My gf and I were fighting over a racy photo she posted. In a moment of anger, I compared it to what my "ex" (use of the term liberally, we were never official) used to do to torture me. Ever since she's been avoiding me and not reciprocating any affection. I went to talk to her, and she told me that what I said broke her heart (I apologized after saying it obviously) and that was basically it. I apologized profusely and actually cried for the first time in four years because of how awful I felt. She said she needed time to think. I agreed and left. No hugs or kisses or any other emotion.
In the future, it's probably best not to compare your current gf to your ex, keep that in mind if you continue to date her.
Whether or not she posts racy photos is out of your control, what's in your control is whether you want to stay with her over it.
Jordan Rivera
Well yeah I could understand not comparing current to ex. It was moment of weakness and it won't happen again. She told me she wouldn't post anymore racy photos so ig that's something. I made it clear I wanted to stay with her but Idk what she's feeling.
Jackson Myers
Wow she was entirely successful in diverting you from what she did because you opened your stupid mouth. You aren't the bad guy here, just remember that.
How racy was the photo and what were the circumstances?
Alexander Jackson
Women like men can post what ever the fuck they want and still be loyal. Everyone deserves validation however they want. Get over yourself.
James Anderson
>Women like men can post what ever the fuck they want and still be loyal
But you realize if you post a racy photo, that means a guy from India and all of his friends from his village will gather in the local computer cafe and masturbate in a circle to this guy's gf in her bikini or whatever? Or some Rich businessman will fap to it in his skyscraper office? And this will happen in hundreds of cities all over the world? That's fucking nasty, don't post racy photos or you will have men masturbate to you.
Connor Cook
All I asked for is content because it matters. We don't know if OP may be justified in his concern and his gf has agreed to not do it anymore so she must have agreed with him somewhat.
For all we know there is a guy that has been hanging around and she went a little too far this time while telling OP he is just a friend.
Austin Cox
How insecure are you about people you cannot see? God forbid you ever get close to a woman. With how over imaginative and ridiculous your hypotheticals are, I wouldn't be surprised if you were to rape and murder a woman.
Ian Parker
Your gf can post whatever tf she wants, and it shouldn't be a problem if she's not cheating on you. I honestly wouldn't care if my girlfriend posted nudes online, she posts racy photos on Instagram sometimes. It doesn't bother me because I know I'm the only one she's being intimate with, and vice versa.
My point is user, her feelings are probably hurt because you objectified her to some extent by trying to control her sexuality/sexual expression, and you showed a lack of trust and faith in her.
Imagine if you were in her shoes (ignoring why or why not you'd do the same thing). You'd probably feel controlled and unloved.
I feel like a lot of people (particularly on Jow Forums) are a bit obsessed with the 'purity' of women, and it's no surprise they run into relationship problems.
I'm not suggesting you let your girlfriend start camming, but if posting skimpy photos of herself let's her feel good about her body, then she should be able to. If you absolutely cannot give any of what I wrote any consideration, she deserves a better guy than you.
Nathaniel Smith
Break up already.
Oliver Brooks
Ok so if your boyfriend starts sending dick pics to other girls he's just looking for validation, got it.
She succeeded in twisting the narrative. Don't fall for that shit. The one who is heartbroken is you because she's trying to entice other men on the internet.
Sebastian Jenkins
>a better guy Nice try.
>You objectified her More bullshit rhetoric.
>It's no surprise they run into relationship problems Odd that you don't consider your SO "expressing her sexuality" to other men without your consent to be a relationship problem.
>not suggesting you let your girlfriend start canning But you are, user. Don't you see that?
Lincoln Peterson
If she was posting racy photos before you dated you knew what you were getting into If she's doing it while in a relationship it just seems weird to me but I don't have social media so I might not be the best judge. It also depends on what your meaning of racy is.
Connor Howard
You are getting played like a gay fiddle by a stupid woman. In your next relationship, order her not only to delete the photo but to delete all social media or at minimum set to private. You are a cuckold if she is passing anything remotely sexual online while you are dating. Period. You fell into her frame and it will take ages to dig yourself out. I recommend starting with someone else because she sounds like a sloot
Joseph Smith
Lol this person will never be married or happy in the long term. Read it and remember the delusions
Kevin Young
More than anything OP needs to learn about maintaining frame. This is just one big failure in his life but I suspect there are many others with her. This is not how a woman wants you to be. You literally failed her test. The rest was this: is he man enough to tell me to take down my Instagram account? (To prove he is serious, to prove he is not a wishy washy bitch)
Your response? Whine / cry and then fail a second test where she pretends you aren't allowed to talk about your ex. You fucked up beyond belief and this was a tutorial mode shit test.
Tell her your ex was fucking hot but you left her over it and you're going to leave her too unless it ends. Tell her no woman that dates you can post things like that. That's just how it is. Be extremely willing to leave her, if you aren't serious she will fuck your shit up again. They need to know you don't need them, but you won't share when you have them, and that you don't put up with bullshit. It makes them feel secure with you, and they will be very happy about it. That's what drives us. It's all a test.. Never accept their framing of a discussion. They are always testing
Leo Powell
She is gaslighting you essentially. You said something that hurt her, fair enough but you went and apologised genuinely. If she was mature she would have left it there. There is no reason to carry it on at that point. Not that she has to immediately be all over you but by denying you any reciprocation of affection she is punishing you and subtly suggesting the ball is still in your court. Instead of being an adult and admitting to herself her heartbreak is her own and no longer your responsibility since you have made it clear how you truly feel, she instead wants you to feel bad about what you did, think about that. She is deliberately trying to make you feel hurt and upset because that's how she feels and she is externalising her pain at you. This is a tactic women employ a lot, men do it too but it's more common with women because they are raised to be more aware of their emotions and as such cruel women will use this as a tool to manipulate, men will manipulate women with physical strength usually. We are just raised differently and both methods are used by emotionally immature adults who have not learned to handle their own shit.
Easton Clark
>not wanting other guys to jerk off to your gf means you're a rapist and a murderer
This absolutely has to be bait. It is quite literally the dumbest thing ever posted in the history of Jow Forums
Jayden Green
>My ex was hot and I left her because of it
user, not to point out the obvious... That's fucking gay.
Christopher Gray
I share that anons opinion and am married you mong. Happily so. Being attractive and acknowledging it and not being modest doesn't mean one is sexually active.
David Jenkins
>because you objectified her to some extent by trying to control her sexuality/sexual expression Holy fucking shit. He is literally trying to stop her from objectifying herself. Stop being a suck up to women. >but if posting skimpy photos of herself let's her feel good about her body, then she should be able to. Yes and he should be able to say that he doesn't like it and he doesn't want to be with a partner who does that. You are also confusing 'can' with 'should'. Women should not be able to do whatever the fuck they want and guys should just have to put up with it. Men are held up to certain standards and so should woman.
You compared her to an ex which is a very low blow and only naturally makes one stop and think why they should even bother continuing if they're apparently so awful. Right now she's probably re-evaluating the entire relationship. This might end up being a last straw of some sort if you're unlucky and have been saying dumb shit all along without realizing it.
That said, when it comes to the "racy photo" what you need to realize is that women post pictures for validation primarily from other women. Sure some guy might leave a comment every once in a while but women usually ignore that and focus on what other women are saying. They want other women to tell them they're pretty and sexy and they want a lot of likes. Usually they do this either A. when they're feeling unusually confident or B. when they're feeling unusually unconfident. Either way, they just want their friends and family to go "wow have you lost weight??" The only time this should EVER be an issue is if she's sending sexy pictures directly to another male. If it's just a public picture then who gives a shit, stop sperging. but if it's private and it's not going to you, that's when it's a problem.
What you say by getting angry at her is that you don't like her confidence and want her to live quiet and ashamed and this is why she's thinking very hard about whether or not she wants to stay.
Carson Sanders
Make me cumbrain
Brody Murphy
Post pic
Kayden Morgan
You overreacted and didnt take the mature approach of just simply and calmly saying "i saw that pic you posted on (site). It made me feel really uncomfortable. Why did you post it?" But nah you had to throw a temper tantrum and control her lol Youre fucked. Thats why shes taking so much time to think. Shes realizing youre immature
Adam Torres
Hey OP, do NOT listen to these niggers. Dumb piece of shit advice.
When you are in a relationship, you can post whatever the fuck you want, except the racy or sexual pictures just because you need constant validation from strangers. thats a red flag in my book.
And yes, youre a piece of shit too if that matters. nobody compares whoever theyre dating with someone else. thats a cunt move. when the girl im dating did that multiple times, i told her that shes a piece of shit, and i told her that my ex has bigger boobs and prettier face. that made her realize that shes a cunt because thats how i felt when she does that.
the problem is 70% her, and 30% you. and like the other user said, she successfully twisted the narrative. next time stop being a faggot and tell her you feel uncomfortable when she does that. no more no less. its up to her to decide.
James Torres
Whore/cuck.
Isaiah Foster
Let's see >she posts shitty pictures She's a slut >you compared her to your ex Probably not the best move, but if they're both sluts, then there is no harm in drawing a compariosn >you apologized Treading on thin ice >you cried It's over >she needs time to "think" It's definitely over Sorry spud. It was fucked from the start, it seems
Jack Jones
OP she knows she's wrong and right now covering her tracks of all the other shit she's done that you don't know of. She's got you on ice and wants you to drop it so it can go away.
Her tactic is no different than a bf or husband thinking something amiss, checks a phone and finds evidence and she becomes enraged and blames the man for snooping.
Ethan Flores
When a gf says you broke her heart it cant go back to how it used to. The clock is running out because she believes you were wrong+you wimped out by apologizing which I'm assuming you did too much+her social circle has made a hype train for her to find a better man with mostly bitter or unhappy female aquaintance who need her to be single so that they can feel better about being single mixed with guys who are sending her messages that she deserves better whilst touching themselves+ you brought up an ex so that's a free stab for her when she needs leverage and knows she can use it to make you get all apologetic.
All you had to do was a "could you not xyz" and not get emotional about it for future reference and remain stern that this isn't behavior that you want your partner to keep up. Unless she got paid to post racy pics the healthy minded gf would have showed it to you, asked you what you think and at least told you she's thinking of posting it. You tell them "nope this is mine just send to my phone" let them pout for a minute but this would have kept her wet and hungry for you to dick her down for days.
Better luck with your next girl you both fucked up. Get a head start and end it with her or you are gonna feel real sad when she's got her next bf before you even accept that it's really over.
Zachary Williams
You got this entirely right user. That racy photo is an effort to lure your replacement. Her friends know already and the argument fabricated. She needed justification and she has it and it doesn't matter if its fair to you or not.
Thomas Young
Here are some facts >you love her >you're a cuck and let her be a degenerate >she's a cunt for posting that >she's a self centered cunt and only thinks about how she feels >clearly doesn't give a fuck about you if she is capable of doing that to you >she's knows you love her and she can do anything I've been in your shoes. If you have any strength in you, keep your head up, focus on yourself and don't give a fuck about her. Why did she post that pohoto anyway? To impress her girl friends? Dump the bitch.
Brandon Bell
I totally agree with you buddy. Hey why don't you add me on reddit so I can like your posts on how eating onions has changed your life forever. And also, like I promised, I was looking your gf straight in the eyes while fucking her.
Benjamin Garcia
lmao at this level of insecurity
Henry Wright
She thinks nothing is wrong so if you have to point this out to an adult the two of you do not have the same standards. Maybe when she was growing up her parents could tell her when she crossed a line but its likely she resented them for doing so. You aren't her parent and she isn't a child but it is ok for you to disapprove but your recourse is to find another woman that wouldn't do something like this. It's not worth arguing over who is right or wrong, you will always be wrong.
Hudson Powell
What about her? What compels a woman to post racy pics? Are they insecure about themselves and seek validation or are they braggarts or haven't thought through how this may appear socially outside her adoring online fans? Is she even aware there may be a twisted man out their who is looking for a victim and out of millions he sees her an enticing find?
Christian Lee
This.
The gays have really taken a looking to this thread but this comment is correct and 95% of straight males who actually get laid and are in happy relationships know this instinctively. The rest of these posters are cucked teenage libs, fat stoner girls, and bearded videogame IPA boys
Lucas Wood
This isnt insecurity. This is knowing that men are sexually thirsty, way more tan women will ever be. Men make up 99% of porn site traffic and write all those porn site comments. Knowing there are hoards of middle eastern men who masturbate to any bare skin, and every like of an instagram bikini picbor whatever by a man is acknowledging that he felt at least a twitch in his penis after viewing thevpic.
My girlfriend was a virgin before me, dresses modestly, and doesnt use any social media because she is not an attention whore.
William Cruz
lmfao at this thread. my fiance doesn't have social media and none of my past gf's have posted slutty pics of themselves on social media. why do you guys act like posting slutty pics is a fucking human need and completely normal? yeah, theyre free to post whatever the fuck they want but you're free (and reasonable imo) to think differently of them for it. but yeah, on a side note that was pretty fucked up of you to compare your gf to your ex. getting so pissed off that she avoids you for an extended period of time is also fucked up though. at that point she should've actually fucking broke up with you if she has. the heart to do that to someone she loves. I'd break up and find someone else because even if you guys do get back together she'll probably hold this shit over your head forever.
