Gf sent nudes to someone else?

was she? OP says he sent them before they dated
obviously if you're together there's a serious problem there, but i don't see anything wrong with it before then

>before we dated?
That was in the op. Are you illiterate or do you have to work real hard on moving the goalposts?

>i'm sure if when you were younger someone asked to exchange with nudes you'd leap at the chance
I'm 21, I have never felt that way, and if you have at some point then it's grounds for someone to end the relationship on the spot.

You are the illiterate one. Try again.
OP says that her thot didnt care for those guys before they dated. It isnt about her gf sending the pictures before dating OP

you haven't felt that way because people probably haven't wanted to see you naked
it's a lot harder to have the moral high ground when you never had a chance of caving

what is it that makes this so horrifying for you? that someone else has seen them naked? or that she had a previous connection with someone? if you're going to start writing people off for that you're quickly going to be left with no options

>if you are not a slut you must be ugly
thot cope confirmed

>OP hasn’t replied to any posts
it’s a bait thread you dumb faggots

>you haven't felt that way because people probably haven't wanted to see you naked
No, I feel that way because it's wrong to do otherwise. It's obviously easier to go through life free of temptation as a guy, but few of them actually choose to do so, even the ugly/undesirable ones. Men are actually slightly more degenerate than women in their attitudes on almost all measures, even though it's clear to anyone that women have far more opportunities to actually be degenerate.
> if you're going to start writing people off for that you're quickly going to be left with no options
Degenerate whores aren't an option to begin with, and if everyone around me is excluded by this very simple standard, that's only an indictment of the rotten state of society, not of the standard itself.

The whole board is bait.

What’s there to say?? My gf had sent nudes before we dated and I don’t like thinking about that. It stresses me out she was so horny she felt the need to send some stranger her nudes.

She probably wanted some guy to fawn over her and love her. Maybe she is a whore, but maybe she never had a taste of real love before op. Maybe she was just curious, and curiosity sated won't do it anymore.

>She probably wanted some guy to fawn over her and love her.
And then she whored herself out on impulse. How can that possibly be a good or even neutral sign?
>Maybe she is a whore
No, she is, by her own actions. I don't care about her intent or whatever excuse she wants to put out, she acted like a whore, period.

She said that she did it just cause she was horny which I believe. But she barely knew the guy and sent out the nudes??? She told me she met him through her friends and it escalated into her sending him nudes.

Should I break up with her over the fact she sent nudes to someone she barely knew? She has told me shed never do it in our relationship which I believe. But it's stressing me out.

Okay so is this just you venting or what? Do you have any input at all on what the other anons ITT are saying about the situation? Help us help you, you idiot

> she did it just cause she was horny
Now imagine what she's capable of if you're away on a work trip and she feels "lonely". She has zero respect, either for herself or for a relationship partner.

Yes, you retard. Whatever she says is irrelevant, you saw for yourself what she is willing to do on a whim, and despite the lip service she'll give you about "loyalty" now, it'll go out the window when it actually matters.

She said she regrets sending the nudes and I fully trust she wouldn't in our relationship. The fact that she even did it stresses me out. She's very committed to me now.

she said that she changed and is better now

>I trust my gf
>but I also don’t
So again, what the fuck do you want from us? What advice are you looking for? Because this is not the sadboy blogpost board. Man up and make up your fucking mind with this girl

>She said she regrets sending the nudes
Oh, for fuck's sake. Take off your rose-tinted goggles. Of course she says that now--she knows how her past actions look and is trying to minimize them, but that doesn't change either the person she is (which is what enabled her to do those things in the first place) or the fact that she was and is a degenerate.

Go ahead, stay with her. I don't know either of you, and whatever happens doesn't affect anything on my end. But you asked for advice, and if you want to get cucked, be my guest. Just don't post another thread in 2 months complaining that she kept sending nudes.

Accepting her actions will only serve to legitimize them--next time, she'll probably justify it by saying "I didn't really care about the guy like I love you". The thing that is most likely to drive the point home that her behavior is unacceptable is if you leave her over it.

>she changed and is better now
She made a choice to be a whore. You don't stop being one, that stays with you.

I trust her to not send nudes to other guys, I don't like the fact that she sent her nudes to a rando before we dated. I'm looking to see if I should break up with her or stay and how do I deal with this

>adultery*
>This can be considered cheating because* she is attempting to seduce another man.
>>before we dated
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>If she did it before she can certainly do it again
Imagine being in a relationship with someone who you can't trust not to send nudes to someone else based on a one time encounter before you were even together.
>not relationship material
Neither are you pal, you have severe trust issues.
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"a random guy she didnt care for before we dated" is redundant information if we are to assume that OP was 'cheated' on while in a relationship; saying it was a guys she didn't care about before they had started dating adds nothing to the post/backround and is poorly worded in this case.
"sending nudes,* to a random guy she didnt care for,* before we dated" makes a lot more sense as OP doesn't mention anywhere that he was cheated on and in this context it would be less bad if it was her old bf or something I suppose.
Illiterate faggot confirmed is @you.
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>>OP hasn’t replied to any posts
>it’s a bait thread you dumb faggots
I know faggot, we're all just shitposting anyway.
pic related too

>It stresses me out she was so horny she felt the need to send some stranger her nudes.

>it's stressing me out
It has already happened why are you worrying about it now? Can you explain the real reason?

>She's very committed to me now
Literally all that matters OP, don't listen to the obvious Jow Forumsacks in this thread telling you to end a relationship over an isolated incident in her past.
Do you trust her or not OP?
Do you want to be with her or not?
That's what matters, don't let these faggots influence your decision, they're not the ones that have to break up with her.

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Do you want to stay with her? There’s your answer

> How do I get over my gf sending nudes to a random guy she didnt care for before we dated?
> before we dated

You reek of insecurity faggot get ready to be dropped in 2 months because you can't handle your chick being a sexual human bean. Grow some balls.

I like her a lot but it's so hard to accept that she has done something so whoreish before we dated and is nothing like that now. It's like a 180. She even said she hates thots.

Break up with her if you’re going to be a pussy about this

Because she likely didn't do it out of a sense of whoredom and thotery?
It was a one time thing and you seem confident in that from the way she is now.
The real question is if you can manage that feeling or not. Is it worth breaking the relationship over or could you try dealing with it somehow?
I think you should talk to her about it and see what comes of it.

Tell her to send you twice as many nudes. Problem solved. Except for your lack of cock and balls of course

>Imagine being in a relationship with someone who you can't trust not to send nudes to someone else based on a one time encounter before you were even together.
You misunderstand. Even if I was absolutely sure that she was physically incapable of cheating on me, her past action in itself is repulsive enough for me to want nothing to do with her.

This has nothing to do with "trust issues"--the person in question is already known to be a degenerate, which is why they should not be considered as a relationship partner.

>the past doesn't matter dude, lmao
>everyone I don't like is Jow Forums and therefore wrong
Brainlet post. The past is a solid record of who someone is and how they came to be the person they are.

> she likely didn't do it out of a sense of whoredom and thotery?
Whores/thots never do, they just tell themselves it's "normal" and do it anyway. Another common tactic is they point to a whore even worse than they are, to convince themselves they're not *that* bad. I.e. "I'm not like the other girls", or in OP's case, his whore gf saying that she dislikes "thots".

Yeah exactly, her past actions is extremely repulsive to me, Ive never sent anyone else nudes except for her. But she did it to some random degenerate and it stresses me out.

>Ive never sent anyone else nudes except for her.
You're also a degenerate.

>her past action in itself is repulsive enough for me to want nothing to do with her
For sending some unspecified nudes? Lmao, imagine not wanting to date a girl because in kindergarten she showed her cunt to some little boys.

>is already known to be a degenerate
Over one incident? You're literally labeling her a degenerate despite her being the "180" of that now. It's almost like you're a biased moral faggot who thinks every should have his moral standards when in fact they're as shallow as it fucking gets. You're just as shallow as actual whores and thots who take pride in their count.

>>the past doesn't matter dude, lmao
>>everyone I don't like is Jow Forums and therefore wrong
Who are you quoting? Anyway, you should go back to you'll find it that plenty of people agree with you there and you'll feel right at home.

>Whores/thots never do, they just tell themselves it's "normal" and do it anyway.
You sound like you're talking from experience, care to share?
> Another common tactic is they point to a whore even worse than they are, to convince themselves they're not *that* bad.
Ah, sorry, I mistook you for a whore when you're in fact an gobal elite counter thot squad leader, my bad. Good thing the finest of the finest are in on these thots and their tactics.
>I'm not like the other girls
Imagine thinking that anyone says this
>his whore gf saying that she dislikes "thots".
>whore
I rest my case. Good think you don't get to define what a thot is, that's up to the counter thot high command.

Top kek.

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What it sounds like is that you've never done it, don't understand why she did it and feel repulsed by something you don't understand.
You should talk her about it and try to figure our how you could move on from this as a couple instead of being on r/incels talking to a bunch of dudes.

people are allowed to have different morals. I do not care what others do I care what my partner does. I except my partner to have similar morals to me, and that would entail not doing whorish things and not being a whore

she keeps telling me to drop it, Ive been trying to talk to her for days about other past stuff shes done. She's also jacked a guy off she was into but wasn't even dating. Id be okay if they were dating and she did it but they weren't. She feels annoyed that I keep asking her more information about her past actions.

You should honestly break up with her. You’re obsessing about the things she’s done, and it’s obvious you don’t trust her. It’s better for the both of you to just end it because I don’t see how you’ll ever get over this.

>imagine not wanting to date a girl because in kindergarten she showed her cunt to some little boys.
>kindergarten
That's a possible indicator of sexual abuse, and there's no way in hell it would be the only instance. If it were, there's no issue since there wouldn't be anything sexual about it--you're born naked, after all.

>You're literally labeling her a degenerate despite her being the "180" of that now
Yes, because whatever you say doesn't affect what you already did--and your actions make you a degenerate.

>who thinks every should have his moral standards
No, the idea that individuals decide moral standards is responsible for the complete collapse of societal morality, since it's just a race to the bottom as people adopt successively more lax "standards" that they conveniently meet already.
Morality exists independently of the mind, the mind simply can be used to understand it. Without a structure for people to operate in, the entire purpose of morality falls apart, since there is no way to regulate given social behavior and interactions.

You should go back to plebbit. Jow Forums is just as degenerate as Jow Forums and filled with horny meatheads.

Oh, look, more evidence that she is, in fact, a whore. To the surprise of no one at all.

We get it, you're a prude and you want a prude, that's your primary concern with a partner.

For me? There's so many more important factors to consider like personality, intelligence, career, politics, where she wants to be in the next 5-10 years, trust, inclination to have children, sexual compatibility, ... that I would not in my right mind turn down a perfect candidate over her having some experience.

That you seem to obsess over this one factor isn't healthy and clearly goes to show that you don't know what you want in life and are coping by relying on morals.

Probably because you're coming on to her about this pretty heavily. It's a lose-lose situation at this point OP, knowing more about her past, if there even is, will just make you unhappier and you should seriously reconsider how you're dealing with this and finding a way to get over it; that is unless you'd rather that she break up with you.

>prude
Hardly. It's a well-founded practice backed by centuries of tradition and experience across continents and cultures, not to mention modern research.

>that's your primary concern with a partner.
Not him, but that's nonsense. It is a basic prerequisite. A woman is not a gold-digger if she expects a partner to have his shit together, she is only a gold-digger if she wants him BECAUSE his shit is together.
Similarly, I don't want a woman BECAUSE she is a virgin/non-degenerate. I would want her for who she is, but it's also a requirement that she not be a degenerate. The other user almost certainly feels the same way.

You have no clue of what you're talking about.

>That's a possible indicator of sexual abuse, and there's no way in hell it would be the only instance.
Ah, so she's a whore too if she got sexually abused, is that it? Very cool morals.

>and your actions make you a degenerate
Isn't degenerate just a buzzword for the people you don't like? You're not gonna display a complex of superiority in the next paragraph regarding your morals now, are you?

>No, the idea that individuals decide moral standards is responsible for the complete collapse of societal morality
Yet it's individuals that come up with them whether conciously or not. The so called morals you deem so highly are not universal across societies and have never been the same across ages or civilizations regardless of the proliferation of free thought.
>since it's just a race to the bottom as people adopt successively more lax "standards" that they conveniently meet already
If it was a race to the bottom then muh normies and roasties should have already be way past /d/ tier shit on their road to muh dark web. Wonder why that hasn't happened yet...
>Morality exists independently of the mind
Nature seems to disagree
>regulate given social behavior and interactions.
>the idea that individuals decide moral standards is responsible for the complete collapse of societal morality
Either morals are doomed to fail or you're willingly ignoring the role that the hand of free market has in regulating morality towards where it should be according to the age and civilization we are in. To demonize the means through which morals become laxer and not the mechanism that can regulate is hypocritical as they are on and the same.

>You should go back to plebbit. Jow Forums is just as degenerate as Jow Forums and filled with horny meatheads.
Spoken like a regular user of Jow Forums that has moved on from it. May I recommend then?

>I would want her for who she is, but it's also a requirement that she not be a degenerate
Then you don't want her for who she is, you just want a trophy. Your unwillingness to consider that the woman you'll want for who she is might be a degenerate too and how you'd deal with that goes to further condemn you on this point. Are you just going to break everything off with someone who you've likely gotten to know for a significant amount of time and have grown close to the point of considering her to be a possible partner? That you think you'll be able to triage the degenerates, never grow attached to any thots and seemingly find an adequate life long partner just goes to show that you lack tangible experience in this field and are purely going off of theory. How much is this purity thing just a cope for lack of human interaction fueled by a moral superiority complex and le internet?
I hope you fall in love with a whore and feel conflicted about whether or not to abandon the woman of your dreams over the fact that she has taken it up the ass for money
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>she is only a gold-digger if she wants him BECAUSE his shit is together
How is this no different from wanting a woman only if she has her cunt together?

>You have no clue of what you're talking about.
Le omniscient Jow Forums namefag is me, I know what you fap at night to as well, missionary for the sole purpose of procreation, correct?
I'm a human being and I've dealt with this too, I think I know something about what I'm talking about.

>so she's a whore too if she got sexually abused, is that it?
>so what you're saying
No. That's not her fault. However, sexual abuse is going to greatly complicate things and encourage risk behaviors later on.
>Isn't degenerate just a buzzword for the people you don't like?
It can certainly be used that way, like "incel" is thrown around here. But no, in this case its meaning is clear--one who willingly contravenes societal morality.
>Yet it's individuals that come up with them
Morality is NOT a collection of actions arbitrarily called "good" or "bad". Any mongoloid can do that, but they're utterly useless to any practical ends. Societal morality is about providing a structure under which you maximize a certain desired outcome. For example, if one values the stability and happiness of a society, it would follow that standards around marriage and sexuality are necessary. Regardless of what you might want, there is going to be an objectively best way to go about attaining it.

>If it was a race to the bottom then muh normies and roasties should have already be way past /d/ tier shit
Moving the goalposts. We're talking about a lack of restraint, which leads to promiscuity and behavior like OP describes. We are not talking about sexual deviancy--which is more or less going the same way, as people are less apt to be bothered by either. However, many more people will have an inclination to the former to begin with--there aren't enough people with shitting dick nipple fetishes for it to even register as an issue in the same vein.

You post like a pure pseud, you have consistently proven unable to understand where your ostensible opponents are coming from, then make retarded and unsubstantiated claims based off of equally retarded assumptions.

>Then you don't want her for who she is, you just want a trophy.
Also pure nonsense, showing you either didn't read or didn't comprehend what was posted. Go ahead, explain how having standards equates to wanting a trophy.

>Are you just going to break everything off with someone who you've likely gotten to know for a significant amount of time and have grown close to the point of considering her to be a possible partner?
Yes, that's what the standard would entail. I know full well this route can make me end up alone, especially when those with standards are so rare and so condemned by the legions of hedonists wandering around. That's preferable to 'compromising' on morality.

>I hope you fall in love with a whore and feel conflicted
There is no conflict. I'd be disappointed to find out, but I am sure of my values, and I would act accordingly.

>How is this no different from wanting a woman only if she has her cunt together?
I specifically said it isn't, and that it isn't why I want a woman. If a woman found a guy who was attractive, charming, witty, and kind, that is her ideal; but then found out he lives with his parents at 35 and can't save money to save his life, she would not only be justified in breaking it off, she's be insane not to. That doesn't make her a gold-digger. Similarly, if I found my so-called "ideal" in personality, but then found out she was a whore, I'd break it off, as I would break it off with a "prude" if she had a conflicting personality. These can also be thought of as "push vs. pull factors". The former narrows the pool to those who have the potential to be considered as good partners, the latter let you know who actually could be a good partner for you.

>For example, if one values the stability and happiness of a society, it would follow that standards around marriage and sexuality are necessary.
Every society agrees on this, just not about what these values and standards are and should be. Again, that you're arbitrarily condemning one side of the same coin is absolutely retarded, it's still the same coin.
>Societal morality is about providing a structure under which you maximize a certain desired outcome
Exactly, who would have thought that there'd be different desired outcomes across different ages and civilizations with varying degrees of culture, social liberties and intellectual development.

>We're talking about a lack of restraint, which leads to promiscuity and behavior like OP describes
Yet millennials are killing divorce rates, marry later, are having less sex, stay virgins for longer, are more likely to be virgins at 18, etc. This generation is literally more moral than generations past according to you, yet you're still complaining about this 'behavior' as if it was widespread when in reality it's regressing if anything.

>unable to understand where your ostensible opponents are coming from
Thots are my opponnents? Wew lad, go declare war on the thots by yourself and have fun with that. If Literally Hitler gave up then there's no future for your crusade.
No, unlike you I don't need to feel morally righteous or reminisce about a past glory of moral integrity, whatever the fuck that means since morals are relative, and lower promiscuity.

It was fun, don't bother replying because I'll go to bed now.
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>I am sure of my values
If your values are set in stone expect them to break you.
Rest isn't worth reading or replying to, have fun being alone in this world, hope you find a femanon to be with even thought those don't exist on the internet.

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>Every society agrees on this, just not about what these values and standards are and should be.
The values can change, the standards can't, since you will have an objectively best option for any given value. If the question is about maintaining quality relationships, then it is unequivocally the case that sexual restraint is necessary.

>Yet millennials are killing divorce rates
Divorce rates are lower because of lower absolute marriage rates. Relative divorce rates, the percent of marriages that fail, continue to increase. Pic related.
>marry later
That's not a positive, especially if they're not waiting until marriage.
>less sex
It's a small dip from something like an average of 9 to 8 partners in the US. It's a statistical blip that says nothing of the amount of fornication going on, or of the continually degrading standars.
> stay virgins for longer, are more likely to be virgins at 18
Purely circumstantial, and related to the atomization of society which exists alongside the breakdown of morality. This says nothing of moral intent, as the popularity and social acceptance of sites like Tinder will attest.

>This generation is literally more moral than generations past according to you
By almost any metric, it isn't. The only thing that is more "moral" is that people of a more degenerate mindset than the past 50 generations have a small reduction in opportunities to act it out--you can see that in the right-side chart quite clearly. It was the boomers onward that really felt the effect of creeping degeneracy. To say that this is a "moral recovery" is wishful thinking to the extreme, you'd be hard-pressed to argue this is even like a dead cat's bounce, since the existence of any qualitative improvement is wholly dubious.

>If Literally Hitler gave up then there's no future for your crusade.
>he doesn't know

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How the fuck can you relate my gf sending nudes to a little fucking girl showing it to little boys. These are completely different scenarios. You cannot compare an adult mind to that of a child you sick fuck.

Op here:
Things I'll be clear about
1. Gf sent nudes to random guy she met and didn't care for------
------ this annoys me because sending your body to someone you barely know just because youre horny is whoreish behavior imo
2. I love her, I'm hurt she did this in the past
3. I'm stressed about the fact that she sent whore photos to someone she wasn't even dating

Lmao at how much people like you are trying to compensate

>compensate
I'd ascribe that to the people who double down in degeneracy despite everything the data tells them