A guy I've been gaming and voice-chatting platonically with has confessed he 'likes' me...

it's easier to get over someone when having a clean "NO", now he's just confused. Just tell him "no". YOu will need some time apart but it'll work as friends in the long run.Give him a NO, don't make him live in the unknowingless shit

Jesus Christ, you people with no standards don't get what it's like to be in a relationship.

I can find a girl cute, but easily see that we have one thing in common and nothing more, not be aligned in common goals, just so many goddamned factors besides finding someone agreeable and relatively attractive.

You're an idiot and you should feel bad.

See, I told him this exact thing, that he was confusing me being friendly and spending time with him for something more because he's lonely, and that he should meet up with some people irl, cause he's a nice guy, just very shy.

But he answered "I've just never met someone as nice as you and spending time with you makes me really happy etc."

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This is good advice

I've personally turned down relationship offers because I'm mentally awful at the moment and I'd rather not inconvenience someone with my baggage and bullshit. I'll date when I'm better. I'm sure people have other reasons, like not wanting to date someone if they're wrapped up in drama or if it'd make a friend that you value upset.

I might have been too soft on my rejections. Would you consider these responses clear 'noes'?

> I am not at all looking for anything romantic atm. it would be lying to say I have thought of anything like that while we've been playing or spending time together
>I can't say that (in response to whether it would be different if I knew him irl) what I'm saying is I'm not looking for that right now.
> I don't want to lead you on, it is really not something I think about, but i am not going to pretend I see you as more than friend.

Because I thought I was being pretty honest with these.

Replace "atm" with "people online" or "with you".

If you aren't interested you aren't interested, and on the man's side, we get a alot of rejection and he has got to learn that and get used to it. Regardless of what a lonely fag he is.
Don't cater to him. If he drowns in it, it's his fault, really.

This, tell him no. It will hit him hard and crush him emotionally but he won't ask again.

Yeah, Would have been more definitive. I did write this also:
>I spend time with you because you're chill and fun to play with, not because I am looking for a boyfriend.

I don¨t know. I guess I had a hard time specifically saying "I am not interested in you now or ever" because he's so lonely, and I honestly am very wierd with these things and not interested in anyone. I like husbandos, not actual people :I

Top husbandos?

How desperate for sex must you be to believe in this?

Six years younger? He's not a kid is he? It is Summer and he has no school to worry about and that's why he's lonely.

I'm in that situation OP except I made him gay with my effeminate voice and I feel bad.

He's 21, and no school, I have known him for about 5 months, and he is always on steam. He lives with his parents.

Always had soft spot for Iron Manlet and Mads Mikkelsen .And robots. TFprime Megatron, Shockwave, Ultron, Daft Punk. Robots are good.

If you want to be nice and not let him waste his time just cut off contact for a while, it will bruise his ego a bit but he’ll be way better off in the long run. If your friendship is actually good you can talk again when he’s chasing some other girl.

>cut off contact for a while
That would make me feel real awful though. He has several times expressed how grateful he is that I want to spend time talking with him and that it means a lot that I log in just to say hi. But uh, maybe I'm leading him on by doing that, making him think there was more behind it than that I just felt bad he was lonely.

Weird thing is, he is a semi-popular youtuber and has a bunch of people begging to play with and interact with him on steam, and some of those are bound to be girls his age, but I suppose playing and talking with your 'fans' is not the same.

Don't laugh at him. Sit back and observe. Take it in. Life experiences teaches you that this is how most people live. I'm not sure you're in a position to give advice if you don't know about this basic fact.

It'd be best if you found the patience to explain these things to him and set aside an hour of your time to talk about nothing else. Tell him that no matter how brave he thinks this gesture is that it won't make you like him romantically.

The fastest way for him to forget about you is having him find someone else. But are you willing to actually help him get there? If he indeed looks normal like you say then he'll only need very basic instructions, but a lot of patience over a long period of time.

Here's a rule you can stick by. Don't meet up with him in person until you find out he's been on a date. You can tell him that if you want.

Do not permit him to visit you period. He is chasing the fantasy and unfortunately he isn't emotionally mature enough for it. Just tell him that you're sorry but it's not appropriate and not something you want. He needs to respect that.

>he isn't emotionally mature
>he has to respect XYZ
Aren't those contradictory?

You can't force respect. The person respecting needs to at least understand what it means. Explain it to him. Explain the very basic concepts. Don't assume that he already knows these things.

Yeah... I was a fucking idiot. I responded with something like "yeah, I don't know, uh it might be fun, uhh, or it might be really awkward...." and then went onto how I don't really feel comfortable being romantically intimate with people. I have serious problems with relationships and being touched/doing anything remotely romantic or sexual. I would feel real bad if he came here with the intent to woo me.

I have to just be completely real and say "it's a waste of your time. I can't be what you want if you want something more than an online friend."

I have a real life and responsibilities beyond just playing games and talking to him, but he doesn't really seem to get that. He is sad if don't log on every day, but I don't know how to explain to him that he just isn't as important to me, as he's making me out to be to him. Christ, I don't talk to my rl friends every single day.

Tell it straight.

"I am not interested, I won't be interested, we're just friends and I'm not the person you imagine on a pedestal."

Again, assuming he is mature or experienced enough to fill in the blanks and know how to behave. You can't hold him to the same standard if he's socially crippled. Stop it.

I still believe you should be patient and explain.

Have you considered sending him a link to this thread? That would be a fairly low effort way of getting the point across without running away from "not my problem" like most people would.

>I dont know how to gently tell him I think meeting would probably be very awkward because I have zero romantic
Just tell him
>ey man well cool but brenna we wouldn't be so cool together like that, know what I mean?
Dumb bitch....

Lolling out loud at the thought of a woman being dicked down by Megatron and/or Shockwave. Bless you femanon

I don't know about sending thread. I would personally be hurt and embarrassed if someone I had confessed to liking showed me they had been discussing this and our conversations with randos on Jow Forums.

>ou can't hold him to the same standard if he's socially crippled.
You also can't expect femanons to have the patience to explain to him how the world works. He's not a teenager. Saying "I am not looking for boyfriend and only see you as a friend" is a pretty clear 'soft' rejection any sperg should be able to decipher.

This picture makes me enraged. He doesn't EVER use human weaponry and he owns his own bayonet.

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Tell him it's not happening you stupid slut. Also tell him about how you have a boyfriend who fucks you like a pig every night.

Tell him not to come and tell him you’re not attracted to him (even if you think he looks fine). The best thing to do is to make it as clear and blunt as possible that you’re not interested. Don’t worry about his feelings being hurt. He’s a male so he’ll grow from it. Being vague or trying to be nice will just waste his time and make him angrier at you and at worst cause some sort of stalker/constant nuisance situation. There’s a chance you might not be able to play games with him anymore if he isn’t in control of his feelings but that’s his problem not yours. If you invite him as a friend he 100% will make a move on you. If you want that fine, if you really do not make sure he knows he’s not welcome.

Yes would have been the better option, but I am a retard. When he asked if I had boyfriend, he gave me the opportunity to shoot him down, but I had to go and be honest. Should have just fucking lied.

Tell him you’re in love with someone else or you just started seeing someone

I honestly think that platonic friendship only works between attractive people of opposite genders.
I have plenty of men willing to fuck me, my male friend has plenty of women willing to fuck him, so we don't feel desperate for each other.

This made me giggle. So cruel but so funny to read

This is me but im on the other end and 13 years younger. She said shes interested in me but is confuses about it because shes gay. Its been a year or so since i told her and after trying for that long i kinda gave up and moved on. If anythimg dont lead him thinking he'll leave if yiu say no. I wish my friend jist said no to be honest.

And you're not a heartless monster. Good stuff. Agression is only one of many paths and most definitely not the most effective

THIS.

Typical incel whiney bitch behaviour. I'm glad you're keeping a cool head in all this

Same. It's more common than incels think

Complicated but crazy enough it might be the best for both parties

You can still just tell him no.

have sex

I suppose there are a few ways you could look at this. First, if this kid is a true incel, then depending on if there's an ocean or continent inbetween you two, the likelihood of him getting his shit together to make it to you are pretty slim, so you could just ignore his advances like you have been, essentially indefinitely.
However I'm in the other camp, in which being direct with him will be both healthy for him, and for you as well. He'll benefit from an answer from you that contains no prevarication, and therefore no wiggle room. You'll benefit by learning to advocate your position clearly and firmly, without feeling the need to couch anything in a way to lessen an emotional impact. This keeps you from being bitten in the ass later, or having a situation that lingers and refuses to die because you've left some tiny, thin, shred of hope. Everyone might not like someone who speaks clearly, but they do respect them

Yes. I think I led him on by saying stuff about "real life" and not saying it would not matter if I knew him irl, because I genuinely don't know that, but that doesn't change the fact that I have no wish for relationship.

Only thing to do really is to say that, and if he brings up stuff about visiting (which he will) I gotta explain I was a bit overwhelmed and didn't want to shoot him down again, but I was being a dick because truth is I would be weirded out by him visiting when I don't feel the same way, and I'm certain it would be awkward and uncomfortable for us both.

There is no such thing as a soft rejection, you want to make it soft because you want to keep him around to poay vidya. Thing is if you don't want anytjing more than that then it is for him to decide to either stay around or just cut contact. It's his choice. Be as clear as you can, the rest is up to him.

You gotta break his heart into a million pieces.

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