Guys are only with you for sex anyway, they aren't loyal, they say they are in love but it's just infatuation and they'll leave when they are board if they can find anyone else. I don't trust that they are sincere, because says anything for sex.
I'm not opposed to sex but I am to be used emotionally and abandoned. I don't care about having a wedding or traditional life, I like my freedom, but I don't get much enjoyment from flings either. I like dating and then as it grts more serious I just feel the time is coming that he gets bored, or the spark wears off, and I rather just be alone.
It doesn't help that I am not close with any family either, and it's probably partly responsible for my abandonment issues.
After all guys want girls to fill their kinks they see in porn and be replacement mommies and aren't interested in who we are as people. If this is true then there is literally no benefit for women. I wish I was a lesbian.
Is this just a negative thought pattern from depression and anxiety or is this true?
Nolan Watson
>Don't care about traditional life >likes being slutty
look where that got you
Easton Green
It's not true, OP is just a generalizing moron who's had bad experiences with men.
Camden Murphy
I am OP. I don't have bad experiences, I just bail out of fear of abandonment because all men I am not dating ever talk about are these things, online it's all the same, they complain if they don't have a woman and complain as soon as they do, because she is a perfect anime waifu. Guys who act like they are so in love like a new girl after a few weeks, I hear guys complain about their girlfriends, I hear guys say that sex is all they want, plus cooking and cleaning and serving them. I don't want ti be a slave, and I don't value social gatherings like a formal wedding, I don't even have any family anymore. Guys won't say this directly to the girl they want sex from.... and even if they cry avout our breakup I think it's just their ego, and they'll fill it with another girl and act like it was only her he ever loved, I guess.
user can't read, what a surprise.
Joseph Nelson
I just want a cute gf to watch movie with, go out once in a while and eventually have a couple of children.
Of course sex is important, it's part of the bounding process.
Isaac Wright
It seems to me that I was right in believing you to be a generalizing idiot, though if you've not had any romantic experience with men in the first place then you're bigger one than I'd given you credit for.
Christopher Baker
That'd be nice but I'm set on only one kid at most, it's too hard on the body to be pregnant, birth, and raise even one, plus they'll fight lol.
I'm just battling pretty serious depression and I keep trying to catch irrational negative thought patterns, but it so hard.
I think you didn't even read my post and saw a woman posted a thread and got horny about it. Assumptions everywhere but no quality.
Tyler Harris
You have made multiple assertions regarding the intrinsic character of men, all of which have innumerable exceptions. I'll concede that I misunderstood what you said about your romantic experience, but all the same you have no ground to stand on.
Adam Bell
Maybe men don't care about you as a person because you're boring or toxic. Why should men care about you? Do you feel entitled to love?
Thomas Jenkins
Women are as shitty as men just in different ways. I don't feel like listing the reasons because somehow I imagine you will just argue with me. Everyone is selfish.
To answer you question.
The literal point of dating is to sift through shitty people in order to find someone worthwhile. If it was easy finding someone compatible there wouldn't be a need to date. You would just pick someone and everything would be perfect.
That being said you don't strike me as a very kind woman. Maybe work on being the type of woman a loyal kind man would want?
Austin Gomez
Find a guy who doesn't care about sex. One of those borderline asexual types. Like me.
Except not quite like me because I don't date people, especially not random people on imageboards.
>After all guys want girls to fill their kinks they see in porn and be replacement mommies and aren't interested in who we are as people. these things aren't mutually exclusive. You aren't going to be happy about everything they want from you, but you should learn to live with it or see it as a positive to make someone you care about happy.
Nicholas Smith
you shouldnt date yet another retarded american invention when you are sorta togather, but not really, ie. dating just be togather or not, simple
Ian Murphy
I can't speak for every man out there, but for me at least some of this is partly true. While I don't seek women out for sex, the spark does fade and I constantly am looking ahead to a new companion. However, this has come from my past experience. Call it whatever you want but there was once a girl that I thought was the one. She's gone now, she went off to find better I suppose. I can't help but compare girls that I date to her and as such they never add up to her allure. Hope you find whatever it is you're looking for, but the search just might not ever end.
Colton Reed
Yes, they are in only for the sex, 100% true, accept it or leave it.
Anthony Ortiz
listen to brotien, nd genderbend his words
Robert Taylor
It sounds like you're having problems with pic related. They're called cognitive distortions and just about everybody gets them. When I was having lots of problems with this sort of thing I used to type up worksheets to figure them out. I don't have access to my templates right this second but it was something like this:
My thoughts and feelings: What kind of distortions can I spot?: Did real life reflect my assumptions? What actually happened?: Conclusion:
(There's probably better worded versions of this that you can find with a little Googling.)
After some practice, spotting and reasoning through these patterns is almost second nature.
You take the shit way too seriously. Dating can provide you with a partner to enjoy your life a little bit more.
>I am to be used emotionally and abandoned Well, that's all a perspective thing.
> they complain if they don't have a woman Why the unholy fuck would you ever even consider dating someone like that? A person who isn't happy with their single life, is shit-tier partner material. >Guys who act like they are so in love like a new girl after a few weeks A lot are, or well, confuse love with infatuation. >I hear guys complain about their girlfriends, People like to complain. Doesn't mean their don't value them. >I don't want ti be a slave So tell guys who expect you alone to do the chores to fuck off? >I don't value social gatherings like a formal wedding So don't date marriage fags or people who love social gatherings. >I think it's just their ego A lot of things are. So what? How old are you, user?
Alexander Torres
True story: If you are a regular user (or post on here at all) it’s because you are in some way, mentally fucked up.
Guess where your mental fuck up is? I’ll give you a clue, it has to do with the way you see men.
First step to fixing shit is ways acknowledging that it’s a problem and that your thought patterns are irregular. It’s probably in your interest to come to terms with that, and work forwards to improve that mindset with that awareness in mind.
It’s not an easy process, but it is how you move forward.
Adam Bennett
And to think all you have to do to guarantee replies by the number is just insinuate you're a girl. This many years of my internet use later, this is still a stone-cold fact of the internet: women get more attention innately.
Ryan Smith
A lot of men are just as shitty as she described. The fuck up is giving these any attention instead of looking for quality men.
Matthew Murphy
“A lot” does not mean all or even most.
It’s the same problem that pretty much all of the guys who post on here bitching about women have: They meet a few shitty people and they immediately become predisposed to seeing all others with the same negative light.
I agree on the attention thing, but her problem is her mindset.
When you walk in with a pessimistic, half glass empty mentality, you slowly start looking at everything in terms of it being lacking and eventually get to the point of assuming that anything that’s not filled up to the point of overflowing is already missing some, so what’s the point? Hell, sometimes it gets bad enough that even those that are literally full to the point of spilling over start being thought of as traps or optical illusions, hiding a completely empty glass.
Negativity mindsets can be toxic as fuck and can completely fuck over your ability to see reality for what it actually is.
Having been there, sometimes the only thing you can do is call yourself on your own bullshit and try to remember that your mindset and viewpoint is distorted, and that you should try to operate outside of that.
Blake Myers
My grandparents where married for 57 years until my grandfather died. When exactly was his "infatuation" going to end?
Brayden Baker
Lack of options and/or desire for improvement.
Ethan Jones
>After all guys want girls to fill their kinks they see in porn Yes, but women want that from men. It's nice to enjoy something you want to do sexually with someone you care about >and be replacement mommies Find better caliber men. It does feel like the majority of men are like this but once you learn to recognise the signs of it, it's easy to keep away from the ones you need to babysit >and aren't interested in who we are as people. Find a dude that has genuine female friends. I'm not gonna say that dating is worthwhile, especially women to men with the sheer abuse you get for doing it at all, but when you find that diamond in the rough then it does make it feel like it was worth it. You've got to actively fund him, though.
That's why you pump and dump them, silly. Men's uses are limited to their purses anyway. Hell, 99% of "men" I see these days are such hussies I'm afraid I'd get THEM pregnant.
>After all guys want girls to fill their kinks they see in porn and be replacement mommies and aren't interested in who we are as people. If this is true then there is literally no benefit for women. I wish I was a lesbian.
The last girl I was with was A-sexual, that was literally a positive in my book. Problems arose because she wanted someone basically to take care of her but not at the same time. She wanted a surrogate parent whereas I was looking for someone I could look at as an equal when it comes to intimacy. Ultimately she completely burned the bridge down because of her complete immaturity. I just wanted to let you know that benighted behaviors/traits is not exclusive to just males.
Chase Martin
This is only true if you base this opinion off of Jow Forums. The guys and in general people on here are the bottom tier of what society has to offer. I have a serious gf who I've dated (and fucked) for 4 years.
Jose Gonzalez
>I like my freedom and don't want to get married >I don't like casual flings either
>I want a guy to be emotionally attached to me >I don't want to invest the same effort and time to be together with him.
Gavin Rogers
That's cool. I'm a dude and women don't even give me the time of day.
Gavin White
Date women and stop complaining. Dumbass fool
Eli Wood
I mean, I don't want a woman who only likes me because I'm good looking or something else. So I guess we can agree that dating in 2019 is inherently shallow, transactional and self serving.
Bentley Gutierrez
Bruh I love fish, I’m saving this image
Alexander Rodriguez
>want replacement mommies What exactly does this even mean?
Adrian Long
There comes a point where you have to accept that maybe the problem isn't "literally the rest of the fucking planet that people have been getting along fine on for hundreds of thousands of years." I have two people I talk to at work regularly who are nerdy friends, one I hang out with, and one who's more of a hi, bye. The one I hang out with is a social autist. He absolutely cannot do anything but speak his mind and takes offense at every slight and passive aggressive comment. He is completely awkward and funny. The one I'm hi bye with has social etiquette and politically correct opinions memorized and can read people. He is a social butterfly with a lot of partying connections. While I don't distrust, or even dislike this second person, I know at the end of the day that he's not interested in being true friends with me, and that the first guy is a sincere and kind soul that I can count on.
What I'm saying is, "take a little less stock in your ovaries, a little more stock in your brain.
Nicholas Edwards
>I'm not opposed to sex but I am to be used emotionally and abandoned
That's because you go for the "bad boys" that you want to fuck but end up dogging you like the bitch you are. Get a clue.
James Moore
>if this is true Well I simply reject you hypothethis.
Michael Howard
based togather poster
Brandon Morales
Well. Why is it that all you have to offer is sex? Offer more then men will stay
Jace Barnes
Maybe you’re just dating the wrong type of guy. Not all men are like this; I’ve been with my bf since we were in middle school and we’ve never had sex, because he respects me enough to know that that is not what I’m into. He was willing to wait for me to finish 12 years of school (college, med school, etc.) and supported me on the way there. He actually respected me and was with me because he cared and not because he wanted to screw me. OP, your relationships obviously aren’t healthy. You need to wake up. There ARE good guys out there. Sex doesn’t equal love, obviously and there are guys out there who will understand and respect that. There ARE men out there who aren’t into sex and really do care. You just have to find the right one.
Brandon Flores
>guys aren't loyal
Any idea how many times i've been cheated on by women? go fuck yourself
Christian Ross
I suspect you're a male faggot falseflagging as a female to make females look like entitled peices of shit. Lets assume I'm right so we don't have to face the reality that females are shit.
John Roberts
>they aren't loyal Hahahahahahaha
Landon Price
this Loyalty and Duty are the archstones of a man. If he's not being loyal you've got to step back and look at what is causing it because it won't be something small or fleeting.
Aaron King
You've got the female version of the incel/mgtow mentality.
"(Wo)men are all the same, they just want sex (money) and will leave you when they find someone they think is better."
we all know deep down that women lack the concept of duty and loyalty. during ww2 when a foreign force invades your town what do the women do? "open our legs for the rough northern barbarians and let them have their way with us" Look what happens when the weaker men are killed defending their home and the strong move it, these women don't even flinch they just say "well the stronger man won so hes 100% hotter now". Its just the nature of women.
>Lets assume I'm right so we don't have to face the reality that females are shit. Based.
Jayden Gonzalez
Guys are a never ending wave of sexual desires and grossness. But. There are some good ones out there, just takes some time and effort to find the right one. Just take things slow and learn that the kinky stuff is awesome to explore with someone who’s loving and trustworthy.
