to these girls.

I think he's jacking off to all kinds of things and that's why he claims his libido is low

He's just not that into you.

Maybe if you weren’t fat and milked his cock once a day he would actually love you.

See I do offer and try though.

What ethnicity are you and what ethnicity is your dumb boyfriend? It might explain alot

Both white, British.

He's cheating on you would be my first inclination.

Boys think like this, that women are dogs that have to earn appreciation... not mature men. A man will appreciate you and also show you by being faithful.

Dump him sis.

How fat are you, how fat is he?
How good looking are you really?
What's your home life like?
Does he work? Do you work?
What's your relationship history like?
What's the mental health history of you two?

So many questions, so give us some answers first

This sounds like how a woman thinks how a man thinks.

No it sounds like either bait or an entitled trash western bitch.

It is kinda funny what she said though since I've had subs of mine wear collars to display possession. A little different in context, but still worth a smirk.

It is how a man thinks. Grown ass men don't demand or expect blowjobs instead of just leaving a person because they're sexually incompatible. That would be the mature thing to do. Instead OPs bitchass cunt of a slugboi is seeking the short term thrill of arousal in strangers and doesn't care how his partner feels. That is an entitled boy.

Dump him sis.

Rate both of you out of 10,
A man only wanting to fuck every 30 days can only mean he's asexual or not into you.

>sexually active
>one a month
Very funny, girl.

>It is how a man thinks.
Woman are dogs and have to earn appreciation? This sounds like something parroted in either a sociology class or Jow Forums, neither of which are well representative of the actual, living world.

>Grown ass men don't demand or expect blowjobs instead of just leaving a person because they're sexually incompatible. That would be the mature thing to do.
The mature thing to do would be to never get into that situation to begin with. Sex isn't everything, but it is an important part of intimacy and relationships. This is something that should be dealt with at the outset. If you don't hit it off on multiple facets, including sexual compatibility, then it isn't worth the time.

>Instead OPs bitchass cunt of a slugboi is seeking the short term thrill of arousal in strangers and doesn't care how his partner feels. That is an entitled boy.
There isn't enough information to decide what precisely is going on since they've been going out for 3 years. What changes have occurred in their sex life since the beginning (after the initial lusty phase)? How has their communication been? The fact that he is looking girls up specifically when she isn't around is more worrying than his libido to me.

If communication between you two is this busted then do yourself the justice and end it yourself.

A relationship literally is just communication on various levels and you have none of them accomplished. A relationship has exactly one key element, one thing all relationships do need in an even capacity for both sides as both sides judge, and that is communication and you do not have it any longer.

He probably has an addiction to porn.
I don't know how you would bring it up with him, hopefully another user can chime in, but that's probably what's happening.
I'm currently working through my addiction because it's affecting my relationship with my girlfriend too.

That's how an immature guy thinks you decroded twat. Learn2comprehension. Your response makes zero sense and you're not proving anything except guys on Jow Forums are mostly misogynistic and fucking retarded.

OP sis you deserve better. Period. No dick is worth that much worry.

How did you beat your addiction? Pornfree/nofap?

>diction? Pornfree/n
Not 20962770 but having a very hot gf helps.

This.

>a very hot gf helps.
It doesn't.
My girlfriend is a 8/10 and it doesn't really change anything.
With any addiction it's just accepting that it's not benefiting you in any way, after that it's about promising yourself you won't slip back into it.
Haven't beaten it yet. But I'm determined this time around though.
Pornfree is a given obviously. Don't indulge in it at all. Nofap helps too. If anyone is going through it as well, I'd suggest to do nofap for at least 2 - 3 months. Then you're welcome to do it as much as you want, just no fucking porn.

t. Someone who's never been in a relationship

>you decroded twat. Learn2comprehension.
You want to be treated with maturity, yet you resort to ad hominems. More so, these include snippets from children's movies and typing like you were texting someone on a cell phone. If you want to serve of an example of why women in general should be respected, then you leave us all wanting.

>Your response makes zero sense
Based on your previous response, I'm not surprised.

>not proving anything except guys on Jow Forums are mostly misogynistic and fucking retarded.
A wonderful defense for a disagreement. I am a male, thus I am defeated. Clearly, the disagreement wasn't based on the merit of argument or information, but based on a deep in-grained hatred for women. You are victorious in all fronts, and I should impale myself honorably with a wakizashi.

It does actually, in a way. Having taken back control of your choices (I CHOOSE to not watch porn, not because someone pushes me, but because I CHOOSE to do it) is one thing, you have to have substitute for your pixelated 10/10 skank i.e hot gf. Of course you can settle for less, but it helps.

Good reasoning.
You are right, and not only that, having reason to give up porn, (to have a healthier sex life with your partner) is just another good reason as well.

I ended one because she refused to talk (I mean deadass silent treatment). That pushed me into the arms of her friend with whom I have been for close to a decade. The summer will mark eight years.

Communication is what makes relationships. It's essential. As little as being able to talk about being sad that you're breaking out in zits up to discussing what the plan is in the event that an upcoming surgery complicates sex.

It's not that not discussing things kills. It's that it's gotten to levels of discomfort where both sides are routing through third parties to get what they want. That's already too much for a relationship when one side does it and now this girl is trying to conduct her resolution of her boyfriend on Jow Forums, while he's out craving attention from other girls.

At times, relationships can be held together by no more than the concept of 'being together,' even when that has stopped being pleasant, rewarding or fulfilling; one can easily tell themselves things are still okay because breaking up with people is hard, no matter if they're shitty or what. You're still dropping someone's feelings back on their doorstep. It's difficult to just 'do.'
But like many difficult things, it is also necessary at times.

Women should be respected because basic human needs and rights. If you want to be superior to someone get off Jow Forums and have something to show for your inflated ego.

>Women should be respected because basic human needs and rights.
Respect isn't a right, and gender doesn't matter a iota. Both women and men should only be respected if they deserve that respect, just like elders should not automatically be given credence simply due to their age. Respect is earned.

>If you want to be superior to someone get off Jow Forums and have something to show for your inflated ego.
Good job, loving relationship, financial security. Thank you for the concern, though. I'm touched.

It depends on a million factors including his own personality. Might even mean nothing.
Men like looking at girls (don't you like looking at good looking men?) And fb/insta gives easy access. It can become kind of addictive, sure, but it's not necessarily a red flag and it doesn't make you any worse.

My gf (6 years) is the most gorgeous woman on the planet to me. I still look at other girls. I also go on tinder for lols and swipe right and see what I can get (she knows and is fine. It's a game for me, nothing has or will come of it.)

For me, though, it even helps me stay happy and grounded in my relationship. Most people fear being alone and in a relationship it can lead to toxic behaviour.

Knowing I have options takes away the fear of losing her because I know I'll be fine without her, and makes my love for her and actions more legitimate. It comes from sincerity instead of fear and I can be sure of it.

I'm just one example. Like I said I don't know him. Just trying to demonstrate looking at other girls doesn't immediately mean you're lower or there's a problem.

yeah this. He's basically keeping you as backup because he knows that he might not be able do better but he isn't emotionally invested in you.

If he's treating you like this after 3 years and you're not obscenely fat, you're wasting your time on him.
God, 3 years of putting up with my shit and still wanting my dick. I'd sell my rig for a ring at that point.

Both not fat, he’s 6’4 with a normal/slim body and i’m 5’2 with a ‘skinny thicc’ body. I’m small, but have a smaller waist.

I would say we are both good looking. - he’s my type. I know this doesn’t mean I’m good looking, but I do get a lot of male attention. Irl and online- my bf has rules of the kinda picture that I can post online, for example not to much chest showing.

Our home life is okay, we play games together - I cook and clean for him etc. He doesn’t ever go out, so often when I go out with my friend he will be left alone (he’s always invited but would rather sat at home)

We both work, Monday to Friday, 8 - 4:30 for me and he works from home, so will work whatever times.

Relationship history is ‘fine’, nothing magical but no one has cheated. It’s hard to have a ‘magical’ relationship from him as, he doesn't like to go out with me, or take me places. For example last week, he went into our local town to go shopping - I asked to come since we haven’t been out together for a long time - he says I’d just slow him down and that he doesn’t want to be out with me.

Mental history is fine. No depression, I have slight anxiety (but who doesn't).

- very sorry for the late reply.