>gf doesnt like to talk about anything sexual
>she does not know what the inside of her vagina feels like
>doesnt masturbate
Is this normal? I can understand not masturbating, but purely for health reasons its important to check your genitals once in a while.
Sexual ignorance or aversion usually roots itself in sexual abuse
okay. How to deal with this though?
Not normal but not unheard of either. How alarming it is (and how quick you can expect her progress to be) depends largely on her age. For a seventeen year old girl this is quite different than for a twenty seven year old woman.
She is uncomfortable with her sexuality. Can be because of (childhood or otherwise) abuse, can be because of religious guilt or cultural notions about female sexuality etc.
This is a personal issue of hers and not a quick fix thing. Assuming you already tried to talk to her and she clams up or insists this is her normal... you should think of this as a thing that takes months if not years to fully overcome, not weeks.
>Sexual ignorance or aversion usually roots itself in sexual abuse
God dammit.
It's really annoying as well since I'm trying to get her off any way I can and I'm asking her what feels good and she just says "I dunno, it all feels good" well bitch shouldn't you be a bit closer to orgasm now than when we started five weeks ago?
I can feel you, however 60% of women i screwed where like this.
Its your task to find out what she likes via her body language.
Take note of the small details, does she breath faster, deeper, moans? moves her body towards yours?
And probably the best protip I can give, if she says "im about to come" DONT CHANGE ANYTHING AT ALL. JUST KEEP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING.
Could stem from different things honestly. Usually its sexual abuse, sometimes they just have a really low sexdrive.
nice quads. you're not OP though, because i am.
however, i sympathize. I really get tired of my female saying things like that. What specifically feels good, i ask. "all of it". like wtf
OP here.. my female doesnt "do" body language...at all. she cant read it and she doesnt display it. Shes rigid constantly.
Okay ive heard of that before but never encountered it myself.
How is she with emotions in general in regard to body language? Like in day to day life
emotionally she is unstable. She is very much controlled by her emotions and doesnt always display them well. she represses a lot of how shes feeling and simply doesnt, or cant talk about things in a logical manner.
She’s lying lol
what about confronting her?
back in the day i used to get really mad about it, because it was a real roadblock in our sexuality. now im just almost apathetic. I just like to harass her about it to see if she gets to the point that she finally can open up.. exposure therapy of sorts.
She just doesn't feel comfortable talking to you about them.
Try being kinder and more willing to listen to her. Less flirty with other women. Stop blaming her for how things are. Show you're committed to making your relationship (and yourself) stable and healthy. That'll help anyone trust you.
One should really get to know himself better than anyone else
The symptoms you describe are an Indicator for Aspergers
thedirtynormal dot com
This is a blog that was/is maintained by a sexual therapist. Her book really made me rethink things. I suggest starting with "popular posts" at the top.
had a girl like this once op. super weird at sex. girl had mental health issues I think so I dumped her and left
yeah we often joke about her having autism. But im actually certain she does. Which is fine, ive got it too. But two autistic people could make for a turbulent relationship. I want her to get evaluated.
she doesnt like the idea of improving herself. She thinks shes perfect just the way she is..in regards to everything.
ill check it out.
ive been involved with my female for too long to just end it. We've come to be understanding, but we both get frustrated with eachother over stupid shit. We get along well, but shes just too damn touchy about some things.
that sounds like abusive and manipulative behavior. you're disgusting
also quit calling her your "female" are you actually autistic?
She could be touching her pee hole instead
sounds painful I know
i am high functioning autistic, but i got it pretty good. but its not as abusive as you might think. I know when to stop and its all in good fun.
i wouldnt know. she doesnt wipe her urethra when im in the bathroom with her. she never has and probably never will.
Im a guy, and I don’t like to talk about anything sexual. I have a gf and I never talk about sex, sext, talk dirty, or any of that stuff
does your girlfriend?
sometimes
Just tell her she's worthless.
Remind her that women age like cheese, and men age like wine.
Tell her you have no biological clock and that Filipino skank at 16 years of age would gladly marry you at age 50, and give you children.
Remind her how no other guy would put up with her bullshit, and that she's lucky to have you.
Tell her that if she doesn't keep you happy, another vagina will take her job up for her. That you aren't her emotional toilet, and that she had better start showing some appreciation or just get the fuck out of your life, permanently.
Tell her that to you, she's as relevant as she makes herself out to be, and lately you can't tell if she's a woman or a broken TV set.
Most importantly, remind her that she's not special. The world has about 8 billion people -half of them being women, with half of that on the exact same parameters she is- so if she's not happy putting you, that leaves you with about one billion, 999 million, 999 thousand and 999 other vaginas to pick from. And ask her what are the odds of you finding someone better than her.
Before she responds interject: "it was a hypothetical question, dumb shit, I concur - it's not looking good for you".
Dump her bro. You'll just end up resenting her in the end. I was in a similar situation. This girl didn't want to tell me what felt good or didn't want improve her technique when I tried to tell her what she could do to improve. She didn't want to watch porn to see how it's done either. I just kept it going so long because I was desparate and now I'm in an almost 2 year drought. I gave up all hope. Sorry got off track but you should definitely dump her and find someone else if you can.
Seconded.
Please post your face
Genuinely curious to see what the physical appearance of someone with this opinion would be
Ha. Like wine. You’d have to be sweet for that to be remotely true.
You’ll age like flesh, that’s what you are, you will wrinkle and wear and then die
>Tell her that if she doesn't keep you happy, another vagina will take her job up for her. That you aren't her emotional toilet
The inverse would seem truer