Broke up with this girl a week ago. It ended amicably but there is some worrying behavior that is making me mad, the first being that she wants to continue having sex.
I'm not over her. I know from friends' stories that that never ends well. Furthermore, she continues to act like my gf in some aspects and it's driving me nuts. This morning she got mad because I didn't reply the night before.
She's also pulling shit like posting Instagram stories implying she's seeing another man and immediately deleting them when I see them.
The day we broke up she said to me that she wanted to date other people and had a couple of guys in mind. When I asked why was she saying that to me, she told me some moronic point of view about how, for her, men are like bread in a bakery and she chooses what she sees as delicious.
In the moment I didn't say anything but I took it like a really low blow. I'm not a fucking bread. I'm a human being with emotions and every time she does something new I get the feeling of being manipulated. Of her using intimacy as a weapon or something even though I just want to move on.
I thought we could be friends. Seems like not. I'll talk to her next week and just tell her to get the fuck away from me, but I don't know how.
How can I say it without sounding petty or mad? Also, what's your take on her behaviour?
She is trying to get you to start seeing her again because the other guys she intentionally sabatoged your relationship for weren't interested in more than sex with her. So she wants to keep you around and then force another break up when the next guy she likes come along. This is pretty typical young female behavior, I have seen it and experienced it. Avoid. You don't seem like you're in the right state of mind and you will probably fall for her all over again. You are wasting your time imho.. Very few men have the ability to fuck an ex of this sort without hazard
Don't think this is quite it. She explicitly said that she wanted to be fucking around and not having anything serious. Some age crisis, it seems imo. The part that I don't get is why she continues with the gf behavior if we are over and she wants to be "free".
I am planning on dumping her. I have a lot more self-respect; no woman can ever bring me down, my man. My issue regards more on the side of "how can I tell her to fuck off without being/sounding petty?"
>The part that I don't get is why she continues with the gf behavior Your her beta buck dispenser. She thinks she can ride Chad cock all day long and then come to you for emotional support, that's why.
>I'll talk to her next week and just tell her to get the fuck away from me, but I don't know how. I don’t think you should talk to her at all. Block her and delete her number. Nothing good will come from you giving her attention.
She can go fuck herself , you don't deserve this
"Yo bisch your Childish as fuck also petty and someone your age shouldn't behave like a retard . " Please and thank you . I instead would just ghost her that will at least make her think about what she's done and fuck her over even more . Just do it Oh and don't fall for the we can still be friends meme that shit won't work out ever.
>The part that I don't get is why she continues with the gf behavior if we are over and she wants to be "free". My guess is because these new men are not giving her any of the emotional intimacy you provide. Things like good morning or good night texts mean a lot to women, if you two still do that. She also might be resentful about something which is how she justifies getting angry at you for not responding the night before. She doesn’t want to impress you anymore and wants to take things out on you because it gets her that emotional high and she knows you care about her. I’d suggest the grey rock method where you give the most boring generic responses possible, don’t react to outbursts, or reply to texts that don’t interest you. Sounds like she’s trying to branch swing honestly and holding onto you while she finds someone else to commit to her. I have seen this before and have experienced it to a certain degree. It sucks. But I know that being ignored and being indifferent drives women crazy and hurts them more than anything else.
“I’m not a fucking bread” made me laugh out loud for like a minute.
Why the fuck do men allow whores to act like this and still keep ''feelings'' for them ? Have some dignity homie, throw out all of her things, cut all contact and never talk to her again. She told you clearly that she prefers other men, why the fuck are you even talking to her ? Where are your balls ? Why are you searching for a tactful way of saying it ? Just tell her to fuck off
My god I hate cucks
I know. She can fuck off if she thinks I'll fall for that beta bait. I'm seeing this as dodged bullet desu but I wanna be civil about it
That's petty and is exactly the opposite of what I want to achieve. I want to end it civilized. I'm the better person and she did represent a source of happiness for me at some point in the past.
I am kinda ghosting her right now lol. I don't even want to talk to her anymore but I'll be the better man and at least try to end it civilized.
That's actually a really good analysis. I think it's because she has a lot of more responsibilities than me. My work is super chill and hers is killer hours and a lot of stress. She makes a little bit more than me but it's not a great difference. Maybe she also felt that I was starting to represent a source of stress rather than pleasure because of the responsibilities that a relationship entail. I completely get her. That's why we broke up amicably. There wasn't any drama or anything, it was a pretty civilized discussion. It's the after that's fucking bugging me. I still have feelings for her but she won't step over me.
I appreciate that you appreciate the humour of her shitty bread analogy Found the incel you guys!!
>That's petty and is exactly the opposite of what I want to achieve. I want to end it civilized. >I am kinda ghosting her right now lol. I don't even want to talk to her anymore but I'll be the better man and at least try to end it civilized. That’s really dumb. You just want an excuse to see her. What good does it do you to melodramatically announce to her that you’ll never talk to her again? You want to cut contact so why do you need to establish contact again in order to cut contact? It has nothing to do with being civil either, sometimes it’s better for you to ignore a toxic person. Don’t give her the chance to hurt you anymore.
I'd expand on this on say that at least some of her actions are irrational/subconscious on her part and possibly due to some personal confusion. I'm sure she still has some feelings or a bond with you which run counter to the conscious decision that she made to cut free. It's kinda like how you wanted to stay friends with her, but there's no way you can actually stay objective and platonic because you've actually been in a relationship. People are never 100% in control of their emotions.
That doesn't mean that you shoudn't get the fuck away from her, though. Her inability to understand these things about herself is just going to continue to cause you anguish.You just have to flat out tell her that "Hey, so it's your life and you are totally free to do whatever you need to do but this just isn't something for me. Good luck to you, I'm going to take some time for myself to gain some perspective and work on my life.
Because she did, at one point, represent someone special in my life. Telling them to fuck off over text or whatever is petty as shit and I'm not mad at her. Just dissapointed that she's not as mature as I thought she was.
This! Thank you, my man. That's the perfect way to put it. All the words that I came up with were super petty and anger driven.
That response is a lot more civil. Thanks
>Telling them to fuck off over text or whatever is petty as shit and I'm not mad at her. You misunderstand, I’m saying don’t tell her at all. Just keep doing what you’ve been doing and don’t talk to her. I don’t get what you think will be accomplished by going out of your way to tell this girl that you don’t want to talk to her again. Especially when you’re already not talking to her.
Simple. Cut all contact, dont respond to anything she says. If she has above room temperature IQ she understands. One gotta be real stubborn to keep up that game for long when you dont get a response.
Simple, always block your exes on every thing phone insta fb block on everything, whats she gana do show up at your house? Dont answer the fucking door. Simples mate
Its not petty to just drop her. She is a manipulative hoe and there is nothing to be gained from interacting from her. You dont need to be friends with her, just stop talking to her.
Im going out on a limb here snd guessing shes one of those destructive BPD girls.
Not gonna lie, the breakup sex i had was the best sex ive had to this day, even compared to my current gf. She fucked like her life depended on it.
But she IMMEDIATELY started sucking off random guys from tinder within 12 hours of me saying goodbye, after a 4 year relationship. I tore my guts out and it hurt more than anything. Women will use sex to hurt you, bad. Just keep mobing and find a girl who respects and actually loves you.
Currently dating asian girl 6 years younger than me who is also redpilled as fuck. Go find yours.