My gf likes to stay up later than me, and because of this she will talk to her guy friend about her issues when she gets upset. She has twice declined my offer of help in preference of his in the past week, and now she is meeting up with him in person and has on a few occasions visited his house. As someone who loves to help those they care about, her not declining my help stings like all hell, and I also fear that she might become another example of the saying: "a shoulder to cry on becomes a dick to ride on" So, any advice on what my course of action should be?
My gf is talking about her issues to another guy
You people are hopeless. Talk to her, you fucking moron.
>I don't appreciate you spending all this time with [name]. It makes me feel uncomfortable. How would you feel if I spent much of my time hanging out and confiding in a female friend?
If she refuses to compromise, or if she makes an excuse, the relationship is over. Go. Now.
do you always talk to women like they're 8 years old?
this.
she is basically setting the ground to cuck you already, if she hasn't done it yet.
You don't? Are you really this stupid?
XDDDD is your iq about 20 or something like that?
Why would you date someone you have to emotionally babysit like that? Why pretend that's the norm?
Waste of dubs. Because people aren't perfect and relationships are give and take. It's totally within reason for you, OP, or anyone to be in that situation and completely duck out without any fuss.
chill out, is your relationship on the rocks? if not then you have no reason to worry. if so then she want to vent about you, because she can't do that to you. if she were going to a woman's house then it'd be time to worry. They are better at convincing women to change their lives.
If you're not fighting, crying or reasoning with each other then I can only say that the love here is one-sided. That's how women are, they like to torture their partners a bit (scientifically proven).
Demand a proper explanation from her, a confrontation. As for what happens next is in your hands.
I personally would hate being cucked so blatantly, you either solve it or bust it.
no one here said that relationship where you have to babysit someone like that the whole time is worth it.
what we are advicing, are fucking basic social interaction skills regarding resolving any sort of misunderstandings.
if that girl is really worth it is a separate matter.
There's nothing wrong with just leaving that situation but it is definitelyretard tier to date someone you have to speak to like that
Throw the whole woman out
I do plan on talking to her, but she gets depressed easily and I don't want to piss her off, because the last time that happened she refused to speak to me for a short while. So I am trying to think of/find ways to approach this without that happening.
I have done my best to make it clear that if she has cheats on me and I find out, I will immediately end the relationship and will never trust her again, that is assuming I don't break off all contact with her.
I guess girls really do like older men
>because the last time that happened she refused to speak to me for a short while
basically looks like my cheating ex.
>doesn't vent about you to your face
Damn, that's a relationship prime for cuckening.
>There's nothing wrong with just leaving that situation
That's what I said.
> but it is definitelyretard tier to date someone you have to speak to like that
Relationships are give and take, user.
>I do plan on talking to her, but she gets depressed easily and I don't want to piss her off, because the last time that happened she refused to speak to me for a short while. So I am trying to think of/find ways to approach this without that happening.
You are utterly fucking hopeless and this was a waste of my time.
There shouldn't be enough "take" happening that you have to parent the other adult you live with.
>I do plan on talking to her, but she gets depressed easily and I don't want to piss her off, because the last time that happened she refused to speak to me for a short while. So I am trying to think of/find ways to approach this without that happening.
wow your gf cucked you right in front of you
in the old days men at least had the balls to slap the living shit out of these whores before dumping them
Wait, Chad actually fears the nice guy?
I wouldn't way that is in the rocks, but I think that I may have upset her when I asked to have this weekend to myself, as work has been kicking the ever loving shit out of me, and she has been dragging me all over our province to do stuff every weekend for the last two months. And when I asked if I could go with her to the guys house (as he is my friend too) she said she didn't want me to because she didn't want me to hear what she was talking about.
what the fuck niqqer
Would you faggots make up your mind? Which one of them is the cuck?
what the fuck do you want from me
Are you on drugs?
It's kind of funny, she acts like my mother sometimes, such as telling me to wash behind my ears, making sure I eat enough food, calling me "her handsome boy" but when it comes to how much we put into the relationship, I feel like I am being the adult for both of us.
If only I was a Chad
Scientifically proven? Source for that?
what is going on with you man
Yes because mentally they are
This is emotional cheating in case you don't know already, it might not be physical but it definitely can be.
I don't know if it has gotten to that point yet, and I am trying to think of ways to find out if it has.
From what you said in the op it has. It's okay to confide in a friend but when she turns on you and goes to stay with another man to talk out her problems that's definitely emotional cheating you deserve to be treated with respect. I dont know how old you are or how long you've been with this girl but the only way I see this getting better is a some kind of couples therapy.
Listen to this mans
I'm 18, so is she, and we have been dating for almost a year.
You're too young to get hung up on one relationship. Just do what the first post said if you're not getting respect in a relationship then the other person doesn't care about you
My gf and I have a mutual friend that we use as a gimp. He wears a full leather outfit with a ball gag and watches us fuck. I let him suck her toes. That's as far as it goes with my gf having male friends.
lucky dude
>"a shoulder to cry on becomes a dick to ride on"
I have literally never heard this before.
but you should have, because it's a common one.
Who are you?
>Caring about some loser she uses as an emotional tampon
Who cares, he's just a beta.
It may not be emotional cheating at this point (although it definitely is possible). Is there a chance that her issue is about you and she is seeking this other guy out to vent her problems about your relationship?
Also, I agree with .
People are surprisingly terrible at communication in relationships. We often expect partners to be mind readers when they may not genuinely know they are upsetting us. Obviously talk to her about it, don't accuse her of anything. It'll come out anyway and if she hasn't cheated (physically or otherwise) that's a guaranteed way to threaten the trust in your relationship. Just ask her to be honest, say that you want to help and are hurt that she prefers the friend over you.
Also, if she gives you the silent treatment then I think you have bigger problems in your relationship. That's super childish.
Holy fuck leave her dude. She is grade a crazy
If she is going to his house good chance she is getting cream pied
>be the "good friend" to a girl who has a boyfriend and listen to her problems
>you're a cuck for being her tear rag
>be the boyfriend who fucks her on the regular
>you're still a cuck because she's using some other guy as a tear rag
I'm saying make up your minds you fucking incels, it can't be both ways
you probably aren't fun to complain to. I'm sure you do that thing where she says she's frustrated with something and you immediately try to temper it with another perspective or come up with a solution. Women hate that, they want you to agree with them and curse the name of whatever they were complaining about. This other guy probably just knows this and she's getting the vindicated "got it off my chest" feeling from him and not from you.
You need to talk to her about this and ask her to tell you why she doesn't want to confide in you because her seeking comfort in this other man WILL ruin your relationship, even if it really is benign. It will just plant the idea in her mind that there are other men out there who can offer things that you cannot.
Ghost her for a while let her miss u. If she doesnt dump her & get a new gf. wanting to talk about feeling is beta. Safe to assume her going to his house means they fucking