>Change starts with you. There are no magic pills. >Only compare yourself to your past self. >Start with small improvements you can actually consistently do. Don't get stuck trying to do one thing and never making any progress. >Drink water, a good place to start. >Get your sleeping schedule in order. pastebin.com/h4CDDtKu (embed) >Learn Mindfulness Meditation. pastebin.com/0NMDEUNh (embed) >Exercise. Consistently, with gradually increasing intensity. Start light. Take your time. >Learn to read nutrition labels [YouTube] Reading Nutrition Facts Labels (embed)
Thanks for posting this OP, genuinely hope we can keep /sig/ alive.
Thinking about putting my PC in storage to avoid internet addiction. Can't get rid of it entirely because my job occasionally requires me to work from home, but I want to reduce the urge to spend hours mindlessly browsing instead of doing what I actually want.
Jayden Roberts
I know the feel. I just need to get back to my hobbies so that I'm too busy to dick around online. Although atm some of the stuff I'm looking at/doing online is beneficial so I guess it's not all bad.
James Ross
I've been very anxious in general lately, I don't know why I thought I had gotten past this... Does mediation really help? Any anons here meditate?
Meditation can help. I can't really give advice as to what works or what doesn't in terms of meditation.
However, being mindful of your anxiety and riding it like a wave, not letting it overwhelm you is key. You've got to look at it objectively, as if the anxiety isn't even your own but someone else's. View it as a matter of fact, as a process your mind goes through. The goal should be not to suppress it or give it control but to accept it and move with it. Download the Headspace app and give the demo lessons a try to get started with the meditation part. I wouldn't even try to do any of the above yet until you feel comfortable just sitting there with the mindfulness technique.
Jaxon Ward
>be completely worthless, miserable, bitter loser because i have a horrible life with no friends, khv incel, etc past mid 20s >just always annoyed and angry, all i do is make jokes to make people laugh but don't really like people >unable to really exude friendliness because of these aforementioned problems >this results in people even in places i converse with people (i.e. work) not wanting to be friends with me or do things with me >i then proceed to get angry/depressed if they do things without me and dont invite me when in reality i understand why they never text me outside of work, never invite me places, never want to do anything with me >then when i get angry/depressed and decide to be more quiet instead of my usual talkative self because obviously it pushes people away, i then end up even worse because then i look even more angry and standoffish and people start asking me whats wrong
i am a worthless resource on this planet and i dont know what to do
Hunter Young
Defeated 80% of my demons in the past year, but cant seem to beat my porn + internet browsing addictions. Feels bad knowing you're so close yet so far. Any anons sucessfully beat the porn/internet jews?
Austin Barnes
Seriously considering spending a few days in the forest meditating. I've been a porn addict for 10 years and I'm only 23. I hate It but I just cant seem to stop.
Carson Clark
Working hard to beat my food addiction it is hard as fuck but I'm making small strides. Still have a lot of other things I want to work on but I am trying to tackle one thing at a time
Colton Scott
How many users in the discord? Might fire up the old laptop and drop in
Carter Walker
are you me
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Levi Ramirez
Been working out for 2 weeks. Going for 1pl8 squat tomorrow, next Tuesday I'm getting my fillings done and next Thursday I have a job Interview. Now I just need to talk to girls
Ayden Adams
Oddly, when I got in shape, I stopped porn and fapping without even really noticing. Try that.
Jose Price
Since I don't want to make a thread and no one wants to answer my question. Is doing 3-5 sets of push ups to max 5 days a week okay to do while following a lifting program mon-wed-friday and then rest on sat-sun?
I just want to enlist that's why I do the push ups everyday.
Isaac Murphy
Try and find out if your body can take it, I don't see no problems as pushups aren't particularly taxing on the body but I guess it depends on your current fitness and recovery levels
Ahh fuck yeah guys, SIG is the best thing on fit right now, that file dump user gave us a few weeks ago was a god send so user if yoire reading, we all really appreciate it
Here's some tips/attitudes I've adopted that seemed to help me:
1.Waking up early, theres a reason everyone recommends it, waking up at 5am before everyone else to sort your own shit out is honestly such a life hack I can't praise this enough
2. Work on a good morning routine, everyone is different, for me I wake up at 5am (regardless of uni or weekend), make my morning coffee, mediate, read an article, do some yoga sometimes, but otherwise just set myself up in a good position for day. By 6am I'm out and ready
3. To cope with the early mornings you'll need to go to be early, like 9/10ish and that's fine because if you haven't already done everything you wanted to do that day by that time then you've fucked up anyway. I mean cmon, you'll be missing an hour or so of Netflix, you'll survive... That being said don't use this as excuse to avoid social situations, make an exception here I think.
4. That brings me to Netflix (and other bullshit entertainment platforms)... Try and avoid them, or if you must limit your time to like an hour max everyday, opt for something more productive like reading or YouTube videos. I struggled with this at first because Netflix is so easy, what I found that helped me was to 'set up' my environment correctly, so research some books and YouTube channels so that whenever I'm bored I can immediately go to one of the entertainment platforms that's already set up to be productive
Ian James
5. Controversial one but... Compare yourself to others if you're winning, it feels good and validates what you're doing. I beat this lazy sack of shit in my office every day at uni (PhD), she sits around waiting to be told what to do (anyone who has done a PhD knows that this is the wrong attitude), comes in at 10:30, leaves at 4, has about 15 fucking coffee breaks and makes a habit to talk to everyone individually about how they found out her boyfriends legs are mismatched from suit shopping over the weekend (fucking normies ammiright?)
6. Get fit, I mean you're on this board so it's probably on your agenda, but I mean seriously commit to a solid weightlifting routine with proper diet and the lot. You'll be better from it I promise. Stretch and recovery too, I learned these ones latter on and I wished I had known it sooner
7. The best coffee if freshly ground, don't accept that instant shit
8. Discover who you are before realising what you want to do (I'm still working on this addmitedly), but in your most private moments, run scenarios through your head to try and develop your own personal philosophy and attitude to life, you can read around the subject to (I tried reading meditations but honestly I wasn't a big fan, I felt like it was talking a lot of the effort away from me being critical of my own life somehow)
9. Big minds discuss ideas. Any conversation you have try to ignite some form of discussion and intellect, you can really see who adheres by this principle if they begin to show a glazed over look when you mention something other than fucking love Island. Also, alongside this, if encourage passion, I love talking to people who clearly have a passion for their field, ask questions get just as excited as them
10. Finally, come of or limit social media, best decision ever. Trust me.
Luke Perez
Anyway, just some things I thought could help, I'm on my phone so apologies for any mistakes.
Good luck out there bros, I love this board cause at the very essence we all care about making it and achieving better in life. Thanks for the good time fit.
Chase Kelly
It’s always good to be reminded to do those things.
I’ve been struggling with my sleeping schedule lately, but you gave me some motivation to fix it.
Jeremiah Clark
Info on the file dump? Huge /sig/ fan, but been off fit for some months now.
Recovering from serious illness here, been off work for a few months. Been fucking around wasting time all day and not lifting. Now trying to get back into good habits as I continue to recover. Want to have a new job, at least get back up to 1000lbs pl total, and stop porn by the end of the year.
You're not worthless bro. Stop thinking like that and don't be so harsh on yourself. I'm not in any position to give advice on what you should do but I can tell you that believing in yourself makes a big difference in everything. I'm still trying to improve in that area myself. One thing I will suggest is daily exercise (lifting/calisthenics/cardio). Bodyweight training 3x/week and running a few miles every other day has been very good for me mentally. Keep moving forward and we're all gonna make it brah. God bless.
Parker Brooks
Who cares? No amount of effort will give me back the chance to ever be a normally behaving human being.
Blake Moore
Self discouragement is the seed to all evil, my guy. What matters is your heart to do it. Whatever weight on you, friend, it will be glorious when you feel that you've found redemption from your darkest hour.
I won't pretend to know what's causing this, whether it be trauma or just a series of bad experiences, but know that you can fix it. It might be complete hell, but there is so much wisdom and self reflection in these times.
I believe in you, user. And I'll be rooting for you, wherever you go.
Camden Baker
It can be done user. I stopped 6 months ago. It has improved my life in every single way. Well worth it. The key is to control your environment as well as you can. Avoid the computer
Jaxson Richardson
I am 30 and took up boxing a few months ago. Although I am still stick tier and small, I have found it to have helped me immensely and been a hobby I wish I took up years ago. Video games and please rn is still an issue but boxing has helped reduce it a lot.
I am still only 42-43 kg and a fussy eater to make matters worse but im making small progress.
Furthermore, I am still indecisive on my career path but feeling a PHD is my next step after my ESL stint.
I also have very fluctuating confidence. Sometimes feeling hyper focused and confident, others anxious and uncertain. I am working on this by trying to be less worried about what to say in public, with obvious normal restraints.
Just wanted to join the discussion but I am improving slowly, physically and socially.
