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Tell me I did the right fucking thing, Jesus fuck.

I ended up things with her. She seemed so perfect to me in so many ways, I gave her all my love and affection and she only used me for attention, I feel so angry at myself for being so blind and naive. I never wanted to hurt her in any way and I always cared for her so deeply and in the end I’m the one who ends up hurt with an emotional scar that won’t fucking heal.

I am broken, hopeless and I’m falling for the depression meme again, and I have no one to talk to about this, shit sucks and I wouldn’t mind dying if it wasn’t by my hands.

What the fuck did she do to me that I still can’t see her as a bad person, was I manipulated in a way or some shit? Was I emotionally abused? What do I do and how do I move on?

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It's alright user, you did the right thing. The reason it hurts is because of how much you cared. Now that you can stop caring, all the pain will slowly disappear. Think of it like no longer wanting the Nerf you wanted when you were 6.

I'm in the same spot as you are, my immune system got compromised and I contracted Dengue. Make sure you take care of your health user. We're all with you. Even the ones that insult you, they mean well.

You made it user. We're all proud of you.

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>I gave her all my love and affection
Here's your problem. Never fucking chase your girlfriend. If she senses that you love her more than she does, she will leave you at some point.
Learn from your mistakes.
t. been there

Holy fucking shit user
Get better user

No no
Guys get this shit wrong all the time
It isn't about 'you loving her more than she loves you'
its about loving yourself more, or equally to the amount that you love her, and that isn't selfish

If you love yourself you won't do certain things, like let yourself becomes so emotionally invested in a girl that hadn't returned similar levels of investment.

Its really disappointing that this happened but turn your questions towards yourself, not her.
"what the fuck did she do to me..-"
You're seeing yourself as a victim to something she did in this statement, and you may in fact BE a victim to something she did (can't tell without backstory), but focusing on that is going to cause you to cycle in your angst and misery as opposed to growth and change and moving on

Try to focus on improving yourself, and bettering your emotional intelligence

And hey, user
The pain passes
The hurt goes away
Remember to take a deep breath sometimes

You are responsible in some way for what has happened here, too.
try to learn about yourself and your emotions, user

Man what the fuck? Is it breakup season? Mine broke up with me yesterday and all I'm seeing on Jow Forums in the last few hours are the exact same shit I went through.

It has happend to me too user. Right after my first relationship ended, this redhead cutiepie appeared out of the blue. I thought I would marry her at some point, but my stomach always felt strange during the whole relationship. My body knew exactly what was going to happen, but my brain never wanted to believe it. We broke up and I thought I have left the love of my life, but you will soon realise that Women come and go.

Get i shape, read some books, watch cowboy bebop and grab a beer with a friend or family. You'll feel alot better, but it takes times to heal. You have to see that Women are only the cherry ontop of the cake that represents your life. Like a nice addition, not the whole cake. As a man, never revolve your happiness or your life around another person. You have to be happy without anyone else.

Godspeed on your journey user and don't forget, never stick your dick in crazy and for the sake of our lord; >"No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same man."

Heraclitus

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Y'all some incredibly helpful MF's when its clutch time. Thanks man, that quote is lighting a fire under my ass.

I thought I deleted the post when I went to bed but apparently not, just now browsing Jow Forums and noticed that few people replied. Thank you all, really appreciate the kind words.

Deep down I know that I did the right thing and that the time and stoicism will help me get through it. That said, it still sucks and I can't get over how she treated me this way and at the end left me like a dog on a street. On the other hand, I'm really sorry about that, you're a good guy user, you will get through this!

>learn from your mistakes.
This time I sure will, you can count on that user.

Just the way she treated me, it went on for at least 6 months but finally decided it's not fucking healthy for me and I just had to end it. I tried to make it work though, I really did.

I'm probably gonna take a few days off and just figure out what I want to do with my life. I just know that I really want to get in shape, meet new people and go on a looooong vacation.

>As a man, never revolve your happiness or your life around another person. You have to be happy without anyone else.

I'm really struggling to figure this one out, loving yourself, having self-respect and all that, it's really hard for me for some reason.

I really, really appreciate your replies guys since I had no one to talk to about this. I had to let this out, keeping it just for myself would probably do even more damage to me.

You're not alone brotha. I'm currently trying to figure out the same things when it comes to loving yourself and having self respect.

I know man, it really sucks, and the depression and anxiety doesn't really help either. I really hope you get through this user

if you have a discord and want someone to talk to, I'll add you user

seek knowledge. I'm not joking. Read stuff that is being recommended on /lit/. Try to give your life meaning.

Kierkegaard, dostoevsky, camus, hesse, kant, kafka, heidegger, hegel. Anything really. Read into philosophy

Yeah, I'd like that, if you're still around

>try to give your life meaning
Would that really work tho? I mean, I'm 23 atm and I'm really lost with this whole life thing...

fuck off

vaylos#4846

Same, I'm 28 and just utterly lost at this thing called life.

Might as well kys now. It will happen all over again. What are the odds you'll find your Princess out of the billions of people on this planet? Especially now that women are far more entitled and get all their validation from social media and tinder chads

Know the feel too well, hope you find what you're looking for, you're not alone in this shit

>might as well kys now.
No thanks.

>It will happen all over again.
Most likely yeah, but at least then I will know how to deal with it, right?

She manipulated you, a narcissist will do things that they would demonize others for. They don’t always understand they can’t love because they hate themselves, self love and self obsession are both different levels of narcissism.
Self love is healthy but difficult for most people. The obsession give them full guilt free manufactured victimhood to justify using others who genuinely love them. They can be good people and still be a horrible partner. That’s just how it goes. As someone who’s been mentally abused, you want to see them in the best light to justify your emotional investment. It’s not always easy to know who’s good for you.

You’re looking in a small box instead of the world. Not all women are against you, some would be for you if they knew who you are. Depending on what you bring to the table anyway.

Yup, when I think about it clearly, I'm pretty sure she was narcissistic. She would always tell me these positive and seductive words such as "you're so sweet/cute, you're so good to me" and more shit like that.

Few months back I lost someone close to me in a car accident. When I told her she showed literally no empathy whatsoever. I got a bit worried then

And she always loved playing the victim, whenever I did something really, really small she would get upset and say shit like "you hate me, or you're mad at me"

Also, she loved talking shit about others behind their backs

These are just a few examples off the top of my head, pretty sure there were more of these.

doesn't work ;(

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Same. It's sad that it took me until it was over to see the signs. Like yours, mine would trip over small shit, yet when I was upset it was "why are you upset? I'm gonna get upset now!" Like we were playing some fucking score keeping game. That and she never wanted to take responsibility, not once did she apologize for being straight up wrong, no it was me begrudgingly agreeing with her and then saying sorry myself for even getting her started in the first place. I'm very sad that this is the result of not having a father around. I love this woman, but I didnt like her on some real shit and it's taken me until the end of relationship to see that. I honestly hope she can face her demons cause nobody deserves her in her current state. Its depressing to meet a woman whose serious about moving forward in life, but is so emotionally fucked up that she cant enjoy a life with someone without some type of drama.

weird, what is yours?

Yeah. Sucks that even after I ralized what she has been doing to me I still miss her, and it's gonna be a pain in the ass to forget her which I don't think I'll be able to do entirely. I feel like she will still pop into my head from time to time.

>I'm very sad that this is the result of not having a father around

My father was never around either

esssaa#5988

Just looking at it from a statistical point of view, the amount of women the average man interacts with is infinitesimal, relatively speaking. Now consider things like time and opportunity to make a connection, and the odds of this being unattached. You'd have to be insanely lucky to find the right girl for you, let alone establish a relationship.

>You'd have to be insanely lucky to find the right girl for you
This just makes me even more hopeless

>the amount of women the average man interacts with is infinitesimal
what a retarded thing to say

Truth hurt?
Think of how many women are on the planet, country, or even your city. Now imagine how many of them you'll ever have the chance of a deep connection with. It's pitifully small.

I'm kinda sorta starting to believe this, atleast within this society.