you guys, I'm catching strong feelings for this girl at my job and I can't control it. I've had a small crush on her when I first started but I didn't really pursue her because I didn't want to look too needy. fast forward 8 months later and she's throwing me choosing signals. at times I catch her staring into my soul from the other side of the building. also she giggles and asks me useless questions to grab my attention. sometimes I ignore her but not on purpose but because I'm nervous. I act normal when I'm around my other coworkers but when it's lunch time and we cross paths in the kitchen I turn into jello and she turns into pudding. we make small talk and it doesn't really go anywhere. my heart is always racing.
it's hard to ask her out because our offices have open pathways and everyone can hear everything. I'm also chicken shit to even have a normal conversation with her. how can I not fuck this up guys I need help.
it's really hard, everyone mostly sits in a non cubicle room with gaps between different departments that can hear a pin drop. I can't ask for her number infront of everyone. I might get rejected.
Julian Anderson
on lunch time at a kitchen? it's the most social setting of the office also how do you have her pic? add her on social media and DM her if that's how you got it
Levi Kelly
the break area, not really a full kitchen. but yeah I tend to freeze up when we encounter each other, and everyone is waiting for the microwave or washing their hands or cutting something, everyone can hear our conversation it's an open space, so ideally it's not the best place to ask someone out. no I don't fuck with social media. I found her pic online.
I need another form or way to get to her and I need to find a way to calm the fuck down when we're in the same room
try waiting for her outside after work and ask her there
Carson Martinez
then how do you small talk her? small talk and ask for her number directly. dgaf about the people it's also really creepy to stalk her online, specially if you "don't fuck with social media". fucking right lol...
Jonathan King
>Crush Op come on. Also dont shit where you eat.
Matthew Williams
I just ask her hows her day going and such and she says fine and yours. and usual hi's and byes. and work related shit. nothing much. asking for her number infront of my other coworkers is too fucking awkward and did I mention we work in an open space? women are more likely to reject men when there are immediate people around them. they don't want to spread gossip. how can I ask her without spreading rumors? also how can I corner her alone? I need help
Asher Barnes
when u work at a place for a good while loaded with pretty little things, it's hard not to have a crush at somepoint. especially if they dig you hard. it's gonna spike an interest. are you telling me that you NEVER had a crush on a girl from school or work?
you need to grow a pair she will definitely reject you with that attitude
William Jenkins
Find something you're working on that involves her (or not, just pretend it does), set up a working meeting/discussion as a cover and go from there
Tyler Williams
this is smart, although I subconsciously tried this when I stopped her in the hallway and there was people behind us and in front of us. so I just kept the topic about work to not make it obvious I was hitting on her. but this is the closest I've gotten. also I work in a very congested area.
got any other ideas?
Joshua Morris
bump
Luke Diaz
Interesting, a real-world example of the mutt mating ritual.
Noah Kelly
I'm in a similar situation as you OP only I'm the girl and there's close to 0% of anything coming from it.
For me, I was able to get my co-worker's number through a gettogether with other co-workers. So we had to get each other's numbers to communicate where to meet, who's all going, etc. I don't know if that's possible at your workplace though. Another long shot would be to see who's close to her at work and ask if they'd give you her number, after explaining your intentions. Also, do you know if she's active on social media? You could possibly connect with her that way by looking her profile up.
That's all I've got though. I understand it's not an easy position to be in. I wish you the best with it.
You always have lunch at the office? Ask her if she wants to join you grabbing lunch from some place nearby, and while you're out and you've broken the ice you ask if she wants to grab a coffee and hang out pic the weekend.
Or you could man up and just ask her out in the break room, you pussy.
Jacob Gray
>spoiler alert: I ended up fucking this one up down the road. Anyways there was this cutie I used to talk to at my old job last year whenever we saw each other. We didn't always have the same schedule (retail). But eventually it evolved into us finding each in the store when either of us happened to be qthere on our days off. One day it just hit me. I gotta get her number. The environment around me did not matter. So it shouldn't matter with this girl nigger. Quit spilling your spaghetti before you're even there.
Caleb Long
>The environment around me did not matter What I meant to say was the environment around me didn't matter because I was only focused on her attention.
Dominic Jones
she always hangs with her friends during lunch. asking her would mean asking her friends to hang too which is awkward. also she's always surrounded by people, and right now she's training someone at her office
Jackson Jenkins
>you ask if she wants to grab a coffee and hang out pic the weekend
that's the whole fucking point genius
Jeremiah Torres
I dont have any social media and her facebook profile looks like it's been deserted. also asking her friends for her number is a sure fire way to get rejected. it sounds needy and insecure. she will think to herself "why couldn't he ask me in person?" Its a wrong move on so many levels
David Nelson
the environment is different at my job. It's not retail and they have a strict sexual harrasmant policy of no sexual or romantic relationships. I have no issue asking a girls number in public through cold approaching because I'm never gonna see them again. when it's at work 2ith people you know its different.
also when you're mind is cluttered with your crush and constantly obsessing like a love bird 24/7 it clouds your thoughts and it's really hard to get through that. it's not an easy feat. it's still hard to ask her out.
Camden Ross
why would you post a picture of her?! use your head...
Justin Sanders
If that's your crush in the pic, all I have to say is godspeed, you trooper, you
Lincoln Hill
Also, for all you retards out here, this is the same type of guy spamming threads with incel statistics. Ta ta!
Liam Jenkins
we all have different tastes. I'm not the best looking guy either. I have to try at least for someone who actually likes me back.
