So, I'm 30 and girlfriend is 26. We have dated for three years and she is now talking about marriage and we will live together soon.
I am not sure if we should marry though. Mainly because of having kids.
She is someone who is good with kids, works hard, and does care about me and wouldn't divorce due to her upbringing and works hard and has a good job. Overall, basically a responsible person.
However, it seems like the big thing in the dating world talked about is height and race. Well, my gf is very short, about 5'0. I am 6'1. Having kids with her risks having my kids possibly being guys and short, which would risk making there lives worse off in the dating world if they are guys.
Second, she is Asian American and I am European American. If my kids are guys, they also risk being asian. While I have no issue with Asians whatsoever, I realize society isn't the same as me. Specifically, it appears dating app statistics show that asian men get the short end of the stick by women of all races, including there own race.
So, combining the height and race issue, I am wondering if we should marry and have kids or not.
It is very important to me that my kids have better lives than me. However, I don't know if I am overworrying about this or not.
I also know that I may not find another girl if we break up. Also, I care about her and feel bad ending it after three years if I did.
However, I really don't know how to decide what to do. What should I do?