First date with r9k user

Is this real? Can this happen that a girl can find you more attractive irl than on pictures. So much so she changes how she thinks of you

Not her but I met my boyfriend online and I thought my boyfriend was a 5/10 in pictures. When we started video calling I realised he was at least an 8/10, and when we actually met in person I was blown away because he's so stupidly hot it hurts me.
Which is nice, because if I knew he was hot when I started crushing on him I probably wouldn't have talked to him because I'm too autistic.

Wow this made me very happy, thank you :)

He's not a robot. Told me he finds the desperation of posters there amusing, that's why he lurks. Replied to me when I shared the city I was from.

He's got a full time, well paid job. Lots of friends. So very charming in real life, and has lots to say in text as well. I've spoken to robots via text before, and I would not have reached this point with them.

I've met people who are attractive, and then super photogenic too. Some people are good looking irl but terribly unphotogenic.

But yes, this is real. I was not interested in him initially, because he looked dorky and weird in his pictures. Avoided his messages, just went to meet him out of curiosity really. Within 30 minutes, I was very aroused and wanted him all over me.

happens all the time with women too
people are bad at taking pictures, there are professional photographers for a reason

yeah right, he totally didn't just make up a reason on why he browses a board full of incels. besides having friends =/= being romantically competent

I browse the board too, though? I'm not an incel, just socially inept and curious. He's not a robot if he's got a well paying job, lots of friends, smart, charismatic, and able to pull girls regularly.

So because someone is romantically incompetent, they just need to lay down and rot? Nice one you fucking cunt. She should dump him when she likes him, because you are sad and alone?

I wish you two die with heavy cancer

What goes around comes around, wishing cancer on people is so easy until you end up needing chemo to stay alive a few years from now. If I had to guess, you’ll be one of those guys too homophobic to get a prostate exam, and it’ll be too late to do anything to fight it when you’re diagnosed.

Jow Forums was my home board for years. He didn't sound eager because he's convinced you'll run for the hills if he shows enthusiasm, he's trying to be cool.

Just text him with a suggestion. If you are also worried about how you look, wait a little longer to suggest it.

Also tread carefully. All kinds of people come everywhere but the fact that he's a robot is hardly promising. Combined with kind of outdated courteous manners it is possible that he's verrry conservative about the role a man and woman should have in a relationship. Reflect a little on how that works out for you and whether this is also what you desire. If not, make sure to probe a little about what he likes about this board and try to get a feel for his world views.

Also follow up because I read through the rest of the thread by now. I'd be wary about his explanation, finding yourself on the board once or twice to laugh at people is whatever, but if he regularly comes there to laugh at bitter and unhappy people that's not a great sign even if he's telling the truth. Besides even if you 100% disagree with messages, if you're flooded day in day out with certain ideas about how people should behave or how society works that can still make a dent.

Sure there's normal people to be found, socially well-adjusted etc. But don't forget for all intents and purposes you don't actually know this guy and keep your eyes open.

Go suck his dick you fucking whore

You're not replying to OP - I'm OP. Also, no dick sucking for now, even though I'm super, super aroused by him after such a short interaction. Guess it's been a while.

I made it clear to him that I'm seeking a relationship and not casual sex. I hope that that's why he didn't invite me home, maybe he sees me as gf material?

I hope he rape your ass and cut your throat

Thank you for the good advice, user. Much appreciated. I know for a fact that he's incredibly dominant, and has a range of kinks. I'm not sure if his gentlemanly manners are out dated though, men tend to pay on the first date, right? The kiss on the cheek as an introduction was a surprise though.

I'll be sure to be careful, user. He's suggested we smoke together sometime soon, actually. I don't want to sleep with him yet, so who knows how that'll work out and where the setting will be.

Wanting to pay for a first date is normal if not default in many places, but indeed it's the bigger picture to me: the greeting with a kiss, wanting to pay, absolutely refusing to let you chip in... Obviously I wasn't there and it could just be normal and playful behavior but combined with the r9k thing, eh. It does come across to me as a guy who has a very set image of how to treat women and how he wants to come across.

Charm is supersexy but can also be misleading. Just keep making mental notes when you find something he says or does a little funny, or unpleasant or whatever. What happens a lot is that people are taken with someone, something tiny happens (like getting very annoyed over nothing), they are startled, the person pulls himself together and apologizes/offers an explanation, and they are so relieved that they pretty much forget about it. And only after the situation escalated can they see in hindsight that there were many tiny red flags they smoothened out with rationalizations. So don't do that. It's fine to notice something you don't like and store it in your memory without instantly reacting to it or drawing conclusions from it, just noticing.

Go see him again but let someone know where you are, and I take it that you mean smoking weed, personally I'd keep to a place with others around. Might be too cautious but better too much than too little.

Be safe out there and have fun!

>Told me he finds the suffering of others hilarious
>Dating sociopaths

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dont end up like bianca..

>I met this guy on Jow Forums who finds the suffering of others funny and well gosh! He's just so charming and I'm already horny for him
holy fucking lmao, I have no words for this

WEE WOO WEE WOO INCEL ALERT WEE WOO WEE WOO

Sociopaths don't need to rape. They can flirt and use their superficial charm to get grillz. Why take something when it's so much more satisfying to have them offer it up willingly and then beg for more?

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If you think privileged teenagers complaining about being unattractive and socially retarded is "suffering" then sure, he's mean. But no, calling such stupidity "suffering" doesn't make it any less funny.

I see you're already justifying shitty behaviour, you two will be a perfect match.

>would it be normal to see him after a month? I'd rather sooner
I mean, yeah I'd be more "typical" to see him again sooner than that, but if it doesn't work with y'all's schedules then there's nothing to be done there. See each other when you can.

I think you're over thinking this whole thing and assuming he hates you or something. If you want something, ask for it. Is it really so bad to be too eager? That is definitely less of a problem for girl to guy than it is from guy to girl. If he's a guy who is going to push you away because you like him, doesn't that mean you wouldn't be compatible in the first place?
If anything, HE'S probably worried about coming off too strong, if you kept canceling on him, he probably thinks he's on thin ice with you.

Side note: Your situation is too easily identified and this guy is a 4channer, for god's sake. It is a poor call for you to write here that you didn't find him attractive before you met him. What if he read that? I would be crushed reading something like that.

text him hi a few days later

>He 100% knows.
You're probably wrong. What's the harm in texting him if you like him so much?

>I would be crushed reading something like that
Well, wouldn't he feel great that I find him super attractive now that I've met him tho? Tbh I'd be mortified if he read this thread at all.

I get very anxious about this sort of thing. Since he's very experienced with dating, and I'm still a complete noob. He also feels quite aloof, and you're right, I'm more playful - maybe we're not compatible?

He's had a lot of girlfriends, and this worries me. Maybe his attention is spread widely?

>He's had a lot of girlfriends, and this worries me. Maybe his attention is spread widely?
Possibly, is he dating anyone else now?

Because I want to understand the situation first, before coming off too strong. Maybe I'm just starved for physical affection and that's why I like him?

We've also had chats about our sexual fetishes, and now I'm worried our entire relationship will be based around sexual compatibility instead of a mutual liking.

My previous boyfriend didn't fetishise me at all - I wasn't his type. We just had great chemistry, friendship, and were in tune with eachother. This guy is a different situation, and it worries me.

I'm not sure, I haven't asked. He told me he had a FwB thing with a great, interesting, fantastic girl back in January, who was great in bed. And over the year we've exchanged messages, he's told me about the girls he's met and things.

I didn't care at all at the time. But now that I actually fancy him - maybe he's casting his net wide?

well it sounds like you already know his history so ask yourself whether you're okay being treated like the other girls he's been with.

My last and only boyfriend had a similar history, of casting his net wide. But during our run, we were incredibly close and spent all of our time together. I don't think dating history directly translates to treatment within a relationship.

I'll see what happens and how he treats me. Just feels weird to tell me after a date that his previous FwB was an amazing girl and great in bed - my ex never spoke about his exes and asked I do the same.

Why do women act like this?

Jow Forums boys don't understand this courting dance of intimacy because they're brainwashed by porn and don't know how2real women. You could probably ask him if he's interested in going out again, at the least, then ghost him til he reaches out. If you're hot like he says, he will. He could also be taken though and cheating for validation. Tread carefully.