I have a crush on someone who is basically a neet who has had maybe a partial girlfriend once in his life and that was it. I feel like maybe it would be really dumb to try and pursue someone who has such limited experience with women but on the other hand there's just so much about his personality that I like. He gets so excited to talk about games and manga and stuff he likes and he loves sharing it with people that I constantly find myself asking him to show me new things he likes just to hear him get excited.
I have been working on sending him signals I like him but its not working. Someone else in our mutual friend group however did notice so clearly I'm being obvious enough for someone who has more experience with woman. Also if I am not directly talking to him about something he likes he gives me only one to two word responses. It makes me unsure if he likes me very much if at all. He has also mentioned before that hes not really actively looking for a gf but wouldn't be opposed to the idea.
So I'm basically just really confused and need some help from a third party, what do you guy think? I'd ask someone else but my mutual friend group is so small that the only person I would have to ask is the one person who found out and I have already bothered them too much about this topic.
Crush
Be direct with him. If he gives a one word answer at least it will be a yes or a no. Dont worry about it effecting your relationship after, keep treating him the same if he says no.
Just ask the autist out. He will not pick up on your retarded "signals", and he doesn't give longer responses because he doesn't have anything else to say.
Stop assuming men think like women.
be direct and concise
youre welcome
He's a neet. Why would you have a crush on him? No ambition, no goals, sounds like he's not educated outside of things he's interested in, and none of the stuff he's interested in will ever be useful. He doesn't sound like he's charismatic, masculine in any way, out going, or anything. Why would you want a man like this? You know what else acts just like him ((from how you make him sound)) a fucking child. Are younl looking for a boyfriend or a child? Have some standards. If my boyfriend was like this he wouldn't be my boyfriend at all.
>feel like maybe it would be really dumb to try and pursue someone who has such limited experience with women
I always find it weird that women look for men who've had alot of experience with women, and men look for women who haven't had alot of experience with men. People are weird
Easier said then done, but I guess you're right. He's probably too much of an idiot to pick up on it otherwise.
I guess I'm being stupid but I can only see a negative outcome ie; he doesn't like me and I look like an retard and it potentially fucking up the friend group dynamics. Maybe I'm putting too much weight on it though.
I said basically because he does have a job, outside of that its mostly games and other nerd interests. Also you're assuming so many negative things about someone you don't know, are you okay? Hes actually amazingly charismatic and keeps the friend group together in many ways, masc maybe not as much but I tend to like that sort of thing since I'm kinda gay myself. I appreciate your concern though because these are questions I have been asking myself too, good to hear someone else call me out for it.
But to be fair I'm not particularly outgoing or feminine either so maybe it works out??
>I find it weird that men and women are different
Who would have thought? I, for one, am absolutely shocked and dumbfounded, as the linchpin of my entire worldview has been shattered, a gaping chasm opened in my soul. To think that different beings are different is such an utterly inconceivable and philosophically distressing concept. I don't even know where to begin.
So, just gonna ignore how i am warning you to not date a loser who will never be a real man. Okay. Dumb bitch
Lat time I tried dating a "real man" who was super outgoing, masc, and handsome, none of my emotional needs were being met and he found any cute signs of affection corny and insincere. Plus he still hung out with his ex all the time and she clearly still had feelings for him. If "real men" are like that then yeah, I don't wanna date them.
besides even if I do confess to this guy I don't think he'd wanna date anyway so problem solved for you.
That's not a "real man" moron. A real man is a masculine, charismatic, out going, intelligent, hard WORKING ((neet seem to be allergic to WORK)) man who also treats his woman like gold. Trust me. I know. My boyfriend is a real man. He does exactly that. My brother is a real man. He does exactly that. You're just looking for a bitch with dick you can control and feed off of the endless attention they will give you cuz they feel you're the only one they can get because they are literally worthless. Have fun with your neet.
Also, who the hell develops a crush cuz
>he gets so excited about things he's interested in
That is literally every human to ever live. Come on girl. Standards. You need some.
jeez dude you seem really sensitive about this. I'm glad you found what works for you I guess but i don't think I'm attractive or outgoing enough to get someone who seems to be your type. And again, I don't think its gonna work out anyway so you win, no need to be grumpy about it.
I think a root problem could be my lack of self esteem, i tend to react like this to anyone who is nearby and nice to me because I see myself as someone who is not worth being kind to, I think you're probably right.
I'm sure you actually are attractive and outgoing enough, you just need to realize your worth. You are DEFINITELY good enough for something more than a damn NEET. Shit on the sidewalk is worth more than that. Just... work on your damn self value. See the good in yourself and embrace it. It sounds like you need to learn to love yourself before you go about looking to love someone else..sheesh..
You are worth being kind to. Mostly if you can see value in a damn neet. You obviously have a very good heart. Like I said. Learn to love YOU. You'll get a real man, be patient.
you don't know enough about OP to actually say that she's worth more than some NEET.
You are a special fucking unicorn and i adore you
That being said just tell him. Who knows, maybe youll be the one to turn his life around and make him fix himself into a more independent, respectable guy
Again, a pile of shit is worth more than a neet. You'd have to be pretty fucking worthless to not be worth being with a neet
If you like him what's the problem.
If you don't want to ask then hang around more and the convo will lead in the right direction.
That doesnt make sense from an evolutionary standpoint you dumbass brainlet. Its fucking game theroy 101.
>He gets so excited to talk about games and manga and stuff he likes and he loves sharing it with people that I constantly find myself asking him to show me new things he likes just to hear him get excited.
^^^^ See, incels, this is what people mean when they say "just bee urself"
Don't do it. He is a horrible person.
>using a LARP written by an incel as proof of anything
I see this fucking thing time and time again.
>I love how he gets excited about stuff
that's all that women want. At least the women who are worth getting.
You guessed it! You remind me of a dear old friend from HS and learning about it 13 years later is heartbreaking because I digged her too but I was constantly drenched in self-doubt and other depression-related symptoms.
I feel that you will most definitely grow by being direct and holding his hand. If later on it doesn't work for you guys YOU can call the shots and find someone who fulfills your needs better. I wish you bravery and gonads of steel
Ahhh...shittalking a fellow man because you CLEARLY got your shirt together
What makes OP worth getting, again? There is no proof of this besides her ostensibly being a female. Don't conflate your own reasons for things as being everyone's
He maybe like you. If he does, then he won't any move because women love playing the hard to get card, and when they make an attempt they're often than not depicted as a creep. Cope
Lol I'm not a guy
I do have my shit together
I have an associate's in mortuary science
I work as a morgue attendant
I have my own car
I have my own house
I pay my own bills
Most of all
I'm not a fucking NEET
Watch anime together (physically, not online)
Cuddle, then ask.
Easy win.
>NEET
>Not in Education, Employment, or Training
do you really want to associate with a person like that? let alone get into a relationship with. Think very deep about this, it is a full grown person who is not taking responsibility for anything at all.
how long have you known him? has he always been a neet with no interest in improving his situation?
prime bait lmao
>easier said than done
funny how you think he's retarded for not responding to your signals yet you don't think it's easy to make the first move yourself