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If something can be broken by the truth - it deserves to be. Better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie.

I know, but he's really old and he's almost on his way out of life. I don't know if you think it's a good idea to shake this issue up and potentially break the family forever.

Still OP's decision. I'd choose to keep quiet if I were him.

You should sit your mom down in front of the computer and show her exactly how you found what you found. Let mom do her own bit of exploring and let her decide how to handle this. If you loved her, you'd be honest with her and let her decide how to handle this.

If she wants to go nuclear, that's the consequence that your father's gonna have to deal with. He did this. This is his punishment. If she wants to go into denial and pretend everything's fine - that's also her call to make. Either way, show her what you found and ask her how she'd like to deal with it.

That's a typical answer from a goody two shoes who believes that everything needs to be brought into light. I don't know but I would really prefer not to. I would never show something to my mom that would change her forever and potentially break her.

And you sound like a little coward who's too afraid to be real with your own parents. Dad did a bad thing and has been hiding it from mom. All of this is his fault to begin with. Dad's been lying for who knows how long to his wife's face. Are you going to also lie to her? Is her entire family made up of liars? Don't be a coward, OP. Show her what you found and let her make up her own mind.

I wouldn't call this cowardice, I am merely concerned about the mother. Covering your dad's shit up also require a you to be emotionally strong. I would say bringing that up with your mom and being inconsiderate about the consequences is just being reckless.

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It was him. his email and stuff was up in a regular window
I wouldnt tell my mum, just confront him about it.
I doubt it, hes a pretty calm and intelligent guy. He would probably just ashamedly own up to it.
I think this could be the best way of preventing him from actually going through with it, reminding him of the consequences. We all do incredibly stupid shit when we are horny.
hahhahahaha
I absolutely wouldnt involve my mum at first. Im banking on the fact that he has just considered it by googling, and that he hasnt actually gone through with it.

My only concern is that if I do nothing, and he does actually go through with it, then the family is broken. I feel like I may have a chance to prevent that now.

Put your mum on all fours and fuck her. Leave him.

what's reckless is dad creeping around with prostitutes and not deleting his browser history while his loving obvious wife makes him dinner and folds his laundry. She deserves to know the truth.

Op has said he thinks he hasnt actually done it, just researching/considering it

UPDATE:

Confronted my dad about it and he laughed immediately and said that 'it amused him' and not to worry. Obviously looking back im not 100% convinced but the way he acted and said it was enough to persuade me at least at the time that he was just horny/curious.
If he is lying (i dont think he has ever lied to me before) he has played it offf extremely well.

I’d file this away in the deep dark hole of “don’t ask, don’t tell”

Ive had a few suspicions at my dad over the years... just certain ways he goes out of his way to justify certain things or certain subjects that get kinda nonchalantly glossed over...

I don’t know for a fact.... but I’m pretty damn suspicious.... but I’d honestly rather not know. And I don’t think my mom would either.

So I file away.

I don’t think horribly of him, I know what being with my mom is like, I grew up with them constantly screaming at each other, but I also don’t condone it.

It just is what it is.

No one is happy in that marriage, it they feel that it’s what they want and worked to build over these years, so eh... who am I to break that...

Your mom might already know about this. It’s not that uncommon. I would say nothing, you woudnt want to know if your parents might be into so kinky swap stuff.

This. Telling everyone is the easy way out, there is a time to tell someone and a time to say nothing. If they cant do anything about the situation and knowing would ONLY hurt them what's the point in telling them?

Check his history once again.

I'm going to laugh my ass off when it turns out your mom is getting hookers.